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We t a k e c a n c e r p e r s o n a l l y. Diagnosed with aggressive breast cancer at age 33, Jennifer Howle is extremely grateful that McLeod was there with the step-by-step care and support she needed. Every member of the staff went above and beyond to be helpful, with the McLeod Breast Health Specialist taking the lead to coordinate her unique clinical, educational and support needs. Just a phone call away 24 hours a day, she ensured that all of Jennifer’s questions were answered and presented her case to the McLeod Cancer Conference Board, which collectively recommended an individualized treatment plan for Jennifer. “I’ve got my life and I’m able to take care of my kids,” says Jennifer. “That’s all that matters to me.”

For more information contact the McLeod Breast Health Center Monday through Friday at (843) 777-5418 or log onto www.McLeodBreastHealth.org anytime and click on the “Ask the Breast Health Specialist” button.

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“Florence Doctor Regrets Unfortunate Mistake...” An open letter to the community... Dear Friend, Many of you have heard I will be admitting a mistake in this letter today. You’ve heard right, it’s time to fess up. Working as a doctor here in Florence, I’ve taken care of hundreds of people. All throughout that time I’ve kept my secret. But now, as I’ve started to come clean, instead of an investigation or a local uproar, my patients are relieved. They understand, and people are still coming to my office. I’m going to tell you what I’m admitting and what I regret, but I want to give you some background first. Life was going great and I was having the time of my life, but then it happens: something turns my world upside down. Out of the blue, I developed a painful back condition. A pain in my back and hips that caused so much pain that I couldn’t stand up or put on my pants. The pain was so bad I was afraid that I wouldn’t be able to play with my children. There were even times I couldn’t bend over to tie my own shoes! I’d seen people that had back surgery, and that was out of the question. I finally came to my senses and went to see a doctor. The doctor did an exam, took some x-rays, and then adjusted my spine. Oh did I mention this doctor was a chiropractor? The adjustment didn’t hurt, it actually felt good. I got relief and I could stand again, most importantly I was able to play with my children again. It worked so well that I am proud to be a chiropractor today. I am not a miracle worker Oh, and about the mistake and the regrets I promised to tell you about. Here it is: People tell me I’m a “miracle worker” because

before they came to see me (often) nobody else could help them. I used to swell with pride when I heard that kind of thing, but as time goes on something has become very clear to me: I’m not a miracle worker. It’s a mistake to let people think I am. It’s the body that holds the miracle. I just remove nerve interference, and the body does the rest. The body is constantly striving to heal and to be well. When nerve interference is removed, the body has a greater chance to heal. I should have made this abundantly clear to all my patients. I regret that I haven’t because the distinction is important. So I admit it, we get great results, but I don’t deserve the praise. The praise goes to the creator and this wonderful body. My patients come to me with headaches, problems like: migraines, chronic pain, neck pain, shoulder or arm pain, whiplash from car accidents, backaches, carpal tunnel syndrome, ear infections, asthma, allergies, numbness in the limbs, and more. Here’s what some of my patients had to say:

“I had headaches almost everyday of my life for years; Dr. Strickland put an end to that in a few adjustments!”- (D. Kirkland-Florence. SC) “I suffered with chronic pain for over 25 years. I tried numerous different treatments including medication, physical therapy, and even surgery. A friend of mine told me about Dr. Strickland. With his help, I am now able to sleep through the night. Thanks to my friend and Dr. Strickland”(H. Davis, Timmonsville, SC) “I couldn’t sit, stand, or even lie down without pain. After a couple of visits, my low back and leg pain are gone!” (K. Turner-Florence, SC) But, as I’ve said, it is not ‘me’ that cures them of these afflictions. Here is why making this

distinction is so important. People are taught from a very young age that “health comes from the outside.” Some people actually believe that the answers to health always comes in the form of a pill. I believe that health is an inside-out process. Our bodies are designed to be self-healing. What I do as a chiropractor works with the body, and not against it. That’s why the results are so profound. I know I need to do a better job in the future telling people that. In so many cases they don’t need to be slaves to drugs. I need to get that message out to more people. I admit I made a mistake in not doing it sooner. It is time to make the correction. Third Leading Cause of Death The present state of our Nation’s Health is appalling. Much of that is due to our faith in pills and not taking responsibility for our health. We wait for a crisis and often it’s too late. We are so brainwashed into believing that the only way to health is through pills. We have become a nation of pill-poppers and people who don’t want to accept responsibility for our health. What is the result? It’s not good. The world Health Organization recently completed a study of unhealthiest countries in which the U.S. ranked a horrible 37 out of 39. This is a startling statistic considering the U.S. is equipped with the most modern

technology and probably some of the finest Doctors. So you’ve got to ask yourself… Are drugs and technology really the answer? On July 2008 The Journal of the American Medical Association reported that, according to John Hopkins, medication errors are the third leading cause of death in the U.S. Is the medical establishment bad? No! But why not consider safe and effective alternatives? Our Offer to You My name is Dr. Stewart Sherman of Advantage Health & Wellness Center. I believe that you shouldn’t have to get a loan from the bank to afford good health care. When you call and make an appointment to see me before November 27, 2009 you will receive my entire exam, (yes with x-rays also), for just $27. You should call right away, this offer won’t last long. Debbie and Kristin are my wonderful assistants and they will probably be the ones who answer your call. So call us at 843-669-1010. Give us an opportunity to try and help you! God Bless, Dr. Stewart Sherman, D.C. P.S. If you would like your spouse or child to come along with you, we will see them for just $10 extra. We won’t make you wait hours to be seen either. Your time is as valuable as ours that is why we have a no-waiting policy. You will be seen within minutes of your appointment.

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November is National Hospice Month! LifeCare Hospice of SC offers a special way of caring for patients facing a life-threatening illness. Patient care is provided by a team-oriented approach that includes expert pain and symptom management, along with emotional and spiritual support tailored to the patient's wishes. LifeCare nurses are trained Pain Resource Nurses and our Patient Care Coordinator is certified in hospice and palliative care. Our staff is dedicated to the belief that no one should reach the end of their life alone, afraid or in pain, and that people of all ages, all races, and all religious beliefs have the right to appropriate end-of-life care. LifeCare Hospice of SC serves Chesterfield, Darlington, Dillon, Florence, Lee, Marion, and Marlboro Counties. LifeCare Hospice is currently undergoing the accreditation process because we believe in providing the highest quality of hospice care to those individuals needing our care. November 12: “Autumn and Art” Business After Hours at the Black Creek Arts Council on College Ave. in Hartsville from 5:30 p.m. – 7:00 p.m. You are invited to drop in for some fall flavors and learn more about LifeCare Hospice! This event is sponsored by The Hartsville Chamber of Commerce and LifeCare Hospice. November 16-20: Stop by First Citizens Bank on Home Avenue in Hartsville to register for door prizes and pick up more information on LifeCare Hospice.

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In Every Issue 14

Letter from the Editor

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Style File

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In His Own Words David Sides

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Shop Talk Drs.Welch & Bonds, P.A.

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Wee She Gracelynn Ann Parks

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Chicks of the Month Clinical Services Staff at Regency Hospital in Florence

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TWIN Honorees Kim Davis Cathy Mogy Patricia Ann Hewitt Jerry Whitehead Wanda DuBose James

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There She Goes

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What Advertisers Say Seegars Fence Company

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She’s Closet

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Melodie Griffin Old School Remarkable

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Cookie Cawthon Sunshine State of Mind

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Mary R. Dittman, MBA Mary Unmarried

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Paige Thomas Many Women Do Noble Things

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Anna K. Pitts Counting Blessings

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Wings for the Spirit Sherry S. Page Atkinson

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Ferebe Gasque Reflecting on the Extraordinary

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Ouida K. Page, RN, LPC The Second Act

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The World According to Charisse Reichenbach

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Jumana A. Swindler The Optimist & The Pessimist

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Melia Flowers Berry The Empty Seat

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She Wants to Know

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Marti Miller Birds of a Feather

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And She Cooks,Too!

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Chick Lit Jan McKenzie

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Campus Chick Emerald Owens

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Annie at Home

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The Sir-Vey

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Beauty Buzz

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Fabulous Finds

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Who’s That Girl? Lauren Grice

J. Marshall Dent, III, MD The Cancer We Don’t Talk About

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Lea Pritchard-Boone, PhD How to Raise a Go-Getter

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Andrei Talantov, MD The Impact of Diabetes

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One of the many things about me that drives my family crazy is my love for paint. I love to change the color of paint in my house – quite often. Even so, my bedroom has been the same color for three years now. I realize that may seem normal to most people; but, if you love paint and you love to change things up like me, then you understand that the cactus green that once seemed so perfect is now living on borrowed time. Truthfully, the thrill was over about a year ago, but I just haven’t been able to find the time to sever the relationship. It takes time to pick out just the right shade of paint. Like the cactus green that I’m about to replace, for example. I must have looked through a hundred shades of green before settling on that perfect one. Now, I want to paint my room a shade of blue, but it’s not that simple. The color I’m looking for is a sultry blue, bordering on a light teal with a hint of green undertones. Not enough that you would ever call it green, though; I’ve done the green thing. The color I want is serene and warm. I can’t explain it; but, I knew that when I saw it, I’d know that it was the perfect color. After a painstaking process that took weeks, I finally did find my new color. A trip to the paint store yielded a handful of paint samples. I’m ashamed to say that I took so many samples, I felt as if the store alarm was going to sound when I walked through the exit doors. I was truly ashamed and consoled my conscience by telling myself that I would return the samples once I found my color. (Okay, I haven’t returned them; but, I do intend to. Really!) The thing is this; the more I looked at the samples, the harder it became to make a choice. Every color looked so pretty. I wanted to choose every one I looked at. While choosing the feature stories for November’s issue, “REMARKABLE WOMEN,” I found myself under a similar stress. Several months ago, after announcing this month’s theme, I began receiving a vast amount of letters and e-mails in response to my request for “REMARKABLE WOMEN.” Every single letter represented a woman that I very much wanted to feature. As well as your recommendations, my head was filled with women whom I know personally and wanted to tell you about. There is my own REMARKABLE mother; my spiritual mentor, Ms. Bobby Croft, a strong woman of faith, a prayer warrior and confidant; my friend, Debby Jordan, who raised a family, worked as a teacher and served her church while taking care of her mother and disabled sister; and the list continues. My life is enriched with so many REMARKABLE WOMEN that I could fill an issue – or two – with them alone. So, what’s an Editor to do? So many REMARKABLE WOMEN, so little room. With every inch of desk space covered in prospects, and every prospective woman looking as pretty as those paint chips, I began to pull together the REMARKABLE WOMEN that you will read about in this issue. When I finally made my decision for the paint, I put the unchosen samples in a box and refused to let myself look at them again for fear I would change my mind and start the process over. Likewise, I put the letters of the stories of women that I could not tell in this issue in a folder so I wouldn’t be tempted to second-guess myself. Just as my conscience gnawed at me when I took so many paint chips, that little police-of-the-soul kept calling to me from the folder that held the stack of REMARKABLE WOMEN. I quieted that voice by vowing to tell the stories of the other women in future issues of She – and I will do just that. Look for them in the “IN EVERY ISSUE” features,“SHEROES” and “WOMEN AT WORK.” So, if you wrote to tell me about a REMARKABLE WOMAN, hold that thought. She will not be forgotten. You may be asking, “What was the criterion for being a REMARKABLE WOMAN?” For this issue, I looked for women who make a difference in the lives of others – at home and in their communities. Sometimes, they made the difference quietly and behind the scenes. Sometimes, they did it boldly. But, always, they made the difference unselfishly. In this issue, I also wanted to recognize women entrepreneurs. As the owner of She Magazine, I know first-hand the degree of true grit it takes to start and run a business. More women than ever before are taking on this challenge and showing they have what it takes to succeed. I’m so very proud to tell you that among She Magazine’s very own regular advertisers, we have over 70 women-owned businesses! We salute these REMARKABLE WOMEN who, through their advertising support, make this magazine possible and fuel our local economy. You see their ads almost every month in She. Now, you’ll see their faces in a special section recognizing women-owned businesses, beginning on page 115. November is also a month for counting our blessings and giving thanks. I would certainly be remiss if I neglected to acknowledge the REMARKABLE WOMEN that make up the staff of She Magazine. I am blessed with the greatest job on earth. Knowing that I serve the God of Mercy, Who holds from me that which I do deserve, His wrath; and gives graciously to me what I do not deserve, His love; I still ask myself quite often, “What did I ever do to deserve this?” For whatever reason – and one that I am not to question – He has put me here and surrounded me with six REMARKABLY talented and devoted women. And, as if that were not enough, He blessed this magazine (and me) with thousands of loyal readers. My heart is overflowing with gratitude. Can it get any better than this? Enjoy this issue . . . It’s a very REMARKABLE woman thing!

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1. J. Marshall Dent, MD is Board Certified in Family Practice & Obstetrics and Gynecology and also holds an Advanced Certification in Menopausal Medicine. He can be contacted at Complete Women’s Health Care in Florence.

10. Anna Pitts lives in Florence, SC. She is currently pursuing her career as a School Library Media Specialist and loving every minute of the journey! Anna is also a contributing writer for She Magazine.

2. Lea Pritchard Boone, PhD is the mother of Dalton (3) and wife to Austin. Lea Pritchard-Boone is wife to Austin and mother to Dalton (4). A Clinical Psychologist in private practice, she focuses primarily on treating children, adolescents and families.

11. Cookie Cawthon is wild about her family. She totally digs serving as a greeter at NewSpring Church every week, and she flat out loves reading, writing, speaking, teaching, and blogging www.cookiecawthon.com.

3. Joe Griffin,, DMD graduated from the Medical University of SC in Charleston with an advanced dental degree. He has volunteered his time with Mercy Medicine, the home for unwed mothers, prison ministry and Dentistry from the Heart as well as producing a public service announcement with Sheriff Kenney Boone titled, “Talk to Your Kids About Drugs”. This month, he is our guest writer in THE BEAUTY BUZZ (page 134).

12. Jumana Swindler, a resident of Florence, is the Director of Marketing and Public Relations for McLeod Health. Her personal favorite pastimes, reflected in her writings, are RV'ing, movies,Theater, fishing, reading and spending time with her son and family.

4. Paige Thomas lives in Florence with her husband, Joey, and two Sheltie pups. She has three grown sons and four stepchildren. She also writes for She Magazine. 5. Ouida K Page is a Licensed Professional and National Board Certified Counselor with a Bachelor’s Degree in Nursing and is a member of the International Honor Society of Nursing. She has been in private practice for over 15 years, specializing in families and issues relating to children, adolescents and women of all ages. She also writes for She . She is married and has one son. 6.. Melodie Griffin is a public speaker, a writer, a musician and a homemaker. She is a master communicator who makes the truth of God’s Word come alive...leading to changed lives.To inquire about having her speak at your next event, visit www.melodiegriffin.com 7.

Marti Miller moved to Marion, SC in 2006 and now considers herself

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She continues to be one of the many wonderful highlights of her moving south. Faith is first, but Shewriting is definitely in the top ten list of things that bring her joy.The palmetto bugs, however, did not make the list. 8. Sherry Page Atkinson lives in Marion with her husband, Jimmy. Those wishing to contact her may do so at the following address: 6526 South Highway 41 or you may e-mail her at: [email protected]. 9. Ferebe Gasque is honored to be the Music Therapist at McLeod Hospice House where she works with survivors and their families who continue to fight cancer and other end of life issues. She is privileged to be a part of the Tuesday night Just for Women Bible Study group which meets in Florence at First Presbyterian Church. Ferebe also encourages her friends and fans to contact her regarding Pampered Chef products. She can be reached at [email protected]

13. Allie Atkinson is a French teacher at Marion High School. She lives in Marion with her husband, Philip, and daughter, Abbie.

