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Topic:

Effects of Divorce on Children.

General purpose:

To inform.

Specific purpose:

To inform my audience about the most relevant effects or challenges that children suffer after the divorce of their parents.

Central Idea:

Divorce creates a new lifestyle in children, causing in them specific short-and long-term effects that change both their personality and their social interaction. Introduction

I.

Let's imagine that we are children and that our parents are getting divorced. A. At that moment we began to ask ourselves. 1. Where will I live? Will I be able to see both of my parents? Did I contribute to the divorce? Who will take care of me?

II.

In Cathy Meyer's words, "A divorce is a legal action between married people to terminate their marriage relationship.”

III.

According to Mr. Reiner Bloem, divorce rates have risen since 1970 for most of the countries. A. The USA and Belgium have the highest divorce rates.

IV.

But the decision of the parents will affect the happiness and health of the children.

V.

For children, family and parents are centers of their universe.

VI.

A divorce is a life-changing event for children.

VII.

I learned from an arduous search that divorce is a challenge for children because of the new circumstances in which they are going to live.

VIII.

Today, I would like to inform you about the short-term and long-term effects that children experience after their parents' divorce.

(Transition: First, let's take a look on the short-term effects. In other words, the not so dangerous circumstances.) Body I.

Children may experience short-term effects as a result of their parents ' divorce. A. There are five types of short-term effects caused by divorce in infants.

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1. Mr. Reiner Bloem establishes those effects in his book: "How to successfully support your children after your divorce." 2. The children of a divorced couple tend to suffer anxiety, which makes them not concentrating enough on certain activities they are doing. 3. Because of the conflicts they look at among their parents, the divorce results in children who suffer from stress. a. According to the American Academy of child and adolescent psychiatry, divorce can lead to immense stress and pressure on the young minds. 4. All children are usually happy; however, those who have suffered the divorce of their parents, go through mood swings and irritability. a.

Bloem explains that these children will become quiet and prefer to be alone.

b. Reinier Bloem points out that children will respond emotionally according to the personality they have had before the news of the divorce. i. If children are intelligent and responsible, they will adapt very well to the divorce and the changes it brings. ii. If children have a good sense of humor, they are likely to get support from other adults around them. iii. If children are spoiled or aggressive, they will cost them too much to adapt to the new life change that entails the divorce of their parents. c. The unconditional love of their parents is something children believe in. So that is why the breakup damages their self-confidence. i. The population most vulnerable to this factor are children from 5 to 10 years. 5. Divorce causes a degree of sadness in children. a. They do not experience only superficial sadness; on the contrary, this feeling goes through the heart and mind of the kid. b. For these children, nothing feels good in life. c. In Rebekah Lipps' words, "Children's emotions are as real as yours. Just because they might get sad over the colour of their cup, doesn't make their feelings any less real."

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6. Disillusion is the last short-term effect that children can experience by their parents' divorce. a. They would want to have the emotional support of their parents; nevertheless, they do not have it. b. Seeing other children with their whole families, they feel unsuccessful. (Transition: Just as important as was to mention short-term effects, we must know that in more severe cases the child can experience long-term effects.) II.

The long-term effects of divorce interfere in the social development of children during their growth. A. In the post-divorce stage, children who are directly affected by the breakup of their parents can develop four long-term effects. 1. Reinier Bloem explains in detail on his website called "Children and divorce," the most severe effects that pre-schoolers can face after a divorce process. 2. Parental divorce makes children present behavioral and social problems. a. These children do not like to relate to anyone, in addition to antisocial behavior they can become violent in some cases. b. But I agree with Janet Lansbury's view, "In my world there are no bad kids, just impressionable, conflicted young people wrestling with their emotions and impulses." c. Studies carried out in the United States of America have shown that the disobedience and hyperactivity in children are results of witnessing their parents’ discussions. 3. Divorce will cause in these children some trouble in their future relationships, because of the thoughts that they carry on them from childhood. a.

They develop doubts about love and harmony in a relationship.

b.

Such children as adults will start any relationship with a negative mindset.

c. Ms. Judith Wallestern concluded from her long search project that the highest impact of divorce on children come 15 to 25 years after the divorce with romantic relationships.

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4. As a result of the divorce, many children from separated parents can get into the world of substance abuse. a.

Because of their loneliness, they seek refuge in false friendships that lead them to drugs and alcohol, with a dark end in their lives.

5. Divorce causes academic and learning problems. a.

Children whose parents are divorced, they generally have poorer scores.

b.

Aggressive children get in trouble with school authorities.

c.

Some studies have shown that the academic problems in these children are given according to their gender. i. Boys are more aggressive and have problems getting along with their peers and teachers. ii. Girls are more likely to experience depression and they can no concentrate or not put enough effort.

(Transition: Having talked about how divorce affects children. In conclusion, we can say that pre-schoolers can experience different effects or changes in their lives.) Conclusion I.

For children, divorce can be an especially sad, stressful, and confusing time.

II. Divorce results in children some short-term effects such as anxiety, stress, irritability, mood swings and disillusion. III. Unfortunately, the more severe cases give long-term effects such as social problems, troubles in romantic relationships, academic difficulties, drugs and alcohol. IV. Children are not to blame for the discussion between their parents; instead, they must be loved and have a happy childhood. V. Let’s us live according to that quote from Rebekah Bradley which says: “never put your child in a place to where they have to pick a which parent they love.”

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