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Noel

Noel Baltazar Benitez

25 December 1947 - 15 July 2008 Vice President for Institutional Operations, Campus Development and Resource Generation, PWU Member, Board of Trustees, PWC Davao President, Unlad Resources Development Corporation Member, Board of Directors, Unlad Rural Bank President, Manila South Coast Development Corporation Managing Director, Chiron Development Corporation Managing Director, Sunrise Security

The University is formally informed of the unexpected death of PWU Vice-President Noel B. Benitez PMO No. 32 SY 2008-2009, July 15, 2008

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Noel Baltazar Benitez: A Biography

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Glimpses of Noel’s Life

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The University bids farewell to VP Noel

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The Eucharistic Celebration and Necrological Services at PWU

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- The Homily: Rev. Fr. Paul Marquez, SSP

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- Necrological Speakers: • Atty. Theuntheth Javier, on behalf of SM Investment Corporation

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• Ms. Ma. Loreto Lopez, on behalf of PWC Davao

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• Ms. Leonor Petra Elepaño, on behalf of Bayanihan

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• Naomi Isabelle Saguil, on behalf of JASMS Manila

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• Dr. Dolores Baja Lasán, on behalf of the University

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• Dr. Amelou Benitez Reyes, on behalf of the Family

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• The Response: Mr. Marco Benitez

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Interment

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The 9th Day Eucharistic Celebration

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- The Homily: Rev. Fr. Tito Caluag

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- The Response: Mrs. Suzie Moya Benitez

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V. The University President’s Memorandum on “In Memoriam” – PMO No. 33 SY 2008-2009, July 21, 2008

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VI. Remembering Noel Benitez

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- From the Heart of His Children • Marco – Response during the Funeral Mass

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• Marielle – “My Dad . . . My Coach . . . My Hero . . .”

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• Marton – “My Father Taught Me About Life”

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- From his Family • Dr. Helena Z Benitez

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• Jose Fil Benitez

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• Tatti Licuanan

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• Jet, Justin, Eric, Trevor, Tana and Mara Benitez

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• Bay Ledesma

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• Freddie Reyes

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• Tina Benitez

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- From his Friends and Colleagues • Mr. Henry Sy

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• P/Supt. Frumencio Bernal III

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• Colonel Roger Luis

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• From a Friend

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• Dr. Karen Webb & VP Terrence Barber

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• Annie Martin

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• Puri Capistrano Laconico

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• Alain Giraud

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• Maritess Alava Yong

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• Jennifer Peña

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• Ana Arambulo

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• Cesar G. Torres, Jr.

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• Imelda Trillo

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• Justice Manuel Lazaro

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• Popoy Magno

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• Ernest Rufino

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• Epi Miranda and Roshan Jamir

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- From the PWU Community • Jose P. Cabazor

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• Fr. Tony E. Lazaro

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• Nilo & Erlinda Chincuanco

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• Engr. Tadeo G. Claravall

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• Ms. Tess A. Bernales

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• Babes M. De Leon

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• Ms. Marilou Mirasol

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• Mrs. Beatriz E. Biyo

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• Ms. Sonia Atabug

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• From a member of the PWU Community

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• Ms. Amelia Bonifacio

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• Dr. Ida Yap-Patron

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• Ms. Emilie Dalisay

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• Ms. Juliet Manlapaz

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• Ms. Geraldine Tiongson Osias

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• Ms. Helen Marte

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• Ms. Regina Flores Tercero

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• Mrs. Loline Adelina Reed

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• Dr. Eden Kelemen

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• Mr. Gene Albert E. Velunta

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• Dr. Lorenzo Lorenzo

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• Mrs. Diony M. Angeles

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• Ms. Puritz P. Uson

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• Dr. Christy Cruz

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• Ms. Lorraine P. Petalver

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• Mrs. Remedios H. Cruz

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• Dr. Ana Cordovilla

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• Dr. Nenita M. Cruz

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• Ms. Bing Quintos

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• Ms. Charito Bitanga Peralta

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• Ms. Becky D. Yusingco

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• Aida A. Arrieta

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• Shirley D. Resumadero

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• Myrna Alianza

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• Benny Canlas

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• Arthur G. Arafol

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• Albert Miranda, Jr.

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• Sandro M. Cariño

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• Rene Parra

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• Norberto Olid

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• Raul Encela

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• Jimmy Parada

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• Estrelita Jasareno

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• Claudia Calsena

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• Leila Cariño

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• Alejandro M. Mamba, Jr.

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• Mr. Federico E. Tagailo

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• Ms. Cynthia Zamora, Ms. Estrella Galia, Ms. Evelyn Rodica & Ms. Maricel Seva

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• Ms. Vee M. Andrada

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• Mira-Nila Staff

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• Bing Deloria, Larry Villafranca, June Del Prado

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• PWU NSTP Faculty

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• Dr. Fiel Nierva

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• Ms. Lorna Alvarez Salutal & Staff of Multimedia Publication & University Publishing House

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• Dr. Zenaida G. Sadiwa

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• Dr. Leonora N. Panlasigui

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• Evelyn Pantig

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• Reiner Suva

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• School of Nursing

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• School of Fine Arts and Design Faculty and Staff

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• Carol Zamora

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• Raul Santos

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• Rachell Fernandez

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• Joe Seguerra

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• Mr. Arsenio J. Vistro

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• Mark Joel B. Bernal

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• Atty. Herminio A. Liwanag

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• Dr. Nini F. Lim

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• Donna Casas Robles

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• Edith Andro

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• Lynn Cadorniga

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APPENDICES i. The Missalette for the PWU Eucharistic Celebration and Necrological Services ii. Responsory for Noel Baltazar Benitez

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OFFICE OF THE PRESIDENT President’s Memorandum Order (PMO) No. 032 SY 2008-2009 TO

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Treasuring the PWU Legacy & Sustaining Spirituality & Quality in Building a Global Institution

THE PWU COMMUNITY

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THE CHANCELLOR, VICE PRESIDENTS ASSISTANT VICE PRESIDENTS, DEANS, HEADS OF ACADEMIC AND NON-ACADEMIC UNITS

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THE UNIVERSITY PRESIDENT

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JULY 15, 2008

NECROLOGICAL MASS IN HONOR OF MR. NOEL B. BENITEZ, VICE-PRESIDENT FOR INSTITUTIONAL OPERATIONS, CAMPUS DEVELOPMENT AND RESOURCE GENERATION ____________________________________________________________________________ SUBJECT :

You are all enjoined to attend the necrological concelebrated mass in honor of PWU VicePresident Noel B. Benitez on Thursday, July 17, 2008, 10:00 a.m. at the PWU Chapel with University Chaplain, Rev. Fr. Artemio Fabros as main celebrant; co-celebrants are PWU JASMS Quezon City Campus Chaplain, Rev. Fr. Antonio E. Lazaro, Jr., OFM and Rev. Fr. Paul Marquez, SSP as homilist. The wake will be at Santuario de San Antonio, Forbes Park starting today, July 15 until Thursday, July 17, 2008. Mr.Noel Benitez served as PWU Vice-President for Institutional Operations, Campus Development and Resource Generation from January 1, 2003 until his untimely death. Mr. Benitez also served as member of the Board of Trustees of the Philippine Women’s College of Davao from July 28, 2005 and President of the Unlad Resources Development Corporation. The PWU Community is offering a nine-day Novena mass during the 12:00 noon mass at the PWU Chapel for the eternal repose of his soul. The PWU Community extends their heartfelt condolences to Assistant Vice President Suzie M. Benitez, Ms. Marielle M. Benitez, Director, Sports Development, Tonton, Marco and the siblings: the PWU University President, Dr. Amelou Benitez Reyes, Immediate Past President, Dr. Jose Conrado Benitez, former University Treasurer Ms. Maritza Canto, aunt “Tita Helen,” Chairperson of the PWU Board of Trustees and other relatives. Let us pray for the eternal repose of his soul.

DR. DOLORES BAJA LASÁN Chancellor on behalf of the Office of the President

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i s aunt and PWU Board of Trustees Chair Helena Z Benitez, Tita Helen, called him “the silent water that ran deep.” How deep is amply shown in the listing of his professional, work and civil society involvements below. President of seven corporations; chairman of two, one corporate the other a civic movement; managing director of another; member of the board of trustees of PWC of Davao and of the parents Board of De la Salle University. And of course, VP for Institutional Operations and Resource Generation of PWU, the only one most of us know about. How silent is that we never knew those other things until after we tried to research who he is (or, alas, was) after his demise. We know how much he was able to do in the few years that he was our VP for Institutional Operations and Resource Generation. Reading his curriculum vitae, we can begin to understand and appreciate how he was able to achieve so much in his brief lifetime. Born in Manila on December 25, he was aptly named Noel. He studied at De La Salle University from elementary through high school, graduating with a Bachelor of Science in Business Administration in 1971. While still an undergrad, Noel applied his supervision and management skills as Farm Manager (1969 – 1972) of the family’s mango orchard production and marketing in Cavite.

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As a Senior Research Assistant at the UP Institute of Urban Studies in 1972, he undertook research work and studies in educational planning, metropolitan finance, land use distribution for agriculture. As Urban/Regional Planner (January to September 1973), he provided over-all supervision and control to a multi-disciplinary group that undertook various economic studies in the three sectors of the Metropolitan Manila economy. He obtained a Master’s degree in Environmental Planning at the UP Institute of Urban Studies in 1973. In the same year, he went for Advanced Training on Urban Regional Planning at the United Nations Center for Regional Development in Nagoya, Japan on a UNDP-DPWTC Scholarship. As a Regional Planner (October 1973 to July 1974), he served as Deputy Project Director of the National Framework Plan, a joint project of the UP Institute of Planning, UNDP and DPWTC. He directly assisted the Project Director in project development, implementation and evaluation of the different sectoral studies, including management of research studies and recommendation of alternative solutions to urban-rural problems, and provided external assistance and coordination with the different government agencies participating in the national framework plan. Noel then joined the private sector as an Entrepreneur from 1974 to 1980, and again from 1986 to 1999. As a Licensed Real Estate Broker and Businessman, he.attained the following business affiliations and posts: Managing Director (1990 – 1999), Southern Breeze RealtyDevelopment Corporation. A firm engaged in the management and operation of Taal Vista Hotel in Tagaytay City, Cavite. President, Manila South Coast Development Corporation. A member of the SM Group of Companies, engaged in land consolidation, estate management, planning and development of a 5,700 hectares for the purpose of ecotourism estate, land management, land and water recreation and the eventual creation of a Tourism Satellite City in Nasugbu, Batangas. President, Benitez Investment, Inc. A family firm engaged in real estate development, leasing and management of its properties. Chairman, Board of Directors, Unlad Rural Bank of Noveleta, Cavite

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President, Unlad Resources Development Corporation Chairman, Asian Appraisal Company, Inc. Managing Director, Chiron Development, Inc. Managing Director/Treasurer, Sunrise Security Investigation & General Services, Inc. President, Sunbless Manpower Corp President, Easy Payment Corporation President, Fedman Owners Group Chairman, Camps for Champs His organizational affiliations included membership in the Philippine Institute of Environmental Planners, the Cavite Group of Realtors, and the Philippine Association of Real Estate Brokers, Cavite Chapter. In the Academe, Noel Benitez was Vice-President, Institutional Operations & Resource Generation, The Philippine Women’s University, and Member, Board of Trustees, Philippine Women’s College of Davao Noel Benitez joined the political arena from 1980 to 1986 as Vice-Mayor of Tagaytay City. In this capacity, he was Presiding Officer of the City Council; Head, Zoning Administration; Committee Chairman, Finance, Public Works & Infrastructure, Land Use Planning, Ways & Means; Committee Member, Education, Culture & Sports, Social Welfare and Housing. Noel B. Benitez and wife Suzie Moya Benitez have been blessed with three children—Marco, Marielle and Marton.

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L -Family members and the PWU Community await the arrival of the “urn”. RChancellor Dr. Dolores Baja Lasán and AVP Tadeo Claravall carry the “urn” to CB Hall, with VP Noel’s family and PWU community in procession at the HZB hall.

VP Noel’s remains are placed at the altar of the CB Hall, where the Eucharistic Celebration and Necrological Services were held.

In grief over the loss of a beloved nephew, husband, father, brother ...

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The Benitez family hold hands in prayer for Noel.

The Eucharistic Celebration was offered by University Chaplain Rev. Fr. Artemio Fabros (center) as main celebrant; concelebrants were (from left) Rev. Fr. Itoy Ignacio, Rev. Msgr. Jose Clemente Ignacio, Rev. Fr. Paul Marquez, Rev. Fr. Antonio Lazaro Jr., Rev. Fr. Rolando Garcia, Jr., Rev. Fr. Joel Jason, and Rev. Fr. Ramon Merino.

VP Noel’s children Marco, Marielle and Marton... friends, colleagues at the University come together to remember VP Noel Benitez.

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The Homily Fr Paul J. Marquez, SSP

Last Tuesday, at half past seven in the morning, I received a text message from the office of the University President Dr. Amelou Benitez Reyes. The text message relayed the sad and shocking news that Mr. Noel Benitez had succumbed to a heart attack. I kept hoping and wishing that there was a mistake in the message, that the attack was not fatal and that Mr. Benitez was somehow still fighting for dear life. My spontaneous reaction was: “Oh, no!” and to offer prayers for him and for his beloved wife Suzie and for their children Marco, Marielle and Tonton. All of us who have known Mr. Benitez must have quietly uttered a similar cry of protest. “Oh, no!” He cannot die. He is very much alive. He was just with us on the birthday of his aunt Dr. Helena Benitez last June 27. He even joined the offertory procession during Mass and he was all over the place during the dinner party. We even exchanged “Hi! Hello!” and when we bid each other goodbye, it never crossed my mind it would be the last time that I would be seeing Mr. Benitez. Up to this time, it is still difficult for me to think that he is gone because only last Friday, he asked his secretary Grace if I would be available for Mass on Friday, which is tomorrow, the death anniversary of his mother Doña Lulu. I was told to wait for final confirmation since he had to consult with his siblings.

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Now we all know the true reason why Mr. Benitez had kept the schedule of Mass tentative. He was about to embark on a different journey. I have very fond recollections of Mr. Noel Benitez. I have been privileged to join numerous family gatherings of the Benitez clan, and Mr. Benitez always stood out as a quiet and gentle presence. I appreciate so much how he always went out of his way to welcome me and make me feel comfortable. Every time we talked to each other, we did call each other on a first-name basis. He was a most gracious host, deeply spiritual, and also did charity work without fanfare. During the last party I attended in their home, almost all those present had gone to confession. Noel and Suzie’s home instantly became a house-church like the time of the first Christians. We would also have chance meetings, like during a funeral Mass at Santuario. Another time, Mr. Benitez saw me along Paseo de Roxas street one rainy afternoon waiting for a cab and he offered to have his driver bring me home. But I cannot forget, most of all, that time when he personally drove his car and brought me home to St. Paul Seminary after a party in Dasmariñas. That night I gave him a copy of the magazine where his daughter Marielle was cover girl. I noticed how Noel’s face beamed with pride. Today I choose to remember Mr. Noel Benitez by his loving acts of kindness. I am sure that his family—his wife Suzie and their children—have a lifetime of wonderful memories of this great friend, this faithful husband and this good father. I am also sure that his siblings and other relatives, friends and acquaintances would terribly miss such a good person and a real gentleman. We shall all miss him. We are not bidding you goodbye, my brother. We say instead: until we all meet again. Thank you Lord for lending Noel to us. Thank you for the 60 wonderful years that you had given to him. Thank you for giving him to his family, to the PWU community and to all of us whose lives he had touched. We thank you Lord because when Noel lived in our midst, we truly felt the Emmanuel, God who walks with us. Eternal rest, grant unto Noel, O Lord. And let perpetual light shine upon him. May Noel rest in peace. Amen.

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Necrological Speakers A Tribute to My Role Model by Atty. Theuntheth Javier, on behalf of SM Investment Corporation

When I was invited to speak this morning I had certain hesitation to accept. The hesitation comes from the thought that what I will say may not do justice to a man whose professional life was worth emulating and retelling. However, because of my desire to show my deep gratitude, great admiration and respect to Mr. Noel B. Benitez, I was able to set aside said hesitation. I had the privilege of working with Mr. Benitez at SM and at some of his personal legal concerns. But I will limit my character sketch of the man in his hat as an Executive of SM. At the time of his death, Mr. Benitez is the President of Manila Southcoast Development Corp. (“MSDC”), one of the companies under the SM conglomerate. Since our respective jobs needed close coordination, I was able to observe Mr. Benitez up close. Mr. Benitez was hard working. The last time I spoke with him over the cell phone was last Friday, July 11. He was inquiring about what happened on a case I attended for Manila Southcoast, the afternoon before. Last Monday, July 14, I had a meeting with him which lasted for over one (1) hour starting at 11:00 A.M and which could have been extended had I not begged off from Mr. Benitez’ lunch invitation because of a prior professional commitment. Our meeting was focused on Mr. Benitez’ various concerns on the upcoming projects of MSDC. He was a team player. He was a coach, player and manager all rolled into one. He was always with his team at the dug out: soliciting the opinions of his players; discussing with them the plans and strategies of the games ahead. You could sense his readiness to suit up for the game especially when he knew that his presence was needed. At the victory party, he was never selfish with the trophy.

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He was generous with praises and recognition to his players for a job well-done. He was always looking for the welfare of the whole team including the support staff. Mr. Benitez was the consummate negotiator. With his breeding and education, he was able to cross with ease the camps of the privileged and the not so privileged. He also possessed the character to put everyone at ease- a critical ingredient in any successful negotiation. I will remember the participation and performance of Mr. Benitez during SM’s Christmas parties and company events, perhaps reminiscent of his old Bayanihan days, and which in some way helped in endearing him to our officemates. Mr. Benitez was simple, unassuming and down to earth. And for all of that, we thank the Benitez family for sharing with SM the time, talent and the person of Mr. Benitez. With the untimely passing of Mr. Benitez, the Sy family has lost a loyal and dedicated business partner. With the untimely passing of Mr. Benitez, the SM Organization has lost an effective leader. With the untimely passing of Mr. Noel B. Benitez, I lost a role model.

Message delivered on behalf of PWC of Davao by Ma. Loreto Abella Lopez On behalf of Chairperson Rosa Santos Munda, trustee Rosario Abella Lizada, Vice-President Amelia B. Bonifacio and the PWC of Davao community, together with AVP Amy Rey and Dean Ida Patron, I would like to extend our sincerest condolences to Suzie Benitez and her children, Mariel, Marco and Tonton, to Tita Helen, President Amelou, Conrad and the Benitez family and the PWU community for this untimely loss.

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Noel Benitez was the newest and youngest member of the PWC of Davao Board of Trustees. In the more recent years, we fondly remember his visits to Davao. In July 2005, he attended the installation of Amelou as PWC President. In August 2006, he participated in the various activities of the 2nd Global PWU-PWC Alumni Reunion & Congress. In 2007, he twice attended the meetings of the Board of Trustees. Lastly, in April 2008, Noel went to Davao for the graduation ceremonies and danced the Rigodon de Honor during graduation ball. AVP Amy was his privileged partner. Foremost in our remembrances is Noel’s passion for the development of sports. In each and every visit, he reiterated the importance of sports in the personality development of students. It was Noel who insisted on placing a track and field oval, a softball diamond, 2 basketball courts and a swimming pool into PWC’s site development plan. He spoke with us administrators, with our PE teachers, and with the PTA regarding his proposals and got each of us into also being passionate with sports. For this, we are forever grateful. Despite the few times shared with him, we very well remember his simplicity, his graciousness and his sense of gratitude. During practices for the Rigodon, Noel arrived at PWC on time. He walked his way or rode the tricycle to and from PWC. He seemed to appreciate and enjoy Davao and PWC’s provincial environment. He was also a good Rigodon dancer and coach so much so that VP Mely contracted him to be her Rigodon partner for the Graduation ball 2009. Once, Noel told us that he always speaks his mind, voices his opinions and is firm in his proposals because, to quote his words, “saying naman na pinaaral ako ni Tita Helen, tapos tatahimik na lang ako.” Our last meeting with him was during Tita Helen’s birthday celebration last June. We presented to him, to Tita Helen and President Amelou the final version of the PWC development plan. He was truly happy that an open sports complex, his pet project for PWC, had been integrated in the plan. We also talked about the small PWC lots across the present campus and their best use. These are the lots near the new Mindanao Folk Arts Museum and Studies Center. It was also then that Noel proposed that the PWC hotel and dormitory be built within these lots. When VP Mely expressed satisfaction and said “ang galing-galing naman ng proposal na ito”, he once again said, “pinagaralan ko yan sa college.” Only then did we learn he had an MA in Urban Planning.

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Suzie, Tita Helen, President Amelou, thank you for bringing Noel to PWC of Davao. We know that he enjoyed his visits to PWC of Davao as much as we did. As we say goodbye to him, let us also say thank you for his simplicity, gentleness, graciousness, gratitude, his vibrance and vigor, and for that peaceful smile that never left his face.