Artist Spotlight 14. Ashley Rogers is a Graphic Designer for She Magazine. She is a Francis Marion University Alumni holding a B.A. in Visual Arts with a specialty in Graphic Design. She and her husband, William have two beautiful children, Brock William (2) and Lexi Brooke (1). This month’s cover is an acrylic painting she created especially for She Magazine. She is available for art commissions and can be reached at 843.433.0658 15. Ricky Ford is a wedding and children photographer out of marion sc. He says, “ Photography is an art to me and I want every image that I take to be timeless. I owe everything to my Lord and Saviour, Jesus Christ and I try each and everyday to make him smile down on me.” Ricky’s work is featured in this issue of She in a photo shoot for the feature stories. 843.617.0147 • www.rickiford.com 16. Liz Odom has always had a passion for photography and feels blessed to be able to do what she loves on a regular basis. She has a four year art degree from Anderson University, Anderson, SC and now lives in Florence with her husband and two children with another one on the way. Drawing, graphic arts, and music are other things that Liz loves. 843.679.9759 or 843.260.2641• www.lizodomphotography.buggleitz.com 17. Collin Smith is a portrait and wedding photographer based out of Florence. In 2009, he launched the $100 Portrait Project to fulfill a business-long goal of his to be able to give back to the community. This program donates 50% of its revenue to the Children’s Miracle Network and stays in the Florence area. He is the man behind the creative photos in the CYNTHIA ads. Visit Collin’s website for more information at: cmsmithportraits.com

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OLD SCHOOL

Remarkable

I have a theory. My theory is that people who are remarkable don’t usually have a clue that they are remarkable. Their utter “remarkableness” seems astounding to bystanders, but to themselves, it just seems like the norm. I have often heard heroes lauded and hailed for their courage, only to respond with, “Shucks, I was just doing what anyone else would have done!” Right.What anyone else would have done.Anyone who is remarkable, that is. I wonder if the remarkable women in the Bible knew that they were noteworthy at the time. Let’s glance at a few of these girls to see what made them tick. As I see it, a remarkable woman is… BRAVE – Queen Esther knew all about bravery, though I doubt she ever enrolled in an online course to further her studies. The need for bravery was simply thrust upon her. From an arranged marriage to the king of Susa to her moment on the world’s stage when she saved her people, the Jews, from complete annihilation – Esther was one brave chick. She never asked for this assignment, but she couldn’t stand back and do nothing. Brave women step up and do the right thing, even when it is difficult.

CREATIVE – Remember our soccer mom, Jochebed? No? You mean you didn’t name your firstborn daughter after her? Jochebed gave birth to a Hebrew boy at a time when the children of Israel were slaves in Egypt. The Pharaoh was nervous about the rising numbers of the Israelites and decided to have all newborn sons murdered. I cannot even imagine Jochebed’s anguish, knowing that the little legs kicking within her were destined for death if they belonged to a boy. Those little

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legs belonged to a son who would be called “Moses” and desperate times called for creative measures. As you may know, Jochebed crafted a floating bassinet from papyrus and said “bon voyage.” Can you even imagine? Jochebed’s protective mother instinct sparked creativity that saved her son’s very life – a life that went on to rescue his people from slavery. Creative women don’t always have a solution, but they trust God to empower them with innovative thoughts to get the job done.

PERSISTENT –

“If it was easy, everyone would do it. If at first you don’t succeed, try try again.” How true. After all, I am now on my 677th attempt at losing weight. But doggone it, I refuse to lie down and give up! I’m taking a lesson from a New Testament woman who was sick and tired of being sick and tired. Her twelve year battle with a bleeding disorder pushed her toward Jesus. The crowds following the Messiah were thick and loud.Toes were trampled. Shoulders were shoved. It didn’t matter to her. This moment might not pass by again, so she pressed in. If I can just touch the hem of His robe – just the hem – one touch – one touch! Healing came immediately with that one touch. Persistent women keep the victory in mind, even when people or circumstances attempt to knock them down. FOCUSED – I have three children and all were born via C-section, but I am still grateful for the Lamaze/Childbirth classes that I took. In fact, I still use one of the techniques when I am in pain or under stress. The instructor taught us to make use of a “focal point”. We were to pick an object somewhere in the room and gaze intently at it – shutting out all distractions.This helped us to push (literally!) toward the goal at hand. One particular woman in God’s Word had this technique down pat. It was her intention to anoint the feet of Jesus with luxurious perfume. She was determined to show her love and devo-

tion for this One who had revolutionized her tumultuous world. Onlookers scoffed and whispered. The disciples criticized. But she had her focal point. Eyes straight ahead on the Lover of her soul, and there was no stopping her. Focused women gaze at the prize that lies ahead, not letting anything veer them off course. Can you even imagine knowing that your act of bravery saved your people from annihilation? Or how about the relief and joy that one mother felt when she knew that the her wildly creative plan had floated her child to safety? Oh, the uncontainable praise that must have flowed from the woman who touched Heaven with her faith! And as for the gal whose focus remained clear in her mission for the Master – she finished well. Very well. Maybe these women had an inkling that they were remarkable. But maybe, just maybe, they were so enraptured with the remarkable God of the universe that all else paled in comparison.They were simply doing “what anyone else would have done.”

Melodie is a public speaker, writer, musician and homemaker.Visit www.melodiegriffin.com to inquire about having her come and share about the personalities at your next event.

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IN his OWN WORDS

DAVID SIDES With

the announcement in February 2006 that B.C. Moore’s was closing after 80-plus years, it was time to make some life-changing decisions. After twenty years of experience in Moore’s corporate advertising offices (many of those years as advertising director), advertising was all I knew. God actually planted the seed for TrueBlue Advertising in the fall of 2005. Moore’s Creative Director, Dale Davis, and I were traveling to Atlanta to meet with Pure Red Creative, the graphic design team Moore’s employed for their photo shoots. At one point during the long trip, Dale jokingly said, “You know, we could do the same thing these guys are doing. They’re Pure Red. We’ll be TrueBlue.” We laughed, and the subject was dropped. When we received the unexpected news about Moore’s closing, Dale reminded me of that conversation. Of course, there are ad agencies in Columbia and Greenville and Charleston, but Cheraw? Dale and I knew we had two choices: move to find employment or create our own employment. It didn’t take long to ponder our options. Cheraw was home for both our families, and this is where we wanted to live. With a combined total of thirty years’ experience managing the daily operation of our former employer’s multi-million dollar advertising program, creating an ad agency was a natural transition. From the beginning, God gave Dale and me a sense of peace about opening TrueBlue Advertising. And, the more we thought about it, we agreed that the name “TrueBlue” described the agency we aspired to become. If you haven’t looked up true blue in the dictionary lately, it’s someone that is genuine, faithful, honest and completely loyal to a belief. So, with lots of prayer and a leap of faith,TrueBlue Advertising was created. Since the beginning of this venture, God blessed us with a clear vision of what He wanted for TrueBlue. From the moment we peered through the mail slot at 236 Second Street, we knew we had found TrueBlue’s home. However, convincing our wives that this long-neglected building would eventually create “Ohhhhs!” and “Ahhhhs!” from our clients was a challenge. Time and time again, God’s faithfulness to transforming our dream to reality was nothing short of amazing. One story I enjoy sharing is how, through prayer, God provided two century-old windows to hang in our office. When I first found the windows, they were covered in white paint. Only after painstakingly scraping the painted panes was a light blue antique glass revealed – the perfect color for a place named TrueBlue. Of course, we were on an extremely tight budget. The renovation of the sanctuary at Dale’s church led him to go “dumpster diving” to retrieve the beautiful crown molding that graces our office. A discarded two-legged table waiting for the trash truck was used as the base for a wash tub, which became our unique bathroom sink. After five long months of renovations,TrueBlue officially opened its doors in December 2006. During the time before our official opening, we were also busy completing various projects. Our first big opportunity was working with the Town of Cheraw in launching the South Carolina Jazz Festival in October 2006. From developing the festival’s website to creating the pole banners lining the streets and designing the festival brochure and commemorative poster, that experience confirmed that a small rural ad agency can develop a first class event that rivals those of its big city neighbors. During the past four years, our focus has spanned from retail and health care to non-profits, financial institutions and local government in smallto-medium municipalities across the Carolinas. Whether it’s the

David Sides (left) and his TrueBlue partner, Dale Davis. development of a corporate identity or a fully-integrated marketing campaign, we’re here to serve our clientele. We have recently launched TrueBlue Print, which allows us to provide printing from a business card to a billboard. Being a small design agency, we have the ability to be very flexible with time and budget restraints. Dale and I believe everything must support the client’s brand identity and work together for maximum effectiveness. After all, you never get a second chance to make a great first impression. As small-town business owners, we understand the importance of being a good neighbor. Call it old-fashioned business practice, but we don’t see our clients simply as clients. Every new client is a neighbor. Ultimately, our goal is to genuinely help everyone that walks through our front door with their needs and provide the best of what we have to offer. Throughout the process, we strive to establish a long-lasting relationship – something that happens when value is provided and trust is established. Often, the smaller markets are overlooked and underserved. Dale and I believe the exact opposite should be taking place. With each client, we provide a personal approach by listening and understanding individual goals, then executing their marketing plan through fulfillment, from concept to delivery. We place our clients’ best interest as a priority, and we stand accountable to our clients for the trust they place in TrueBlue. Being based in a rural Southern setting allows us to understand firsthand the challenges our clients face to succeed in rural America. However, small town does not equal second rate. We believe that to survive in today’s business climate, each of our clients must remain competitive. And, through our expertise, we provide cutting-edge design and technology with every project. Above all, we believe everyone has a story that connects them to the world, and it’s our job to capture that story. Through branding, corporate identity, custom website design, print, direct mail, outdoor and electronic media, that message is communicated. These past four years have definitely been the most challenging of our lives, and with the current economy, we have fully put our trust in God. Dale and I have recently been reading a book by T. D. Jakes, and in one chapter, he states that God wrestles with each of us to discover what we are made of. Before, Dale and I wouldn’t have opted to lose wellpaying jobs and face the uncertainty of the past four years. But, now that we have survived, I honestly can say this has been a positive life-changing experience. After all, God is using this experience to transform Dale and me into the men He desires us to be. David Sides and his best friend and wife, Kathryn, have two incredible adult sons, Bartley and Davidson. They also have a beautiful daughter-in-law, Katy. David’s passions include seeking God’s will, reading motivational books and every genre of music. David and Kathryn enjoy leisurely drives in their red convertible under the Carolina blue skies.

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“For now, at this time in my life, I’m thankful that I have her example – and my memories.”

Many

Women Do Noble Things by Paige Thomas

My mom was a woman of many talents and gifts. When I look at her college annuals, her listing in the directory consists of a paragraph of all the things she accomplished, organizations in which she was involved and offices she held. As a young wife, she was involved in the community in Garden Clubs, Literary Clubs, Junior League, Scout Mom, and she was named our Florence Woman of the Year in the 60s. She was a born entertainer and loved to have people in her home and have parties – even wedding receptions at our house. She hosted receptions for her sister, my sisters and me when we married, not to mention all the parties in between. She agreed to put our home on the Christmas Tour one year, and my sisters and I – gladly and begrudgingly – entertained as the “Three Little Women.” There were many times we were called to host for events at our home. She was proud of it, especially since the design was partly her own. As I spent time with her through the years, I remember hours of working in the yard, helping her carefully plant bulbs and plants. She loved flowers of every kind. When she entertained others in our home, she would cut a few from our yard or a neighbor’s and make the prettiest arrangements. Maybe a natural talent – or one she learned from the Garden Club involvement – but she made beautiful and creative arrangements for all seasons. In the middle of all her activities, I remember as a child that my mom always took the time to teach me the little things – like how to catch fireflies or make mud pies (and she allowed me to cook them in her oven). She was tolerant of my love for caterpillars and the fact that I was not a girly-girl, but much more into bugs and books. My dresses had frogs and suspenders more than bows and lace. She could easily accommodate my preferences as she sewed many of our clothes herself when we were children. She even managed to make psychedelic pants for my brother when the style hit in the 70s. How I wish we still had some of those for nostalgia! In the years after the divorce of my parents, my mom discovered her talents in the business world. She began work as an Office Manager with my uncle and worked in that position for twenty years. At the same time, she owned and managed a retail store, which remained in our family for almost forty-five years. I worked for her in both of those environments, and while employees remember her as being tough at times, she had a sound business mind. She was fair, and she was able to look at the two different work environments for what they were, making decisions with concern and care.

What is most amazing to me is that she did these things while raising four children on her own. As I got older, my mom became my friend. I knew she would always be there for me. I could call anytime and count on her always. She also had a wonderful sense of humor, which I remember most vividly in her last years when dementia took over some of her memory. Most of us don’t come to appreciate all the things about our parents until later in life. But, when I take the time to reflect on it, I stand amazed. As Christians, we often turn to the Bible for instruction as to how we should live. When we think of the description of an extraordinary woman, we often read and quote Proverbs 31. As I read it again and began to write my thoughts and description of my mother, I realized that I was writing the 31st chapter of Proverbs in the 21st century. I guess I’ve been thinking about our relationship a lot lately as I am in the phase of my life when children grow up and leave home to be on their own. I’ve been reflecting on what I perceive to be my successes and failures and the things I wish I had done differently at times in their lives. Although my mom, in my eyes, was an amazing woman, things were not always good between us. We went through our struggles, disagreements and heartaches. There were times when I guess we didn’t really like each other and maybe some of the choices we had made. I think that’s a journey we all take, whether as children or parents. I’ve been wondering what my children will remember most about me when I’m gone and hoping that I can hold even half the special memories that I have of, and for, my mom. Proverbs 31:25-28, “She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed.” When my brother and sisters and I were trying to decide ten years ago what we wanted to place on our mother’s headstone as our memory to her, we all agreed on those words, “Her children arise and call her blessed.” I only wish she knew. With four very different experiences between us, we all saw her as an extraordinary woman. Proverbs goes on to express in verse 29 that, “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.” As I journey into a new phase of life, learning to have adult relationships with my children, my prayer is that God will lead and guide us. Unchartered territory can be frightening and even stressful. There are many times when I wish I could pick up the phone to call Mom and just talk. I know she would be there. For now, at this time in my life, I’m thankful that I have her example – and my memories.

Paige Thomas lives in Florence with her husband, Joey, and two Sheltie pups. She has three grown sons and four stepchildren. She works part-time as Business Administrator for the Francis Marion University Center for the Child, and she is currently licensed as a Realtor with Prudential Segars Realty in Florence.

