Young Talk, April 2009

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tius, 14, Onyango Ignaa Islamic P7, Kamwoky pala School, Kam

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:N mic HAPPYam wokya Isla 13, P6, K pala School, Kam

Ignatious is 14 year old. He is in P7 at Kamwokya PS, Kampala. Young Talk interviewed Ignatious about his feelings. He says: ‘‘My oes not provide me with anything apart from school fees. ad about children who have what I do not have and those feat me in class. At times I feel like hiding their books so y fail to read, but I have never done it.’’

Just like Ignatious, you may have felt like this before. Anger and jealousy are examples of strong bad feelings. Other examples are envy, hate, sadness, depression, fear and grief. Everyone gets bad feelings. It is natural. But you can control the way you feel. This helps you feel happier and live well with other people. Read Namatovu’s story and learn from it.

Envy is when you wish to have what somebody else has.

When my friends perform better than me, I work arder. If they have good things, I ask my mother to buy me the same. If she refuses, I save my breakfast money and buy it, if it is cheap.” Namatovu Hiba, Kamwokya Islamic PS, Kampala. Join your friends and share knowledge instead of feeling bad and small.

Lessons from Namatovu’s story: You do not have to feel bad about what your friends can do or have.This feeling is called jealousy.

Do not let bad feelings hurt you or others.

Let the good things your friends have or do push you into working harder, just like Hiba.

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Who does she think she is? After all iam smarter than her. She always has nice clothes.

Do not allow jealousy make you start having sex. Read page 2 for stories and tips on how to control strong feelings.

Sadness is being unhappy

Local names for strong emotions Shock is get a feeling you ing when someth to bad happens you suddenly

Depression is being sad without hope

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Fear is when you feel something bad is going to happen to you

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Yes, I can control

my feelings Strong feelings are natural, but you can control them Jealous ‘‘I have a friend. I feel bad when I see other girls talking to him. One day I was going to abuse one of the girls. My friend stopped me. I would be sent away from school.’’ AN, Kamwokya Islamic School, Kampala Thanks, AN for controlling jealousy. Fighti bad and can lead you into problems. You can control strong feelings like anger z Walk to a place where you can be awa what is causing the feeling. z Talk to somebody about your feelings. This will help you to feel better. This m a friendor a parent/guardian. z Pray. z Sing your best song. z Exercise.

Nsiima Asiat controls her feelings

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positive rn from ple who better n you. ke them r friends. my friends better than I get closer hem. So I be able to n from them. very bad to someone ause they what you ot have or perform er.’’ kasa kim, 11, P6, mwokya mic PS, mpala

For Teachers

Grief is the feeling you get when you have lost someone close to you.

Know Your Body

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orry KS for what you are oing through! Encourage our mum to talk to your ther’s relatives or friends bout it.You can also talk to our father about the way ou feel.

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I hate my father ‘‘I am in P7 and the eldest son. My father beats my mother whenever he is drunk. I hate him so much. He has made my mother unhappy. She told us, she ill disappear and leave us one. This worries me alot. do not concentrate in ass. This has led to my oor performance. I feel y father should be taken o prison for life. Everyone cluding the neighbours are ot happy with the way he eats my mother. Mukasa Hakim never want to see him. S Kamwokya Islamic PS, ampala.

You need to clean your vagina to avoid bad smell. z Wash your vagina at least twice a day. In the morning and evening z The vagina has a natural way of cleaning its inside. z Your duty is to clean the out side. z 'R QRW LQVHUW ÀQJHUV LQVLGH \RXU vagina.This may hurt you or cause infection. z Use clean water and bathing soap. You may use water with out soap. z Dry yourself well. Put on clean underwear. A healthy vagina should not: z Have sores z Feel itchy z Have smelly discharge

“When my father died, I was only 12. I felt like I had also died. I could not stop thinking about it. I felt miserable. All my joints felt weak. I did not talk to anyone about it. I no longer think that there is a bright future for me. Jacob, Kidera, Kamuli Sorry Jacob. Talk to someone about the way you feel. They could help you. Try to play with friends. Also understand that you are not

Grief Many children are living with HIV. If you are positive that is not the end of the world. You can live longer.

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AIDS Corner z It is not your fault that your are HIV positive. z Rest, eat healthy foods Do exercise. z Take your medicine on time.You can ask you parents, brother and sisters or a neighbour to remind you.