Ms. Leonor Petra Elepaño, on behalf of the Bayanihan National Folkdance Company of the Philippines Good morning, I am Petra from Bayanihan, I feel it an honor to be here, to come and say a final goodbye on behalf of the staff and performing artists of the Bayanihan. Had it not been for Tito Noel’s persistence, and talked to my Tita, “tell Petra’s parents that let her job wait and make her dance first in Bayanihan,” I will not be an active member of the company. He knew how much I love dancing and knowing that I am just >01% of the many people he was acquainted with, he was very thoughtful to know what I want. He had his personal touch with people that make you feel important and give you courage to achieve your goal. I remember what Yeli once told me, that Tito said, to do what you can do while you’re still young. He was everything to everyone who knew him. He was the strength in Yeli that made her continue to fight in a game where exhaustion was also an enemy. She will hear his whistle and that’s all it takes to make her adrenaline shoot up. He was Tonton’s wake up call and tour guide. He told him to try the best things in every country he was visiting, like the mussels and beer in Belgium, although the beer was off-limits… Bayanihan rule. He stayed in Ateneo bleachers to support Marco even if he was a green archer’s alumnus. I don’t know how he does it but he was able to give encouraging words or actions to everyone. He once told Ate Annie, our singer, after our three-month tour in the States, “100% improved!” with thumbs up. Those simple words were enough to make an eternal mark in her. He even asked Elmer a former

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musician, when he was coming back to play music in the company. He knew, what was in his heart. He watched everybody as if he was trying to know them better and what it was they were yearning for. He even knew how many times I had been going back and forth from the buffet table, even those small things he noticed. He was so great, but what made him greater than great was that he remained humble even with all his achievements. He would talk to anyone no matter what their station in life is, a student, an officer, a child, an old man, or whoever you are, as long as you approach him, he would willingly talk to you. And despite the many demands from his jobs, he always had time to be with Tita Suzie, to watch us rehearse, listen with us during our green rooms, and mainly, support her and the company. He knew the importance of living life to the fullest and death was a reminder that one should not waste time, and better move to reach the goal. Paolo Coelho, a favorite writer of mine and Yeli’s, wrote: “Death is possibly the most important thing in life. We are walking towards death, but we never know when death will touch us and it is our duty, therefore to look around us, to be grateful for each minute. But we should also be grateful to death, because it makes us think about the importance of each decision we take, or fail to take, it makes us stop doing anything that keeps us stuck in the category of the living dead, and instead urges us to risk everything, to bet everything on those things we always dreamed of doing because, whether we like it or not the angel of death is waiting for us.” That was probably why he was always supportive of the dreams and goals we want to achieve. Like him, he did everything. He didn’t take time for granted and achieved so much that he became the Vice-Mayor of Tagaytay, VP of PWU, a Bayanihan member, an ideal boss, an inspiring officemate, to some people, may I quote “protector and savior”, the strength of the family, a loving husband, and most of all, a father to his three great kids and us, who had been touched by his existence.

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Naomi Isabelle Saguil, JASMS Manila Grade IV Student VP Noel was not just an official… he was a caring and thoughtful person. He did most anything to make JASMS Manila, our school, as good as it can be. He quietly came to visit us many many times, any time of the day, any day of the week, just to check whatever else we needed. We pray that VP Noel and the angels who surround him continue to watch over JASMS and guide the living who take on the tasks he had begun. As we bid you farewell, we would like you to know that JASMS will never be the same without you, VP Noel. We shall miss you because we at the JASMS Manila, love you.

Dr. Dolores B. Lasán, University Chancellor and VP for Academic Affairs, Research and Publications on behalf of the University I am truly humbled to speak on behalf of the University which I know is very close to the heart of Noel Benitez and that each and everyone in the University has a very special feeling for Noel. Yet, like the good old “Tita” which he usually calls me I shall in feeble words try to do so. Beloved family, Assistant Vice President Suzie Moya Benitez, Marco, Marielle, and Tonton, and the siblings: PWU University President Dr. Amelou Benitez Reyes, Immediate Past President Dr. Jose Conrado Benitez, former University Treasurer Ms. Maritza B. Canto, aunt “Tita Helen,” Chairperson of the PWU Board of Trustees, Trustee Conrado Benitrez II and other relatives and friends of Noel Benitez.

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God, in his infinite wisdom and love, called our dear Noel Benitez to His beautiful garden of blessed eternity. Now, there in one of God’s mansions reserved for His faithful children, VP Noel or Sir Noel as we fondly call him at the Philippine Women’s University, now watches over all of us, his beloved wife AVP Suzie Benitez and children Marielle, Marco and Tonton, siblings, relatives, friends and I am sure he, too watches over the Philippine Women’s University which he served with dedication and commitment during the last years of his life on earth. The PWU community struggles to recover from the shock over the sudden death of VP Noel. In his honor, the University flag now flies half mast, symbolic of this educational institution’s great respect for one of the youngest of the third generation of the Benitez clan headed by the Benitez family matriarch, “Tita Helen,” who has taken up the cause of the University among his many other responsibilities in other fields of endeavors. We poor mortals at the University could not help but feel the physical void Noel Benitez has left us. However, his legacy as Vice-President for Institutional Operations, Campus Development and Resource Generation will always be part of the University’s history. For VP Noel has touched the lives of all sectors of the University as he orchestrated and oversaw the continuing development of the University’s physical facilities and equipment, the institutional services, campus development and resource generation for the University under very difficult circumstances and limited resources. With competing requests and demand for his attention and services from all levels, the elementary, tertiary and graduate students, faculty, and administrators, VP Noel has maintained a clear and rational perspective of the University priorities in a caring and understanding manner. His concern for the students of the University is the great hallmark of the difficult decisions he had to make as he rallied everybody for the greater good of the greatest number of people in the University. As a Sports enthusiast, he was the moving spirit behind the revitalization of the Sports Program of the University. Indeed, VP Noel has made a singular significant contribution to the imminently forthcoming official announcement that the Commission on Higher Education has granted the Philippine Women’s University an Autonomous Status. I shall personally always remember VP Noel as a member of the University Management Committee who has the courage to unravel the hard facts behind issues and concerns under discussion. His sharp and incisive insights never fail to set the perspectives for proper decisions and actions.

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Above all, what the University will treasure most is the person that is VP Noel —always approachable, ready to listen and find meaning in both small and big matters with a subtle sense of humor in putting forth his ideas. A subtle sense of humor. During one of Suzie’s extended Bayanihan tours I asked VP Noel— “What do you hear from Suzie.” He said: “I don’t hear from Suzie, I only read from her.” Please pray for us VP Noel that we at the University may have the wisdom and the resources to continue what you have so concretely started towards our efforts to treasure the PWU legacy and sustain spirituality and quality in building the global institution. The JASMS child said it all on behalf of all of us at the University when he said, We love you, Sir Noel! In unison from a prayerful PWU faith community, we implore: “Eternal rest grant Sir Noel, Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon him.”

Lovingly Remembering Noel by Dr. Amelou Benitez Reyes, University President On behalf of the University and the Benitez family, we wish to express our heartfelt gratitude to the reverend fathers, headed by our University Chaplain, Fr. Artemio Fabros, Fr. Tony Lazaro, PWU JASMS Quezon City Chaplain, Fr. Paul Marquez, our family friend who baptized most of my grandchildren, Monsignor Clemente Ignacio, parish priest of Quiapo and head of TV Maria, also from San Carlos Seminary, Fr. Ramon Merino, Fr. Rolly Garcia, and Fr. Itoy Ignacio. I had hesitated to speak today because this is one of the most difficult tasks as your University President. I felt I would not be able to do this, to stand before you representing as well the Benitez Family, being the eldest among the third generation. I have gained strength because I would like to formally acknowledge the great work that Noel has done for the University since 2003, when I started my

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presidency. On behalf of the PWU Board, officials and management, we wish to formally express our gratitude and heartfelt appreciation, most especially to Noel’s family, for the numerous achievements VP Noel has contributed for the University. He was fondly called the “miracle worker” and through Noel’s leadership, we succeeded in meeting the growing demands of accreditation and IQUAME requirements and the development in our institutional structures, the beautification of our campus based on the extensive plans and endless discussions and disagreements that we have worked out together. It was Noel’s persistency to slowly but surely improve the physical aspect of the University to complement the many academic innovations that we have been undertaking over the past years of my presidency. We are eternally grateful most especially: to Suzie, his wife, who also serves as our AVP for Culture, Music, Arts and Sports, and the Executive Director of the Bayanihan Philippine National Folkdance Company; to Marco (the godson of my late husband Andy); Marielle, Director for Sports Development; and Tonton. Noel was the youngest among the siblings, my sister, Ms. Maritza Canto, and my brother Jolly, the immediate past PWU president. Although the youngest, my late mother made Noel the President of our closed family corporation, Benitez Investments, which he effectively managed to be included in the listing of best 1000 corporations of the Philippines. Noel was also the President of UNLAD Resources and was also working with the SM Group of Companies. Jesus Christ’ Seventh word: FATHER, INTO THY HANDS I COMMEND MY SPIRIT. This seventh word provides me with great courage to accept Noel’s sudden death, to realize that when God Almighty decides, “it’s time to return home—finished or not finished—pass your papers.” Monday afternoon this week, we were having our usual MANCOM meeting and I was happy I was able to convey that Commissioner Nona Ricafort congratulated PWU for being granted our autonomous status. Most unusual, our beloved Chairperson passed by on a Monday, and had a long talk with Noel. Since we had another death in the family, our first cousin, Atty Chit Baltazar, JRU President, we finished our meeting early. I understand that Noel went around, greeted many people and held their hands and chatted a while. Noel’s legacy of building good relationships will of course not be forgotten. This is also the most difficult aspect of his work in the University that I will truly miss a lot. No amount of words can express the great loss that I am now experiencing most especially since NOEL was my VP for institutional operations, auxiliary services, campus development and resource generation.

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Although we had disagreed a lot, I will truly miss our frank discussions and lengthy consultations which provided insights, analysis, which enriched the task of making better decisions. One admirable quality was his respect for corporate discipline: when the President decided, Noel willingly followed through presidential decisions. We suffer this loss of missing Noel’s daily presence in our university life. I personally have suffered the loss of many loved ones—my father Alfredo Benitez at the very early age of 31, whom we hope to name our School of Arts and Design after; my own mother Lulu who will be celebrating her death anniversary tomorrow; my husband, Andy who died at the age of 47, in 1986 after suffering for more than 7 years of cancer; and my son Martin who died at the age of 37, leaving 3 children. Both Martin and Noel were directly associated with the University work. These losses may be difficult to bear but these can make my own daily life an opportunity to grow and deepen my spirituality. It is only through the eyes of faith that I gain my strength to continue the work that Noel has started. We have envisioned an improved physical facility in time for our 90th anniversary. When I saw his dying face, happily looking, I whispered, please Noel, continue to help me, make sure that the funding we have been expecting shall come sooner, so that all the plans for institutional improvement may materialize. Somehow I feel closer to Noel now because through the eyes of faith, I am certain, God will show me the way to achieve the many plans for physical improvement that we have carefully worked out. My thrust of building a faith community is greatly rooted on the many losses that I have experienced over the past years. This sudden departure of Noel has a lesson for all of us gathered here today. We should realize that Noel is closer to God now; closer to us also in ways that only the heart can fathom. Even if Noel has left us, and we will surely miss him, we can draw strength from this: “We live in Faith and the promise of life eternal. God gives us strength that we need to prevail.” The loss is hard to take but God does not give us challenges we cannot hurdle. As we mourn and feel the nagging pain, we should welcome this moment of suffering as an occasion of encountering God in the midst of our sorrow and grief. We may have known God but experiencing and acknowledging our powerlessness is putting our complete trust in the Lord’s ways. We need to believe that God’s ways are better than our own. We must believe that God loves Noel so much that when his mission was completed and being in a state of grace, God brought Noel home to paradise.

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No doubt there is a great lesson behind Noel’s sudden departure. Who would have imagined that life will be that short for Noel? This is why we need to really and truly find God before it’s too late. We have to revisit our own life and begin preparing for the journey to the afterlife. This has been the cornerstone of my thrust of building a faith community rooted in spirituality. For us who are left behind, we will never know when God will call us, too. It is a wake-up time for all that we continue to refocus and find the true meaning in our own daily lives through the formation and education with the heart. We should look towards being more humane rather than cerebral, being more compassionate and caring towards others, rather than indifferent and apathetic, as epitomized by Noel’s relationship with everyone in the PWU community. No doubt we need to remind ourselves of this focus on building faith community: that the heart of education is education with a heart. Allow me to end by adapting from a message that my son Martin, who died at the age of 37, wrote to his friends when he was dying: “What I would like to share with all of you in this new millennium is that we should never take for granted all the little things that God gives us daily in our lives. If we look around us, we can clearly see the blessings that He has been giving us, the blessings of life, love, family and happiness. Do not wait until a life crisis hapens to be thankful for all these blessings. Do not wait till something bad happens to run to God to ask Him to fix it and help us.We can start now with a relationship with God and be His friend. I had to learn to be His friend and find Him while I struggled with my illness and it was tough. But I am still glad that I found God through my illness and have a relationship with Him that will help me to get through all the rough spots that I have been experiencing and continue to struggle with. Most of us do not need a bad thing to start a good thing with God.We can do this NOW!” Again, my deepest gratitude to all who have expressed their kind words of sympathy… Let the spirit that embodies Noel’s contribution in touching our lives grow in our personal commitment, to continue the good works that Noel has achieved for the University. This is our way of saying Noel’s sudden demise has not been in vain.

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Response from the Benitez Family by Marco Benitez

On behalf of my family, my mom, Marielle and Tonton, we’d like to extend our deepest gratitude to the whole Philippine Women’s University community, Tita Helen, Tita Amelou, for the preparations that were made for my dad. I’m sure my Dad will be trying to hide inside his urn right now because he was definitely not a man for fanfare. He was a very simple man. In fact, sometimes when I visit his office here in PWU . . . I’m sure you all know his office is located at the second floor, at one corner of the building, under the emergency fire escape stairs and his table is at the very end of the long corridor of that room. So my Dad was never one for a lot of festivities. He just did his work while he reached out to people. If there were four things he wanted to be remembered for, the most were his love for family, his value of hard work, his integrity and his compassion. We all know that Philippine Women’s University has a very special place in his heart. In fact, many times when we would eat dinner at home, we saw how much difficulty, how much stress he would have, how much heartaches he would have in trying to do his best to help the university. There were many times when we told him, “Dad, maybe it’s time that you prioritize things that matter the most, don’t overwork yourself. There is the family business to attend to. There are many things that are probably more important.” Because that’s how we felt. We felt that he was spreading himself too thin. But my Dad was always stubborn. He made sure to stick it out with the university because he believed, number one, in family. He believed that this was the legacy of his grandparents and sometimes he took it upon himself trying to make the change that he wanted to see in the university. He knows that there is so much potential in the university and in his own little way that is what he worked for everyday. The second value that I admire most about my Dad is his love for hard work. You say that he’s a miracle worker. But I think more than being a miracle worker, the miracles were a result of putting in the hours, everyday, of going through the details of making plans with the people involved. That’s what he

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did everyday. Miracles don’t happen overnight. The changes that he brought about here in the university, these weren’t done overnight. He did it every single day and sometimes he lost a lot of sleep trying to think about it. He was never one to back down from hard work. We all know that he was not just involved with the university. He had other companies that he was attending to and he put the same effort in every endeavor that he was in. He made sure of that. The third value that I guess he would like to be remembered for was his integrity. My Dad always said what he meant and he meant what he said. Each one of you here—I’m sure, in your own little way—has an experience or anecdote on my Dad and I’m sure that you can say that he was a man of his word in the truest sense. He was always ready to back up what he said with actions. He was a very practical man. It showed in the results of his work. Lastly, the fourth value that my Dad would probably want to be known for was his compassion. I remember whenever I would visit him here at PWU he would introduce me not only to the administrative staff, not only to the deans but also to the bus boys in the cafeteria and I was very touched at how friendly and how much gratitude they felt for him. I guess that was my Dad. And I’m sure he would not want you to name any hall or place after him or have another painting unveiled for him. That was how he was. My Dad will be happy if everybody here in the university would just try to live by those four values that he cherished. This is a faith community. It doesn’t have to be a faith community. I think better, it should be a faith family. I’m sure my Dad believed in the solidarity, in the oneness of the university and that’s what he wanted everybody to believe in as well: hard work—again, miracles don’t happen overnight, that’s something my Dad always told me; integrity—always mean what you say, always say what you mean; compassion—treat everyone the way you would want them to treat you and fight for people who are being taken advantage of because that’s what he always did. I’m sure he is hanging around there in heaven. Maybe as you approach your celebration in 2020, he will be happy seeing the changes, seeing the sacrifices being made by the university to continue his legacy. So thank you very much and my family is deeply appreciative of what you’ve done for him.

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The Interment Mass was held at the Sanctuario de San Antonio in Dasmariñas Village on 17 July, 2008. VP Noel Benitez was laid to rest at the adjacent columbarium.

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Homily

by Rev. Fr. Tito Calauag Tonight, as we celebrate the final Novena Mass for our brother Noel, I’d like to invite you to reflect on the Gospel that I chose for this evening and specially for those who are very, very close to Noel especially Suzie, Marco, Marielle and Tonton and the rest of the family and friends. I think the Resurrection appearance in the Gospel that I chose teaches us three things in the experience of the death of a very, very close person to us. The three words of Christ to the women on that first Easter morning. The Lord tells the women, “Do not be afraid, go to Galilee, there you will see me.” I guess for people and especially in this situation for Suzie, for Marco, Marielle and Tonton, I think no matter what we say, there is a certain fear moving on with life. In the sense that a certain and major part of our lives is now gone. There is that fear. What will happen? How will life be after this? And yet it is not merely a small detail that the first words of the risen Lord to us is, “Do not be afraid.” The message of the risen Lord is that, with the resurrection of Christ began the mission of the Church. Suzie, Marco, Marielle and Tonton, your Dad was given to you so that he may also form you in your own mission in this world. And now he speaks to you and tells you, “Do not be afraid. I may not be with you but I have given you everything that you will need to carry on your own missions in life.” Second point is, and I invite everybody to reflect on this, the Lord tells his disciples, “Go back to Galilee.” And as I would always say we have to remember that Galilee was the place where it all started. Galilee was where they spent time together. Galilee was where most of them first met. That’s where they ate, they drank, they worked. They had good times, they had bad times. They had misunderstandings. In a sense, it was like home. It was where the heart was shaped and where the heart and spirit were nurtured.

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Precisely, during that moment of grief, the risen Lord tells the people closest to Him, “Go back to Galilee and there you will see Me.” And I’m sure Suzie, Marco, Marielle and Tonton, the past 9 days, you’ve made your own returning to Galilees bringing back the most important memories of your Dad. Bringing back the moments when his special grace and love for you were strongest. These are the Galilees of your life with your father. These are the Galilees of your life with Noel, Suzie. The risen Lord tells his friends, “Go back to Galilee and there you will see Me.” And I pray that you will see life now with the eyes of faith that Noel had prepared you to see life anew. Yes, to see life without him and to see life with the grace and spirit that he had always shared with you in his lifetime. They say that when we die we always leave behind a particular grace with which we lived our life. There is one book entitled The Holy Longing which says that all of us come into this world to continue God’s love and compassion in a very particular way. It is precisely that way of living out God’s love and compassion which is the grace and spirit of our lives that we use to make this world a better place and to touch the lives of the people closest to us. I think in the memories of the past nine days, you’ve encountered the Galilees of your life with your father and now he tells you always go back to these moments when grace is present. His love for you is unconditional. And now you will see life without him but always with his love. Go back to Galilee and there you will see him. Noel has passed on from this life to God but he will always be present, we will always see him in the Galilees of your life with him.

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Response

by Mrs. Suzie Moya Benitez First, I would like to thank Fr. Tito Caluag. Every Mass that he has said for Noel has been very meaningful and personal. We’re very grateful. We would like to thank the family, friends, associates, those who Noel had touched. Your presence here has assured us that you’ve been touched by his kindness and that you loved him, too. When we were growing up, our parents used to admonish us when we would come home from parties and we had a long list of crushes. And they would always say that we should never be attracted to men with good looks nor be lured by popularity or wealth but must find interest in men who would have strength of character, who valued hard work, who would love God because for sure he would love his family. Well, for 33 years God gifted me with someone who had almost all of the above. Noel was very kind. He was our pillar of strength. He was not afraid to fight for what he thought was right. And I’m sure those who had worked with him know that. Everytime I would complain, or whine, or be stressed, he would always say, don’t strive to be popular, just do what you think is right. He said he doesn’t really know what is the sure ball for success but definitely he knows that the key to failure is trying to please everyone.

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The bomb like, the flight of bomb that blasted our almost idyllic lives … the first hour of July 15 left behind a gaping hole that I think is very hard to remedy or fill but with your presence, your love, we hope and pray that we will be able to cover it with a veil of remembrance of a man so loving, actually he loved so much. He taught us how to love and care. He loved so much. He loved his family very much . . . too much. Noel and I met in the Bayanihan. He was the young guy who always offered to be my chaperon. We went steady for seven years. He was my first boyfriend. I thought that it would be very fitting tonight to ask the Bayanihan to pay a short tribute by way of a dance and symbolic act of letting go. Noel loved the Bayanihan, admired the zeal and dedication of the people behind it – Bong, Lito, Tita Bils. In fact, they prepared a song which was one of Noel’s favorite melodies.