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REFLECTING ON THE

extraordinary by Ferebe Gasque

Thanksgiving has always been one of my very favorite days of the year. While I’m always thankful for so many things,Thanksgiving Day holds so many precious memories in my life. This Thanksgiving, I am particularly thankful for God’s blessings during this transitional time in my life. I am so very grateful for the friends and experiences He has given me to remind me of His love and provision . . . always . . . no matter what. I could write a book. Perhaps one day I will. But, for now, I’ll try to contain myself to just one page. During this past year, I have reconnected with so many people from my past. It has been such a thrill to relive so many happy memories. Just a few weeks ago, I found my goddaughter whom I have not seen in twenty-nine years. When I was a volunteer with the Foreign Mission Board in Suriname, South America, I lived next door to a wonderful family. When the three year old was baptized, her mom asked me to stand as Jenna’s godmother. She said I was the strongest Christian she knew. I was so honored. About the same time, another little girl was born into the family. Much to my amazement, Ferebe was given as her middle name. We stayed in touch for a couple of years; but, time and busyness intervened and we never heard from each other again. Through FaceBook, I have found Jenna. I do not know who is more excited, she or I. My most recent blessing is my first grand-nephew, Duncan Brody Forbes, who was born on October 6, 2009. Unfortunately, he lives in the Houston area. Thanks to the miracles of electronic media, however, I was able to see a picture of him shortly after his birth. I can hardly wait to meet him, but he has already stolen my heart. Happy memories of Thanksgivings past fill my heart as I think of this month’s theme “Extraordinary Women.” Each year, our family would gather in Cottageville, a little village in the low country of South Carolina. There were seven siblings in my mother’s close-knit family. Most years, all but the youngest sister would gather at the home of the eldest sister to celebrate Thanksgiving and family. The youngest sister was married to an Air Force officer. So, her family’s attendance was dictated by their location. Some of the family would gather on Wednesday evening. We always arrived on Thursday morning after attending our annual Thanksgiving Morning service at First Baptist Church in Florence. There was always laughter and joy in Cottageville. The smells of the turkey and other traditional dishes, watching Uncle Elli peel oranges in one long strip without lifting his knife, knowing that I would never be able to sit at the big table unless I got married (and then only for the first year) - all those memories are so real I could almost walk into the picture and be right at home. The thought of Miley’s biscuits STILL makes my mouth water! So, why does Thanksgiving make me think of extraordinary women? There were so many of them in my mother’s family, led by my mother’s mother. However, on Thanksgiving, I think most of my mother’s eldest sister, the one with whom I am honored to share a name. This extraordinary woman was Ferebe Spears Cone. Neither time nor this page will allow me to explain the myriad things about her that made her extraordinary. She was born in 1908 and I don’t think she ever slowed down much until 2002, when she went to Heaven. Of course, she is probably organizing and training and encouraging others now, just in a new locale. After having graduated from Lamar High School, Ferebe Spears moved to the other side of Darlington County where she attended Coker College. Though she completed her coursework in 1929, she worked for two years in order to pay for her diploma. She graduated in 1931. In the mid-1930s, she boarded a train and traveled to New York City to pursue graduate studies in Social Work. Her amazing and extraordinary experiences had just begun. Returning home to South Carolina, she married Ellison Cone in September of 1941. The biblical directive of the two becoming one has never been more beautifully exemplified than through that union. Though they held different careers and had different responsibilities in life, to the world they were always “Ferebe-and-Ellison” and to the family they were always “Sister-and-Elli.” They never had children of their own, so they adopted all the nieces and nephews on both sides of the family. That was a great blessing for all of us.

They were very active in Cottageville Baptist Church. Uncle Elli was the church treasurer and a deacon. Sister was always at the helm of the Women’s Missionary Union and worked with the children and the youth. They both taught Sunday School and sang in the choir. Since Cottageville was such a small town, visitors to the church for revivals and other occasions always stayed at the Cone Bed and Breakfast. While Ellison kept the home fires burning by teaching in Walterboro and later working in the Colleton County School District Administration, Ferebe worked first in Walterboro and later in Columbia with the Department of Social Services. She was in on the ground floor of the development of the South Carolina Department of Public Welfare (later DSS) as well as the South Carolina State Retirement System. When she was working in Columbia, she commuted every day (more than 100 miles each way) before the interstate system was developed. She retired in 1976, having been the first statewide Director of Staff Development and Training for the Department of Social Services. She was honored through the years in many ways as a state employee and as a leader in her church activities. She was also named “Outstanding Alumni” from Coker College. The real reason Ferebe Spears Cone was an extraordinary woman, however, is found in the legacy she leaves behind. Her family and her friends are so much richer for having had her as a part of their lives. She was loving and caring, yet she always demanded the best from herself and from those she loved. She was the eldest child of her generation, I am the youngest in mine. My prayer is that I have been and will continue to be worthy of the name we share.

Ferebe Gasque loves the opportunity of sharing bits and pieces of her life with the readers of She Magazine.

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DR. BONDS: A native of South Carolina, Dr. Bonds grew up in Bamberg. His interest in Orthodontics began with his own experience in braces. “As a child, I enjoyed science and building models. I was intrigued by the way my Orthodontist made my teeth move and my smile change. Orthodontics seemed to perfectly blend my interest in the way things work with my desire to help others. From that point on, I knew I wanted to be an Orthodontist.” Dr. Bonds graduated from Wofford College in 1984 and enrolled in dental school at the Medical University of Charleston. He graduated in 1988 as Valedictorian of his class. Following dental school, Dr. Bonds completed his Orthodontic Residency at the University of Louisville. He moved to Florence and has practiced Orthodontics with Dr. Welch since 1990. Dr. Bonds is a Member of the American Dental Association, the South Carolina Dental Association, and he is a Past President of the Florence County Dental Society. He is also a member of the American Association of Orthodontists and is a Past President of the South Carolina Association of Orthodontists. He is also a Member of the Hartsville Kiwanis Club. As a Member of Central United Methodist Church in Florence,

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the crispness of the latest change in seasons. It is my favorite time of year, vibrant in its colors and a chill that awakens the senses. Fall for me is a time of reflection and anticipation, preparation for the weeks ahead, filled with Holidays, family gatherings, warm fires, hot mugs full of all kinds of things, (and even a new sweater here and there.) And, it’s the one time of year when turkey and dressing tastes better than ever before and is the occasion approved for wearing orange - - even if you’re not a Clemson or Tennessee fan. It’s certainly a time of year for RVing, one of my preferred pastimes for adventure and relaxation. As I was waxing eloquently on this subject during lunch at work the other day, I heard a grunt from one of my colleagues.We’ll call him “Mallie” -- since he’s always a mal-content. “What are you all chipper about,” Mallie said abruptly.“This is one of the most annoying seasons of the year.The leaves are everywhere, the yard is a pain to maintain, fuel costs, wood costs and electric bills rise,” he said with that edge in his voice. “Look on the bright side, Mallie. Be glad this month that we have a home to heat, our work hasn’t been interrupted by catastrophic conditions and we have electrical power. You even have access to your checking account at six convenient locations in Florence.” I think I must have sounded like a local bank commercial. Then Mallie droned on. “It gets cold and uncomfortable and the weather’s so unpredictable. What’s so great about all that?” “Listen,” I responded. “We live in the South and the weather is always unpredictable. The remarkable thing is that Hurricane Season is finally over without incident during the '09 coastal year.We can at long last move on to other national headlines and quit watching weather people on TV tossed to and fro on deserted islands off the African coast. And, have you also noticed that the female weathercasters seem to be getting appropriately older? Less and less of them appear to be constantly pregnant like they used to and Jim Cantore now wears thick glasses …..the whole Weather Channel clan is rapidly catching up to our age. It's poetic justice. So, try looking on the bright, sunny side, Mallie.” I think I almost heard a “humbug” muttered under his breath.“Some studies show people have more energy, they’re more active, are less sluggish and even sleep better this time of year,” I added. Mallie almost choked on one of the nuggets from his Chick-Fila Kids Meal. (In addition to being a downer, Mallie can be pretty cheap, too.) “Don’t go there with me…Falling back to Standard Time. Oh yeah, sleep is easy and that’s what makes it hard to come to work. It’s dark in the morning; it’s dark at night. Dark, dark, dark…all the time I even lose my sense of time these days.” And I was losing my sense of patience. So I tried a different tack - more towards the "maleness of Mallie" by dangling the sports influence in front of his negative nose.

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Sincerely Yours, Jumana A. Swindler "And how about those awesome football games this time of year? The Swine Flu has apparently had no adverse affect on Pigskin mania.You still get to shout 'Did'ya see that Bo' to all your guys friends, slap 'em on the back without fear of retribution and even drink a beer before five o'clock happy hour when the challenges are scheduled at noon or 3 p.m." "For heaven's sakes gal, have you seen the BCS Standings lately? Humph!" said Mallie. BCS,ABC, CBS, or AARP…. I didn’t really care for his pessimism anymore. Drawing from the images that November brings inspired me to remain upbeat – especially since a recent RV visit to Virginia, which actually gave me the chance to visit sites of around the old colonies. The significance of honoring the traditions in autumn rushed through my brain, remembering the Pilgrims – their fight for survival in a foreign land, their celebration of harvest despite meager times. In some ways, they are a metaphor for my own family and ancestors who immigrated to America decades ago to start new lives. They modeled the work ethic and the need to give thanks and praise for what was received and by Whom it was given. I recalled how the Pilgrims’ appreciation overshadowed the robbing of their joy in being free to live and worship, even in times of hardship or discouragement. I visualized the Pilgrims with the Indians and the opportunities for brotherhood, extended families and friendships. It brought with it a renewed excitement for the Holidays well on their way - - the sharing of our own bounty with one another in need or in plenty, the reveling in fellowship despite diversity or beliefs. “It’s such a good time of year,” I said out loud euphorically. “What’s up with you,” Mallie said flatly. “Just think of what’s ahead…. Putting up with my in-laws, grumpy Uncle Charlie, all the kids out of school or coming home with their girlfriends, hauling loads of trash to a packed dump, making sure the yard is spotless for the fam, long lines for the holiday take out orders and all the extra effort it takes to be nice to everybody even extra tips, or gift cards for folks just doing their jobs as expected. Don’t you see it?” “Yep,” I said, with one of my best grins smeared across my face.“And, I am so grateful that I really do see it.” Poor Mallie and all the people who just don’t get it. Have an extra portion of pecan pie later this month and just send the bill to Mallie. Happy Thanksgiving everyone. Psalm 139:14

Jumana A. Swindler, a resident of Florence, is the Director of Marketing and Public Relations for McLeod Health. Her personal favorite pastimes, reflected in her writings, are RV'ing, movies,Theater, fishing, reading and spending time with her son and family.

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Sugar and Spice and All that’s Nice . . . Miss Gracelynn Ann Parks is the “all Fine Arts in Florence. Just recently, she was the either. Gracelynn is always dressed to the nines with around” kind of girl. From dancing in tutus to cutest pink poodle ever! And, let’s not forget her all the accessories to complete the outfit. How Thomas the Train, this three-year-old loves it all. I first met Gracelynn at A Step Ahead Day School in Florence. My two-year-old came home one day, saying, “Ma-Ma is my girlfriend.” I thought, “How sweet! My son loves me.” Little did I know, there was a beautiful little girl in his class nicknamed “Ma-Ma” by their teacher, Mrs.Tena. Her nickname suits her so well. Gracelynn is a giving, loving and caring little girl. She’s always the first to greet you at the door. She makes certain she has your favorite toy waiting for you. She is eager to share and ready to play. Her besties are her new little brother, Sam; my son, Logan Young; Grant Johnson; Morgan Deaver; and cousins, Ellie and Clint Parks. As such a free-spirited child, I have to wonder what the future holds for Miss Gracelynn. She could easily go into the medical field as a doctor. If someone is hurt, she is the first to run and help. She will find the bandages and the boo-boo medicine to make the pain go away. She makes certain to give one of her sweet hugs and kisses to make it all better, too. Gracelynn could be the next Miss Diva America. She loves taking dance lessons at Kelley’s

singing. She and my son, Logan, managed to sing the ABC song, at the top of their lungs, at least 101 times during the entire drive home from a minivacation at Myrtle Beach. That tune is still ringing in my ears. I also wonder if a future as an Engineer for the railroad might not be Gracelynn’s calling. She is very passionate about her “choo-choo trains.” Recently, she made a trip to Tweetsie Railroad for “A Day Out with Thomas the Train.” Even though the trip was for her, she made time to go shopping for her friends and bring them back gifts – an example of how Gracelynn is always more eager to give than receive. (She gets that honest from her parents, Austin and Christina Parks.) We got an authentic Thomas the Train Whistle. Of course, Gracelynn could always become the next star on Deadliest Catch. She loves to be on the river with her daddy. She’ll eat anything that comes out of that river, too. From catfish to alligator, this little girl has no fear of the catch. Just fry it up! Forget the country club; Gracelynn would rather be a member of the hunting club. She is daddy’s little girl! We won’t rule out a career in high fashion,

many hair bows can one little girl own? From jewelry to jibbitz (decorations for her Crocs), each outfit is always complete. The final touch, however, is that beautiful smile. She can light up any room and demand everyone’s attention. Gracelynn is such a likeable little girl with strong family values based on faith. My little boy’s friendship with Gracelynn has brought our families closer together and helped my family find our place in church. The Parks are active members at Florence Baptist Temple. With their encouragement, and our children bringing us together, we have found our place at FBT, as well. Gracelynn recently graduated from A Step Ahead and is now an Eagle at Florence Christian School. We were very sad to see her move to a new school, but we know that we will all be friends for a very long time. Gracelynn Ann Parks is a well-rounded, freespirited, loveable, three-year-old “Wee She.” This month’s “Wee She” was submitted by Kimberly Barnhill-Young, Logan’s (aka Lolo) mommy. If you would like to nominate a little girl for “Wee She,” send an e-mail to [email protected] with “Wee She” Nomination as the subject.

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What’s Worse Than Being 40 and Single? a new monthly feature

by Mary R. Dittman, MBA In the movie, When Harry Met Sally, there’s a scene where Sally is crying over her ex-boyfriend’s impending marriage. Do you remember the line when she wails,“But, I’m gonna be 40!”? It was funny to me in my twenties when the movie came out; but, since I turned 40 this past summer, it’s not so humorous. I moved to Florence in 1995; I was 24-years-old and focused on my career. To be honest, I was never very interested in marriage or having a family until I turned thirty. By then, however, I was dating the wrong men – guys who told me they didn’t want a commitment, guys that I wouldn’t have been compatible with, guys that were still in love with other girls. When I did meet a nice man, I was so focused on getting him to the altar that I would invariably run him off with my intensity and desperation. This desperation was compounded by the fact that Florence is a small, Southern town where most people are married with children and there isn’t really a defined singles community. It always intrigues me that when I visit people in cities like Las Vegas, San Francisco, Los Angeles and New York, nobody asks me if I’m married or if I have children. They’re just interested in getting to know me. In Florence, however, I’m frequently asked to explain why I’m single. People even go so far as to ask me what’s wrong with me!

Mary R. Dittman, MBA, is an Instructor of Marketing and Director of the Internship Program in the School of Business at Francis Marion University. She consults for a variety of local and regional companies and is actively involved in the Florence community.