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for adults and not children.You and your girlfriend are still young. You are exposing yourself to the risk of HIV/STD and unwanted pregnancy. Do you know that it is a crime to have sex with a girl below 18 years? Please do not have sex with her or anybody else. Concentrate on your studies. Is it true that if a girl misses her menstrual periods, she is pregnant? Atwebembeire B, 12, Kazo Parent’s School, Mbarara Pregnancy is the common cause of missing periods. There are a few other causes of missed periods like diseases or when a person is still developing and the menstrual cycle is not yet stable. However like I said, if a person has had sex, most common reason for a missed period is pregnancy.

We are happy to be in school

Young Talk club. Murambi PS, Ntungamo I always feel like having sex after my periods. Am I normal? NJ Bukulula Mawogola PS, Sembabule. My dear, sexual feelings are normal. Most girls or women experience this feeling especially around menstruation. This is caused by changes in the body. I encourage you to get into activities which can help to divert your mind from these feelings. Things like reading, sports, discussions and writing. Delay sex. Stay healthy and in school.

are going through similar problems. But the death of your father does not mean you should stop studying.You can still achieve your dreams. One of the things you could do is pig keeping. If you can get some money to start, one pig can give birth to many and they can be a source of income for you. You can also seek for sponsorship at your school especially if you perform very well in class. The headteacher may be able to offer you sponsorship.

There is a man in my village who is forcing me to stop school and marry him. He promises me everything but I am confused. What should I do? Wandeghe Z, 13, P7, Nyarukungu SDA PS, Kasese Do not stop school to get married.
My penis is small and my friends encourage me to have sex so that it can grow and increase in size. Please advise me on what to do. Lokong J, 13, P6, Kotido Mixed PS Do not worry about your penis size. You are 13 and still growing.Your penis will grow to its size when you have matured. It can keep growing until you are 21. Do not listen to your friends’ advice, it is wrong. Having sex does not cause the penis to increase in size. This will expose you to HIV/STDs. Concentrate on your education. Do well in class, your future will be brighter.

My father died. My mother has no money. But I want to study what can I do? Kizito Musoke, 13, P5, St Zoe Day & Boarding PS, Mubende Dear Musoke, sorry about your father’s death. Many young people of your age

My girlfriend and I want to have sex, EXWWKHFRQGRPGRHVQRWÀW:KDWFDQ I do? Wyclif T, 14, P5 Kabalega SS, Masindi My dear Wyclif, you are too young to have sex, that is why the condom GRHV QRW ÀW \RX &RQGRPV DUH PDGH

Tell us the story of what you have learnt from this Young Talk. Remember to write your name, age, class, school, P.O Box, District.You can also send us your picture. Send your stories to Young Talk P.O. Box 22366 Kampala WIN PAD, BOOKS, PENS, RULERS

We are glad not having sex.Pupils of Bujoloto PS, Mbale

A puzzle was sent out during the February issue and these are the winners of the exercise books and pens from Young Talk. Gumoshabe B, Ibanda Intergrated PS, .DQVLLPH6 Kyenjojo PS, Agaba C, Parriet Preparatory School, Mungiva M, Crane Jr Lugazi, 2JRP' Madhvani PS, Mugisha J, Equator Model PS, Ssemujju 3 Mwenyi A, Mugenyi Alex, P.O.Box 468 Fort Portal Namawejje 3 1DPXGGX3 Nakato A, Sebaggala D, Namale A, Nabbale C, Namatovu S, Ndagire I All from Bugolo Jr Sch, Nangobi M, Victoria Jr School, *DOXNDQGH. Kampala Jr Academy.

Over 60 Young Talkers wrote in to advice Shamin on the question she asked: I have a sister who forces me to love a boy. She wants money. She tells me that if I play se once, I can stay a virgin. Is it true? What should I do? Shamin W, P5, Bugolo Jnr School, Kampala. Each of you wins a Young Talk k book. We will send them to you.Thanks for writing. Here is a winning letter. “Shamin, do not listen to what your sister is telling you. The boy may make you pregnant. Report her to your parents.” Aine G, Buhara PS, Kabale.

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PLEASE ADVISE My parents are drunkards. My uncle got me a tomato business but my parents demand for money. I look after my young sisters and brothers and cannot concentrate in class. What can I do? %DKDWL/%XQGLEXJ\R'HPRQVWUDWLRQ36

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