Kahit konting liwanag ng pag-ibig Ang igawad sa pusong may ligalig Ang pag-asa’y aking nakikita At ang ligaya’y nadarama. Kahit konting liwanag ng pag-ibig Ang sa akin ay ipahiwatig O giliw ko, kay ganda ng langit At ang awit kung dinggin ay kay tamis. Chorus. Kahit konting pagtingin Kung manggagaling sa ‘yo. Ay labis ko nang ligaya Dahil sa ikaw ay mahal ko.

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Years

OFFICE OF THE PRESIDENT President’s Memorandum Order (PMO) No. 033 SY 2008-2009 TO

:

THE PWU COMMUNITY

THRU :

Treasuring the PWU Legacy & Sustaining Spirituality & Quality in Building a Global Institution



THE CHANCELLOR, VICE-PRESIDENTS, ASSISTANT VICE PRESIDENTS, DEANS, PRINCIPALS AND HEADS OF THE ACADEMIC AND NON- ACADEMIC UNITS

:

THE UNIVERSITY PRESIDENT

DATE

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JULY 21, 2008

SUBJECT

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MEMENTO IN MEMORIAM VP NOEL B BENITEZ

FROM

On behalf of the Board of Trustees, the Management Committee and the Benitez family, may I express my deep gratitude for the preparations for the masses and necrological services in memory of the passing of my brother and our VP for Institutional Operations, Campus Development and Resource Generation. For all who have expressed their condolences and kind words of sympathy, I thank you. We noted that most of you would like to personally share his or her feelings about this sad event. For all those who wish to express their condolences and anecdotes to further express their affection and to give tribute to a much beloved co-worker and friend, may I request all who wish to do so to please send them in soft and hard copy to the Office of the Chancellor on or before Friday, July 25th. The publication is to be released in time for the 40th day observance of his passing on August 22, 2008. With this small project, we hope the University can profoundly express its collective grief, and help the Benitez family, most especially the family of AVP Suzie Benitez, Marielle, Marco and Tonton to cope with their profound loss. Let us continue to pray for the eternal repose of his soul.

DR. AMELOU BENITEZ REYES

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... What anecdote of Noel Benitez have you to share? Add all of our anecdotes together, still I do not think we would come close. ­—Marco Benitez, excerpted from his response during the Interment Mass

Response during the Interment Mass by Marco Benitez

On behalf of our family, my mom, Marielle, Marton, I would like to thank everyone who has expressed their support and shared our grief with the passing of our dad, Jose Noel Baltazar Benitez. I would like to thank his siblings, Tita Amelou, Tito Jolly, Tita Maritza, as well as Tita Marilou Mirasol, who have facilitated all the funeral services, so that we no longer had to worry about any arrangements; and who had constantly looked after my mom during this difficult time. I would like to thank all my cousins and nephews and nieces, who have been here with us the past three days, especially our kuyas, Freddie, Alex, Albee, and Ate Marlyn, who now serve as our guides and dispensers of advice. In particular, I would like to thank our cousin, Dr. Bruce Canto, who never gave up on trying to save my dad, from the house to the emergency room. Bruce, there is nothing to be sorry for. Without you, we would not have known what to do when he had his attack. I would like to thank the people of Benitez Investments, particularly Grace and Joy, Chiron Development, Winnie and Rochelle, Sunrise Security, Sunbless Manpower, and our household staff, who have tirelessly and faithfully made arrangements and taken care of daddy’s remains. I would like to thank Fr. Caluag, Fr. Joel, Fr. Nico, Fr. Tem, Fr. Tony, the priests who have celebrated Mass, blessed my dad’s remains, and prayed for our family these past few days. I would also like to thank the people of SM, Banco De Oro, Manila Southcoast, Asian Appraisal, Philippine Women’s University, Unlad Resources, and all the companies my dad was connected with. Your presence and support show us that his work was of great value to your company. I can tell you he made sure that he performed his obligations to the best of his abilities. There are so many others I would like to thank. For those whose names I have not been able to mention, I’m sure you know who you are. Our family would like to express our deepest gratitude to all of you. You have made these last three days more bearable. We are humbled by your concern for my dad and our family, it makes us extremely proud to have had a father like him.

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My dad, Jose Noel Baltazar Benitez, was born on December 25, 1947, the youngest of four children of Alfredo and Lourdes Benitez. From the stories that I would hear while growing up, he was always the one who got into the most trouble; played in the streets, and received the most spanking from Lola Lulu. In other words, he was an underdog in the true sense of the word. I believe that at the back of his mind, he felt that he always had something to prove, and maybe unconsciously, that he had to be a father image to everyone since he had never had a father image for himself growing up. Growing up and studying in La Salle, I understand he was the typical “chickboy”, not really known for his intellectual prowess, but probably more for his mischief and “pagbubulakbol.” However, from early on, my dad was already known for being a people person; one who would never turn his back on someone in need. Most of all, he was a loyal friend to those who knew him. It was in the Bayanihan Philippine Dance Company, that Noel B. Benitez, chickboy, rebel, and perennial troublemaker, met his match. It was there that he met my mom, Suzie Moya, who “turned his world upside down”, or so they say. And after 7 years of dating, the rest was history. There are so many things to say about my dad, so much so that we would spend the entire evening here, and not even scratch the surface of who he really was. But I am sure that every single person right here, and so many others, have had their own experience of how he helped them in one way or another, in something trivial, or something very important. That was my dad, he could never say no to helping someone in need, and very rarely I think did he let anyone down. My dad was never one to boast about his accomplishments or the people he had helped, but seeing all of you here the past few days to pay him respect, wish our family condolences, and share an anecdote about him, already speaks volumes.

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In the end, if I were to make a feeble attempt to encapsulate his life, I would say that my dad would have liked to be remembered for Four Things, or I would prefer, Four Values: FAMILY. HARD WORK. INTEGRITY. And COMPASSION. His FAMILY was the center of his universe. He loved my mom more than anything in this world, and he loved us, his children equally. He made it a point to provide for us without spoiling us; attend as many games as each one of us had, nourish our interests, push us to achieve our potential, but always to keep our feet planted firmly on the ground. He believed that the center of the Family should always be God, and I know that he was a very prayerful man. Every Sunday, he would always make it a point to spend the day with us. If that wasn’t possible, even just lunch or dinner. We always had to have something together. With his brother and sisters, and even with their extended family, he always strived to accommodate them. In the administration of their mother’s legacy, he made it a point that each one got his equal share. With the University, UNLAD, and whichever family interest, he could never turn his back. Their grandparents’ and parents’ legacies needed someone to look after them. No matter the difficulty, no matter the odds, no matter the heartache. My dad was a firm believer that with HARD WORK, anything was possible. He was a workaholic to the core. With no regard for personal health and well-being. In his bathroom, he had a Post It note attached to the side of his cabinet. It said, “Let not the comfort of our home and your room make you laggards, but let it show you what you can achieve with hard work, integrity and prayers…” My dad, I am proud to say, was a self-made man. He paid his way through graduate school by taking photos and portraits and selling them to his friends. He ventured into various businesses and endeavors, survived politics when it was suicide to be a politician, and made wise investments with the future in mind. I’m sure that his biggest motivation for all of this was that value he held most dearly, FAMILY. In fact, he was such a workaholic that he would be restless during his free time. His favorite Sunday reading was the Classified Ads section of Manila Bulletin. He would highlight listing upon listing, from real estate, to vehicles,

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and even business opportunities. It was his form of relaxation. I don’t know if he ever bought anything from there though. Even up until his last day, he was still working, having just come from a PWU MANCOM that day. I guess there was no other way he would have had it. My dad believed in the value of INTEGRITY, something our society needs more of these days. He treated everyone fairly, and he never gave his word unless he was prepared to back it up with his actions. Whether it was the EP farmer beneficiaries he dealt with, or the University staff, or his colleagues and principals, he always strived to fulfill his commitments, contribute his share of the bargain, and make sure that all concerned received what was due them. From him I learned that no matter your stature, your wealth, or your position in life, integrity was something that could not be bought; and in the end, it is usually the most important thing that people consider. His FAMILY, for him, should be a model of INTEGRITY, and that is why he lived it to the full. Finally, I believe the reason why most of us will miss him is because of his COMPASSION. Hardly was there a situation where he did not care. From his friends’ legal cases, family members’ health concerns, and even the financial plight of people he hardly knew, he did not have it in his heart to say NO. It must have been because he too had known what it felt like to have to fend for yourself, have the odds stacked against you, and have had to swallow your pride to ask for help. Always treat people the way you would like to be treated, and don’t abandon those who ask for your help because, according to him, in life, sometimes you’re up, sometimes you’re down. You can never tell when it will be your turn. I started writing this last night wanting it to be the best thing that I had ever written. I wanted to show everyone how great a father and a husband he was, and how much he means to our family. Sadly, I know that I have barely given you a shadow of who Noel B. Benitez really is. There are no words that can capture his true worth. I will just have to rely on the experiences of each of you who have known my dad at one point or another in his life. Look at the person beside you, ask him what anecdote of Noel Benitez he has to share, add all of our anecdotes together, still I do not think we would come close. Dad, journey’s over. Time to pass your paper.You don’t have to prove anything to anyone anymore. Actually, you never did. We will strive to live our lives as a reflection of yours, as a testament to YOUR legacy. We promise to take care of mom and of each other.You’re my hero, Dad. I love you and will miss you always.

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My Dad… My Coach… My Hero… by Marielle M. Benitez As far as I can remember, Sunday was always a family day. Growing up, we would spend the day together. We would go to Mass, eat lunch or dinner out and attend games for our various sports. Be it in Basketball, Football, Baseball or Tae Kwon Do, Dad and Mom always made sure that they were around to cheer for us. Dad supported all our teams, from school varsity to club level, even the Philippine National Team. He was always the “unofficial” manager of the team. I remember, back in college, Dad would always provide my team with cold towels, frozen oranges and Gatorade. He was sponsoring and hosting dinners to celebrate our wins or even to comfort us when we lost. He and Mom, or either one, would follow us to where our competitions would take us—ULTRA, Cebu, Bacolod, Thailand, Vietnam or even Europe—nothing was ever far for them. Dad always believed in the importance of sports. His grandfather was an Olympian. He, himself, was an outstanding NCAA swimmer, a potential Olympian had he not chosen Bayanihan over swimming. Dad emphasized the importance of sport as character-building and value formation. Fair play, Discipline, Hard Work, Team Work, Commitment and Passion. Values, I am sure, he learned from the rigorous training he did as an athlete that he applied in his life. He believed in the spirit of competition. He never backed down on challenges; in fact, it motivated him. He would tell me never to get intimidated… to fight back when I was pushed around. I remember one time, I was purposely fouled in a football game and literally flew and rolled on the ground… I was in pain and could not get up right away… I looked to the sidelines where Mom and Dad stood. Mom had her hands clasped together and was worried for me because she saw that I was hurt. Dad, however, had his fingers on his mouth blowing his trademark whistle. As soon as he saw me looking at him, he shouted, “Get Up and Get Even!!!”.

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He always believed in me. He made me feel that I was strong and that I could fight my own battles. He gave me the confidence to believe in myself. And I knew he was proud to see that I could defend and protect myself, even when he joked that I would tackle anyone who was in my way. So every time I was on the field, either scoring goals, lying in pain on the ground or having an offday, he would just blow his signature whistle and I would instantly know that he was watching me and I would be all fired up and playing my best. He was my coach… my motivator… my hero… Dad believed in celebrating every success, small or great, his children achieved. He was very, very proud of each one. He would always say that “Winning was the result of the hard work put in during training and preparation.” So for every medal, trophy, photo or feature any of us received, he would have them framed and displayed as a proof of our hard work and success. He took pride in making his home a “little museum” of all our achievements and proudly gave a tour to show off to all our houseguests. He would proudly tell us that they were investments he made to showcase our achievements and we will eventually be able to share these with our children in the future. Dad, you have truly lived a life worth emulating… you have lived and loved to the fullest, unknowingly changing the lives of people. You did everything wholeheartedly without expecting anything in return… our success is yours and mom’s success… I am who I am today because of you and Mom. I thank you for all the lessons and values you have taught us… for all the opportunities and experiences… I thank you for all the stories and memories we made… I thank you for your inspiration and support… for all the love and guidance… I thank you for our family and for the life you have given me… I will miss seeing you in my games and hearing your whistle when I am on the ground in pain… I will miss telling you how many people I was able to tackle and showing you my wounds and bruises… I will miss you in all my performances… I will miss hearing your insights in everything that I do… I will miss seeing you at work or telling you how my day was… I will miss showing off to you my new toy or answering your questions about a boy… I will miss sleeping beside you in your bed and tickling you when you are asleep… I will miss you blowing on my ear or just holding your hand when we walk… I will miss you so, so, so much everyday of my life… you are forever in my heart… I love you… :D

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My Father Taught Me About Life by Marton Benitez As of the moment I lack the capacity to be able to convey my thoughts and memories of my father into words that may at the slightest be able to give justice to his life. I am flooded with snippets of memories and experiences that I want to share yet it frightens me that they may only dilute your own memories of him, as there is no comparison to having experienced it first hand. I also believe that all that was needed to be conveyed by the family has already been wonderfully written and eloquently shared by my mother, who keeps strong all through out this ordeal, my brother who has taken charge and my sister who lovingly cares at my father’s absence. I just want to say that my Father taught me about life not through words but by the way he lived his. I’m sorry he never had a father as great as mine.

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Tita Helen on VP Noel by Dr Helena Z Benitez Chairperson, PWU Board of Trustees Noel was the silent water that ran deep. In late afternoon of that fateful Monday, July 14th, we had a long talk – which turned out to be our last - during which I realized how deeply committed he was to the educational legacy of Mama and Papa that is PWU. He updated me on what he was doing to align Unlad Resources Corporation, the family corporation that is managing assets and resources of the Benitez family that are not directly employed in the educational endeavor, with PWU’s destiny. Previously he had told me that he envisioned Unlad to be a resource bulwark that would be used to support and sustain the University. That Monday he said he was getting close to accomplishing that vision as Unlad President in addition to being PWU VP for Institutional Operations.

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I knew this was what Mama and Papa had intended. I did not realize that Noel had taken that to heart and in his quiet and unassuming ways was working hard to make come true. Suddenly I realized why he was so dedicated in making the many projects he was doing to improve the University—new seminar halls, expanded computer laboratories, etc.—all of which were instrumental in the University’s becoming autonomous. Maybe by taking Noel away that suddenly, the Lord is telling us that we need to be involved more resolutely in the vision of Mama and Daddy B; that we have that legacy to work on; that Noel had begun well and it is now our turn to determinedly pursue and measure up to that legacy.

jose fil benitez “Death is an endless night so awful to contemplate that it can make us love life and value it with such passion that it may be the ultimate cause of all joy and all art” —Paul Theroux We, my family and I, miss Noel. A gentle kindred spirit, Noel was always there for us. When I needed to make a business decision, I would call Noel and he would invite me for coffee. Sometimes, without asking, he would come across like when Arnie ran for public office. Yes, I will miss Noel.

From Tatti B. Licuanan I hardly knew Noel. He was younger than his siblings who were more my contemporaries. But he was always there---gracious, pleasant, charming and cute. I last saw him a couple of weeks before he passed away, at Tita Helen’s birthday. He showed us around the newly renovated administrative offices at PWU, obviously pleased with the work he had supervised. I remember thinking to myself how lucky PWU was to have him actively involved in the institution. I hardly knew Noel. But I will remember him well and miss him.

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From Jet, Justin, Eric, Trevor, Tana and Mara Benitez Dear Suzie, Marco, Marielle & Marton, We were very saddened to hear the news of Noel’s passing. We will always remember him for his wise counsel, having worked with him on the Board at the Rural Bank, his quick wit and wonderful sense of humor. He is in a better place now.

Thoughts of our Dear Noel – by Bay Ledesma He was no doubt a man of virtue, values, principles, priorities and achievement in his quiet, simple and humble way, without fanfare or publicity. Very warm and loving, his family was his priority, next to God, of course. With great determination and disposition and his very softspoken way, he probably unconsciously desired to be the father he hardly knew. Yet he reminded us so much of his father in faith and trust in God, in values and principles, in generosity, even in mannerisms and sense of humor. Very firm but in a gentle way; Very sure of himself but in a humble way; Very generous in a sincere way; Very kindperson, sharing his time and treasures, his services and resources; Very hardworking and fair – business minded but not money conscious; Relationship for him was more important than making money; He was a good man—aside from being a good husband, father, brother-in-law, he was also a good cousin, good friend. He was like a brother to us in his warm, loving, caring ways. He made you feel like you had his full attention, always around for you. Always competent, he was a “jack of all trades”, successful, good in everything. But most of all to me he was a gift to be with and blessing. We who love him know he will always be around and more so, no barrier of time or space.

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Tribute to Noel B. Benitez by Freddie B. Reyes One of my earliest memories of tito Noel was in their home in Pina St, Sta. Mesa. Whenever we would visit lola Lulu, tito Noel was there with his trusted German Sheppard, appropriately called Hitler. We would join him throwing a stick or a ball that Hitler would run after and pick up in their garden. We also grew up together in the Dasmarinas compound. I saw Marco, Marielle and Marton grow up from the time they were babies to the adults they are now. As tito Noel was a godfather at birth, we also invited him to become a ninong at our wedding. I also have features very similar to tito Noel. Years ago, when he was campaigning for the vice-mayorship of Tagaytay, people would wave to me when we went up there and I knowingly waved back, otherwise they might think that the vice-mayor was snubbing them. We even have a few relatives, who in their embarrassment use to mistake me for him. I didn’t know whether to take it as compliment or not, but tito Noel was amused that people thought he looked younger than his age. Later on, he would jokingly introduce me as his youngest brother, but I would retort and say that I was his son. Tito Noel was very practical in all his dealings and most importantly, very fair. He would go out of his way to help you out. But more importantly, when it came to business, the same rule applied to everyone, as it should be, whether a business partner, an employee or a family member. It should not come as a surprise that people relied on him for a lot of things, especially in the numerous businesses ventures that he had. One very important thing tito Noel was committed to was PWU. In spite of his busy schedule with the SM Group and all their projects, he gave as much time as he could to PWU. His involvement went beyond the job and touched the personal lives of the people who worked for him. His experience and practical way of handling situations is such an asset in dealing with difficult situations. We will all miss him.

From Tina Benitez Dear Noel, Thanks for the quiet, thoughtful support. In the void and sadnesses you have left behind we will find the strength and spirit to continue the legacy at the PWU that you so firmly upheld.

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From Mr. Henry Sy, Chairman, SM Group of Companies Dear Suzie, I was deeply saddened to learn of the sudden death of Noel. He was greatly admired by his peers and colleagues not only for his brilliant mind, but for his charming personality as well. Noel played an essential part in the growth of the SM Group of Companies and will surely be missed. During this difficult time, I know that your great strength, family and friends will help you at this time of loss. My family and I extend our deepest sympathies and prayers to you and your family.

From P/Supt. Frumencio Bernal III MPD Station Commander PS-6 I met Mr. Noel Benitez in Quiapo regarding some problem besetting the family business there; during that time I was the Police Community Precinct Commander in the area and that started our mutual correspondence until his untimely death. In my police work, Mr. Noel Benitez was one of my benefactors. To cite an example, when I was the Chief of MPD Police Community Relations Office, he facilitated the release of medicines worth Php 15,000.00 from SM Foundation which we distributed during the medical and dental mission held at Parola, Tondo, Manila last April 2006 that benefited more or less 500 indigent families. He was also one of the godfather, of my nephew Gabriel last September. The day prior to his death, he called me inquiring about the status of Mark Joel Bernal, whom I am forever grateful to him for giving the boy the chance to be accepted in that prestigious school (PWU) as working student. And to summarize, with almost eight years we have known each other, I came to realize what kind of a person Mr. Noel Benitez was. He was simple, hardworking and a good provider.

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Noel As I Knew Him by Colonel Roger Luis Noel was a man driven by a strong desire to succeed in whatever endeavor he sets his mind to. The Herculean task of upholding a tradition of excellence became almost an obsession with him coming from a clan of achievers; I can only admire but at the same time sympathize with his effort. I met and got to know Noel only in the late eighties but did know and have been friends with his siblings Amelou and Joly way back in the seventies. While I was a friend to him much later, I probably go to know him more intimately and went on to become his business partner for almost fifteen years up to the time of his untimely demise. We have an and/or joint account and that says more beyond words the respect, trust and confidence we have for and in each other. I will miss Noel, a true friend, a kind–hearted soul, a business partner, a trusted associate and my younger brother – farewell.