Additionally, our national culture is very focused on being part of a couple. The diet, health, fashion and beauty industries exist to sell us products to help us attract someone. Then, there are lines from movies that set us up for emotional disaster – “You complete me.” The message is this; you can’t be happy unless you have found your soul mate. I was truly enslaved for most of my thirties by this quest to “find someone.” I’ve done it all: online dating, joining civic groups to “get out there,” long distance relationships, church singles groups, etc. It seemed like the more I did to try to find someone, the lonelier I felt. All my friends got married. I threw bridal showers and stood up at their weddings. I organized engagement parties and plastered a happy-for-you smile on my face. Eventually, I threw baby showers and attended first birthday parties – usually without a date and always having to explain why I was still single. I felt like all my peers had passed me by and I was stuck in some adolescent nightmare where family holiday still referred to my parents, not my own family. Don’t get me wrong; I could have been married ten times by now. But, have you ever noticed the ones that want to marry you aren’t the ones you want? When I was 36, I realized one day that I needed to make some decisions about my life. If I wanted to have children, I needed to get married, get pregnant and have them or look into adopting. A lot of my single friends struggle with this issue. I admit; I’m lucky that I really never was that excited about having children. One of my friends told me, “People who don’t want children are mentally ill.” I disagree. I think some women just don’t have a strong maternal instinct. Either way, I realized that I wasn’t that upset about not having children. So, if I didn’t want children, I had to ask myself why I was in such a hurry to get married. The reason – I felt like I was single because there was something wrong with me. I felt nobody had picked me because of some defect in me. I know I’m not alone in feeling like that because I’ve talked to countless women – and men – who have felt that way in singleness. I was convinced that if I could only get married, I would be happy. Everything else in my life is great – wonderful, fulfilling career; I own my own home; I have money; I have retirement; I have great friends; I’m healthy. But, there’s still that one missing piece – no one to complete me. Therefore, I felt worthless (a feeling that’s made worse when you live in a small town where people’s primary focus is getting married and having children). And, it gets much worse (in my experience) after age 35 because the worthlessness is compounded by a feeling of hopelessness. Nevertheless, I know a lot of really great single men and women and I never look at them and think, “Wow, you’re actually a failure and a loser because you’re single.” Furthermore, most of my friends report that they don’t think less of me for being single. So, what’s the deal? My BFF (Best Friend Forever) says you have to be happy first. That’s the conventional wisdom. Be happy and you’ll attract the “right person.” I had to face the fact that, at my age and living in Florence, I may never meet the right person. That’s a scary thought, but once I accepted that maybe this was it – just me making a life for myself – I realized it’s not so bad. In fact, it’s pretty good, especially when I stopped romanticizing marriage as a cure-all. I can do what I want, go where I want, spend what I want and date whom I want. Ask your married friends about the downsides of marriage. Ask Jenny Sanford how great her life is right now. If marriage is the key to happiness, why is the divorce rate 51% on first marriages? Not being negative but being realistic, no one thing can cure your unhappiness – not the right job, not the right car, not the right weight and not the right person. I started to focus on having a great life, whether or not my last name ever changed. Most of the time, I really love being single. Sometimes, I wish I could find that special someone, but it’s also great to be able to walk away from someone who is not so special. I think we all know that there are worse things than being alone. Talk to someone who is in a bad marriage. Talk to someone who is isolated and lonely but can’t go meet Prince Charming because they’re already married to Prince Jerky. Hang in there, single friends. There’s something worse than being single and 40. It’s being single, 40 and having an unfulfilled life because you’ve been waiting for someone to come save you from yourself. There’s nothing wrong with you, so get out there and start living.

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Wings for the Spirit

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Thanksgivng by Sherry S. Page Atkinson Have you had a good laugh today? Pass these on to someone else who could use a break. - Love has been described as a three-ring circus. First comes the engagement ring, then the wedding ring. After that, the suffering. - One woman told another, “I’m a light eater. The minute it gets light, I start to eat.” - Little boy: “Dad, did you go to Sunday School every Sunday?” Dad: “Yes, son, I surely did.” Little boy: “I bet it won’t do me any good either.” - A husband went to buy his wife a gift for her 50th birthday and picked up a cute music box that played “Happy Birthday.” Thinking all played the same tune, he bought one and gave it to his wife. When she lifted the lid, out came the tune “The Old Gray Mare, She Ain’t What She Used To Be!” - Two things cause unhappy marriages – men and women. - A husband sat down with the TV remote and yelled to his wife in the kitchen, “Honey, is there anything you want to say before football season starts?”

Here we are already into November, the month we celebrate Thanksgiving. Have you ever wondered about being at the first Thanksgiving occasion? Our forefathers endured hardships and had strong faith and trust in God. They knew from painful experiences about giving thanks in everything. What about you and me today? Paul says in Philippians 4:11, “I have learned to be content, whatever the circumstances.” In I Thessalonians 5:18, the Bible tells us, “In every thing, give thanks.” No matter what the circumstances may be, be thankful and give thanks,“for this is the will of God for you who are in Christ Jesus.” Does this mean we are grateful for all the sorrowful tragedies and disappointments that come in our lives? To be honest, none of us welcome hardships in life – even though we grow from them. You and I would rather remain in our comfort zones. However, it is when we are overwhelmed in our circumstances that we come out of our comfort zones and desperately seek Jesus. While God does not cause sickness or tragedies, we are to trust and give thanks in everything because He will be with us through it all. Joshua 1:5: “As I was with Moses, so I will be with you. I will not fail you or forsake you.” Hebrews 13:5 also promises,“He will never leave us, never fail us nor forsake us.” The only way to the mountaintop is through the valley, but we do not travel alone. Romans 8:28 assures us, “He works all things for good for those who love Him and are called according to His purpose.” Everything Satan intends for harm, God can turn it around for good as we trust Him. Our disappointments are often God’s appointments. God will never lead us where His grace will not keep us. He said His grace would be sufficient in II Corinthians 12:9. Remember, we can do all things through Christ Who strengthens us (Philippians 4:13).

When I am weak (in human strength), then am I (truly) strong (able, powerful in divine strength) (II Corinthians 12:10). “No weapon formed against you shall prosper and every tongue that shall rise against you in judgment, you shall show to be in the wrong” (Isaiah 54:17). “He is able to do exceedingly and abundantly all that we ask or think” (Ephesians 3:20). “If we ask anything according to God’s will, He answers and hears us” (I John 5:14). Psalm 23:5 encourages us that “God prepares a table before us in the presence of our enemies. He anoints us with oil and our cup runs over.” In John 15:16, Jesus tells us, “You have not chosen Me, but I have chosen you and I have appointed you that you might go and bear fruit and keep on bearing, and that your fruit may remain, so that whatever you ask the Father in My Name, He may give it to you.” God would also say to you today: (Jeremiah 33:3) “Call to Me and I will answer you and show you great and mighty things, fenced in and hidden, which you do not know” (do not recognize, have knowledge of and understand). God is so worthy of our praise! “Let us come before His presence with thanksgiving” (Psalm 95:2). “Enter into His gates with thanksgiving” (Psalm 100:4). “I will offer to You the sacrifice of thanksgiving and will call on the name of the Lord” (Psalm 116:17). “Do not fret or have any anxiety about anything, but in every circumstance and in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, continue to make your wants known to God. And, God’s peace, which transcends all understanding, shall guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:6-7). Jesus is with you – and in you – to help you overcome and be victorious in your situations. There is unlimited power in praise and thanksgiving. Because He lives and is in control, let us – in everything – give thanks. If you have never invited Jesus into your heart and life or want to be sure of your salvation, you might pray something like this: Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for loving and creating me. I believe You sent Your only Son, Jesus, to die on a cruel cross for my sins. I am sorry for my sins and ask You, Jesus, to forgive me. Come into my heart and save me. I want to commit my life to You. Fill me with Your Holy Spirit that I may be strong to live the Christian life and be a loving, bold witness for You. Help me, Jesus. In Your powerful Name, I pray. Amen.

Sherry S. Page Atkinson lives in Marion with her husband, Jimmy. Those wishing to contact her may do so at the following address: 6526 South Highway 41. Or, you may e-mail her at: [email protected].

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Oftentimes, I’m approached by the readers of She Magazine about how I come up with ideas to write about. The story behind this topic is particularly personal and began when I was having my teeth cleaned. My Dental Hygienist told me the story of her mom and how she had seen her gynecologist and was told not to worry about a lesion she had noticed. She noticed the lesion had grown over the years and sought a second opinion only to be told,“This doesn’t look good.” Then, a biopsy was taken. The diagnosis of cancer was confirmed. She was diagnosed in January of this year and began treatment soon after. She died of her cancer in October of this year – before I could get her story written. Her daughter asked me to tell her story so others wouldn’t have to go through what her mother endured and suffer such an untimely death. Her mother’s wish was that others may be informed about this deadly cancer in which so little is spoken about in the media. I realize that the month of October was Breast Cancer Month. All the media attention breast cancer has received –from NFL players wearing pink to the recent PGA Tour star, Phil Mickelson’s wife’s diagnosis – breast cancer deserves much of the attention it receives. But, it’s also a cancer that has a reliable screening modality in mammography, and we’re making some real progress in the survival rates of breast cancer patients. The cancer that I want to discuss doesn’t have a reliable screening test and is oftentimes diagnosed late in the course. Sometimes, it’s the physician who is responsible for the delayed diagnosis. Sometimes, the patient delays treatment because of lack of education about what the cancer looks like. Self-examination, combined with proper education to know what to look for, is the only real screening modality we have with this type of cancer. The cancer I am referring to is – Vulvar Cancer. The vulva is the outer part of the female genitals. It includes the opening of the vagina, the labia majora (outer lips), the labia minora (inner lips) and the clitoris. The space between the vagina and the anus is called the perineum. Cancer of the vulva most often affects the inner edges of the labia majora or the labia minora. Historically, cancer of the vulva accounts for 3% to 5% of all female cancers. During recent years, it appears that the incidence has been on the rise. It is a cancer of most commonly the postmenopausal female, but the incidence is increasing in the younger female under the age of 40. There seems to be a strong correlation between human papillomavirus (HPV) and vulvar cancer early and later in life. The purpose of this article is to educate, but it’s also to make women aware of any suspicious lesion or growth and make sure that it’s brought to the attention of a physician well-versed in the diagnosis of vulvar cancer. What are the risk factors for vulvar cancer? There are no strong correlating risk factors with vulvar cancer. The incidence increases with age, with the average age of diagnosis being 70. The human papillomavirus is a group of more than 100 types of viruses commonly called warts. HPV is responsible for more than half of vulvar cancers overall and most cases in younger women. Smoking increases the risk of vulvar cancer, and women with high-risk HPV have a much higher risk of developing vulvar cancer if they smoke. Human immunodeficiency virus (HIV) increases the risk of vulvar cancer by weakening the immune system. A common disorder of the skin, lichen sclerosus, which causes the vulvar skin to become thin and itchy, is a risk factor if left untreated. The treatment of lichen sclerosus with topical steroids seems to have a protective effect on the progression to vulvar cancer. In addition, women with cervical cancer have a higher risk of vulvar cancer. Women who have had melanoma or atypical moles elsewhere on the body have an increased risk of developing a melanoma of the vulva, as well. What are the signs of vulvar cancer? One of the most common signs is itching of the vulva that doesn’t resolve with treatment or seems to be recurrent. A cut or sore that will not heal, a lump or mass that is growing and usually painless, bleeding that is not from the vagina and a chronic burning discomfort are some of the signs that should be brought to your doctor’s attention. Any change in the size, texture or color of a mole or hyperpigmented area of the vulva should raise suspicion. Unfortunately, the vulvar cancer goes many months – or years – before a diagnosis is made, thereby increasing the incidence of lymphatic spread and a worse prognosis. Long-term itching or a lump or mass of the vulva is present in more that 50% of patients with vulvar cancer. The problem with vulvar cancer is the delay in treatment by the patient, who has symptoms for an average of two to sixteen months. Once the physician is seen, the biopsy is delayed by another twelve months because of conservative medical treatment. So, on average, we’re looking at two years before a biopsy is

taken and a definitive diagnosis is made. Fortunately, vulvar cancer is commonly indolent and extends slowly and metastasizes fairly late, hence the great opportunity to prevent serious advanced disease through education of patients and physicians. A biopsy must be done on all suspicious lesions of the vulva, including lumps, ulcers or pigmented areas. The most common type of vulvar cancer is squamous cell, comprising over 85% of all vulvar cancers. This is the same tissue type found on any part of your skin and responsible for skin cancer – the fastest growing cancer. The next most common is melanoma, which is associated with usually hyperpigmented lesions and atypical moles found anywhere on the body. The treatment of vulvar cancer depends on the stage of the disease, which is dependent on the size of the lesion and lymphatic spread. The treatment is usually surgical, involving a radical vulvectomy – major surgery that involves the removal of the labia majora, minora, clitoris and skin and lymphatic system of the vulva, plus inguinal and pelvic lymph node dissection. The survival rates are as high as 90% for stages I and II with this therapy. The use of pelvic radiation is reserved for those with positive disease in the lymph nodes. Chemotherapy is reserved for those with widespread metastatic disease. What is your role in the prevention of vulvar cancer? Selfexamination of the vulva is a starting point. You should be aware of any changes in the skin of your vulva by examining monthly, using a mirror and feeling for any unusual growths. Look for any areas that are white, darkly pigmented or red and irritated. If you should notice any new growths, nodules, bumps or ulcers (open sores), bring it to your physician’s attention. Don’t wait and see if the physician notices the lesion. If a lesion has grown or changed, don’t be shy about asking for a biopsy. When your doctor prescribes a topical medical treatment, it’s your obligation to make sure to follow up to see that the area is resolving. If the conservative treatment isn’t working, the doctor can then proceed to a biopsy. A small amount of discomfort in the office can save you lifelong discomfort – and possibly your life!

If you have questions about the information in this article, you may contact Dr. Dent at Complete Women’s Health Care in Florence. Dr. Dent is Board Certified in Family Practice and Obstetrics and Gynecology and also holds an Advanced Certification in Menopausal Medicine.

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Florence City Council will hold first reading of a smokefree workplace ordinance on November 9, 2009, at 1:00 p.m. This ordinance will prohibit smoking in all indoor worksites in the City of Florence, including restaurants and bars. If you support this ordinance, please attend the meeting and bring a friend. Octavia Williams-Blake, sponsor of the ordinance, has asked that all supporters wear black on the day of the meeting. This is a significant moment for not only those that work in Florence, but also those that come here to shop, dine, and play. Please show your support!

Secondhand smoke exposure causes heart disease and lung cancer in non-smoking adults.

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"Do not save your loving speeches For your friends till they are dead; Do not write them on their tombstones, Speak them rather now instead.” - Anna Cummins

Birds OF A Feather by Marti Miller

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Have you ever noticed how friends open all kinds of doors in our lives – the ones we’re often too afraid to open on our own? Those of us who find it sometimes difficult to mingle comfortably, for example, can usually rely on our more outgoing friends to push us along in that general direction. I imagine it’s not unlike teaching pigeons to strut their stuff like peacocks do. I’m not a tail feathers displayer by nature – more like a bobber and weaver, really, so the teaching task can be quite daunting, timeconsuming and messy. I had the privilege this summer of attending a party for a young woman preparing to enter seminary school in Kentucky. Her family gathered around her in celebration of the calling she had answered, allowing a few extra friends (thankfully, me included) to share in their happiness. The food table literally groaned with offerings – from chicken bog to pepper slaw, from barbecue and buns to homemade mac ‘n’ cheese, from pig pickin’ cake to chocolate lush – and nary a crumb was consumed until prayers were said in blessing and in thanksgiving. There were babies and parents and grandparents and assorted relatives of all ages. It reminded me very much of home.Though the words spoken were just a bit different (things like PEA-cans instead of pe-CONs, and sweating like monkeys instead of like pigs), the love floating through the air in that home was completely recognizable, regardless of which syllables were accented. Sitting around the card table in the game room, we listened and laughed ourselves silly as one of the relatives (though certainly not claimed by all in attendance) began to regale this northern transplant with strange southern stories of jack and jenny donkey parades with peacock feathers and tick-sucking egrets, while his (long-suffering?) wife serenely enjoyed her meal in another, much quieter corner of the same room. In fact, when someone at the table offered to switch seats with her so she could be near her dear husband, she quickly responded that she was absolutely delighted to remain in her peaceful little corner chair.You just had to be there to know exactly why this was both a wise and completely understandable choice. So, what’s the point of this information? Good question! Not too long ago, I would have declined that invitation to join in such a happy celebration.Actually, not long ago, I would not have even been invited in the first place, as I was much too busy being alone and lonely. Saying “no” was my standard response to any and all social events. And then this small yet mighty band of new southern friends began to slowly apply a much needed attitude make-over. They started by encouraging me to simply use the “yes” response more often. (This, of course, served their purposes well; like saying “yes” to pool floating time in the backyard – but that’s another story.) I’m fairly certain they don’t look upon their encouragements as heroic or awe-inspiring. But I beg to differ. I have gained the privilege of these few close friends in the course of three years of southern living.

