7 Habits

The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People

 The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, first published in 1989, is a self-help book written by Stephen R. Covey. It has sold over 15 million copies in 38 languages since first publication, which was marked by the release of a 15th anniversary edition in 2004. The book lists seven principles that, if established as habits, are supposed to help a person achieve true interdependent effectiveness.

Habits Habit is the intersection of knowledge, skill and desire.  Knowledge is the theoretical paradigm, the what to do and the why.  Skill is how to do. And  Desire is the motivation , the want to do. In order to make something a habit in our lives, we have to have all three.

Character and Personality Personality

Character

P/PC Balance: The Principle of Effectiveness • Effectiveness is the balance of Production and Production Capability • Production is the desired results produced (golden eggs, or P) • Production Capability is maintaining, preserving, and enhancing the resources that produce the desired results. (the goose or PC)

The Seven Habits move us through the following stages  Dependence: the paradigm under which we are born, relying upon others to take care of us.  Independence: the paradigm under which we can make our own decisions and take care of ourselves.  Interdependence: the paradigm under which we cooperate to achieve something that cannot be achieved independently.

Interdependence Understand/ Understood

5

Synergize

Public Victory

6

Think Win-Win

4

Independence 3 First Things First

1 Be Proactive

Private 2 Victory Begin w/ End in Mind

Dependence

7

The 7 Habits Habit 1: Be Proactive: Principles of Personal Choice Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind: Principles of Personal Vision Habit 3: Put First Things First: Principles of Integrity & Execution Habit 4: Think Win/Win: Principles of Mutual Benefit Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood: Principles of Mutual Understanding Habit 6: Synergize: Principles of Creative Cooperation Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw: Principles of Balanced SelfRenewal

Private Victories The First Three Habits

Habit # 1

Be Proactive

Habit 1: “Be Proactive”  Highly effective people take the initiative. They are proactive.  They do not impose limits on themselves that prevent them from acting.  They recognize that they have the freedom to determine the kind of character they will have.  They may not be able to control their circumstances, but they can decide how to make the best use of those circumstances.

Proactive Model Stimulus

SelfAwareness

Freedom to Choose

Response

Independent Will Imagination

Conscience

 Proactive people do not blame circumstances. Conditions, or conditioning of their behavior. Their behavior is the product of their own conscious choice based on values rather than the product of their conditions based on feelings.

Habit # 2

Begin with the End in Mind

Habit 2: “Begin with the End in Mind”  Effectiveness is not just a matter of reaching a goal but rather of achieving the right goal.  Imagine ourselves sitting in the back of the room at our funeral. Imagine what people could honestly say about us based on the way we are now.  Do we like what we hear? Is that how we want to be remembered?  If not, we must change it. We must take hold of our life.  We can begin by drafting a personal mission statement that outlines our goals and describes the kind of person we want to be.

Alternative “Centers”  Spouse centered  Pleasure centered  Family centered  Friend/Enemy centered  Money centered  Possession centered  Church centered  Self centered  Principle Centered

Write a Personal Mission Statement

Habit # 3

Put First Things First

Habit 3: “Put First Things First”  We should never let our most important priorities fall victim to the least important.  We spend our time reacting to urgent circumstances and emergencies, and never invest the necessary effort to develop the ability to prevent emergencies in the first place.  We confuse the important with the urgent. The urgent is easy to see. The important is harder to discern.  We must spend more time on planning, avoiding pitfalls, developing relationships, cultivating opportunities and recharging ourselves.  We must focus on “important but not urgent” activities.

Time Management Matrix Important

I

Not Important

Urgent

III Activities:

Activities:

Not Urgent II

Prevention, PC activities Relationship building Recognizing new opportunities Planning, recreation

Crises Pressing Problems Deadline Driven Projects

Interruptions, some calls Some mail, some reports Some meetings Proximate, pressing matters Popular activities

Activities:

IV

Activities: Trivia, busy work Some mail Some phone calls Time wasters Pleasant activities

Public Victories The Second Three Habits

Habit # 4

Think Win/Win

Habit 4: “Think Win/Win”  Highly effective people strive for win/win transactions.  They try to ensure that all the parties are better off in the end.  They know that any other kind of transaction is destructive, because it produces losers and, therefore, enemies and bad feelings, such as animosity, defeat and hostility.  A Win-Win mindset can help us multiply our allies.

Habit # 5 Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood

Habit 5: “Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood”  To develop win/win relationships, we must find out what the other parties want, and what winning means to them.  We must always try to understand what the other people want and need before we begin to outline our own objectives.  We must not object, argue or oppose what we hear.  We must listen carefully, and think about it.  We must try to put ourselves in the other party’s shoes.

Habit # 6

Synergize

Habit 6: “Synergize”  Effective synergy depends on communication.  We often don’t listen, reflect and respond but, instead, we hear and react reflexively.  Our reactions may be defensive, authoritarian or passive.  We may oppose or go along — but we do not actively cooperate.  Cooperation and communication are the two legs of a synergistic relationship.

Renewal The Seventh Habit Sharpen The Saw

Habit 7: “Sharpen the Saw”  We must take care of our bodies with a program of exercise that combines endurance, flexibility and strength.  We must nourish our souls with prayer, meditation, or perhaps by reading great literature or listening to great music.  Mental repair may mean changing bad habits, such as the habit of watching television.  We must work to develop our heart, our emotional connections and our engagement with other people.

Physical Exercise, Nutrition Stress Management

Mental

Social/Emotional

Reading, Visualizing Planning, Writing

Service, Empathy Synergy, Intrinsic Security

Spiritual Value Clarification & Commitment, Study & Meditation

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