From Msgr. Hernando Coronel Rector, San Carlos Seminary/ PWU Spriritual Adviser Sir Noel is the perfect gentleman. Gentleness has two senses. The first is a certain facility to get along with everybody, being affable, courteous, and respectful. Sir Noel is most sensitive to the feelings of others and therefore, deep in his heart is a concern for people and their welfare. The second sense is a strong manliness, meaning a cavalier demeanor rooted in a kind of chivalry. Hence, Sir Noel is firm and of strong mind, will and character. A true combination of strength, of will and a compassionate heart resided in Sir Noel. We will miss him. I feel sorry for Mom Suzie. As Sir Noel is the perfect gentleman, so Mom Suzie is the perfect lady. They complement one another and make the perfect couple. Sir Noel passed away still with a lot of promise and a bright future ahead of him. We will remember him in our hearts and prayers. PWU will never be the same again after his demise. We commend him to the loving embrace of God.

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From Dr. Karen Webb, Dean, Graduate School of Education and VP Terrence Barber, Vice President and Chief International Officer, Alliant University Dear Dr. Reyes, On behalf of Alliant International University, we extend our condolences to you and your family. May God bless you and grant you the gift of peace. Your loved one has left behind a thousand moments that will live in your heart forever…. Please know, at this difficult time, that you are in so many thoughts and prayers.

From Annie Martin Dear Suzie, I am so sorry to hear from friends Susan Abaya, Lu Salvador (she and I and Amelou were in school together) and Epi Miranda of Noel’s early demise. I still remember the few times that those close to you would comment on how good you looked together and how so in love you’ve been with each other. Please accept my deepest sympathies and kindly convey the same to my dear friend Amelou.

From Puri Capistrano Laconico Everyone who knew him are in total shock. It was like a thief in the night. It’s hard to fathom this one. He was beside me for a long time at my mother’s wake and again at the Social Hall at the reception by Tita Helen also for my mother. We were engaged in a long conversation like there was no tomorrow and indeed that was the last. He was full of plans and big dreams that I wont forget. I’m sure he will find it in paradise above and watch over all of you. Our prayers are with you and your family.

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A Nice Evening with Noel by Alain Giraud Dear Suzie, When Lito told me about what happened, I felt so empty... I met Noel only twice during the 50th anniversary Bayanihan’s festivities. I didn’t know him very well and I was very eager to meet him again. Why ? Maybe just because of that dinner time we all spent together and the common views we shared on various topics. I feel very and deeply sorry for Marielle & her two brothers, but I know they have a strong MOM that will stay on track and courageously continue what ever their father stood for. Please do accept on behalf of the Giraud family our condolences.

From Maritess Alava Yong I have had so many fond memories of Noel. He is my very dear friend, Suzie’s loving and devoted husband. We have known each other for more than 35 years. He has been a guiding influence in my life in my earlier years when as a young, carefree and you may even say frivolous girl like me growing up in the 70s, needed guidance. I would address him as “Tito Noel” even if there was very little difference in age. He was the only one who would dare to correct, reprimand me and even put me in my place if need be. All this done in a caring way that made me feel I mattered. Karilagan was our life then, which Suzie and I was a part of. Our favorite hangout before and after the shows was the Benitez home. It was the most convenient place to unwind. We did Luigi classes, of all places in Noel’s bedroom ( much like pilates class today). Noel practiced his photograpy using us as his models, again done in his bedroom. Eating potato chips while indulging in idle gossip was done in the most comfortable of places, Noel’s bed with crumbs that he had to clean after.That place was like our second home and Noel and Suzie would be the ever gracious hosts even if we would over extend our welcome.

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When I excitedly broke the news to Noel and Suzie that I was getting married after a whirlwind romance, I was surprised that rather than being happy for me, Noel became somber and his reaction was that of concern. Noel knowing my “c’est la vie” mentality, sat me down to help me think more deeply about what I was getting myself into. He wanted to make sure I was doing the right thing and I don’t end up getting hurt in the process, something that my own father did not talk to me about because my father knows too well that I would do as I please anyway....Well, I am happy to say that Noel was there when my husband Micky and I celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary last year. When I saw him I said “Tito Noel, see, I am on my 30th year and counting”. I got the warmest hug that evening from a true and dear friend. I will miss Noel and I know that anyone who had the honor being his friend will feel the same.

Treasuring the Times with Noel by Jennifer Pena Much has been said about loving husbands and fathers and true friends. Noel, of course, is all of the aforementioned but certainly almost one-of-a-kind as far as I am concerned. Just how many guys out there will show genuine affection and maximum tolerance to his wife’s posse of friends of which I happen to be one? He made us feel always welcome at all hours at their house which actually has been our “official clubhouse” for over three decades. He made sure that a wide selection of snacks was served as the group reminisced over the “good old days” over and over again. He was a quiet reassuring presence, never failing to laugh with us over the same jokes and anecdotes of our carefree, glamorous past. And when the situation called for it, he was there to advise and to help sort out problems and broken hearts. When I think of him, I always remember happy times. Every night in the 70s he would patiently wait for Suzie at the Top of the Hilton as the maitre d’hotel would insist that he should wear a coat and tie to enter the place. That was the young and dashing Noel with his long sideburns a la Tom Jones. Through the years the sideburns would become shorter until most of his hair would vanish but that did not in any way diminish his charm. Face to face with him, you are struck by the sincerity of his smile, his kindness and humble ways.

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Rewind the movie of the times of our life and I will always see a young man happily walking with us, Suzie’s friends, to the site of the house that he was building for his family and meticulously poring over construction details. I will always smile at the memory of his being roused from sleep just so we can have our after midnight snack of corned beef. It was a pleasure to shop for his camera accessories in Hong Kong and to pose for his camera. I will always treasure the gift of his friendship. Knowing him has made me a better person. Till we all meet again in that “clubhouse in the sky”, Noel, make sure that there will be a lot to munch on because we’ll have all of eternity to talk about any topic in the universe and yes, laugh over the same jokes too!

My Thoughts and Prayers are with You by Ana Arambulo Suzie, I just found out about Noel from Frannie. I am so sorry to hear the news. Noel was a good and kind person. You are very fortunate to have shared so much with him, He is now with God and will forever watch over you and your children. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Noel Benitez by Cesar (Pitchy) G. Torres, Jr. (w/contributions from other batchmates in the DLSU NROTC MOCS 66) Noel and I were not really “barkada” during High School at De La Salle College (H.S. batch 1966). He was from another section. But, we knew each other enough to recognize each other as batchmates if ever we would meet outside the school. And, how could I not know Noel? I knew that he was part of the well-known Benitez clan (politicians and owners of the PWU), yet, he was a good natured soft spoken and unassuming person. He was also a member of our NCAA (Jrs) Swimming Team during our High School years and this was prestige enough for High School students, who were more interested in “lakad” and our forthcoming weekend “tipar” rather than sports. And yet, in spite of all these, Noel was very down to earth. I was surprised when Noel joined the DLSC NROTC Cadet Officers Candidate School or COCS in the summer of 1966, just as I did. I just did not think that this rich but good natured person would go for the rough and

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austere life of the Officers training. But, I was more surprised when he did so well during training that he was assigned as a platoon leader of the elite model company when we finished the summer training. As a member of the NROTC Corps of Officers, his good natured yet firm characteristic still showed. The only way for a leader to be able to train his cadets very rigidly and almost daily after school, especially when preparing for competition, is to have that strong leadership quality that will motivate them even when they are tired and lift their spirits in the desire to win. Noel, the soft spoken person, had these qualities and he led them to accomplish their goal. Noel was also a very good leader. It is unfortunate that Noel did not proceed with his Advance NROTC and get his commission. I guess he had other plans for himself. Unfortunately, that also meant that the Philippine Navy would lose another good leader to civilian life. As the organizer of the DLSU NROTC Officers Annual Reunion and as his classmate, I would send text messages to Noel, by August or September, to remind him of and invite him to the reunion, which is usually being held during the 3rd Saturday of October. And he would text back saying that he was busy doing something. In short, he has not attended any of our Officers’ Reunion for the last 5 years. About 6-12 months ago, I had the chance to talk to Noel, on the phone, and encourage him to be more active in joining our reunions, the NROTC Officers and especially our High School, since most of us were now Senior Citizens and some are starting to be called by our Creator. Noel told me that he had to be present for his daughter’s football game. But he also added, “Oo nga, dapat sumama na ako sa mga reunions natin. Marami nang nawawala sa atin”. Little did I know that this would be the last of my rare conversations with Noel. Dapat pala, dinalasan ko ang tawag kay Noel. Noel, my High School batchmate and fellow NROTC Officer, wherever you are, I salute you. May you be happy with our God, forever!

Memories of Noel B. Benitez by Imelda Trillo I first met Noel when he was still courting Suzie - and the friendship grew and flourished through the years as we ( Suzie and our group) all got married and started our own families.

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Throughout these years, which spans several decades, Noel and Suzie were (as a couple) the fulcrum of the group, with Papa Noel “adopting “ us girls (including our spouses and children) as part of his extended family. Their first home (previously Noel’s bachelor pad and office when he was single) in Dasma which was part of Tita Lulu’s house, was baptized the “headquarters” of the group and this designation carried on to their second home,which was officially and unanimously declared as the permanent venue of our annual Christmas group reunion. Noel became the confidante, “surrogate” father, brother, protector ,adviser of the “gang”, which included myself, Maritess, Tech, Erlyn, and Jenny. We all have fond memories of Noel patiently listening to someone’s woes ( whoever was the one undergoing a crisis at the moment) and quietly dishing out “ his 2 cents worth”— which to all of us now, in hindsight, was proven correct and the right thing to do , had we followed his advice. He wasn’t really much older than any of our spouses, but somehow, it seemed he had the “wisdom” of an old man when he gave his much sought after opinion to us - Suzie’s friends. Although quiet most of the time, he was more of the “listener” in the group - even when it came to the “joke and storytelling time” part of the reunion, the other spouses contributed their share but Noel was most of the time the polite and appreciative”audience” - laughing at the jokes and sympathizing /empathizing with the topic of the speaker. But on the few occasions when he did speak , his message was always well accepted as it was straightforward , practical and simple. I could write so many chapters made up of anecdotes and happy incidents about Noel but to encapsule his worth in a few sentences is an impossible task. At best, I will attempt this: “Noel was many things to many people that were part of his life - but one thing stands out - he was first a FAMILY MAN , even while he gave of himself selflessly to others. He was deeply spiritual, even while appearing to be a “regular guy”. His reputation remained untarnished till the end and his values solid and intact in whatever dealings his limited lifespan brought him. He led a life that exemplified meaning and true worth The legacy that he left behind to Suzie, Marco, Marielle, and Tonton can only be measured in the endless stories of people he helped and whose lives he touched. It is ironic that it was Noel who came to me 32 years ago, with tears in his eyes when he thought Suzie had bone cancer - saying he didn’t think he could cope with the idea of losing Suzie. In the end, we didn’t realize he would be the one that would end his journey ahead of all of us. Noel has left us quietly, just like he was as a person - but his impact on all of us was and is actually a “BANG”.

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From Justice Manuel Lazaro Noel was a man of strong conviction, whose loyalty to and concern for his friends were genuine and inimitable. I knew Noel personally and professionally. The family and the Benitez clan are my neighbors. Professionally, Noel and I had business dealings which we tried to initiate. Unfortunately, there were legal impediments that aborted the success. But this notwithstanding, we became closer friends and had plans for other endeavors. His untimely death is not only a great loss to his family but also a terrible loss to his friends and business associates. Had he lived a little longer, he would be one of the captains in the real estate development industry. Still his death is not the end but the beginning of an endless life of happiness and tranquility. Noel has finally received, in Million’s melodic phrase, “the golden key that opens the place of serenity.” As a father and humble businessman, Noel was a reservoir of singular wisdom, embellished with copious practical understanding of the nuances of business. Noel was highly principled – generous with kind and gentle words if you were right and a ferocious critic if you were wrong. He never lacked the conviction for his beliefs, nor the ability to express them in clear and simple language. If his beliefs were challenged, it was only after he had articulated rational and acceptable reasons that he would admit his mistakes if he was wrong. That was Noel. He was hard to convince and yet soft in accepting the contrary beliefs of others. Noel was loving and loveable to his family and friends. He had the ability to understand. He was an ideal and supportive father to his children and a loving husband to his wife. Noel is gone but his presence, work and memories will remain. He will be terribly missed not only by the members of his family and loved ones but also by his friends.

Jose Noel B. Benitez by Popoy Magno Noel Benitez was my student when he took his postgraduate courses towards the degree of Master in Environmental Planning from the UP School of Environmental Planning in the 70’s. He proved to be a very conscientious and intelligent student,which was not surprising since he came from a family of academicians.

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Moreover, it was pretty obvious back then that Noel charmed his classmates not only for his handsome looks but also for his humble and gentle demeanor. During that time, Noel worked with me as my Deputy Director in the Physical Planning Strategy for the Philippines, a joint undertaking of the UP, DPWTC, and UNDP. I was happy to have him on board the project for, besides his able support in the technical and managerial aspects, he provided the charisma that complimented what others viewed as my strict disciplinarian style. Yet, I managed to establish a more personal relationship with Noel 32 years ago when my wife, Tessie, and I immediately picked him to be one of the baptismal godfathers of our firstborn, Santi. None of those who knew him closely would doubt that we had made the right choice for an amiable “ninong”for a muchawaited child who was God’s gift to us after seven years of marriage. Having been blessed with the pleasure of knowing a kind soul and gentlemen of the Benitez clan, my family solemnly and gratefully gives back to the Creator His son, Noel.

From Ernest Rufino Noel was a quite a few years younger, so we didn’t really have too much interaction as we were grew up. All that time, for me, he was always Amelou’s kid brother. Then, we were both elected to the boards of family corporations of close relatives. It was there I realized that Noel had grown up to be an exemplary individual. He was knowledgeable, mature, fair, patient, soft-spoken, imbued with a sensitive conscience, always willing to listen and ready to help. I really appreciated the man he had become and now sincerely regret that I did not spend more time with him.

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From Epi Miranda and Roshan Jamir I just tried to google the PWU and I saw your university’s website. Amelou, first of all, congratulations as President of this prestigious university. I can never forget the kindness that your family has shown me. I don’t think I can ever repay in any material way, but rest assured that you are always in my prayers. I saw a butterfly, small and black last Sunday night. I don’t know how it got into our bedroom. It was on the wall above my pillow. I already had a bad feeling. Two days after I got an email from Susan P. Abaya, a co-worker at JLMRC with Suzie. It was nice of Noel to visit me and say good-bye. I’m sure he’ll be praying for us all. We have an angel in heaven watching over us. Praise the Lord!

God looked around His garden, and found an empty space, He then looked down upon this earth, He saw his tired face. He put His arms around him, and lifted him to rest. God’s garden must be beautiful, He only takes the Best. He knew that he was weary, and He knew he was in pain... He knew that he would never be well on earth again. He saw the road was getting rough, and the hills were hard to climb, So He closed his weary eyes and He whispered, “Peace Be Thine”.

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The Quiet Guy Who Just Does It by Jose P. Cabazor, Assistant Corporate Secretary and Director, Corporate Communication Off and on I have been involved in work where the late VP Noel also was in something like 30 or so years. In 1974, during the working merger of the Task Force on Human Settlements with the Project Planning and Development Office of the Department of Public Works. I was with TFHS, he was with PPDO. In 1978 when we organized a campaign team to support his successful bid for the vice-mayorship of Tagaytay City. In the 80’s when on various occasions then Deputy Minister of Human Settlements Joly Benitez, with whom I was working, asked him to help out in some HS activities. And in the last few years both in his capacity as PWU VP for Institutional Services and in his other occupations (that is right, occupations) as head of various companies and corporations. My dealings with him in his other occupations were primarily about environment and sustainable development. I was trying to get him, and he was very sympathetic, to support migrant farmers in the Mts. Palaypalay Mataas na Gulod National Park by engaging them as suppliers of seedlings of indigenous plants and trees from the Park for his land development projects in Nasugbu adjacent to the Park. He actually went to visit their seedlings nurseries in the Park and talked shop with the farmers in his informal, comfortable way. Looking back at the years now, I realize and have come to appreciate his utter lack of airs and genuine sincerity in his dealings. I do not know if his people at PWU-IS share this impression but I have a feeling they do. With Noel, what you see was what you got.You did not have to worry about endangering your case by wounding his ego. He was completely non-egoistic. So you could work very comfortably with him. He actually shied away from public attention. The best way to work with him was quietly and away from the limelight. For all that, however, and as his people would undoubtedly attest, he got things done. It may be that Nike could have been referring to his work style when they say: “Just do it.” That was how it was with him. He just did it.

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From Fr. Tony E. Lazaro, Chaplain, PWU JASMS Quezon City Noel is indeed someone who has left beautiful memories to each of us. He is someone worth emulating, as he exudes the characteristics of brilliant and dedicated supervisor and administrator. In my work as the Chaplain of PWUJASMS, Quezon City, I experienced him to be comforting, accommodating and sincere. Through he is gone, I could still feel his presence. He really left us with a great legacy. The legacy of professionalism, hard work, and strong dedication to service. THANK YOU FOR BEING YOU, MY DEAREST NOEL.

Remembering Noel and His Cup of Life From Nilo and Erlinda Chincuanco He held his cup of life simply and with humility, loved generously as a husband, father, brother and son, cared deeply without expecting anything in return. Gave and shared unselfishly, spoke gently and kindly, treating everyone as a blessing. And, most of all, he had a grateful heart. Having filled and drunk from this cup of Life, Noel left the rest to God in quiet piety. He was like a “Daddy B” Junior in the way he carried himself in and out of the campus. As a worker, VP Noel was passionate and focused and had his mind and heart in the right place. I remember one of his first undertakings for the PWU was teh improvements of the PWU Chapel, the treasured legacy of the PWU alumni. With Noel’s eye for details and beauty, he had the interior of the Chapel repainted, the narra pews revarnished with the help of alumni and the Chapel Volunteers Group, of which he and Suzie were the chaircouple. He breathed new life into the chapel, the sanctuary of the PWU Community of many answered prayers and where little miracles strengthened one’s faith... He also had a hand in the innovation of the Prayer Room. VP Noel brought nature within the walls.

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With all these simple but appreciated changes, praying in the Chapel has never been so inviting. In our more than 5 years’ working relationship with VP Noel, the PWU Chapel Volunteers Group gives one a glimpse of his “simple piety”. Thank you Noel, for being a blessing to us. VP Noel, whisper PWU’s and our own special intentions to Jesus, Mary and Joseph.

From Engr. Tadeo G. Claravall, AVP for Institutional Operations and Campus Development I have been very fortunate to work under the leadership of VP Noel B. Benitez. Although we seldom met, on occasions we did so, I was able to observe his admirable managerial skills which were reflected in the way he made decisions. He always cared for the welfare of the students, faculty and staff. Constant in his mind was the University’s financial difficulties, thus was quite strict in the evaluation of requests for projects/purchases. Only those badly needed passed his scrutiny and approval. VP Benitez always saw to it that his subordinates were well taken care of. In return, he demanded a corresponding work output from everyone. He was generous in praises for good performance, but reprimanded those who did not meet his expectations. After the successful completion of a project, he would congratulate each and everyone for a job well done, passing the credit to his subordinates and none for himself. He was fair and firm in his dealings with other members of the PWU community. He would not waiver on positions he thought to be the best options for the University. He once told me that despite his many commitments, he chose to still serve the University, for it is the legacy left to family by his grandparents which he is bound to continue; besides, he added, the PWU supported him in his studies. Lastly, VP Benitez was fond of using black and red ink in his marginal notes to us in the office. Black was to give routine instructions, approve requests and to recognize good performance, while red was to demand explanation or immediate action, deny requests or reprimand people. Luckily, most of the marginal notes addressed to me were written in black ink.

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Si Sir Noel Ms. Tess A. Bernales, Institutional Operations Ilan lang ito sa napakaraming memories na iniwan sa amin, lalo na sa akin ni Sir Noel. Isa na rito ang pagdiriwang ng kaarawan ko (my 46th bday) na kasama si Sir for the first time na kung saan siya pa ang nagbigay ng salo-salo para sa akin. Pinagka-abalahan nyang ipaghanda ang isang ordinaryong empleyadong katulad ko. Pakiramdam ko nakaapak ako sa ulap. Salamat po, sir. Nong nagkasakit ako, walang isa man sa mga naging boss ko ang dumalaw o pumunta sa amin kahit nong namatay ang tatay ko. Si SIR NOEL lang ang nag-iisang taong gumawa noon. Panay ang contact niya thru his cellphone sa hindi ko kilala kung sino ang kausap niya. Yon pala ay ang doctor na kapatid ni Ma’am Susie. Ipinakausap niya si Dra. sa akin kase gusto ni Sir Noel na kumuha ako ng second opinion bago ako magpa-opera. Masarap, masakit alalahanin at nakakaiyak na ang taong nagbibigay halaga sa tulad naming maliliit ay wala na. Di kita makakalimutan, SIR. At ang pinakamagandang ala-ala na nakatatak sa puso ko ay nang inihabol niya ako para bigyan ng special award noong Feb. 15, 2008. Ang award na di kayang tumbasan ng kahit anong halaga. Napakalaking karangalan po nito para sa akin lalo na at ito’y nanggaling sa isang kilalang tao—isang BENITEZ ang kumilala at nagbigay importansiya sa mga ginawa o ginagawa ko. Di ko masabi sa kanya ang taos puso kung pasasalamat kaya dinaan ko ito sa text at ito ang sagot niya (in all caps thru text) “ TESS U DESERVE IT, U WORK QUIETLY N EFFECTIVELY N NEGOTIATING 4 D BEST BUY 4 D SKUL. U HAV SUBSTANTIALLY CONTRIBUTED 2 D FINANCIAL SAVINGS F D SKUL” Napakasarap pakinggan. Nakatataba ng puso. Up to now hindi ko ito inaalis o ini erase sa cellphone at mananatili ito hindi lang sa cp ko kundi sa aking puso habang ako’y nabubuhay. Walang puedeng pumalit sa kanya. Nag–iisa siya sa mundo. WALA KANG KATULAD, SIR NOEL.