They have changed my life here – and all for the better. Not to say that my “old” friends from home are off the list. They most certainly are not. I count on them to keep me grounded – old friends make the best mirrors for us to see who we have been and who we are now. But these friends I know now are the diamonds. And they mean more to me than almost anything (sorry, can’t have everything). Mark Twain made a profound statement when he penned these words: "Grief can take care of itself, but to get the full value of joy you must have somebody to divide it with." Yes, I would say that is absolutely correct. Friends are for joy-sharing moments such as these: when our children accomplish a goal or step out on their own for the first time as adults (consider just how difficult it was for the aforementioned parents to drive that ten hour return trip without their only child), our friends are there to remind us of the joy; when we step out again for the first time in over 25 years on an actual date and we’re not sure if it’s joy or terror we feel, our friends are there to help us choose the joy (and joy it certainly has become – more on that in a later article); when we discover that a loved one is losing a life battle, our friends are there to share the joy that is found in cherishing simple memories; when we stumble and fall on our way to living in Christ’s love, our friends remind us of the joy found in standing once again. The joy list is probably endless as it relates to our friends’ abilities to both understand and help relieve our sadness and our losses and our everyday, plain old funks. No amount of concealer (speaking of which, am I the only one around here that ends up concealing her whole face with that stuff?) or wardrobe changes or push-up bras or even peacock feathers can do for our image what a friend can do simply by sharing the joy in a few moments of tear-stained, gut-wrenching, wrinkle-making, running to the bathroom and hoping you make it in time, honest laughter. It’s wonderful exercise. And snorting helps clear the sinuses. So, in this month of gratitude, thank you, my friends. You know who you are. But in case you’re not sure, here’s a list of helpful hints: aerobic exercise and birthday surprises, razors, 45’s, hot choker donuts, rod and real, food for the road, pool floats, Sunday classes choosing pigs or chickens, and products that sparkle plenty. But you are not my southern friends anymore; you are simply, without any qualifying adjectives, my friends. I love all y’all – especially that sparkly one (again, more on that later…maybe).

Marti Miller lives in Marion, SC and counts the blessings of friendships every day.

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Sunshine

state of mind by Cookie Cawthon

Fear is my thing. Most everybody has something that they will forever battle. Mine is fear. I am afraid of being carjacked, kidnapped and raped, being stung by a bee, returning a purchase to a less-than-friendly retail clerk, suspicious moles, hoity-toity social engagements, everything concerning my children, all water-dwelling creatures, the longterm effects of my vast consumption of aspartame, my girls’ opinions of me when they are grown, shots, and looking foolish. The list is endless. So. It’s not at all surprising that I’m afraid of flying. That was not always the case. I first flew to England thirteen years ago and actually kinda fell in love with it; fear was not my debility during the seeming invincibility of my youth. I flew a few times after that and continued to enjoy it. Then there was a day when I was twenty-eight, pregnant with our first child, and had a husband flying across the country to Las Vegas for a business meeting – September 11, 2001. In the confusion of that day, I could not find out any information regarding his flight out of Atlanta, could not contact him, could not wrap my hormone-affected brain around what was going on. It was on that day that I absorbed the vulnerability of flight and have allowed it to sink deep into my bones. I just remember bursting in to a sob when the insurance lady at my obstetrician’s office asked an innocuous, payment-related question about my husband… She got more than she bargained for on that one, for sure. I next flew to Nassau on a business reward trip, and that was a riot to anyone looking on. I rigidly sat in my seat, clutching my Bible turned open to the first page of the book of Joshua. Tears streamed down my face as I silently chanted God’s call to courage. Freak! It’s hysterical to me to even remember, so I chuckle to wonder what Chris’ colleagues thought as I threatened to unravel. Freak! My poor husband! I could barely enjoy our vacation knowing that I had to fly back home. I shared a few moons back about our trip to San Francisco and that much-dreaded flight; it actually turned out to be a pleasant experience though not completely free of fear. Well, I flew again two days ago, and the anticipatory fear was back in a large way. I documented the adventure, and these were my thoughts: I’m on a flight to Atlanta right now – actually my least favorite place to be – on a plane. It scares the sense out of me. I have teared up and let them spill over a few times this morning. I am flying alone for the first time ever, meeting Chris in Jacksonville on a business trip. It’s so loud, but that’s good. It means that everything is working. I even left a note on a napkin in my truck in case today is my day. It says, “To my C’s- I love you more than anything on earth, and I love Jesus like mad. Just wanted you to know ? .” Still may be my day yet – it’s early (12:00), but He has so reminded me of His love and care for me that maybe I’d be okay with it. I checked my computer this morning (as I obsessively do), and a dear friend had twittered the exact same verse I quoted a gajillion times the last time I flew. I think it is Isaiah 26:3 – “You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on You…” On the ground, it was a gloomy, grey day of dark cloud cover. Ominous and foreboding. I have only ever flown during perfect sunshiny conditions. The wind and the cloud density and the chance of storm only compounded my anxieties. Everything in me wanted to drive to Jacksonville. To call Chris to say that I could not do it. But I know so thoroughly that God never gives us permission to pacify our fears. His most frequent reassurance is, “Fear not.”

So, it must be a pretty natural human reaction, but He never allows us to give way to it. How many times have I told myself (and others) that God always wants us to choose what is best over what is good? It was best for me to defeat my fear today. It was best for me to need Him so completely – rather than doing what I could have done on my own. I sat down after checking- in and flipped open my favorite book. On the title page, I had written a quote from within the text, “…because I am His daughter.” Though it was used in a different context, it has a singular meaning for me today. Come what may today, I will be okay BECAUSE I AM HIS DAUGHTER!” I boarded and took what was an ideal seat – no window and no seatmate. So I powered my I-pod and tried to blast the noises, the conversations, my thoughts, my nausea. Didn’t work and I was informed that I wouldn’t be able to listen during take-off. Had forgotten that. Then, we took an additional twenty minutes correcting the weight balance, which totally stressed me out. The thought of this plane taking off burdened by too much weight further fueled my certainty of disaster. Good riddance, I thought, as they booted three stand-bys. Then it was time. I closed my eyes and prepared for take-off – my least favorite part of this least favored activity. This irrational fear is so big in me that it is the only time that I genuinely fear that my body is totally going to override my mind. That I may lose control – and every bit of food consumed over the past two days. I prayed that my fear would not overwhelm me. I was as afraid as I have ever been in my life. The discordant vibration began; acceleration began. The squeaking and the creaking within the cabin is always unnerving. I clamped my eyes shut and continued to pray for safety. We raced down the runway and then we flew. I kept my eyes closed for many minutes – still climbing. Still climbing. It was smoother than I expected. Loud but fairly smooth, and I began to recount my blessings as I thanked Him for keeping me alive at least that far into the trip, thanked Him for the noise, thanked Him for super nice Suzie – our flight attendant. And then… I summoned the courage to open my eyes. I opened my eyes and turned to glimpse out the window behind me, and WOW! It was exactly what I imagine Antarctica might look like – though I don’t know: pure white mountain ranges and glaciers floating in a perfect blue sea. And there was sunshine up there. Crisp, brilliant, unadulterated sunshine. And do you know what? Sunshine was exactly what I needed today! SUNSHINE! I watched out of the window for a while – just marveling at Him. Then it occurred to me. I would have missed the sunshine if I had driven. I would have missed the sunshine, and it was spectacular! I had to do it His way, and I had to do the hard thing, but He gave me sunshine. Though flying is still not a fave, the view is! More and more I am discovering the theme of my life – at least during this season: Do the best thing, forsaking the good. Do the hard thing and He delivers the sunshine. So maybe, just maybe, remarkable women like Mother Teresa, Rosa Parks, and Helen Keller share a history of choosing what is

best over what is good, choosing to do the hard thing and reaping the sunshine. Just a thought. Not an easy one to stomach though, especially for a scaredy cat like me. Stay tuned as I fly to Kenya later this month (hee, hee, hee)…

Cookie Cawthon is just plumb crazy in Flo-town these days – loving her life and her man – chasing her dream, her cheerleader, and her gymnast.

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Kristen Rewis Marion “I would like to invent something!”

Susan Curran Florence ““I just want to be the best person I can be and to always set a good example for my children and grandchildren.”

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Kacy White Hartson Marion “I want to live my life being the best mother to my three children that I can possibly be. By setting a good example for them, I can accomplish anything I want.”

Kathleenen Boatwright Hartsville “I want to own my own hair salon and use my horses to help mentally-challenged children.”

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Marion’s

20th Annual

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Lighting Celebration & Holiday Prelude Saturday, December 5th & S u n d a y, D e c e m b e r 6 t h December 5th - Highlights Sponsored By:

•The Artists’ Place in the HMRA building : 9:30am-4pm •Photos with Santa at Byars Park on Main Street : 10am-1pm •Carriage Rides to The Inn on Harlee : 10am-1pm •Marion Chamber of Commerce Christmas Parade on Main : 4:30pm

December 6th - Highlights •Artists’ Place in the HMRA building : 1-4pm •Pilot Club Soup & Cornbread supper and bake sale : 5pm-7pm at the Marion Baptist Church Fellowship Hall. There will also be a silent auction and raffle during the evening. •The arrival of Santa Claus, aboard the City of Marion Fire Truck: 5:30pm •Pre-Christmas Tree Lighting Show : 5:45pm •Annual Tree Lighting and Program at the Square : 6pm •Fireworks immediately following at Withlacoochee Park

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Tree Lighting Celebration - 6:00pm A Carol Lighting Service held at the Courthouse to light a huge magnolia tree on the square, featuring over 10,000 lights. The courthouse steps, the town square fountain and Main Street will be lit with over 1,400 luminaries. Additional Highlights... • The arrival of Santa Claus aboard the City of Marion Fire Truck - 5:30pm • Hot Apple Cider - Sponsored by local banking institutions •Handicapped section available • Nativity Scene • Children’s Community Chorus

Sunday December 7th (following the tree lighting) at 7:00pm at Withlacoochee Park.

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You know her; she is kind and giving to everyone but not always to herself. Most often, her good deeds are done behind the scenes and may even seem to go unnoticed. Until now.

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Remarkable Women by Carol T. Adams, PhD

TWIN honorees

Recognizing women in our area for their accomplishments has gotten a little easier. The Tribute to Women and Industry (TWIN) Project (sponsored by the YWCA) is now active in the Pee Dee. The goal for the YWCA has long been to “empower women and eliminate racism.” Although the TWIN Project is new to the Pee Dee area, there is a significant history of this recognition in other areas of the state. Thanks to the efforts of GE Healthcare and their HR Manager, Darryl Davids, nine women in the Pee Dee were honored last year. This year, another nine were selected as honorees, and their accomplishments were celebrated at a lovely banquet at the SiMT Building at Florence-Darlington Technical College on Tuesday evening, October 13, with approximately 175 people in attendance. Former CBS News Woman, Jane Robelot, was the speaker for the event and gave an inspiring talk about her own mentors (and even a few detractors) as she moved from small-town radio journalist to national news woman. If you’re not familiar with the TWIN Project, it was undertaken to honor women who have – and are – making significant contributions in their professional lives and to honor those companies that are recognizing and rewarding high achievement in women. These honorees, in turn, foster, support and encourage achievement in other women. The project is designed to honor women in all professional areas – educators, engineers, managers, health care providers, banking professionals, etc. Companies pay a sponsorship and are invited to nominate honorees. Funds raised by the TWIN Project are used for programs in the Pee Dee that encompass the YWCA philosophy of eliminating racism and empowering women. This year’s honorees were:

Patressa Gardner – Project Manager for the SC Advanced Technological Education National Resource Center at FDTC. In addition to her career in technical education, her experience as the Quality Assurance and Safety Coordinator in a manufacturing environment has provided her with impeccable skills to serve as a business and industry liaison for the college. She is the recipient of the 2008 FDTC Outstanding Administrator of the Year Award. She earned a BS Degree in Economics from Francis Marion University and an MA Degree in Economics from Clemson University. Jill Heiden – Vice President for Institutional Advancement, Florence-Darlington Technical College, Jill is charged with developing and sustaining relationships with alumni, donors, prospective donors and corporate representatives

top, left-right: Patressa Gardner, Donna Sullivan,Teresa Johnson Ramey, Judit Sobel, Alberta Major • bottom, left-right: Alice Morrow, Jill Heiden, Andrea Luppe, Octavia Williams-Blake

who utilize the college for training, workforce preparation and economic development. She has served on numerous community boards. She was the recipient of the 2008 Economic Development Ambassador of the Year for Florence County and a finalist for the SC Human Resource Person of the Year in 2003 and 2007. She received her degree from Pennsylvania State University. Andrea Luppe – Process Engineer/Process Team Leader with GE Healthcare. Although she has short tenure with GE, she has already excelled as both Process Engineer and acting Maintenance and Facilities Manager, streamlining contract services resulting in net savings of a million dollars for the company. She, too, is active in the community through the GE Volunteers. Andrea is a graduate of Clemson University with a BS in Ceramic Engineering. She also holds an MBA Degree from Francis Marion University. Alberta Major – Alberta is employed with Florence School District One and serves as a permanent substitute teacher at Moore Intermediate School. Additionally, she tutors in the afterschool program and is the sponsor of SAVE (Students Against Violence Everywhere), an organization at the school which was named Chapter of the Year for 2007-2008. She is active in her community and presently is on the Dean’s List at Coker College where she is pursuing a Degree in Elementary Education. Her graduation date is scheduled for 2010. Alice Morrow – Alice is Club Director of the Boys & Girls Clubs of the Pee Dee Area where she has been for the past three years. She has over 25 years’ experience in social services working with individuals from age 6 to 101. She received the 2009 South Carolina Award for Program Excellence in Health and Life Skills and is a 2009 state nominee for the prestigious William S. White/Mott Foundation Achievement Award for Innovations in Supporting Student Success. She is a graduate of Beal College. Teresa Johnson Ramey – Teresa is Associate Vice President and Dean of Students at Francis Marion University. Since becoming Dean, she has revitalized the University Programming Board, which is responsible for providing cultural and social events for over 4,000 students. She created and implemented “Leadership FMU,” a leadership development program which emphasizes integrity, character education and situational leadership. She received her BA Degree in Speech Communication from Western Kentucky University and her MS in Instructional Development from Jacksonville State University.

Judit Sobel – Materials Team Leader for Magnet Staging at GE Healthcare, Judit is a certified Supply Chain Professional. As a result of her creativity and transportation skills, she has saved hundreds of thousands of dollars for GE Healthcare during her twelve years with the company – an accomplishment that is very much appreciated during these tough economic times. She is involved with the GE Volunteers, and she is an active community leader. She obtained her BA in Business Administration and Economics from the University of Maryland and her MBA from Oxford Brookes University, Oxford, United Kingdom. Donna Sullivan – Chief Quality Officer at Carolinas Hospital System, Donna ensures compliance with Regulatory, State, Federal and Joint Commission requirements. She received the 1998 Douglas Smith Quorum of Excellence Award. She has also been recognized on the Carolinas Hospital System Wall of Fame, the Caring Hands Award, the 2007 Clinical Manager of the Year and is a 2008 Palmetto Gold Award Recipient. She received a BS in Nursing from the Medical College of Georgia. Octavia Williams-Blake – Director of McLeod Occupational Health at McLeod Health. Under her leadership, McLeod Regional Medical Center and three of its affiliate organizations received the 2006 and 2007 South Carolina Safety Award. All six of the facilities within the McLeod Health organization received the South Carolina Safety Award in 2008. She was elected to the Florence City Council in 2008 and continues to serve in that role, as well. She obtained her BA Degree from Columbia College and her J.D. Degree from the University of South Carolina School of Law. These honorees will be charged with supporting other women over the next year by organizing workshops and setting up service projects to help empower other women in the community. Those of us who have served these first two years as members of the TWIN Honorary Board and proud of our participation in this project are: Dr. Carol Adams, Jodi Beauregard, Joan Billheimer, Libby Cooper, Darryl Davids, Terry Dingle, Jill Heiden, Pam Little-McDaniel, Charlene Lowery, Michele Pridgen and Libby Wiersema. If you know women who should be honored, contact any of the honorees; Darryl Davids, HR Manager at GE Healthcare; or any of the Board Members for more information. We can be proud of all the women who have been honored. When you see them, congratulate them on their accomplishments; they are outstanding leaders in the Pee Dee Area. There are lots more out there, so let’s set about to honor them in the future.