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From Babes M. De Leon (Noel’s admin chief in Tagaytay City when he was Vice Mayor in 1980) Dear Suzy, Marco, Marielle, and Marton: It’s hard to lose a loved one, and though this is really a sad moment in your lives, I’m sure Noel is there and making sure you are well taken care of, and will guide your decisions, particularly the major ones. Remember that everything has a reason, even death. I will always remember Noel during the time we were in Tagaytay, the time when he reluctantly said yes to run for Vice Mayor under the KBL and Mayor Maglabe. It was a trying, exciting and a new venture for all of us. I’m sure he felt excited with all the trips and the meetings we had in all the areas covered by the city. He was a very good man, listening to every woe, every problem, every need. The only thing is that he can’t seem to say NO..He was always there, even in the middle of the night, having coffee, drinking a slug of “bilog” or going to a wake, a fiesta, or a bday of a Kapitan. One time, I was invited to a birthday in another town, and I forgot to make paalam to him and his security. I just went there and did not notice it was late. And since we did not have cel phones, I could not call him. Buti na lang may nagsabi kung nasaan ako, he went to the place and picked me up and said, “babes, next time, magsasabi ka, hwag ka pupunta kung saan, saan, answerable ako sa Daddy mo kung may mangyari sa iyo dito”. Such was the man who took time to take care of his staff, his friends, and more so those who helped him in his duties. We had a great time also when we built and constructed the Provincial Action Center in Picnic Grove, under the MHS. It was a contest, which action center can be built first. It was a huge project, and our nemesis (ha,ha) was Maritza, who was doing the Pagsanjan, Laguna PAC. I’m sure we could have won it but materials did not come on time and it was Boysie Laureola (may he rest in peace) who was holding the payment. No check, no delivery…but we tried. It was so much fun to see a structure with our own eyes to become one of the most endeared buildings in Picnic Grove. By the way, it was Pagsanjan who won the contest and they got a ticket to HK!!! (Maritza and Rosie). Noel is a dear boss, a true friend, and always there when you ask for help, favor or what not. Our personal encounter is more than just a boss, it was a good friendship with trust and loyalty combined. He even gave me some ideas on my creation, the Pinoy Ka Ba board game which is now in the market.

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We will miss Noel, but his legacy will live forever, he is now at Home to take his rest until we all will meet again in the heavenly beyond. God bless you, Noel. May you rest in peace. And your family be blessed and showered with love.

From Ms. Marilou Mirasol, AVP for Auxiliary Services His departure is difficult to get over with because I’ve known him most of my life. His family is my family; we worked together for the business and we respected each other and got along well. Everyday, I miss my friend. He gave me a chance to make a contribution in the academic world, to be part of an organization that shaped Philippine History. And through his work, and the many projects he started, the countless initiatives and strategies he devised of which he made me a part of, I found a sense of accomplishment, pride in myself and in what I could do and what I was capable of. He was the process and I was the execution. He shared his entrepreneurial wisdom to help me bring my operations experience to the table. Together, we managed a profitable family business and through it all he taught me so much. I will miss his texts, his calls to chat. After the shop talk, he would ask me about my family and all that he knew meant something in my life. He always had something good to say, something positive to share and always the genuine and sincere concern in his eyes. Noel is gone now, but the work of his hands is still here. And there is more to be done—now more than ever. I don’t see him walking the halls anymore, and his seat is empty in the room where we met. Noone can take his place but while I am here I will continue to be a team player to those who will be tasked to finish what he started, to pursue in the direction he intended because he always wanted the best for the University and its legacy, his family, his siblings, and his friends and associates. Everyday I miss my friend, my mentor, my boss.

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I Remember… by Mrs. Beatriz E. Biyo, Director, General Services Gone…Is it true? My heart refuses to believe my eyes. It refuses to believe what my eyes have seen thru the messages that were texted to me very early in the morning of July 15, 2008 – that you were gone, gone beyond recall, irrevocably. I feel what everybody felt the unconscious that tugged our hearts when we heard the sad news. How you must have seen us & felt the same depth and the sincerity of our grief. When we lost you, we lost a good Administrator. For me, you were not perfect, but one of the best. I remember my first encounter with you during Martial Law days & the Residence College then was still existing. Only well-trained student assistants manned all the gates with one guard stationed at main gate. They knew how to handle visitors coming inside the University.You came one day & introduced yourself as Mr. Benitez & wanted to see the Chairperson Ms HZB. After confirming from the office of the Chairperson, the SA asked you to please leave your ID for visitor’s pass.You obliged but inquire if it is an order or a policy for everybody. The girl politely answered, “yes, Sir, as per instructions from our supervisor”. Later, when he retrieves his ID he approached me that he commended the girl for the “job well done”. Many years had passed until one day you came & in a short time the situations changed.You became our immediate head. I remember how happy the student assistant assigned at the Information as operator received an allowance for the extra hours they rendered after their regular working hours. I remember your concern when you learned that one of them will have a concert show at Paco Park; you instructed me to take care everything for her from the costume, make-up & transportation. Busy as you were, you supported her thru your presence from the beginning to end, “How Kapamilya”. I remember how angry you were to see employees doing nothing during office hours. But were also quick to give compliments, your appreciations when you were satisfied with our works.

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Sir Noel, you loved the University so deeply & sincerely not because you are connected with the Benitezes simply because you believed that hard work with faith will bring miracle in one’s life. I remember the smile on your face for the last few weeks before you left us. You smile in answer to my request to vote Laarni in PDA. You smile when I refuse to go up to the 5th floor to get the frames & told you the next morning na lang. You smile & nod to my request for an additional maintenance—and the last smile was during the birthday of Dr. Maligalig where you tapped my back & said, “nandito lang pala kayo”. The night was lit by stars, everybody was sound asleep. In the silence of the night God called your name. He came & he found you watching. “Here I am Lord, you said.” You are gone to your Maker. There also we hope to be one day as one of your “faithful soldier” under your command in our department it is now my turn to say: “Thank you, thank you & thank you Sir Noel for the “Job Well Done.” I say not goodbye Sir Noel but God rest you.

From Ms. Sonia Atabug, PWU Media Relations Director I remember Sir Noel as a firm administrator whose love and concern for the University stemmed from the Benitez legacy of exemplary and good educational governance. He remained true and faithful to this belief and conviction to the very end of his life.

From a member of the PWU Community Mr. Noel Benitez is very respectable and a man of action.

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In Memoriam of Noel Benitez Ms. Amelia Bonifacio, VP & Chief Operating Officer, PWC Davao That was a sudden departure and regrettably, I did not maximize my private moments with you amidst PWC of Davao business to express a great appreciation and admiration for your staunch support and inspiring encouragement to do more. I will not fail you.

A pleasant hello and hi! by Dr. Ida Yap-Patron This is VP Noel. Very simple and ordinary greetings, but extraordinarily touched people in the workforce. When I worked for the SAS PAASCU Accreditation, I was deeply worried of some areas under Physical Plant. But his assurance that things would be delivered and done in time were magic words. He spoke very little, but he just acted on your requests. VP Noel was a man of action. To me, VP Noel had an awesome sense of obedience -- as a grandson, as a nephew, as a brother and as VP Noel. He took seriously the vision and the legacy of the family. I believed that this was because he wished that all things may go well for everybody. You will be missed. But God loves you more than we do!

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From Ms. Emilie Dalisay, PWC of Davao A very unassuming person, Tito Noel will always be remembered as simple and caring. Staying at an economy hotel like Lispher Inn was never an issue with him even if the well-known Marco Polo Hotel is an option. And being a PWC Board member, he is very much entitled to avail of the PWC vehicle in and out of Lispher Inn. However, he would just be walking towards PWC or take a tricycle instead of asking us for such need. A very vivid memory I have of him was during the PWU-PWC Global Congress in Davao City. He waited for hours for Tita Suzie to arrive at the Marco Polo Ballroom before he even took a bite of the sumptuous dinner, when almost everybody else in the said ballroom had finished eating. He was very much concerned that Tita Suzie & the Bayanihan group were not at the appointed venue even way after dinner had been served & consumed. But he never raised a voice nor pestered anyone in the host committee during that time. That made a lasting impression on me of who he is as a man, a husband,a school official and a tito. Tito Noel, thoughts of you will always be cherished!

From Ms. Juliet Manlapaz and Washington DC PWUA Charities Inc advisers, board members and officers Bubbles, Pls extended our deepest sympathies to Suzie and her family for the loss of Noel! It was indeed a shock to learn of the untimely demise of Noel. We will offer a mass for the repose of Noel and also for Suzie & family for their strength to carry on and live the legacy of Noel!

Ms. Geraldine Tiongson Osias President, PWU Alumni Association Low profile but highly profiled, behind the scenes, yet seen by many, one great “helluva” guy! Great loss to the PWU family and definitely to Suzie and children.

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A Long Distance Conversation With Noel Benitez by Ms. Helen Marte I called Noel on July 14, 2008 from San Francisco, California because I wanted him to meet an architect using “Green technology”, in Manila, also to alert him for a San Francisco/Manila Sister City Committee trip sometime in February 2009, with the Mayor and California Governor Arnold Schwanegger. The project is focused on solar and other alternative energy technology including waste management systems, and other infrastructure systems experts in the field from California. Our series of conversations started in PWU Davao Congress in August, 2006. Noel, Susie and Bayanihan dancers and I stayed at the Lispher Inn Hotel. It was during our daily breakfast together that I had several conversations with Noel regarding Solar Power technology. As San Francisco Public Library Commissioner, I had advocated using solar power for new buildings. S.F. Public Library has built several new libraries using solar power and green technology since 2002. Noel was most interested due to high cost of electric power usage in several PWU campuses as “runaway budgetary cost.” I promised him to find a “possible project study demonstration” at the Taft Avenue campus. He was most ecstatic. Among the topics during breakfast was the container—load books the San Francisco Public Library donated to De la Salle Bacolod, as I became a SF Library Commissioner in 2000. Noel immediately requested a shipment to PWU Library and to expedite the transaction, he paid by his credit card in 2006. The donation was completed in October, 2006. I found Noel so much a “doer against all odds” individual and admire him most for forging a modern beautification of PWU Taft Campus that has been so outstanding. A visionary to adapt a “sense of Campus pride” in the Paseo. He was a man of action and generous and very sincere in his dealing with me. I will miss him and all his unfinished business. May God give his children his great gift of friendship.

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From Ms. Regina Flores Tercero, Immediate Past President, PWU JMDIAA 2006-2007, Past President PWUAASC, PWU-JMD 1969 This is a shocking news. So sorry to hear about Noel Benitez’s untimely passing. I had a good chance to meet him over breakfast with Helen Marte in Davao at the PWU homecoming. Helen Marte, who just left last Monday for the Philippines originally scheduled for Tita Helen’s 94th birthday, must also be in disbelief over this sad news. Helen was my house guest prior to her Philippine trip and we reconnected in our good friendship, as we were roommates in Davao. Now this sudden twist of fate. Bubbles, please extend my personal condolence to the bereaved wife Suzie and family, Tita Helen and Amelou and relatives of Noel Benitez. Without a doubt, PWU-JMDIAA officers and members feel the sadness of this sudden passing of Noel and send prayers and expressions of sympathy. There’s no easy answer why, we only have our deep faith, as we entrust Noel into God’s loving embrace and say “Amen.”

From Mrs. Loline Adelina Reed I have heard from Nina Lim Yuson about Noel’s demise and have asked her to forward my condolences to Suzie and Amelou, to Joly and to Maritza and of course to Tita Helen. Noel is one of the nicest members of the Benitez clan I have met and become friends with. When I was still in High School, I used to see him with his mother still in his uniform, when he visited PWU. I used to see him under the High School quadrangle’s mango tree, chatting happily to the janitors having a break. He was so approachable and thus so much liked by the lower staff at PWU. Noel did not have a chink of snobbery about him. He was charming and had a kind heart. I am not surprised that he is very much missed by all at PWU. To be missed and remembered for himself and for the wonderful memories he left in people’s hearts and minds will be his legacy. I hope that Suzie and their children will be comforted by these thoughts. They have all been very blessed, for Suzie, to have had Noel as a loving husband and for their children to be fortunate to have him as their wonderful Dad.

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My memories of Noel …….... as a friend Dr. Eden Kelemen, AVP for Academic Affairs, PWU-JASMS QC He and Suzie were instrumental in my being part of the PWU Community. Actually, he was the one who interviewed me. There were times when we would text each other and end up exchanging messages till late at night. He shared with me some of his frustrations and also how he became part of the Henry Sy Company. In one of our chats I told him that my family is my priority and he replied “Eden, I agree.” One time I got a message from him asking me why I always texted him twice, that it will be expensive on my part. Since then, I was very careful in texting him – that I don’t repeat any of my messages. In one of my parties at home, I invited him and Suzie. Although Suzie could not make it, he came and gelled very well with my other guests. When we were preparing for the celebration of our Silver Wedding Anniversary, my husband and I decided to ask Noel to be one of our sponsors.

Remembering Sir Noel... by Mr. Gene Albert E. Velunta Much has been said about Sir Noel’s compassion, his being a hard worker, and his faith among others. But what I cherish most about him was his ardent desire to keep the legacy of his grandparents going. In most of our meetings, he never failed to mention that more effort should be exerted to keep the legacy going—PWU must go on. His by-line was usually about raising standards, being competitive, and trimming down excess fats. I believe Sir Noel and his ate, the University President, Dr Amelou Benitez Reyes, both believed to keep the legacy going. In the final meeting between us, he shared with me a grand plan where satellite PWU units would be situated around the Philippines delivering quality education in areas where major mall operations are located. Sir Noel’s grand plan may still be down the future lane but we will get there. The PWU was granted Autonomous Status just prior to Sir Noel’s journey to the great beyond. This could be the beginning.

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From Dr. Lorenzo C. Lorenzo I will always remember Sir Noel for his simplicity and kindness, professionalism, integrity and respect for people. My last conversation with Sir Noel was during the concert of Jose Mari Chan in Manila Hotel, Friday, July 11. He shared with me some of his recent thoughts and feelings about the University. It was short but very meaningful and inspiring. Sir Noel, through his words and actions, has taught me very essential things in carrying out my function as Human Resource head. I learned from him some techniques in negotiation, effectively handling employee cases, and becoming more consistent in employee discipline and decision making. Sir Noel is a man of action. He knows how to keep his promises. He produces results especially when it matters the most. He will even go out of his way just to make sure that desired results are achieved. Sir Noel is a good role model for all employees. He walks the talk. He is even more consistent in wearing his ID every time he enters the university premises than me. Sir Noel is a good listener and mentor. He listens not only with his ears but also with his heart. If you consult something with him, be it work related or otherwise, he makes it a point that what he told you was clear and you are comfortable working on it. On a personal note, Sir Noel is a friend and like a father to me. I can be very comfortable sharing with him some of my personal concerns, especially about looking for my “One True Love”. In fact, he has invited me several times to visit him in SM Corporate Office to meet my potential partner in life. In my last conversation with him, he mentioned this again and jokingly told me that had I gone there the first time he told me, I could have found the woman that I have been searching for by now. I remember on father’s day, I warmly greeted him and we exchanged several text messages about choosing a lifetime partner and family life. Just like a real father, he was consistently guiding me on my discernment and personal decisions in life. And for this, I am very grateful to him. You will always be in my heart, Sir Noel. You will always be kept in my prayers. Wherever God leads me, the life that you lived and the good example that you have shown me will always serve as a constant reminder of God’s call to love and serve others. May the Soul of our dearest brother Noel through the mercy of God, rest in peace. Sir Noel, it’s time to experience the eternal joy of being with the Risen Christ! Enter the joy of everlasting life!

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In Loving Memory of VP Noel B. Benitez by Mrs. Diony M. Angeles, University Librarian The sudden passing away of VP Noel B. Benitez was really a very sad event for most of us... We, from the Library Department will always remember him for all his support to the innovations and improvements in the PWU Main and departmental libraries. Majority, if not all of our requests were supported and approved by VP Noel. At times, he sent back our request with some notes or question mark (?), but after I explained and justified, most of the times he considered my justifications for such request. VP Noel was a very approachable person. We could approach and talk to him anytime we met him even along the corridor. If he called for me in his office, I did not feel afraid to see and discuss matters with him. Last June 27, during the 94th birthday celebration of “Tita Helen”, PWU Chairperson of the Board of Trustees, Dr. Helena Z Benitez, he was very busy entertaining the guests. When he came near the table where I was seated, I stood up and thanked him personally for all his continued support to the library needs and improvement. I never knew that this will be the last time that I will be able to thank him in person. I was sure at that moment that he appreciated my sincere thanks and recognition of all his support because of the bright smile on his face and his sign of UPRIGHT THUMBMARK. We shook hands and I sat down while he continued entertaining the other guests. Much tears have been shed for VP Noel’s departure from this earth. He was a profound loss to his family and to the Philippine Women’s University. He led a life well-lived. We will surely miss you VP Noel… We are praying for the eternal repose of your soul. May God grant VP Noel eternal rest…

Anecdote on Sir Noel B. Benitez by Ms. Puritz P. Uson Aside from flashing his radiant smile as we occasionally crossed paths along the PWU corridors, I had the rare chance of meeting with Sir Noel in the office of Ma’am Suzie M. Benitez sometime in the past. Present in that

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meeting were Sir Noel Benitez, Dean Harold Galang, Ms. Helen MarteBautista, PWU alumna and one of the Commissioners of the San Francisco Public Library, and myself. Mrs. Dionisia M. Angeles, our University Librarian, was not around during that time due to a previous commitment, so Sir Noel called for me. Sir Noel discussed about the possibility of documenting and reproducing all the works of Dr. Lucresia Kasilag. He also mentioned about archiving them for security purposes. Moreover, he talked about the shipping of book donations from the San Francisco Public Library. That was my first and last meeting with him. He registered to me as someone who had deep concern and support for the library, which he continued to show until he was called in the Final Roll Call. But what struck me most about Sir Noel was when my colleague and myself watched a performance of the world-renowned Bayanihan Dance Troupe at the Conrado Benitez Hall about 2 years ago. We were seated at the back, right side of the hall. On the left side were Dr. Amelou B. Reyes and Sir Noel. They came in a little late. As expected, the Bayanihan dancers gave a superb performance and each time a dance number is finished, Sir Noel would clap his hands vigorously and whistle. The loud sound of the whistle resounded inside the hall. In complete astonishment, Dr. Reyes looked at us, looked at Sir Noel, pointed to him, then laughed as if telling him, “Hey, you look like a child.” Sir Noel just laughed it off and continued with his playful gestures. We were amused at the way he showed his deep admiration and appreciation for the wonderful dances and the great performers that were very close to his heart, he being a former Bayanihan dancer, along with his wife. My colleague and I looked at each other and smiled as we witnessed the other side of him. I just said to myself that here is one person who acts and speaks with so much dignity and can truly be himself and be childlike in some light moments. Surely, those scenes will forever be etched in my mind.

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The Magic of VP Noel by Dr. Christy Cruz Every accreditation period in the past, we always managed to write VP Noel all our concerns on physical facilities. Never did CBIBE experience a difficult time coordinating with VP Noel on the necessary requirements for our accreditation. Personally, I felt that here I am talking to a man who’s dignified stature and bearing would go around the CBIBE area, scratch his shoes on the old floor pavement, check the cracked windows, the leaking air conditions, the dilapidated chairs, the old black boards. Without promising anything – just like magic, the physical improvements were accomplished in time for the accreditors’ visit. CBIBE learned to value VP Noel’s efforts in helping us during accreditation. We made sure we reported to him the updated status of the facilities that would need improvements. We commended the good service of his janitors while also reported those who were remiss in their duties. VP Noel in his quiet ways had a subtle manner of showing his temper. Once while making the rounds, he noticed that an air condition was left running in an empty classroom. He called my attention and I was alarmed. Before I could explain, he turned his back and left. It was a lesson learned and this incident will be forever in my mind. I didn’t feel bad but more so, I managed to use this as a warning precaution to all the faculty members to do their share in taking care of our facilities. I told them, “Don’t be caught by VP Noel…” Now that VP Noel is gone, nothing will change. His magical presence around CBIBE will always be with us.

In Memory of Sir Noel by Ms. Lorraine P. Petalver, Chief Accountant, Finance Department We did not have the opportunity to work with Sir Noel eight hours a day, five days a wekk but during his term as University Vice-President, we had the occasion of getting a glimpse of his personality—Sir Noel to us was a very hard-working person. He made use of his time and appeared not to waste it in unnecessary things. We had the honor of being with him in one Board of Trustees meeting about two years ago and he was so accommodating. And of course, there was his disarming smile!

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A Letter to VP Noel by Mrs. Remedios H. Cruz Dear VP Noel, Every place in JASMS-Manila evokes memories of you. At the quadrangle on the ground floor are the big round garden sets which you thoughtfully sent after seeing the children sit on the cold floor waiting for their classes to begin; the colorful canteen which you ordered to be remodeled, even asking us for the colors we favored; the beautiful comfort rooms for the children and guests and our own which you said should also give us comfort and pride; our very presentable conference room which you personally designed which hopefully we can call NBB room even if Marco said you may not even want it. We know you would understand. On the upper floors, the Library sports the new and uniform bookshelves ordered by you which you did not get to see; a separate Library area for the High School and an internet corner awaiting the computers which you were going to provide for us; the HE Practice House that you painstakingly had constructed; the Science laboratory that is now at par with others and of course, the rooftop for our students to have for physical activities. When we told you that we were beset by a problem of no room for our additional HS section, how pleased you were when you said that it was a “pleasant problem”. We remember the time when our student delegation could not afford to hire a coaster for the Baguio convention and were told the school vehicle could not be used; we ran to you and without hesitation you made available the school van, anything for the children! We shall miss your quiet visits which came very often even on weekends and holidays. We shall miss the unassuming official who would not hesitate, in his crisp barong Tagalog, bend down to repair a broken fixture in the comfort room tank that persons of lesser stature might even call their underlings to do! You were sensitive to our needs, we did not have to say nor ask. We admire the sincerity you exuded and have felt the genuine appreciation that only you can give. May the Good Lord grant the rest you richly deserve, VP Noel, watch over your loved ones and help those who fill in your shoes that they may work towards the realization of your dreams. We thank the Lord for allowing you to come our way, brief as it may be and for having known you. JASMS-Manila sorely misses you!

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Memento for Sir Noel by Dr. Ana Cordovilla Mr. Benitez being one of the highest officials in the school was thought of not feeling people. To my surprise he is so different, very humble and down-toearth. One time, as early as 7:45 a.m. I was sweeping the floor in the office. A man approached me from behind and said “ Bakit ikaw ang gumagawa niyan?” Without looking at who asked, I answered him. “Wala namang ibang gagawa e, this is multi-tasking”. After which, I looked at him then to find out that he was Sir Noel, who just smiled and walked away. After a few minutes one of the janitors came and helped me clean the area which covers both School of Environment & Habitat and PSSW. One afternoon, he saw my youngest son Buboy whom I asked to wash the dishes after lunch. Sir Noel saw him coming out of the CR with all the stuff washed and said, “Uy child labor yan ah.” Of course, he was just joking and later he told Buboy “very good, buti yan very obedient”. When he saw me, he congratulated me for having Buboy whom he said is cute and good. Buboy then offered the Mass in his honor where he served as altarserver. These incidents were just some of the many unforgettable associations with him. We will surely miss a person who is abundantly blessed and yet very humble in dealing with people whom he treats as friends.

Noel, a Peer, a Colleague and a Friend by Dr. Nenita M. Cura The very PERSON of Noel invited one to address him by his first name because to him the person is more precious than his position. He valued “being” more than “having”. This is how I had felt and dealt with him, a peer, a colleague and a friend. My close association with him started with the Nasugbu Project of SM. He asked us to submit a proposal on Rapid Rural Assessment of 4 barangays in Nasugbu where a full blown hotel and other facilities for tourists had been started, similar or even better than Boracay. The result will be the basis of a sustainable development project in 4 communities. To have a feel of the area, he and Jojo Joson invited us (PSSW & UNICORP) to spend a day on the beach—the place was paradise! There was clear blue

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water with mountains surrounding the place reminiscent of the movie “Blue Lagoon”. This was the setting of our “picnic” lunch with food galore, nice exchanges of ideas and jokes in between. We then proceeded to the 2 barangays where we met the barangay captain and some women leaders. We had a glimpse of the physical setting as well as the interaction of the women and male leaders. We went home with mangoes given to us that would last us a lifetime. What a day! And what a pleasant way to start an RRA project! As promised and on the basis of SM’s expectations, we submitted the project proposal that was subsequently approved. The approval of the proposal came a bit early as we have not found a male community organizer. So I frantically texted Noseñas, John whose name preceded Noel in my phonebook with the following text messages – I’m desperately in need of COs—meaning Community Organizers. This message accidentally entered Noel’s celfone, who mischievously interpreted “CO as company! He called up Cynthia Zamora from UNICORP, another friend of his and said – “Biruin mo si Dean sa kanyang text sa akin! Hurriedly I texted Noel and said: Sorry for the miss sent text message – I needed community organizer! He texted back – “No explanation is needed!” when we met in the Council meeting, there were no words, only laughter! Ay….happy is the man who sees humor in the small errors of life…. And now to the more serious part of our work… our interaction with the 3 big bosses of the SM project—Noel, included. The agreement was for the two teams to meet once a month for the progress report. At first, Noel tried to decline his membership in the SM Team. He said Dean Cura is already there. It would be a case of conflict of interest. But he was asked to stay as part of the SM team. How he played his part in the whole RRA process as the President of SM Investment and as VP for Institutional Services of PWU is something for the books. The SM team was quite formidable. During monthly meetings, we would always come prepared with powerpoint presentations. The questions were direct to the point and reflected a very corporate orientation. Somehow, we felt we were in a thesis defense. But we managed with “flying colors”. This was how we did it. We requested Noel to be our sounding board prior to the submission of our reports especially the interim and final reports. Come to think of it, he never corrected our draft reports. He asked us to go ahead and make the presentation. Either our reports were good or he had a tremendous respect for professional efforts. I’d like to believe, the latter is true. In meetings he kept quiet but his supportive presence and non-verbal expression of his whole being was empowering. Indeed, his characteristic smile of approval made us carry on and move on. By being himself, he empowered us! – Intuitively, Noel brilliantly balanced the corporate mind and the common good.

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The SM remarks on the presentation of our final report said it all….”we are pleased with your report!” This remark was a signal for the 2nd phase of the project - the actual community organizing for empowerment and sustainable development. Here the lines were drawn. SM was for immediate skills and project development. Our team was for value formation and leadership development as a principle of social work. Noel’s intervention was to do both but with emphasis on the strengthening of families, to which we agreed, a true Philwomenian. At this point the Lord intervened. The Lord has taken Noel back to Him!. As the song goes “Quite a play you did your act so well, quite a play until the curtains fell! Paalam Noel, isa kang huwaran ng tunay na TAO….”

Brief and yet Unforgettable… by Ms. Bing Quintos, Director HRDMD ... That is how I would describe my encounters with Sir Noel when he was still here with us in the University and had shown me the following traits of a person that is spiritually guided and a born gentleman. 1. DISCIPLINE • He was a member of the Revision of the Code of Conduct Committee, which was my first encounter with him. During meetings and deliberations, he had elicited compassion and justice in his desire to put order and proper decorum for employees’ behavior within and outside the university premises. • During CBA negotiations, he manifested fairness that would harmonize the goals of management and the union for mutual benefits. • In conducting investigations, he had been firm and fair to hear the side of erring employees vi-a-vis the University Code that had to be implemented. 2. WISDOM • There is always a solution for him in every situation presented to him • He had guided and suggested to us ways to approach and resolve HRD issues 3. LIGHTHEARTEDNESS • Inspite of all the trials and difficulties we are encountering, he had a ready smile and hello when I cross path with him in the premises

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… up to now he seems to be just around as if he is attending a meeting outside the University. His presence can be felt through all the areas that he had “touched” in the university, from entrance and exits, from walls to the floor that we walked in every day; he had been instrumental to all these transformation. I will miss you Sir, but the good that you left behind would always be remembered.

From Ms. Charito Bitanga Peralta Dean Emeritus, SFAD/ Concurrent Director, University Museum and Gallery He is one of the PWU officials who had an understanding of the problems of my office and who acted accordingly.

Farewell Salute by Ms. Becky D. Yusingco On 14th of July around 6:10 p.m,. I saw Sir Noel at Taft exit gate. As I usually do every time I met him, I saluted him. That moment I saw him, he had unusual glow in his face. Little did I know that it was my last salute and honor to him.

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From the Office of the VP for Institutional Operations A Thank You Letter by Aida A. Arrieta, Administrative Assistant I was very fortunate to be one among the staff of VP Noel B. Benitez. When he asked me if I wanted to be transferred to his office, I immediately said yes, because the big boss was the one requesting for my services. Who am I to decline his offer? I joined the IS family last November 2006 and since then I had so many unforgettable work experiences with him. Sir Noel was very generous in giving praises whenever you have done something good in your work. That’s why I was inspired to do better in every task that he gave me. I will see to it that I will not commit mistakes because I do not want him to get angry with me. True enough, he would always say, “very good, well trained, keep it up!” For me, those were the sweetest words that I would always want to hear. If all the bosses were like him, more people would be productive because they would be inspired by his leadership. He was the best boss! I also considered him as my adviser because he would always give time to listen to your problems even if you cry in front of him, he doesn’t mind as long as you tell him all your worries and he would assure you immediately that he was ready to give you words of wisdom so you can overcome those problems. He was the best life coach! Sir Noel was a big loss for many of us who were touched by his “larger than life” personality. He could still have helped, inspired, challenged many people by his remarkable examples. I promise that I will always bear in mind your advices and teachings and share them to others so that they will be inspired, too. For us, your legacy will not be forgotten. Thank you very much for your trust in my little abilities I shared with you.You are one among the people who believe in me. Goodbye Sir Noel, we will miss you!

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Maraming Salamat, Sir Noel by Shirley D. Resumadero, Secretary, Institutional Operations Kung hindi kay Sir Noel siguro sa ngayon, wala na kaming bahay na tinitirhan. Siya ang tumulong at nag-indorso sa akin kay Sir Joe Cabazor upang hindi bawiin ang lupa’t bahay na hinuhulugan ko thru PAG-IBIG at nang dahil sa kanya kami ngayon ay nasa maayos na tirahan at wala nang pinangangambahan at nakakatulog na nang mahimbing. Sa lahat ng naging boss ko, MR. NOEL BENITEZ is the BEST. Kahit na may kapalpakan akong nagagawa, sa halip na pagalitan ako, itinuturo pa niya sa akin kung ano ang tama na dapat kong gawin. Napaka-systematic niya at napakatalas ng memory. Minsan nga, siya pa ang nagpapaalala sa akin sa mga bagay na aking nakakalimutan. SIR, bakit naman maaga ninyo kaming iniwan?

Myrna Alianza Administrative Assistant, Institutional Operations Sa dami po ng nagawa ninyong kabutihan para sa akin ay kulang po ang isang aklat upang maibahagi ito lahat. Maraming-maraming salamat po, Sir. Lagi po kayo sa aking panalangin. I miss you, Sir!

Benny Canlas Senior Mechanical/Lab Works Coordinator Napakalaking inspirasyon para sa akin ang pagiging boss ni Sir Noel dahil walang mataas o mababa, kahit sino puwedeng lumapit sa kanya. Kapag may nagawa kang maganda sa trabaho, pupurihin niya kaya naman nakakataba ng puso. Thank you po, Sir Noel.

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Arthur G. Arafol, Senior Civil Work Coordinator Maraming salamat Sir Noel sa lahat ng aking natutunan sa larangan ng trabaho. Paalam, Guro!

Albert Miranda, Jr., Mech/Lab Works Coordinator Napakabait na boss ni Sir Noel dahil pinapahalagahan niya ang bawat empleyado niya lalo na sa IS. Naalala ko pa noong nagkausap kami ni Sir, nabanggit niya na, “Albert, kung sakaling mapaangat natin ang PWU, malaking bagay ang tulong mo kasi ang laki ng natipid natin dahil hindi na tayo magpapaayos ng mga aircon sa labas”. Natuwa ako dahil pinatunayan niya na mahalaga din pala ang gawain ko para sa kanya. Noong namatay ang tatay ko, pinahiram pa niya yung sasakyan niya sa mga officemates ko para lang makapunta sa amin sa Pangasinan para makiramay. Hinding-hindi ko talaga makakalimutan yun. Marami pa siyang nagawang kabutihan sa akin kaya naman malaki ang pasasalamat ko sa kanya. Salamat po sa lahat, Sir Noel.

Sandro M. Cariño, Electrical Works Coordinator He was an abettor in doing such good things in works as what he had done and shown to us. (The best leader and as a second parent)

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Rene Parra, Leadman, General Services Si Sir Noel parang Tatay ko na. Birthday, siya ang unang taong makakaalala. Papuri ang sagot niya sa bawat magandang trabaho. Pasasalamat sa bawat tulong na binibigay mo. Kaya ako ngayon nagdadiet, lagi niya akong sinasabihan, “lumalaki ang tiyan mo, Rene, sabay tapik sa tiyan”. Salamat, Sir.

Norberto Olid, Driver, Institutional Operations Hanggang sa huling sandali para sa kabutihan ng unibersidad ang kanyang iniisip, sabi po ni Sir Noel, “Ingatan mo ang ating mga sasakyan”. Salamat po sa pagtitiwala ninyo sa akin, Sir.

Raul Encela, Institutional Operations Naalala ko na sinabi ni Sir Noel sa akin na kapag may problema kami, “I’m just a text away”. Ganun siya ka-approachable kasi hindi siya namimili ng tao. Salamat po, Sir Noel.

Jimmy Parada, Head Carpenter Sa panahong buhay pa si Sir Noel ay marami rin akong natatanggap na papuri mula sa kanya bilang isang manggagawa dito sa PWU na siya naming nagbibigay sa akin ng sigla at saya sa mga gawain ko dito bilang isang Jr. Civil Works Coordinator at higit sa lahat madali siyang lapitan at tumulong sa financial na pangangailangan at yan ang hindi ko malilimutan habang ako ay nabubuhay at naririto sa PWU.

Maliit ka man na manggagawa kikilalanin ka ni Sir Noel Benitez by Estrelita Jasareno, General Services Bilang isang maliit na manggagawa dito sa Philippine Women’s University, ako’y kilala ni Sir Noel B. Benitez.

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Taon 2003 paupo si Sir Noel B. Benitez, VP for Operation sa Admin. Services. Nagkaroon nang despedida si Dir. Jose Seguerra. Ako ang naatasan ni Ma’am Mitzie Castor na magluto ng pagkain sa nasabing okasyon. Ginanap ito sa Multi Purpose Hall, lahat nang matataas ang posisyon dito sa PWU ay nasa long table. Si Sir Noel naman ay nakatayo at nagtatanong kay Myrna Alianza, “Myrna, sino ba ang nagluto ng pagkain? Ilang beses na akong pabalik-balik ah…” Kapapasok ko lang ng pintuan ng Multi Purpose Hall at bigla kong hinawakan ang kamay niya at sabi ko, “Sir, ako po ang nagluto ng pagkain. Si Mang Perto ang tagapaghalo ko, asawa po ako ni Perto”. Inilapit niya ako sa long table at ipinakilala sa lahat lalo na kay Ma’am Suzie, “kay Lita na ikaw magpaluto ng pagkain ng Bayanihan Dancers. At ako nga ang nagluto nang pagkain ng Bayanihan Dancers. Taon 2003 hanggang 2005, rehearsal at final shows sa Cultural Center of the Philippines. Mahilig si Sir Noel sa mga pagkain na masasarap. Minsan, birthday ko binigyan ko siya ng isang bote ng dinuguan at iyan ay di niya malimutan, “Thank you, thank you Lita sa take home na dinuguan”. Natatandaan ko pa rin Aug. 23, 2005, kaarawan ng isang anak niya, nagpaluto siya sa akin ng beef caldereta, dinuguan, pancit, bbq. May tanong si Sir Noel sa akin, “Lita, anong parti ng baboy ang ginamit sa bbq? Ang sagot ko sa kanya, Sir, lomo po. Ay, naku! Kaya pala ubos lahat”. Kahit ikaw ay maliit na manggagawa, binibigyan ka ng pagpapahalaga, uunawain ka sa mga daing mo. Parati ko siyang ipinapanalangin makarating ang kaluluwa niya sa kaharian ng Panginoon.

Claudia Calsena, Food Laboratory Noong bata pa po si Sir Noel, student na po siya, hindi ko po alam kung Grade 3 or 4. Ang cook pa namin ay si Aling Ilang at Rody, naging husband ko po si Rody. Tuwing lunch po umaakyat na po si Sir Noel dito sa kitchen kay Aling Ilang dito po may manga sa itaas tawagin ako ni Aling Ilang, “Odiang, ipaghanda mo na si Noel ng pagkain. Kaya naghanda po ako pero walang table cloth ordinary na baso napakabait po ni Sir laging walang imik kahit sabihin

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ko na dalian niya at pagkatapos sasamahan ko na siya sa ibaba. Lagi po ganon paghumingi ng inumin hanapin niya ako kung minsan naman ipagluto ko ng itlog, porkchop, meryenda. Kaso po nang dito na siya sa IS, kinuwesyon niya ako ng umakyat siya dine sa kitchen sabi dito mo ako pinakakain pangit ang baso hindi goblet walang mantel. At saka sabi niya kinukuha kami ni Mang Rody, asawa ko po cook po kasama po ni Aling Ilang doon na daw po kami sa Cavite tumira, magpagawa ng bahay pero tumanggi po kami kasi po malayo. Vice Mayor po yata siya sa Tagaytay noon. Kung minsan po pinapupunta niya ako sa Dasma sa bahay po nila Ma’am Suzie sabi ko po hindi ko alam puntahan, ganito sabi niya sumakay ka ng taksi sabi niya may guard bago pumasok ako po ay nakarating din sabi niya paano ka matuto kung hindi mo pupuntahan. Nitong Dec. 25 kasama niya si Mariel at Marco dine po sa may manga, ipinakilala po niya si Mariel at Marco sa akin at kung minsan po sabi niya kung tapos po ang aking mga anak sabi ko po ang iba ay hindi, oh bat mo pinabayaan? Hindi ko po kasi kaya na magpaaral silang lahat. Sabi pa niya Odiang tingnan mo si Mariel ha, sino ang kamukha, ako ba o si Ma’am Suzie? Sabi ko po siya, tumawa siya ng malakas, sabi niya hindi, kayumanggi kaya sa ina kamukha. Sabi po niya mahal na mahal ko ang aking mga anak, titingnan mo sila pag diyan sa PWU, kaya mo pa ba? At nitong birthday ni Ma’am Helen inutos sa janitor na magdala ako ng isang table cloth hindi po ako pumunta dahil duty po ako panggabi sa HRM, ibinigay ko na lang sa janitor. Malaking pagsisisi ko po dahil yon na pala ang huli naming pagkikita ni Sir Noel, Marami po siyang mga bilin, yung susi ng mga pinto ako po ang kanyang binilinan lalo na po ang pinto pababa sa papunta sa Nakpil gate. Salamat po, Sir Noel.

Leila Carino, Sunrise Security Agency Sa 11 years ko pong pagtratrabaho dito sa PWU (Sunrise Agency) wala po kong masabi sa ugali ninyo, napakabait at madaling lapitan sa oras ng kagipitan. Pagdating sa trabaho napakaistrikto at madaling umaksyon pag may inireport. Sir, saludo po kaming mag-asawa sa inyo. Marami pong salamat sa mga kabutihan at tulong na ibinigay sa amin.

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Alejandro M. Mamba, Jr., OIC, Sunrise Security Agency Since my employment in Sunrise Security Agency eight years ago, I have never encountered any bad comment from Agency’s owner, my Boss Sir Noel Benitez. Year 2005 was when I was assigned at PWU main. During my first week of assignment as OIC of the detachment, a ransacking incident happened. Sir Noel told me to study the case carefully and submit necessary suggestions to avert the repetition of the same. Thereafter, all my suggestions were approved by Sir Noel. “Doon ko nalaman na basta sa kapakanan ng lahat at ikabubuti ng University gagawin niya lahat.” He is a very kind and down-to-earth boss to his subordinates but very strict when it comes to work. He was a role model for me. When my child was confined at a hospital, I thought of Sir Noel for help. I texted him and he replied immediately and asked me how much do I need? But I did not go to his office because I was shy. But then I learned that he waited for me to come to his office. The next day, as early as 5 a.m. he called me up and said that he could hardly sleep that night because he was thinking about the medicines that I will need for my child. Then he said, wait for my driver, he will bring the money to you. Sir Noel, I salute you for having a generous heart. You have touched even the ordinary employee like me. I am very proud of you because I had a very kind boss like you and I know I will not find another boss like you. Thank you very much for everything, Sir Noel.