Carol T. Adams, PhD, is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist with McLeod Family Medicine Center in Florence.

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A Remarkable Woman

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Praise God for Motherhood! If asked for a definition of motherhood, I would say that motherhood is the God-given blessing and responsibility of raising a child that God created in a manner that is pleasing to Him. God gave me that blessing when my precious Brian was born on June 24, 1994. I will never forget how wonderful it felt to hold him for the first time. From that moment on, my life has been so full of joy, watching Brian grow in the grace of God. But, with that joy comes the everpresent reality that God has entrusted me with His child to nurture both physically and spiritually. Thankfully, God has given us Scriptures in the Bible that guide us as Christian mothers. The first Scripture is Exodus 20:12,“Honor your father and mother.” I have always loved my mother and father, but I loved them and respected them even more when I became a mother because I could see more clearly how they had given of themselves so unselfishly while raising my brother, Perry, and me. I knew that it was important for me to set that example for Brian by constantly showing my parents the love and respect they so richly deserve. The second Scripture is Isaiah 64:8,“Yet, O Lord, you are our Father. We are the clay, you are the potter; we are all the work of your hand.” This

- Kim Davis

scripture reminds me that, as Brian’s mother, I need to refrain from trying to make him what I want him to be. What God expects me to do is to teach Brian to seek God’s will in every aspect of his life. If he will do that, God will mold him into the Christian young man He wants him to become. Thirdly, Galatians 5:22 references characteristics that, as Christians, we should always strive to exemplify. “But, the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.” As a Christian mother, God expects me to show Brian how to grow these fruits in his own life by praying, studying the Bible and going to church to worship God. The last Scripture is Proverbs 22:6,“Train a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not turn from it.” I think of this Scripture a great deal now that Brian is getting older. My daily prayer for Brian is that he will always seek God’s guidance in everything and hold on to his Christian faith. I want to close with the words to a song that I wrote for Brian about two years ago. The words echo every sentiment I have shared about how incredibly blessed I am to be the mother of Brian Douglas Davis.

My wife, Kim Davis, is a remarkable woman. God brought us together on December 4th, 1987. I fell in love with her because of her huge and loving heart. She is caring, loving and unselfish, putting everybody ahead of herself. Kim has been my better half for almost twenty years and is a wonderful mother to our son, Brian. Along with taking care of us and the house and going to Brian’s ballgames, she has found the time to serve the Lord at Marion Baptist in various ways. Kim’s faith is unwavering and the most important thing in her life. As long as I have known her, she has loved going to church and serving God through music. She has been a Sunday School teacher in the Children’s Department, Director of the Children’s Choir, served on the Handbells Choir and is also a faithful member of the Adult Sanctuary Choir. She loves working with children, and she loves using her God-given musical talents to lift up praises to the Lord. She also enjoys helping anyone in need, whether it is someone in our family or a stranger. With a heart of gold, she has the reputation of doing anything that is asked of her. Serving her family means that she loves doing things for her family – cooking, housework, just being there. That goes for her extended family (my dad; her mom and dad, Perry and Karen; and the girls), as well. She is such a special mom because she has shared the love of Jesus with Brian since he was a baby. She loves spending time with him and just doing simple things. Her view of motherhood, as portrayed in her sentiments below, is truly what makes Kim a remarkable woman. - Doug Davis

God’s Child

(written by Kim for her son, Brian)

“So many nights I wept quietly, Praying ‘Heavenly Father, Would you please give me a child! Oh, please give me a child. I long for a child I can hold tenderly. If it be Your will, Oh Lord, Would you please give me a child? Lord, please give me a child. I’m ready for a child. A child that I can love. A precious little child, Sent from Heaven above. And he will always know, The Father loves him so, ‘Cause he is God’s child.’

God spoke to me And said, ‘Where is your faith? You must wait patiently, And I will give you a child. I will give you a child. Lay all your burdens down at my feet. Trust me with all of your heart, ‘Cause I will give you a child. I will give you a child.’

God’s rainbow of promise colored the sky. My Heavenly Father answered my cry. God gave me a child! God gave me a child! Now I have a child, A child that I can love, A precious little child Sent from Heaven above. And he will always know The Father loves him so, ‘Cause he is God’s child. Every day I get down on my knees, And thank the Lord for giving me This precious child. Oh, this precious child! God gave me this child, A child that I can love, A precious little child, Sent from Heaven above. And he will always know The Father loves him so, ‘Cause he is God’s child. He is God’s child!”

God said, ‘Get ready for your child, A child that you can love. A precious little child Sent from Heaven above. And he will always know The Father loves him so, ‘Cause he is My child!’ One day, the rain clouds all went away. The sun shone bright on a brand new day. God gave me a child! God gave me a child!

Kim and her husband, Doug, and their son, Brian, live in Marion. She has worked fulltime at Francis Marion University for 22 years. A dedicated employee who will go beyond the call of duty, she was “Employee of the Year” in 2008.

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by Margaret Waddell

“...but, in time, Cathy managed to pick up the pieces and move on.”

When I read She Magazine’s September issue, I couldn’t get shero off my

mind because I tell my daughter that she is my shero very often. Cathy Mogy lost her husband six years ago in a tragic accident. Her children were eight- and ten-years-old at the time. She and Richard had the “perfect” marriage. He was a very devoted husband and father. He was very involved with his children, coaching Austin in baseball, football and numerous other sports. He was just as involved with Sarah Catherine, going to cheerleading events, horseback riding and all school activities. He and Cathy taught a children’s Sunday school class at Ebenezer Baptist Church, also. Their lives were so full and sweet until that day in June, six years ago, when Richard was killed. We didn’t see how life would ever have joy again. We all had many very low times; but, in time, Cathy managed to pick up the pieces and move on. Cathy showed her strength after her husband’s death in many ways. As we all were, she was devastated but strong and steady. She is a strong, determined person in all aspects of her life. She made sure her children didn’t miss out because they didn’t have a dad. Austin plays football and shoots sporting clays at The King’s Academy where he is a junior. Sarah Catherine is in the ninth grade and competes in horse shows and is a JV cheerleader at West Florence High School. Cathy never missed an event for her children. In fact, she was the mother doing the driving and providing refreshments. She even learned how to drive a horse trailer to take Sarah Catherine and her horse to horse shows all over the state. Though heartbroken, she didn’t whine and cry about her situation; there wasn’t time. She managed to work through and handle their financial concerns and went back to work not long after. I remember Cathy planned a horse riding birthday party for Sarah Catherine on June 27th (Richard was killed on June 8). Soon afterwards, she fixed a meal for Austin’s football team before they played their game. She never turned down a request to help out. A wonderful person, Cathy is such a good mother to Austin (16) and Sarah Catherine (14). She makes sure she prays with her children before meals and with any difficult decisions. She cheers the loudest at her children’s sporting events, getting the spectators involved. Friends are always welcome at the Mogy home. Her house is the place where the kids feel welcome. She makes food and fun for all. Always willing to go the extra mile, she is a busy woman with her work and children, but she has time for others, too. Cathy is surely a person who, when life gives her lemons, she makes lemonade. She tries to make each day special. She is an inspiration to her children and all our family and friends.

Cathy works as a Nurse-Anesthetist at McLeod Regional Medical Center in Florence. Many times, her patients are children and that’s the part of her job she enjoys most. She saves toys and treats for her young patients to make them comfortable before their surgery. She is able to keep them calm and less afraid by her ways with them. She’s a fun person – the kind of person everyone wants to be with. Because she cares so much, she has many requests for her services. Our family is very close. Cathy’s sisters have stood with her (and she with them) throughout the years, and especially since Richard’s death. We have many good times together. When Cathy turned 40 the March after Richard died, her sisters and I took her to London. Then, when Amy turned 40, we all went to New York. When Becky turned 40, we went to Charleston for a spa day. We try to make life events special, especially for Cathy. Although there were days when she felt she couldn’t go on, she would drag herself up and get going. I want Cathy to know how much our family loves and admires her for the person she has shown herself to be. She is committed to be the very best she can be. Cathy’s strength comes from the Lord – a supernatural answer to many prayers for her, Austin and Sarah Catherine. Our Lord is the rock she goes to for help. I know God watches over them and has blessed their lives in so many ways. Cathy Mogy is a remarkable woman.

Margaret Waddell and her husband of 46 years, Dean, have three daughters, Cathy, Amy and Becky. She is retired from The King’s Academy, a private Christian school in Florence. Her hobbies include her four grandchildren – Austin (16), Sarah Catherine (14), Mary Margaret Campbell (9) and Charles Dean Walls (6). She enjoys playing tennis and gardening. She is also a volunteer at McLeod Hospice, which she enjoys very much. Every second Tuesday, her friend, Merlee Shumpert, and she host a tea party for the patients and their families and the employees.

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A Remarkable Woman by Brandie Hewitt Berghorn

“(she) will tell you that her most prized achievement in life is her family and the young ladies that she has taught and coached.” My mom, Patricia Ann Hewitt, is a remarkable woman. She lives in Hartsville and

learned from basketball that she takes into her everyday

is 61-years-old.

is a game.

She was also born in Hartsville but

moved seventeen times before graduating from Hartsville

life is to have discipline, work hard and remember that life

All the while she was teaching and coaching, she

High. Afterwards, she attended Coker College when it

and her husband of forty years, Robert Levan Hewitt,

was an all-girls school.

managed to raise two children. Their son, Wayne

Her love of basketball began when she entered high

Hewitt, is 37 and lives in Texas. I’m the youngest and

school. She played at HHS (61-65) and at Coker (65-

I live in Hartsville. I taught and coached with Mom at

69). While in college, she decided that she would like to

Hartsville High School. She also has five grandchil-

be a coach; however, her first love was teaching.

dren, with one more on the way.

She started working at Hartsville High School in

Even though she has won numerous awards,

1969 and taught there until she retired this past summer.

my mom will tell you that her most prized achieve-

She also coaches basketball for HHS and will continue,

ment in life is her family and the young ladies that she

although she no longer teaches. She was named SC High

has taught and coached. She is our family’s rock when

School Coach of the Year three times.

Mom won

everything looks bleak. Everyone depends on her to

Converse National Coach of the Year in 1994 and

be the tough one that will listen and be by their side.

National Teacher of the Year in 2001. She has been to the

The one piece of advice that she gives her players is

state championships five times for basketball and was just

to remember that dedication, determination and the

recently inducted into the South Carolina Coaches Hall of

desire to be the best that they can be will help to

Fame in July 2009.

make them successful in basketball and in life.

In 1997, she was one of the first inducted into

She is a member of the Hartsville First

the Hall of Fame at Coker. She won the Distinguished

Church of the Nazarene and has been going there for at

Achievement Award from Coker College in 2002.

least thirty years. She is a Board Member and attends

Mom coached Shannon Johnson, who is in the WNBA, and when Shannon went to the World Games in China and to the Olympics in Greece, she took her coach

regularly. I joke with her and tell her when the doors are open, I can always find her at church.

My mom and I are best friends and we tell each other everything. I can’t imagine my life without her. My

along for the ride. In 2006, Mom flew to St. Louis, Missouri, to

daughter, Rylee, had to have surgery at Duke, and Mom

receive the National Sportsmanship Award presented by

was with me through it all. When Rylee has to have the

the Citizenship Through Sports Alliance and the St. Louis

next surgery, she’ll be with us again.

Sports Commission for exemplary contributions to the highest ethical standards and citizenship through sports. God and her obedience to Him is what helped Mom build a successful winning program. The things she

At the end of the day, the most important thing to my mom is serving the Lord and being there for her family at all times. Patricia Ann Hewitt is a remarkable woman!

Brandie Hewitt Berghorn and her husband, Jonathan, have two children, Zackary (2 ?) and Rylee (17 months). She teaches Physical Education and is the Assistant Athletic Director at Hartsville High School. She loves to scrapbook, spend time with family and friends and make bows for her little girl.

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“...this energetic eighty-somethingyear-old is still a go-getter.”

A Remarkable Woman

by Ferebe Gasque Jerrolyn Ward was born fifteen minutes after her twin sister. She hasn’t missed out on much since, though. Known as “Jerry” to her friends, this energetic eighty-something-year-old is still a go-getter. After growing up in Effingham and graduating from J. C. Lynch High School, Jerry continued her education at the Florence Business School, later known as the Carolina College of Commerce. After graduating, she went to work for the Wilcox Law Firm. After working there for a couple of years, she moved on to the South Carolina Highway Patrol, where “it was nice working with good looking troopers!” she says. Like most young people, Jerry wanted to spread her wings. That experience led her to Charleston where she got a job with the power company. Once again, a good looking man in uniform caught her eye and she married a Navy man, Jim Whitehead. As a Navy wife, she lived in Key West, Florida, and in Norfolk,Virginia. In both places, she was involved with the American Red Cross. She sometimes worked as paid staff and sometimes as a volunteer. She says today that the Red Cross experiences were the best jobs in the world. In Key West, she was in charge of Red Cross operations at the Naval Hospital and was instrumental in helping wounded soldiers returning from combat. Also, while in Key West, she worked with the Police Department in the Detective Division and later for the City Manager and Mayor of that city. No matter where Jerry was employed, however, she was always involved with the Red Cross.

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After she and her handsome man in uniform divorced, Jerry and their daughter moved back home to the Florence area. Vicki wanted to be in a Brownie troop, but there was not one to be found with an opening for a cute little girl from Florida. So, being the devoted mother she continues to be today, Jerry Whitehead started a new one. Brownie Troop 101 was formed and fifteen girls gathered every Saturday morning. According to Jerry, that troop sold the most Girl Scout cookies of any in the area. Still involved as a volunteer with the American Red Cross, the now single mom worked for twenty four years for Ed Young at Oakdale Country Club. She says she did just about everything there. Judging from her life history, she probably could have! Today, she is retired and still energetic. She mentioned more than once that she is really a party girl at heart. She wouldn’t give any details but had a twinkle in her eye at each comment in that regard. The loves of her life, however, are her family. Her daughter, Vicki Bazen, is married to Kenny, lives in Florence, and works at Pee Dee Cardiology Associates. Vicki and her husband have two daughters, Ashly Bazen and Kimberly Bazen-Caples. Kimberly and her husband, Ryan, have one son. Little Dean is Jerry’s great-grandson. She’s adjusting well to a little boy in the family after all the years of just little girls. Over and over again, Jerry praised her daughter. She said with pride in her voice and a tear in her eye,“Vicki is and always has been my number one person in the whole world. She is my devoted daughter.” So, it seems we have not one “Shero” here, but two.

Ferebe Gasque is honored to be the Music Therapist at McLeod Hospice House, enjoys selling Pampered Chef Kitchen tools, and loves writing for She Magazine.

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The Entrepreneur “I know that I’m a wife, a mother and a business owner. All the other stuff just falls in line.” Wanda James grew up in a small town on the Gulf Coast – Moss Point, Mississippi. Her elementary education began at St. Peter’s Catholic School, which was destroyed by Hurricane Katrina in 2005. She attended Our Lady of Victories High School and furthered her education at Southern University at Baton Rouge, Louisiana (where she met the love of her life), and received a B.S. Degree in Accounting. Afterwards, she attended William Carey College in Hattiesburg, Mississippi, where she received her MBA with a Field Emphasis in Marketing. Then, the love story began. McDonald’s has always had a special place in Wanda’s life because that’s where her husband,Arnett James, proposed to her. In the parking lot at a McDonald’s, after a romantic dinner of hot, fresh French fries with an ice cream cone on the side, a state of shock ran through her. She thought,“Gosh, I’ve never been married before. Just what do I say?” Of course, the answer was a resounding, “Yes!” After Wanda and Arnett married and started their business careers, they decided on researching all the food franchises out there. They decided that McDonald’s would be the right one for them. The reputation of the company was very sound, and leadership of the company was very positive. In 1990, they started training, had their first child and they both worked full-time jobs. Together, they worked around the clock. In order for both of them to understand the day-to-day operations of the business, they had to work all shifts – open, lunch and close. They had to have the commitment, and they had to balance their priorities and demands. To accomplish their goals, they had to stay focused. There would be times when Wanda was coming and Arnett would be going – or vice versa. Nonetheless, they stayed the course because they wanted to be successful business owners, and they wanted be a part of one of the world’s leading franchises. In August 1995, Wanda and Arnett took over the McDonald’s located in Marion, SC, working around the clock, day in and day out. Their first child grew up in McDonald’s until Wanda found one of the best babysitters in the world who would come and sit with their child while they worked long hours. Three years later, Wanda and Arnett acquired their second McDonald’s located in Florence. This new restaurant separated them because one had to drive to Florence to work and make sure that their team was giving 100% total customer satisfaction. Wanda stayed in Marion to make sure that the team there did the same. Wanda says, “When you experience the magical moment of being an Owner/Operator of one of the world’s best fast-food franchises, you immediately get ‘ketchup’ in your veins and that spirit of waiting on customers becomes electrifying.” With that being said, they acquired their third McDonald’s in 2000 in Dillon, SC; and in 2001, their fourth McDonald’s in another location in Florence. In 2006, they wanted to test their knowledge in construction, so they built their first McDonald’s, which is located in Florence on Celebration Boulevard and South Cashua. Every day was a travel day for both of them because they had

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to visit all the restaurants on a daily basis. Since they lived in Marion, they would travel from Marion to Dillon and from Dillon to Florence and back to Marion. Interstate 95 was a daily travel route. After having a family discussion on the traveling they did daily and the fact that the majority of the restaurants were in Florence, they decided to relocate to Florence. Although they had three restaurants in Florence, that move didn’t really solve their travel time. After six years of the extensive travel, in February of this year, they decided they would sell the Marion and Dillon locations, giving them the opportunity of buying another location in Florence (McDonald’s at Five Points). Then, they had four restaurants to continue to own and operate. Why McDonald’s? After researching all the leading competitors of McDonald’s,Wanda and Arnett can put it plain and simple: “McDonald’s is a solid financial model.” While they earn just pennies on each product they sell, they sell a lot of products. Their business thrives on a reliable, growing stream of customer traffic. Their customer growth is the foundation of restaurant profitability. Providing compelling products at an affordable price in a clean, comfortable and friendly environment is what McDonald’s (and the James) is all about. It’s what McDonald’s has been about for 54 years, and it’s what draws customers to the restaurants. Wanda is a businesswoman, but she also thinks of herself as a light of hope, an illumination that reflects people’s lives and dreams. She hopes that she empowers lives and builds confidence in others so that they may live better and have better lives. She isn’t just selling burgers and fries; she and Arnett are Owners/Operators, and they are actively involved in their business on a daily basis. As she visits with local schools and churches throughout the community, Wanda stresses that self-discipline starts in the home. “In order for you to be successful, you must stay focused. It’s about making good choices,” she proclaims. In order for Wanda to incorporate raising a family with a career, she has to prioritize the most important things that she can accomplish in a day. Her day starts at 5:00 A.M. with her daily exercise for an hour. That’s what she calls her “me time.” Then, she gets her son, Alex, ready for school. When she takes him to school, that’s her time to bond with him or have discussions or maybe review for a test. If you are as busy as Wanda, you really don’t have time to think about what has to be done. You just do it. She knows that Rome wasn’t built in a day; some things have to wait. Wanda stresses,“I know that I’m a wife, a mother and a business owner. All the other stuff just falls in line. I’ve been blessed to have wonderful people in my life to help me – my parents, my mother-in-law, my baby- sitter and our Director of Operations, as well as our staff.” (continued...)

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The biggest challenge for Wanda, however, has been taking on that “Mother Teresa” role, wanting to help everybody and not wanting to say no when, deep-down inside, she knows she should. Her biggest enjoyment comes from the fact that McDonald’s has afforded them the opportunity to be a part of the “McFamily.” She meets different people on a daily basis. She enjoys talking to school-age children, and seeing them outside of school is funny. She’s referred to as “the McDonald’s Lady.” Wanda’s advice to other women who dream of starting a business is to research the type of business you want to own. Once you’ve done that, talk to people who are in that type of business. Find out what the day-to-day business and challenges are like. Complete a Business Plan. Do a Market Study to see if this type of business is welcome in your market. Find out who your competitors are and what they are doing to drive the business. Even as McDonald’s owners,Wanda and Arnett shop their competitors to find out what they are doing to draw their customer. Whether it’s products, cleanliness of the restaurant, a friendly environment or friendly employees, there is always room for improvement. Finally,Wanda’s most important advice is, “Have faith in God and allow Him to lead you and guide you.” Summing it all up,Wanda says,“My future dreams are to continue to empower people and encourage people to live better lives. I also want to keep encouraging our youth to be great leaders in their communities and strive for the best. I hope that just by passing on my smiles daily and sharing my gifted talents from God,Arnett and I will pass on our passion for the business to our sons to continue this empire that we have built as business partners.”

Wanda DuBose James and her husband, Arnett, have two sons, Arnett D. James, IV, a Sophomore at South Carolina State in Orangeburg, SC, and Alex D. James, a sixth grader at Florence Christian.

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“Anytime. Anywhere. We are always dancing!”

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photo by Ricky Ford Burnadene Yarborough Kelley is the Owner of Kelley’s Fine Arts in Florence. In addition, she is the Director of the KFA Dance Company, which is celebrating their 21st year in business. Her love for dance was from day one of classes at the age of six. By the second grade, she was quoted in her school annual saying, “I want to be a dance teacher.” Burnadene studied with local studios as much as possible. In fact, she gave up most school extracurricular activities by the eleventh grade in order to take more dance classes. She then attended Columbia College and graduated with a BA in Dance and Elementary Education, which has really helped in developing her own curriculum and progression for each dance form. She continues with conventions, classes and videos to stay knowledgeable in the newest dance techniques. You never know from year to year what can happen in the dance business or what might come up that requires much attention. Burnadene is determined to find the solution and adjust. The success (21 years) has not been accomplished alone; it’s those precious dancers and the parents that have allowed

Burnadene the opportunity to share with them something she loves. She now teaches children of former students, and she delights in getting to know and love them. She is most honored that the parents entrust their children to her. Most of the KFA staff were also KFA dancers or parents of KFA dancers, and they understand the love and nurturing that Burnadene gave them and that she expects to be passed along. This makes for a strong bond and a wonderful support system. She calls it “growing your own staff!” She loves all of them like family and, in turn, they love KFA as their own. In regards to accomplishments, Burnadene says, “There are way too many awards to list; it would be not only impossible but senseless.” She is always proud when her dance students win a trophy or receive recognition, but the true success is when she sees them feeling good about themselves through dance, not from a trophy. She’s read where so many people are trying to define what dance is. “It’s simple; it’s an art form that involves physical activity while using your brain. But, most of all, it should be fun,” she asserts.

Burnadene’s Philosophy: “Dance your way through it! It’s not that I don’t understand the serious circumstance of life, it’s just that, for me, I choose to dance my way through it. Dance while you can!”

Her Career Advice: “Find something that you love, and then find a way to make it your career. Don’t spend your life dreading to go to work.” In Burnadene’s future, she sees . . . dance and dancers. And, oh yeah, diapers.

What She Participates In: “Any and everything! I have a tendency to say yes. I especially had a great time this year working with the Florence Little Theatre doing choreography for Peter Pan, thanks to Dwight Lindley and Scarlett Knight.”

Burnadene’s Influences: “My parents never made me feel silly about dance as a career option. Twenty years after graduating with a BA in Dance, they are still cheering me on.”

Kelley’s Fine Arts’ Motto: Anytime. Anywhere. We Are Always Dancing! Burnadene Kelley and her high school sweetheart and husband of twenty years,William George Kelley, reside in Olanta with their three daughters, Alexis (16), Rebecca (13) and Georgeanna (10). They are expecting daughter number four around Christmas.

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A Remarkable Woman by Cookie Cawthon

“my volunteer work is a very small contribution towards this end...” In the Jewish faith, there is a concept known as tikkun olam, which literally means “repairing the world.” It is the way in which humans partner with God in order to address and correct the many inequities that exist within the world. Humans have two responsibilities within this partnership: the contemplative performance of religious acts and participation in social acts of tzedakah (charitable giving) and gemilut hasadim (acts of kindness). Judy Kammer’s decades of volunteering and civic leadership find its roots in her faith; “my volunteer work is a very small contribution towards this end,” she shares. Judy Kammer was born in London and lived there until she was eight years-old at which time she moved to the United States and became a citizen at age eleven. She completed her undergraduate and graduate studies at the University of Michigan in Ann Arbor and promptly began a career dedicated to serving others. She was a high school English teacher, a team leader for counselors at a women’s health clinic, a high school guidance counselor, and now serves, as she has for the past fifteen years, as the Medical Office Manager for Pee Dee Neurosurgical Services. Judy came to Florence in 1980 with her husband, Dr. Kenneth S. Kammer, when McLeod Regional Medical Center first added neurological surgery to its menu of services. Judy began giving her time when her children were young; she volunteered in the activity center at McLeod Children’s Hospital, engaging patients in play therapy – including gardening and arts and crafts. Her role in the activity center led to her involvement with the newly formed McLeod Foundation; she chaired the inaugural Children’s Miracle Network telethon in 1988. She has had the pleasure of watching this event explode over the years with support from an army of dedicated volunteers and corporate sponsors – all cooperating to raise funds to provide much needed equipment to the Children’s Hospital. Over the years, Judy has volunteered with many community organizations but insists that she has received much more in return than she has ever given. She is currently a board member for the McLeod Foundation; she chairs the Grants Allocation Committee and serves on the Finance and Investment Committee and the Executive Committee. Since its inception in 1985, the Foundation has raised $30 million towards improving health care in the area. Judy considers her association with this organization to be a privilege and acknowledges it has had the greatest impact on her personal growth. Judy is also currently a member of a new group with the Eastern Carolina Community Foundation – Women in Philanthropy. This group seeks to enlighten and empower women with regards to philanthropic giving and to educate them about needs within their communities. She is also a member of The Coastal Conservation League and the Nature Conservancy of South Carolina; both groups work toward the preservation of natural resources. Judy attempts to promote preservation efforts by educating government officials of environmental (and sometimes health) concerns. She is also a past member of the Florence 2010 Committee, which shaped the vision for the revitalization of Florence’s downtown, and she is currently part of a committee working, in conjunction with the Downtown Development Corporation, to bring chamber music to that area of the city. Judy and the other members are working diligently to promote the upcoming concert – the Aurora Musicalis Trio on November 22 at 4:00 (tickets may be purchased at Porter’s Gift Shop and the Art Trail Gallery).

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Judy has also served as the past Sunday School chair, board member, and president of Beth Israel Congregation. She values being part of the only surviving Jewish community in the Pee Dee area, and she desires to strengthen and grow her congregation, appreciating what a benefit working with the synagogue and the various rabbis has been to her in raising her sons and learning more about her faith. Though Judy is often asked to collaborate and partner with different organizations, she prefers to commit to only a few at a time, allowing her to maximize her efforts without spreading herself too thinly. She wants to insure that there is time to savor the grateful smiles from parents and children who have recovered from an illness due to their care at McLeod Children’s Hospital and to invest in younger volunteers. She finds it so rewarding to observe and mentor others as they grow and take on fulfilling challenges. Judy is also prudent about how she manages her time and commitments so that there is ample time to enjoy her family and her other pleasures:“gardening, reading, kayaking and sailing in Charleston, walking our beautiful beaches and woods, seeing plays and symphony concerts, and a new love is watching The Metropolitan Opera in high definition, shown in theaters in Columbia and Summerville.” She and her husband have two grown, married sons. Dr. David Kammer is an emergency department resident in Charlotte and is married to Erika, a disability policy specialist. Jonathan Kammer is a fifth-grade special needs support teacher at KIPP Charter School in Philadelphia and is married to Shannon, a pre-med student, math teacher, and modern dancer. While the Kammers somewhat patiently await the arrival of grandchildren, Judy continues to pour her heart into service, knowing this truth from Margaret Mead – “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.”

Cookie Cawthon is just plumb crazy in Flo-town these days – loving her life and her man – chasing her dream, her cheerleader, and her gymnast.