Mr. Federico E. Tagailo, Deputy Security Officer My relationship with Sir Noel goes back to fifteen years, ten years with Sunrise Security and five years with the University. Sir Noel has been my personal boss and mentor. I have observed him to be a hardworking person and learned much on the manner he handles people, always caring and like a father to all his subordinates. He is very accommodating to people who seek his advice and assistance in both personal and financial problems. He always remembers birthdays, and sees to it to be with his people during such occasions, bringing with him gifts. In special events, he goes out of his way to greet me and my family, a kind gesture which I will never forget.

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I owe my designation as Deputy Security Officer of PWU to Sir Noel. He has nurtured and trained me for the position, something that not all bosses would do to a then lowly employee of Sunrise. My loyalty to him will live forever. To you, Sir Noel, I will never forget the words you once said to me, “Kapag tayo ay magtulong-tulong, ay malayo ang ating mararating.”

To our beloved Sir Noel, our HERO…. From the UNICORP Family (Ms. Cynthia Zamora, Ms. Estrella Galia, Ms. Evelyn Rodica & Ms. Maricel Seva) It took a couple of days for us to write our message for Sir Noel……. We all know that He is one of those people who’s so sincere in all the things he did. The most memorable thing that we could remember about Sir Noel was when we attended the 2nd Global Congress of PWU-PWC in Davao. During our picture taking with our President Dr. Reyes, she said “ Oh tawagin niyo si Sir Noel ang inyong HERO”, the three of us: Chay, Evy and I were so amazed upon hearing that phrase from our beloved President. He’s our HERO, at UNICORP…. Why?….Because Sir Noel spent time with us hearing our requests, to upgrade the UNICORP facilities, he recognized what we have done at the Outreach and most especially believing in what we are doing to contribute whatever we could do to help the different schools in passing the IQUAME, PACUCOA and PAASCU accreditation. Hindi po kayo napagod at nagsawang makinig at iapprove ang aming mga request. You spent time with us to hear our sentiments for that time, we felt that nobody recognized us. Naaalala lang ang UNICORP kapag may accreditation. We invited sir Noel to the UNICORP Dormitory at Dasmariñas

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and with his busy schedules, he still gave his time to visit UNICORP and even plan with us on how to renovate the dormitory….That on February 14, 2003, we will never forget for he was our valentine date…(sabi pa namen…. nakszzz, Sir Valentine’s Day ngayon kami ang iyong ka-date..) and he replied “di bale mamayang gabi special din ka-date ko si mam Suzie ninyo”. Akalain nyo yun!!!! Sa Max’s Restaurant pa kami nagmeeting at ang pinaka di makakalimutan sa kanya ay ang pagbati niya sa aming mga kaarawan kahit sa pamamagitan ng text message na di namen inaasahan na ang isang tulad mo Sir Noel ay bigyan kami ng kagyat na pagbati at pansin… Then, the renovation happened with the construction of additional quarters for males. After the renovation, we then again invited him for the blessing of the UNICORP building but he said that he may not able to come since he has an early commitment, but exactly 12:00 noon, he arrived and we all had a simple lunch together eating fried tilapia, pakbet, pancit and etc… Yes…. He is a simple man…a man with a BIG BIG BIG HEART….. To you Sir Noel, we will never forget you!! You are our HERO….

From Ms. Vee M.Andrada, Office of the Vice President, Development and International Affairs Sir Noel is one among the few people that will be missed by almost everyone in the PWU Community. A handsome and a soft spoken Boss, down-to-earth, easy to approach and a shoulder-to-lean-on guy (especially in times of crisis). He is one person who listens to what you want to say, and never seems to get angry or cranky no matter how difficult life at PWU. He is generous with his smiles. When you smile and greet him he greets and smiles back at you ... yan si Sir Noel! I remember during his Tagaytay time, he was not yet with PWU then, I always approached Sir. Noel regarding rents of their LBB Bldg at Tagaytay and their houses at KM 61 which were used for seminars. I bargained with him regarding the rents and often received discounts. Talking with Sir Noel doesn’t make you feel intimidated, he makes you feel at ease. Conversing with him is so easy and he listens to what you want to say.

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Sayang! He left us too soon. We know God has his reasons for doing this. Our very own Sir Noel – the boy-next-door image and handsome boss at PWU! We will miss you deeply. Your memory will remain alive in our hearts. Till we all meet again!

Noel B. Benitez From Mira-Nila Staff From boyhood, Noel showed remarkable simplicity. His first business venture was into piggery at the Mira-Nila backyard. He shared time and jokes with workers and showed his joy at being with them. Even the PWU helpers/ guards during his high school days at De la Salle had their share of his friendly traits that endeared him to all of us. Noel’s stint at SM Makati at his buko stand and his vegetable contract-growing in Tagaytay molded him into the good provider that he was. The value of hard work was his shield at getting his simple needs met. Noel was never known to have pretended what he was not. He kept his dreams and his goals to himself – he got there!

From Bing Deloria, Larry Villafranca, June Del Prado Miranila Security Guards In behalf of Miranila guards, we thank you for your trust, faith in us for your Tita Helen’s security and being one of the best boss we had. Thank you so much.

From the PWU NSTP Faculty Worth Remembering as a man of compassion to serve others, full of wisdom, and humility.

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Para kay SIR NOEL by Fiel Nierva ANG AKALA KO Noong aking makilala si Sir Noel Ang AKALA KO ang ice cream nya ay Haagen Das Ay sus… sorbetes pala…. Ang AKALA KO pang himagas nya, ay blue berry cheese cake… Sus.. turon pala. Ang AKALA KO ang gara ng opis ni Sir Noel… Ngek… luma, ang lamesa, tapos halos mauntog ka sa baba ng kisame. Ang AKALA KO sa Sala Thai lang sya kumakain ng lunch…. Nakita ko sya isang araw sa lumang canteen pa ng PWU kumakain. Ang AKALA KO sa gandang lalake ni Sir Noel….ma chicks… Napag alaman ko dalawa nga ang chicks nya… si Suzie at si Marielle Ang AKALA KO… sa sobrang busy ni Sir Noel…. Wala na syang panahon sa mga anak nya.. Pero kung may game si Marielle or si Marc lagi nyang nai kwekwento sa akin… Pag may sayaw si Marielle sa Bayanihan lagi syang andun. Ang AKALA KO pag nag text ako sa kanya hindi nya sasagutin…alam ko naman na busy sya. . Pero kahit late na, mag tetext sa akin si Sir Noel… kahit mga birong text sasagutin nya.. Ang AKALA KO… puro lang din dasal si Sir Noel, Pinag dadasal pala nya, na sana tama ang mga ginagawa nya. At basbasan ng Dyos ang mga gawa nya. Puro pala gawa na may dasal… AKALA KO, pag masiwal at aktibo ang isang tao, mahaba ang buhay nya… Yun ang AKALA ko…. Ang AKALA KO noong July 16, sasagot sya sa tawag ko, sasagot sya sa text ko…Kaso … wala ….laging “cannot be reached” Noong pumunta kami sa Heritage at nagtanong sa guard kung may Noel Benitez, Ang AKALA KO sasabihin nya “walang Noel Benitez dito, baka nagkakamali kayo?”. Ang AKALA KO may first Friday mass lang sa C.B. Hall Yun pala para kay Sir Noel yun.

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Ang AKALA KO makikita ko pa ulit sa Sir Noel sa may gate hawak ang phone nya at may kausap..Yun pala wala na talaga sya…. Kaya noong Araw ng libing nya, sa huling pagkakataon, nag text ako sa kanya…. AKALA KO hindi na mag aapear ang pangalan nya sa cell ko.

Pero may nag text… SIR NOEL .. ang lumabas… AKALA KO matatakot ako… Pero hindi… agad kong binasa …. Sinagot ng kanyang anak…. Nagpapasalamat….. AKALA KO wala na talaga si SIR NOEL…. Hindi pala, buhay sya sa mga anak nya, kay Ma’am Suzie at sa mga puso ng mga taong mapalad na nakilala si SIR NOEL.

We’ll Be Missing a Special Person by Ms. Lorna Alvarez Salutal & Staff of Multimedia Publications & University Publishing House We were so touched when we learned that Sir Noel Benitez went with God that day, July 15, 2008. The humble person we knew, disciplinarian, strict yet fair. Sensitive, sincere and honest, listening to negative opinions to become better. A man of action, but we are sure that his real joy is to be alone and being at home with loved ones. And letting go of Sir Noel, only God knows the reason. Expressed in reality, that all of us who knew him must reflect “why”. We pray to the Lord, to take care of him and to shower him with divine love. To his family, Ma’am Suzie, Marco, Marielle and Tonton, we pray for God’s loving embrace to protect them. May the good Lord give them strength and courage to go on with life.

From Dr. Zenaida G. Sadiwa I will always remember VP Noel B. Benitez, as a man of few words. He was very generous, and acknowledged people with respect and sincerity.

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From Dr. Leonora N. Panlasigui, Dean, School of Nutrition The short time I have known Mr. Noel Benitez he struck me as a humble and compassionate person. This is very humbling especially I know that he belongs to a wealthy and well known family. The very first experience I had was when I was very new as Dean of School of Nutrition, I made an appointment to see him. He said you don’t have to make an appointment just come to my office. When you discuss matters pertaining to the school, you get a better grasp of the issues and you get a better understanding of the situation.

Memento in Memoriam VP Noel B. Benitez by Ms. Evelyn Pantig I started my stint with the Philippine Women’s University as Dean of its newly-launched School of Tourism on July 1st, 2006. Thus, on the day that VP Noel passed away, I just completed my two years at the University and am commencing my third year. Within this relatively short period, I must have met him a number of times that could easily be counted among my ten fingers. Nonetheless, these few times were instances that I will always look back to with fond memories of him. Not much was said, if ever there were words spoken, but each encounter was occasioned by warm, friendly smiles that made me feel welcome at PWU and, perhaps I should add, much more than anybody else did. I am certain everyone else is missing the reassuring presence of such a compassionate person.

The Low-profile....Sir Noel by Reiner E. Suva My weekdays will never be complete without a note from Sir Noel. Meticulous and perfectionist as VP Noel was, he will prompt me to check the designs of ad materials e.g., signage’s, brochures, banners as well as streamer for tarp printing. His note will usually end with the phrase.... “Please review designs, make sure it conform to our standards.” I knew Sir Noel as a very private person, who would rather stay away from the limelight to have a private conversation with a select friend or two. He is a very passionate man who will usually open up a discussion with a very firm grip in my arm, as a manifestation of his inherent sincerity.

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His electrifying gesture will surely make everybody feel comfortable. I felt it last July 14 when I received a call from info to see him at Nakpil gate. With a firm grip in my arm, he said.... “Reiner, tingnan mo nga kung ano magagawa dito sa painting na ito....” We were supposed to meet again the following day. It was around half past 6 the following morning at the parking lot when I was aghast to receive the message of Sir Noel’s untimely demise. How will I ever forget the very simple respected man who has been a mentor, a friend and a father rolled into one?

Sympathizes with the family of our beloved VP Noel B. Benitez, from School of Nursing Sir Noel will always be remembered as a man of action. The concerns and issues that were brought to his attention were immediately acted upon and always with positive results. He was always accommodating, jearal and exuded an aura of conpetence. Perhaps, his kindness and openness attracted too many problems that could have been a burden. Yet it was never reflected in his spirit. He remained calm and steadfast, a consoling and refreshing figure during times of crisis. He was always generous with his praises, always appreciative of one’s good deeds, though never judgmental nor vindictive. The academe will surely miss his strong and towering presence. He will always a father or a brother to most, a friend to all and a guiding spirit in good and bad times.

Testimony For Sir Noel Benitez from School of Fine Arts and Design Faculty and Staff We are most grateful for being able to contribute to Sir Noel’s unrelenting effort of providing a comfortable space for different departments. Mr. Reiner Suva usually asks us to help Sir Noel by providing floor plans for the HE department of JASMS and other areas in the campus. We at SFAD gave all our support as a way of helping Sir Noel in his endeavor of beautifying the campus. We will never forget the smile he gives everyone as his way of acknowledging our support for all his work. We always pray for the repose of his soul and, with the Lord’s mercy, Sir Noel has accomplished his mission here on earth.

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From Carol Zamora When Mr. Noel was appointed VP for Administration,  he sent me an email asking me if I would like to work with him.  At that time, I was already leaving for the US so I didn’t get a chance to work with him directly.    But we  both served in the PWU Chapel Committee where I was  appointed  coordinator. He was always present during our luncheon meetings.  More often than not, he pays for those luncheon meetings.  He’s full of life during those  meetings. He was himself—jolly, friendly and approachable.  He offers  food to everyone on the table.  After  the  meeting, he will take with him whatever food is left to take to his staff. I also got to know Mr. Noel better because of Ms. Suzie.  I worked as Sr. Special Asst.  at Special Events  where Ms. Suzie was the Director.   A lot of times he will pass by our office and look for Mrs. Suzie.  I remember  an incident when  Mrs. Suzie was not in the office and Mr. Noel dropped in. He ended up talking to me.  He sat on the chair in front of my table and asked me about my family. We had a long  chat about our respective families. He enjoyed talking  about his family   He told me that by the time Ms. Suzie wakes up, he has already walked around the block in their neighborhood.  He shared how proud he was of his children and their accomplishments: how Marco excels in his class, how Mariel is doing well in her soccer games (he even teased  that he is  very careful around  Mariel because she kicks real hard), how  Tonton is good  in fencing.  Then he added that his children inherited all these good qualities from him.  I asked him what his children got from Ms. Suzie.  And he jokingly said they got very little from her.  Then he stood up and teased me that he will tell my boss that I wasn’t really doing my work —that I just chatted with him.  He laughed, thanked and bid me goodbye and left the room. One other time,  he came to the office at lunchtime and he saw me doing my cross stitch. He asked me what I was doing.  I thought he was reprimanding me so I told him that it was my lunch break already.  He said he knew and that he was just interested to know what I was doing and why I was not taking a nap or rest instead.  I told him that cross stitching is my rest time.  That it relaxes me.  He  shrugged his shoulder and said that a better design would be running horses at sunrise (because my design was 3 horses in a barn) then he walked away and we both laughed.   

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If you know Mr. Noel, you know that he is  really a “down-to-earth” person. I never imagined he would talk about his family to an ordinary person like me. He even told me funny stories about him and Mrs. Suzie.  What is best about him was that he  was a friend and like a brother to me.  He gave me advices about my family and he even offered his help.    Another good trait is that he remembers the names of even the littlest people.  Whenever he goes around PWU, , he will be the first one to greet the nonteaching employees and even the maintenance staff.  He would smile and  say a compliment like  “good job, this area is so clean”. He always compliments you for even the smallest thing you have done.  I am saddened by his untimely demise.  He is a big loss to everyone.  Nakakalungkot, wala na siya, malaking kawalan sa lahat.  But i know that he is happy in the company of  the Lord.  That is where he is now.  Goodbye Sir, I will miss you.

From Raul Santos I’ve been the piano teacher of the three kids of Mr. Noel B. Benitez and Mrs. Suzie Benitez namely Marco, Marielle, and Tonton in the early 90s. Mr. Noel Benitez is not just a boss, a friend, a mentor, but also a father to me. Sir Noel which I always called him is always giving me advice, reminders and with all those experiences I become a much better person as I am today. I will always remember Sir Noel’s smiles when sharing jokes in their house. Sir Noel is happy to be with; he is an open minded person and always listens if you have a problems and he often gives good advice to me. Sir Noel is a person who always remembers and cares for his fellowmen and all those happy moments we shared also with sir Noel and his family is treasure for me that will be in my heart and in my mind. I am surely missing Sir Noel. We know that Sir Noel is in God’s grace now, I would say thank you Sir Noel for the precious times that we shared together in this world. I will always support your family and kids as well as our institution.

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From Rachell Fernandez, 1st Year BS Food Tech student (Scholar and friend of VP Noel Benitez) I still remember the day I stepped into your office. I thought talking to you would make me faint. Knowing our differences in our status in life, I couldn’t imagine how I would deal with it. But my impressions were wrong. Because talking to you was like talking to a father. I was amused when you still knew my nickname. Even though you are a superior you manage to keep your line in mine. We had a simple short conversation. It was warm approach that touches me. I regret the day I saw you from afar. I wished I’d come to you just to say hi. Because that day would be the last day I’ll see you. Until now it makes me cry remembering those things. I was hurt when I found out that you’re gone already. Sir Noel, I’m really thankful to God that I’ve met you. You are really kind and down to earth person. It’s really an opportunity to be your scholar. Thank you for the trust you’ve given me. I’m quite annoyed at myself because you haven’t seen yet the outcome of me being a Food Technology student. It’s hard and I’m ashamed to give you a failing grade. But don’t you worry because I will give my best in studying. I know you are happy and comfortable wherever you are. I know you hear me whenever I talk to you. Hope you’ll guide me in pursuing the career I’ve chosen. Keep my mind to study much harder.You may not see it anymore, but I hope someday I could also share the outcome of your blessings just like what you’ve given me and my brother. We may not be that close enough and it may be too late but I want you to know you’ve become special to me and one of my inspirations. I hope I’ll make you proud someday. And whenever that day comes I’ll look back and reminisce the day you lighten me up. Thanks a lot, Sir. God bless you.

From Joe Seguerra, in Montreal Dear Suzie, Our sincerest sympathy and prayers. Parang walang kapaguran, si NBB, sobrang masipag for a Boss. But one trademark I will always remember him is for his ready smile and a steady handshake everytime, anywhere we met.

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Tribute to Noel Benitez by Mr. Arsenio J. Vistro, PWU Financial Consultant “NOEL” is an International expression of “Happy Greetings during Christmas”. Whether in the Philippines, USA, or Europe, in fact almost everywhere “NOEL” is a “Happy Greeting” during the month of December. But on July 15th this year, the sound “NOEL” caused tears flowing from the eyes of family members, relatives and friends of our dear friend “Noel” B. Benitez – Noel was suddenly “called by our Lord”. Noel B. Benitez is a member of the Benitez Family, owners of The Philippine Women’s University (PWU). He is a nephew of the former PWU President and former Senator, Dra. Helena Z. Benitez, and brother of PWU President, Dra. Amelou Benitez Reyes, PhD. At the time of his death, Noel was PWU’s Vice-President for International Operations and Campus Development. Noel’s staff in The PWU confirmed the personal impression that I have about him. He is very “systematic” in his work, frugal (matipid) always advising his Office Staff to “shut-off” air conditioners and other electrical appliances when NOT being used. And while he is sometimes out of his office, he advises his staff to send to his house all pending matters that require his decision / action. A really “industrious”, “systematic” and “work devoted” Executive. There are also a lot of other outstanding traits for which Noel is well known. Let me cite just one (1) personal experience that I encountered with him. There was a personal favor that I wanted to request from him, but at the time I went to his Office, he was not “In”. When he learned from his Secretary that I wanted to see him for a personal favor, he tried to contact me in The PWU where I was doing some assignment then; but I was not in The PWU at the time. He then asked his Secretary to try and contact me anywhere. When I learned of these unusual efforts of Noel to contact me I was so embarrassed – instead of me to contact him, he was taking efforts to contact me!! So, quite embarrass I gave my celfone number to his Secretary for transmittal to Noel. But on the next day I learned that our good friend “NOEL” met his Creator. How do you express a feeling of SINCERE SADNESS for a devoted Executive and a Very Good Friend??

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by Mark Joel B. Bernal, Student Assistant/Scholar (BSHRM) We spoke the day before Mr. Noel Benitez died; we talked about my studies and my status in the school (PWU). I’ve learned many things about him, he always reminds me that I must finish my studies, be a good follower and strive harder to finish my goals in life. He also shows to me how to be a good example to my brother and sisters. He is hardworking, kind and I admire most of all his professionalism. That day I don’t have enough time to express my gratitude to him but I will never forget that he is a wonderful and kind man to other people. He is and will be my inspiration for my studies and to overcome any obstacles because Mr. Noel Benitez’s principles are my guide to have a successful life.

On Noel Benitez by Atty. Herminio A. Liwanag Noel has always a sparkle in his eyes. He is focused, determined but always amiable. I recall my first meeting with Sir Noel. I was designated as legal counsel of the management panel to assist in the negotiation for a new collective bargaining agreement with the maintenance Union. Sir Noel, came well prepared for the CBA negotiation having read the Union proposals and with his own set of counter proposals. In the negotiating table however, it was evident that he has no patience for long winding discussions, which unfortunately, is very common in CBA negotiations. Thus, he eventually decided to send his alternate to attend the next negotiations. His absence proved to be a great loss to the management panel. Our second encounter was during the investigations conducted in view of serious charges against senior administrators of the Quezon City campus. Again, he was meticulous, assisting in the study of documents to be presented and ever inquiring on the sufficiency of the evidence but never exerting any pressure or influence on the investigating panel. Of course, we all know that he became in charge of the University physical plant and again he showed not only dedication but his ability to use old hard wood making every piece a work of art. We surely will miss him but more importantly, a great loss to the University.

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In Memory of VP Noel Benitez by Dr. Nini F. Lim, Dean, School of Medical Technology We will always remember VP NOEL BENITEZ whom we fondly call VP Noel, for the untiring support he extended to the School of Medical Technology especially to the faculty and students of Medical Technology degree programs and its projects. He was kind, generous and understanding of the problems we encountered in the planning and implementation of the different activities. He was a “hands-on” administrator by seeing to it himself that necessary changes were instituted as planned and the people concerned were satisfied and happy with the changes. He loved PWU so much. His passion to make PWU great is strongly evident in his all-out support for new programs and projects by personally helping us find ways by which these could materialize. On one occasion, we saw how happy he was when news was released that PWU has been granted “AUTONOMOUS” status by CHED. We knew then that for all of us this will be the beginning of an exciting milestone for PWU. How VP Noel touched our lives will always be an inspiration to all of us in the School of Medical Technology. We pray for the eternal repose of his soul.

From Donna Casas Robles “Ma”am, wala na po si Sir Noel” these were the words I heard one morning as I entered our University. I brought myself to the Chapel – as I do everyday – but this time, I felt so numb that I couldn’t think of anything at all. That was a very, very sad silent day as felt by the entire PWU community. For someone who has touched my life so deeply, you deserve nothing but my sincerest gratitude. Sir Noel, Thank you very much. “Thank you very much for the fatherly words, for taking time to listen.” It may have saddened the University with your leaving, but the good memories you have left us will always be treasured. You will be missed, Sir Noel……

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A Memory from my Heart… Edith Andro, Career & Placement Officer Personally, I can never forget someone like Sir Noel Benitez. “He is one in a million” that I’ve known. I’ve shared every ups and downs of my life and he guided me to conquer it all. Every one knows that “He is the man” because of his undying care and kindness for everyone. And he showed me the true meaning of life, showed me how to handle everything and gives me strength to pass all the stones that might came thru. Of all the man that I’ve known he is the only man, friend, father that gave me knowledge to be a stronger person in my own way. Sir Noel Benitez, you’re memories will be staying here in life and heart forever…

From Lynn Cadorniga I had the challenging task of assembling all the testimonies for Sir Noel, who was much admired and deeply loved. I read them all with some heaviness of heart and a deep regret that he is no longer with us, because we all know that he could’ve done so much for the University. Sir Noel was to me a silent but strong presence in the University. Whenever I encountered him we would just exchange pleasantries but now at his passing those moments are cherished because he is no more. He was friendly/fatherly in his rapport with us girls at the Office of the President; you know his smile and greeting was from the heart. He was a person who embodied the ideal qualities of a husband, father, community leader, friend, boss and colleague. He was many things to many people. He really showed his true quality and I feel blessed to have encountered such a person in my life. Though he is sorely missed, we know his life’s work and personal example shines through and will endure.

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INTRODUCTORY RITES & GREETING: Commentator : Good morning, brothers and sisters in Christ. Today, the Philippine Women’s University and its Affiliate Schools for Men and Women offer this Eucharistic celebration for the eternal repose of the soul of our dear colleague VP for Institutional Operations, Campus Development and Resource Generation, Mr. Noel Benitez.





Let us all rise to welcome our main celebrant, Rev. Fr. Artemio Fabros, University Chaplain; Rev. Fr. Antonio Lazaro, Jr., PWU JASMS Quezon City Chaplain; Rev. Fr. Paul Marquez of the Society of St. Paul as homilist; Rev. Msgr. Jose Clemente F. Ignacio, Rector/Pastor of the Minor Basilica of the Black Nazarene/ St. John the Baptist; Rev. Fr. Ramon Merino and Rev. Fr. Rolando Garcia Jr. of San Carlos Seminary as concelebrants. Let us join the PWU Chorale in singing the Entrance Song.

ENTRANCE SONG: CANTICORUM JUBILATE : In the Name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Celebrant All : Amen. Celebrant : The grace and peace of God, who raised Jesus from the dead, be always with you. All : And also with you. PENITENTIAL RITE Celebrant : Gathered us together in offering this Holy Mass to reflect the Paschal Mystery of Jesus. Today, in one voice, we offer our dear NOEL to God for his eternal repose. Unworthy as we are, let us ask God’s mercy and forgiveness, to make this Eucharistic celebration worthy. All : I confess to Almighty God, and to you, my brothers and sisters, that I have sinned through my own fault in my thoughts and in my words, in what I have done, and in what I have failed to do; and I ask blessed Mary, every virgin, all the angels and saints, and you, my brothers and sisters to pray for me to the Lord our God. Celebrant : May almighty God have mercy on us, forgive us our sins, and bring us to everlasting life.

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KYRIE Celebrant All Celebrant All Celebrant All Celebrant All



: Lord Jesus, you raise the dead to life in the Spirit: Lord, have mercy. : Lord, have mercy. : Lord Jesus, you bring pardon and peace to the sinner: Christ, have mercy. : Christ, have mercy. : Lord Jesus, you bring light to those in darkness: Lord, have mercy. : Lord, have mercy. : May Almighty God have mercy on us, forgive us our sins, and bring us to everlasting life. : Amen.

OPENING PRAYER Celebrant : Let us pray. Almighty God, our Father, it is our certain faith that your Son, who died on the cross was raised from the dead, the firstfruits of all who have fallen asleep. Grant that through this mystery your servant NOEL who has gone to his rest in Christ, may share in the joy of his resurrection. We ask this through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God, for ever and ever. All : Amen.

LITURGY OF THE WORD First Reading: Revelation 21:1-5a, 6b-7 Areading from the Book of Revelation: I, John, saw a new heaven and a new earth. The former heaven and the former earth had passed away, and the sea was no more. I also saw the holy city, a new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband. I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, “Behold, God’s dwelling is with the human race. He will dwell with them and they will be his people and God himself will always be with them as their God. He will wipe every tear from their eyes, and there shall be no more death or mourning, wailing or pain, for the old order has passed away.” The One who sat on the throne said, “Behold, I make all things new. I am the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end. To the thirsty I will give a gift from the spring of life-giving water. The victor will inherit these gifts, and I shall be his God, and he will be my son.” The Word of the Lord. All



: Thanks be to God

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RESPONSORIAL PSALM: Psalm 23:1-3, 4, 5, 6 Response

: Though I walk in the valley of darkness, I fear no evil, for you are with me.

The Lord is my shepherd; there is nothing I shall want. In green pastures he gives me repose;Beside restful waters he leads me; he refreshes my soul. Response He guides me in the right path for his name’s sake.Even when I walk in the dark valley, I fear no evil; for you are at my side;With your rod and your staff that give me courage. Response You spread the table before me in the sight of my foes;You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows. Response Only goodness and kindness follow me all the days of my life;And I shall dwell in the house of the Lord for years to come. Response Second Reading: Rom 3-4.8 Are you unaware that we who were baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into his death? We were indeed buried with him through baptism into death, so that, just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, we too might live in newness of life. If, then, we have died with Christ, we believe that we shall also live with him. We know that Christ, raised from the dead, dies no more; death no longer has power over him. The Word of the Lord. All



: Thanks be to God

Alleluia (sung) Commentator : If we die with Christ we shall live with him, and if we are faithful to the end, we shall reign with him. Gospel Reading: John 11-17-27 Celebrant All

: The Lord be with you. : And also with you.

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: A reading from the Holy Gospel according to John. : Glory to you, O Lord.

Celebrant : When Jesus arrived in Bethany, he found Lazarus had already been in the tomb for four days. Now Bethany was near Jerusalem, only about two miles away. Many of the Jews had come to Martha and Mary to comfort them about their brother. When Martha heard that Jesus was coming, she went to meet him; but Mary sat at home. Martha said to Jesus, “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died. But even now I know that whatever you ask of God, God will give you.” Jesus said to her, “Your brother will rise.” Martha said to him, “I know he will rise, in the resurrection on the last day.” Jesus told her, “I am the resurrection and the life; whoever believes in me, even if he dies, will live, and everyone who lives and believes in me will never die. Do you believe this? She said to him, “Yes, Lord. I have come to believe that you are the Christ, the Son of God, the one who is coming into the world.”

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: Praise to you Lord Jesus Christ. REV. FR. PAUL MARQUEZ, SSP

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: My dear friends, let us join with one another in praying to God, not only for our departed brother NOEL but also for the Church, for peace in the world, and for ourselves. That the bishops and priests of the Church, and all who preach the Gospel, may be given the strength to express in action the word they proclaim. We pray to the Lord as we say: Lord, hear our prayer.

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: The family and friends of NOEL seek comfort and consolation. Heal their pain and dispel the darkness and doubt that come from grief. We ask you, Lord: : Lord, hear our prayer.

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: That God may call him to happiness in the company of all the saints, we pray : Lord, hear our prayer.

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: That God may welcome into his glory those of our family and friends, who have departed this life, we pray. : Lord, hear our prayer.

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: In baptism, NOEL received the light of Christ. Scatter the darkness now and lead him over the waters of death. In your mercy, Lord, hear our prayer. : Lord, hear our prayer. : Our brother NOEL was nourished at the table of the Savior. Welcome him into the halls of the heavenly banquet. We ask you, Lord:. : Lord, hear our prayer. : Many friends and members of our families, in particular Mama B and Daddy B and other members of their families have gone before us and await the kingdom. Grant them an everlasting home with your Son. We ask you, Lord: : Lord, hear our prayer. : Many people die by violence, war, and famine each day. Show your mercy to those who suffer so unjustly these sins against your love, and gather them to the eternal kingdom of peace. We ask you, Lord: : Lord, hear our prayer.

: Lord God, giver of peace and healer of souls, hear the prayers of the Redeemer, Jesus Christ, and the voices of your people, whose lives were purchased by the blood of the Lamb. Forgive the sins of all who sleep in Christ and grant them a place in the kingdom. We ask this through Christ our Lord. : Amen.

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LITURGY OF THE EUCHARIST OFFERTORY SONG: LOVE IS THE ANSWER Preparation of the Gifts: Celebrant : Blessed are you, Lord, God of all creation. Through your goodness we have this bread to offer, which earth has given and human hands have made. It will become for us the bread of life. All : Blessed be God forever. Celebrant

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: By the mystery of this water and wine may we come to share in the divinity of Christ, who humbled himself to share in our humanity.Blessed are you, Lord, God of all creation. Through your goodness we have this wine to offer, fruit of the vine and work of human hands. It will become our spiritual drink. : Blessed be God forever. : Lord God, we ask you to receive us and be pleased with the sacrifice we offer you with humble and contrite hearts. Lord, wash away my iniquity; cleanse me from my sin.Pray, brethren, that our sacrifice may be acceptable to God, the almighty Father. : May the Lord accept the sacrifice at your hands for the praise and glory of his name, for our good, and the good of all his Church.

Prayer Over the Gifts: Celebrant : Lord, receive the gifts we offer for the salvation of NOEL. May Christ be merciful in judging our brother NOEL for he believed in Christ as his Lord and Savior. We ask this through Christ our Lord. : Amen. All PREFACE Celebrant All

: The Lord be with you. : And also with you.

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: Lift up your hearts. : We lift them up to the Lord. : Let us give thanks to the Lord our God. : It is right to give Him thanks and praise.

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: Father, all-powerful and every-lasting God, we do well always and everywhere to give you thanks through Jesus Christ our Lord.

In him, who rose from the dead, our hope of resurrection dawned. The sadness of death gives way to the bright promise of immortality.

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Lord, for your faithful people life is changed. not ended. When the body of our earthly dwelling lies in death we gain an everlasting dwelling place in heaven. And so, with all the choirs of angels in heaven we proclaim your glory and join in their unending hymn of praise. SANCTUS: SANTO, SANTO, SANTO (sung) EUCHARISTIC PRAYER : Lord, you are holy indeed, the fountain of all holiness. Celebrant Let your Spirit come upon these gifts to make them holy, so that they may become for us the body and blood of our Lord, Jesus Christ. Before he was given up to death, a death he freely accepted, he took bread and gave you thanks. He broke the bread, gave it to his disciples, and said: TAKE THIS, ALL OF YOU, AND EAT IT: THIS IS MY BODY WHICH WILL BE GIVEN UP FOR YOU. When supper was ended, he took the cup. Again he gave you thanks and praise, gave the cup to this disciples, and said: TAKE THIS, ALL OF YOU, AND DRINK FROM IT: THIS IS THE CUP OF MY BLOOD, THE BLOOD OF THE NEW AND EVERLASTING COVENANT. IT WILLBE SHED FOR YOU AND FOR ALL SO THAT SINS MAY BE FORGIVEN. DO THIS IN MEMORY OF ME. Celebrant

: Let us proclaim the mystery of faith.

MEMORIALACCLAMATION: Si Kristo ay namatay … (sung) Celebrant

: In memory of his death and resurrection, we offer you, Father, this life-giving bread, this saving cup. We thank you for counting us worthy to stand in your presence and serve you. May all of us who share in the body and blood of Christ be brought together in unity by the Holy Spirit. Lord, remember your Church throughout the world; Make us grow in love, together with Benedict XVI, our Pope, Gaudencio, our bishop, and all the clergy.

Remember NOEL whom you have called from this life. In baptism he died with Christ: may he also share his resurrection. Remember our brothers and sisters who have gone to their rest in the hope of rising again; bring them and all the departed into the light of your presence. Have mercy on us all; make us worthy to share eternal life with Mary, the virgin mother of God, with the apostles, and with all the saints who have done your will throughout the ages. May we praise you in union with them, and give you glory through your Son, Jesus Christ.

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Through him, with him, in him, in the unity of the Holy Spirit, all glory and honor is yours, almighty Father, forever and ever. All



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COMMUNION RITE THE LORD’S PRAYER Celebrant

: With longing for the coming of God’s kingdom, let us pray:

AMA NAMIN (sung) : Deliver us Lord, from every evil, and grant us peace in our day. In your mercy, keep Celebrant us free from sin and protect us from all anxiety as we awaits in joyful hope for the coming of Our Savior Jesus Christ. All : (with hands raised) For the kingdom, the power and the glory are yours, now and forever. Amen. SIGN OF PEACE Celebrant : Lord Jesus Christ, you said to your apostles: I leave you peace, my peace I give you. Look not on our sins but on the faith of your Church, and grant us peace and unity of your kingdom where you live for ever and ever. All : Amen. Celebrant All

: The peace of the Lord be with you always. : And also with you.

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: Let us offer each other the sign of peace.

BREAKING OF THE BREAD LAMB OF GOD: KORDERO NG DIYOS … (sung) Celebrant : May this mingling of the body and blood of our Lord Jesus Christ bring eternal life to us who receive it. Lord Jesus Christ, with faith in your love and mercy I eat your body and drink your blood. Let it not bring me condemnation, but health in mind and body. COMMUNION : This is the Lamb of God who takes away the sins of the world. Celebrant Happy are those who are called to his supper. All : Lord I am not worthy to receive you but only say the word and I shall be healed. Celebrant

: May the body and blood of Christ bring me to everlasting life.

COMMUNION ANTIPHON Celebrant : Lord, may I receive these gifts in purity of heart. May they bring me healing and strength, now and for ever. COMMUNION SONG: HOW GREAT THOU ART PRAYER AFTER COMMUNION Celebrant : Lord God, your Son Jesus Christ gave us the sacrament of his body and blood to guide us on our pilgrim way to your kingdom. May our brother, NOEL who shared in the Eucharist, come to the banquet of life Christ has prepared for us. We ask this through Christ our Lord. All



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Commentator : We shall now have the Necrological Service with Mrs. Olivia M. Villafuerte, Director, Alumni Relations, Presiding NECROLOGICAL SPEAKERS



Atty. Theuntheth Javier Ms. Ma. Loreto Lopez Naomi Isabelle Saguil Dr. Dolores Baja Lasán Dr. Amelou Benitez Reyes Mr. Marco M. Benitez

Assistant Vice President, Corporate and Legal Affairs SM Investment Corporation Director for Development & Logistical Statistics Philippine Women’s College of Davao JASMS Manila Grade IV Student PWU Chancellor, on behalf of the University University President, on behalf of the Family Response

Intermission Song: AMAZING GRACE CONCLUDING RITES FINAL COMMENDATION AND FAREWELL Celebrant : Let us continue praying for our brother NOEL. May our last farewell express our affection for him; may it ease our sadness and strengthen our hope. One day we shall joyfully greet him again when the love of Christ, which conquers all things, destroys even death itself. SONGS OF FAREWELL (Priests bless the urn with holy water, followed by the members of the family, relatives and friends) SONG: NEARER TO THEE SOLEMN BLESSING AND DISMISSAL Celebrant All

: The Lord be with you. : And also with you.

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: May almighty God bless you, the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. : Amen.

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: Go in peace and hope for the resurrection of our brother NOEL. : Thanks be to God.

RECESSIONAL SONG: THE LORD BLESS YOU

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V. Do not remember my sins, O Lord R. When you come to judge the world by fire. V. Direct my way in your sight, O Lord My God. R. When you come to judge the world by fire. V. Give Noel eternal rest, O Lord, and may your light shine on him forever. R. When you come to judge the world by fire. V. Lord have mercy. R. Christ, have mercy. Lord have mercy. Our Father… V. And lead us not into temptation. R. But deliver us from evil. V. From the gates of Hell. R. Deliver Noel’s soul, O Lord. V. May he rest in peace. R. Amen. V. Lord, hear my prayer. R. And let my cry come to you. V. The Lord be with you. R. And also with you. Let us pray. Lord, welcome into your presence your son Noel whom you have called from this life. Release him from all his sins, bless him with eternal light and peace, raise him up to live forever with all your saints in the glory of the resurrection. We ask this through Jesus Christ our Lord. R. Amen. V. Give Noel eternal rest, O Lord. R. And may our light shine on him forever. V. May he rest in peace. R. Amen. V. May his soul and the souls of all the faithful departed through the mercy of God rest in peace. R. Amen.

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Prayer of the Faithful

Novena Prayer for Noel Benitez

Leader: Dear friends, we are gathered to pray to God for our deceased brother, Noel. Let us not forget to pray also for the church, for peace in the world, and for ourselves, and let us say to him; Lord of mercy, hear our prayer. All: Lord of mercy, hear our prayer

To you, O Lord of Life and Death. We humbly, commend Noel. In this earthly life, you loved him with great love. Now that You have called him back, we are confident that he is fully alive and happy within Your sacred embrace.

L: For our brother Noel, that God may set him free from all the darkness and punishment; let us pray to the Lord. All: Lord of mercy, hear our prayer L: That the merciful God may forgive his every sin; let us pray to the Lord. All: Lord of mercy, hear our prayer L: That God may take him up forever into his own light and peace; let us pray to the Lord. All: Lord of mercy, hear our prayer L: That God may be his Happiness in the company of all the saints and give him the heavenly inheritance; let us pray to the Lord. All: Lord of mercy, hear our prayer L: For all our deceased relatives and friends and for those who were good to us in any way that God may welcome them into the light of His presence; let us pray to the Lord. All: Lord of mercy, hear our prayer L: Lord our God, Creator and Redeemer of all your holy people have mercy on our deceased brother Noel. In his human weakness, your forgiving kindness was always his strength. Hear our prayers and grant him Your unconditional pardon. We ask You this through Christ Our Lord. All: Amen.

We pray for our beloved Noel. During his quiet celebration of life, he was a source of great faith, devotion and strength. He was truly a holy man. We love him dearly and will miss him greatly. We remember in prayer the members of his family, who are most in sorrow at this time. Support them with your Holy Spirit and grant them the courage to embrace the mystery of death as a part of the plan of life. Gracious Lord, as we remember the passing away of Noel, make us mindful of our death by being grateful for our life each day, by living a good and holy life and by loving and serving You our God, with all our heart and strength. Leader: Lord of compassion, we lift up to Your Divine Heart Noel. All: We ask that you grant him eternal peace in the perpetual company of Your Saints. L: May he rest in peace. All: Amen L: And may his soul and souls of all the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace. All: Amen. Our Father…. (Sprinkling of holy water by priest and family members)

L: Give Noel eternal rest, O Lord. All: And may Your light shine on him forever. L: May all the faithful departed rest in peace All: Amen.

Remembering Noel: A PWU Tribute is published by the Office of the Chancellor and Vice President for Academic Affairs, Research and Publications of the Philippine Women’s University Design and Layout: Lynn Cadorniga / Vivian Mangahas Editorial: Ms. Rexi Cruz With thanks for photos from Ms. Lorna Alvarez Salutal, the Multimedia Office; and the personal collections of Ms. Suzie Moya-Benitez, Marton Benitez and Dr. Amelou Benitez Reyes

When I am gone release me, Let me go— I have so many things to see and do. You mustn’t tie yourself to me with tears. Be happy that we had so many beautiful years. I gave to you my love, You can only guess how much you gave me in happiness. Thank you for love that each has shown, But now it’s time I traveled on alone, So grieve for me a while if you must, Then let your grief be comforted by trust. It’s only for a while that we must part, So bless the memories within your heart. I won’t be far away, for life goes on, So if you need me, call and I will come. Though you can’t see or touch me, I’ll be near. And if you listen with your heart, You’ll hear all my love around you soft and clear. And then, you must come this way alone, I’ll greet you with a smile and say: “Welcome home!”

Photograph by Tino Ley

A PWU Tribute This Memento is lovingly dedicated to the Benitez Family by the PWU Community