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The Entrepreneur “I am waiting on the Lord to see what He has in store.” The dream of owning her own business first came to Cynthia as a young girl who loved sewing clothes for her Barbie doll. She had a natural love for all kinds of sewing, including embroidery, cross-stitch, etc. She even sewed all her clothing as she got older and more experienced. Cynthia’s mother taught her the basics of sewing. She learned even more in Home Economics class under Mrs. Genevieve Weaver; she taught her the importance of paying attention to the small details like ironing as you sew. Cynthia also loved to read, so she purchased and read Simplicity How To Sew and the Vogue Sewing Book and taught herself tailoring. By the time she was in high school, she knew she wanted to own her own dress shop. She made plans to attend Winthrop University and major in Fashion Merchandising with a minor in Home Economics. Back then, you could get a double major and study in Paris your senior year of college. Cynthia thought she would have many career options with this line of study since she could also be qualified to teach fashion or Home Economics or pursue the dream of owning her own business and getting married and having children. Cynthia’s dream was put on hold when she met the love of her life, her husband,Terry Poston. They were engaged to be married by the time she finished high school at age seventeen. Terry was a tobacco farmer and wanted a stay-athome wife. Cynthia agreed to marry him right out of high school at age eighteen because she thought having a husband and family that loved her was more important than a college education. After one year at home, Cynthia still dreamed of owning her own business – a dress shop. She decided to attend Florence-Darlington Technical College and get the two-year Associate Degree in Fashion Merchandising/Marketing. It was her only option in the Pee Dee area at the time since she wanted to commute from home, work on the farm and work three part-time jobs to pay for tuition, books, gas and other necessities. Cynthia graduated in 1980 – with honors. During her time at FDTC, she was exposed to a book by Stanley Marcus, Minding the Store, about the famous Neiman Marcus stores. Now, even more than before, Cynthia wanted to own a fine apparel store with great customer service like she read about. Her husband had patiently waited for her to graduate but was anxious to start their family. Soon, they had a beautiful baby boy,Travis, the following year on October 14, 1981, four years after their marriage. Nonetheless, Cynthia still dreamed of owning her own store; therefore, the idea of CYNTHIA BY APPOINTMENT came about so that she could still be at home with her, then, three-year-old old son and work part-time. At age 24, the dream began with a $500 loan from her local bank, a market trip to the Charlotte Merchandise Mart and a desire to work part-time and raise her son. CYNTHIA BY APPOINTMENT-personalized fashion showings in the convenience of your home or office was established. Word-of-mouth advertising was tremendous! While Cynthia was at an appointment, the client would call a friend or relative while she was still there and set up her next appointment. The client would tell her friends, “You’ve just got to see the beautiful things Cynthia has, and she will accessorize and coordinate your wardrobe at the same time!” Unknowingly, Cynthia gathered lots of valuable information at these appointments. She worked with her clients’ clothing and shoes. She learned their likes and dislikes and their lifestyle from their work and home, which was invaluable to Cynthia as the business grew. With this insight, she was able to carry jewelry and accessories, in addition to clothing. Cynthia was a personal shopper for her newfound clientele. Within two years, the business had outgrown its original space. Cynthia’s kitchen was her office with the dining room full of clothing and acces-

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sories. Her husband said,“It’s time to go!” Suppertime was just not the same, as customers called in for an appointment. So, she rented a space in her hometown of Johnsonville to house the inventory and to be near home and school for her family’s benefit. In 1986, CYNTHIA BY APPOINTMENT-personalized fashion showings in the convenience of your home or office moved to a shop on Main Street in Johnsonville, SC. Two beautiful ladies, Winnie Cox and Dean Richardson, were working for her, and they worked together for almost seventeen years. Although Dean retired and Winnie passed away as a result of lung cancer, in the beginning, they were instrumental in implementing the business standards that are still in place today with their fine Christian character. Cynthia, a young business owner at age 24, and Dean and Winnie’s mature, guiding force helped to make the venture a success. Again, it soon became apparent that a more convenient location for her clients was necessary. In 1998, after much prayer and seeking the Lord’s will, a prime real estate location was offered in the busy Five Points area of Florence in the SHOPS OF 7 OAKS. CYNTHIA-ladies fine apparel and accessories is presently located here at 1935 Hoffmeyer Road. The Lord blessed her with a beautiful new store. The decision to open CYNTHIA SHOES came naturally. Over the years as a personal shopper (fashion stylist), she had recommended shoes from local merchants to her clients. In May 2008, she realized that the best shoe stores had closed, and the market was wide open for a fine shoe store. Cynthia proposed the idea to her husband, who wholeheartedly said, “Let’s do it! That is a great idea!” She was so encouraged by his response because after twenty-five years in the clothing business, she knew her husband believed in her to do this. Therefore, CYNTHIA-ladies fine shoes and accessories came to be and is now celebrating its first year in business. It is a natural complement to the clothing store. From the many years of operating the clothing store that helped with the opening of the shoe store, Cynthia has relied on Proverbs 22:1,“A good name is rather to be chosen than great riches, and loving favour rather than silver and gold.” She lives by the following beliefs: Faithfulness, God is faithful and He hears and answers prayer; Reputation, the clothing store name gave the shoe store a solid name; Consistency in advertising. You have to keep the business name in front of the public so when they are ready to buy (shop), they remember to shop at CYNTHIA. Cynthia’s recipe for success and how she remains successful comes from her trust in the following two Scriptures: Psalms 127:1,2,“Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it; except the Lord keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain. It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows for so he giveth his beloved sheep,” and Psalm 128:1,2: “Blessed is everyone that feareth the Lord, that walketh in his ways. For thou shalt eat the labour of thine hands, happy shalt thou be, and it shall be well with thee.” (continued...)

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n The toughest part of owning her own business has been balancing career and family. That really hit hard when Cynthia’s only son, Travis, was killed in a tragic automobile accident in 2001. The reason for starting the business was to allow time with Travis. Now, the dream took on a different meaning. Through the painful grieving process, the Lord opened many opportunities to minister and witness at work for Cynthia. II Corinthians 12, verses 9 and 10 give her strength: “And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee; for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly, therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. Therefore, I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ’s sake, for when I am weak, then am I strong.” The most enjoyable part of owning her own business has been seeing the smile on a client’s face when she looks in the mirror with the perfect outfit on. Cynthia enjoys the challenge of matching the right outfit to the personality and lifestyle that is flattering in color and silhouette for her clients. She’s happy when a client knows she looks and feels her best! For Cynthia, achieving good customer service is definitely the most enjoyable part of owning a business. In regards to the future of CYNTHIA, she says, “I am waiting on the Lord to see what He has in store. I rely on Isaiah 40:31,‘But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles, they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.’” Cynthia welcomed her fiftieth birthday this year and celebrates 25 years of fashion. CYNTHIA-ladies fine apparel and accessories was voted “Best of the Pee Dee” – Best Women’s Boutique 2009. Cynthia sums it all up,“I thank my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, for all things. God has blessed me and I thank Him. God is faithful.” This remarkable woman’s dreams have finally come true.

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The Young Entrepreneur If you’ve ever dreamed of starting your own business, then you’re like me. If you’ve not only dreamed of it but accomplished it by the time you were sixteen, then you’re like Mills Brown. Mills is the Owner and Creative Brain behind MillsBrownInk. What has grown into a successful business began as a love of art. According to her mother, Missy, Mills has always been very creative, making jewelry and taking art lessons in her spare time. She would often doodle at school, using vibrant colors and would fill in her designs with a variety of themes. When you look closely, occasionally you’ll find a friend’s name or initials in the design. Though she had always done artwork for family and friends, her artwork was beginning to evolve into a style that is instantly recognizable. Missy was quick to note that Mills’ drawings are all freehand. “Many companies are using Photoshop to do similar things. This is all hand-drawn.” A love of doodling became a business idea rapidly. A friend of Mills’, Micaela Billingslee, asked Mills to draw a peace sign. When Micaela’s dad, who owns Radicals, saw the design, he asked permission to show Mills’ designs to his T-shirt manufacturer. Robert Wactor, with Wactor and Associates in Orangeburg, loved what he saw and met with Mills and her parents to discuss turning her designs into T-shirts and stickers. After papers were signed, they moved on to coming up with more designs. Missy came up with the idea of matching a verb with each image. The pink flamingo was the first along with the word “flirt.” Eleven more drawings followed, including a few just for the guys. All the designs are hand-drawn by Mills, and the ideas for the designs are a collaborative effort between her and Robert. Nature is the very obvious theme in all of her artwork. Robert knew that branding was the very important next step. He strongly encouraged Mills to develop a logo, and after much prodding from her friends and family, she came up with one she really likes. The MillsBrownInk logo appears on the front of every T-shirt and can be found on stickers, as well. Once the shirts were printed, the salesmen from Wactor and Associates delivered them to nineteen cities in South Carolina, many of those in tourist areas along the coast. The shirts were an instant hit. While her fam-

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ily was vacationing at the beach, they saw a few people sporting the shirts. Now, Mills is more motivated than ever to keep the business going. She still loves the design side of her business but has gotten very involved in marketing and enjoys that, too. The website and Facebook fan page were her ideas, and she really enjoys updating the page and seeing new fans. When it comes to marketing, Mills refers to the fan page as the “fun part of it.” This seems to be just the beginning of a good thing. Mills plans to attend college but hopes to continue growing her business at the same time. Concerning working on the business during college, she said, “If it’s still going strong, then I’ll probably do a few (designs) every six months.” There are some vendors who have already contacted her about using her designs on a wide variety of giftware, including koozies, cups and napkins. One vendor has also asked her about turning her images into prints. She continues to come up with new designs and has six new designs for the spring. I had a chance to get a sneak preview, and the designs are just as intriguing and original as all of her previous work. There is a possibility she’ll get into licensing to satisfy the appetites of the Clemson and Carolina fans, but that’s just a thought right now. Mills is forward-thinking and does have some thoughts on the future of her business. She wants to expand as much as possible and really focus on building the brand. Thoughts of opening her own store have even crossed her mind. For anyone interested in getting a closer look at her products, you can check out the website at www.millsbrownink.com, or you can go to Radicals or Salty’s if you’re in the Florence area. The website also has a listing of stores across the state where her shirts and stickers can be found. On November 2nd, Mills will be at Simpson Hardware in Sumter from 7 to 10 PM for Ladies’ Night Out and will be more than happy to sign your Tshirt. Her shirts have been known to sell out quickly, so a word of advice – Get there early!

Emmie Lynch was born and raised in the Pee Dee. She is a graduate of the University of South Carolina and lives in Florence. Her favorite things are writing, the outdoors and spending time with her family.

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“When we serve others with special needs and use our God-given talents to help, I can guarantee joy and blessings beyond belief.” Jody Jackson first met Rebecca Smith when she moved to Florence and attended senior activities at Shepherd’s Center of the Pee Dee and joined the Pee Dee Chapter of AARP. Rebecca was the Inspirational Chairperson and provided short messages at the beginning of monthly meetings. Jody says that Rebecca’s topics were always interesting; they had a message without being pushy. In nominating Rebecca for the REMARKABLE WOMEN issue, Jody proclaims, “She inspires me to live up to what she believes I can do.” After learning Rebecca’s story, we were inspired to share it with you. Rebecca is the Volunteer Chairman of the Florence Chapter of Shepherd’s Center of the Pee Dee. Shepherd’s Center is a faith-based, non-denominational organization for persons fifty and older, associated with Shepherd’s Center of America. The group is one of thirteen Centers in South Carolina. They meet ten consecutive Thursdays during the winter, spring and fall. Sessions consist of Adventures in Learning, Bible Study, Arts and Crafts, community projects, cards and handwork. In addition, the Center sponsors a monthly Book Club and trips. Reverend Tom Pietila introduced this organization to the Florence community. It has been in existence for five years and continues to grow. The membership is almost one hundred members from Florence and several towns in the Pee Dee. Members represent some twenty to twenty-five churches in the community and offer the opportunity to meet people they perhaps would have not known otherwise. That’s why this organization is very important to Rebecca.

Besides being an integral part of Shepherd’s Center, Rebecca is so much more in the community. She is a member of Central United Methodist Church where she presently teaches an adult Sunday school class on a regular basis and serves as a Circle Leader. In addition, she chairs the Pee Dee Group of the Make-AWish Foundation of South Carolina, an organization to serve children and young people with life-threatening illnesses from ages two and a half until they reach their eighteenth birthday. She helps interview children and families who are recommended by physicians, social workers or their parents. Approximately twelve to fifteen wishes are granted in this area annually. AARP and The Florence League of Women Voters are organizations she joined to keep her aware of local and national issues that are important to older adults. Two educational groups that she works with are Delta Kappa Gamma and Kappa Kappa Iota. Having been an educator for thirty-eight years, serving as an Elementary Teacher, the first Elementary Guidance Counselor in Florence and then as an Elementary Principal for fifteen years, these organizations give her current information about educational issues and fellowship with both active and retired educators. She is also a member of The Daughters of the American Revolution (DAR), which helps her to know the history of our country and current happenings related to our country. One of Rebecca’s basic beliefs is that we are to share all that we have with others – our time, talents and resources. The organizations described above give her

the opportunity to do this. In addition, Rebecca really enjoys people and opportunities to organize and develop groups that help all people. Every time she is able to serve others, she feels that she is the one blessed. She says, “It is difficult to describe the joy I feel when I am able to help anyone – children or older adults.” Seeing and helping a child or young person with a life-threatening illness and being able to grant something that they want truly touches her heart. However, as an older adult, she knows that people, as a group, have some very special needs. Organizations such as Shepherd’s Center bring people together with the purpose of keeping them involved and active. She likes people and the challenge of helping develop an organization to promote continued learning activities, to promote good use of time and providing fellowship, Bible Study and opportunities to support various charities and projects in her community. Rebecca sums up her love of being involved and helping people: “I learned a long time ago that involving others will make a group stronger and helps us feel that this is our organization. We have grown because members tell friends and they come to enjoy the fun! If you walk into one of the sessions at Shepherd’s Center, you would see smiles on the faces of those in attendance, and you would see people helping others and hear lots of chatter. The trips we take are also fun and the group enjoys each other in this different activity. When we serve others with special needs and use our God-given talents to help, I can guarantee joy and blessings beyond belief.”

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A Remarkable Woman “she managed to not only pull through, but do it with a welcoming smile the size of the sun...” by Heather Frick (Pictured with the loves of her life, grandchildren Cade and Ragen.)

“There are very few people who have the strength of my mother,” says Lisa Castles, the proud daughter of Sandra McCutcheon. Having three separate women write She Magazine about one particular woman, Sandra, we couldn’t be more delighted with the opportunity to meet such a remarkable woman. A woman more “selfless, humble yet heroic, energetic, radiant, optimistic and enduring” as Sandra was described by her sons, Wes and Ben McCutcheon, would overwhelm our search for the most remarkable woman. From the outside looking in, life’s obstacles appear only as small hills untraceable by any technologies such as Google Earth when placed in the pathway of Sandra. Through years of caring for her husband, Benjamin, she managed to not only pull through, but do it with a welcoming smile the size of the sun glowing through her day. Benjamin has had Parkinson’s disease for nearly 26 years. Recently, he has had some complications, but Sandra refuses to let this get them down. She begins her day caring for her husband at 6 A.M. Because of her many daily chores and her caring assistance to anyone who needs her, Sandra’s day never finds end before 10 P.M. Before her days became so long with the caring of Benjamin, she took on the task of caring for her very own mother who suffered from Alzheimer’s. Sandra was devoted to having her mother comfortable when the disease she had was so very uncomfortable. As if the burdens that Sandra would refer to as blessings weren’t enough, she also took care of her brother who had Lou Gehrig’s disease. He remarkably lived fifteen

years with the disease; but, during the formation of this article, Sandra had to face the loss of her heroic brother, Will. Despite her hectic schedule and full-time job, Sandra still manages to spend time with her family and friends, rarely missing a grandchild’s event, friends in need of a shoulder or her very large extended family at Lake City First Baptist Church. Sandra and Abbie Denny met nearly twenty-three years ago when they taught Kindergarten together at church. They had both recently lost their fathers; the losses were extremely difficult. But, with each other to lean on, it helped heal the open wounds. Abbie learned quickly that she would continue to need the support of her dear friend, Sandra, because she lost her sister to breast cancer and then found out that she, herself, had colon cancer. “Sandra never left my side. She called me every day to make sure I had something to eat and would often stop by just to keep me company,” Abbie says of her very best friend. Best friend doesn’t adequately describe the relationship between Abbie and Sandra. In fact, Abbie says Sandra feels more like a sister and was moved to tears while trying to put words to how much she loves and appreciates Sandra. Sandra later met Joyce Lamb while they were both employees at Dr. Lyn Denny’s. Joyce knew that she loved Sandra for her kind words, smiling face and genuine personality. She began noticing how truly genuine she was to patients and how she would go out of her way to help everyone, not only at work but with whomever she came in contact with. Joyce remembers very well as she was fac-

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ing a trial of her own, “Sandra offered a piece of encouraging Scripture, Psalm 39.” Joyce goes on to say,“If you mention Sandra’s name to anyone in Lake City, there is only praise and admiration for her because of her compassion and love to all people.” Sandra would humbly say that she doesn’t deserve the recognition her daughter and very best friends,Abbie and Joyce, are giving her. She would deny all allegations of being such a thing as a “Shero.” However, her daughter, Lisa, proclaims, “All who know her realize immediately that she is definitely a Shero.” When I first met Sandra, I couldn’t help to be taken in by her natural beauty. It made me wonder,“Could a woman this beautiful on the outside really be that truly beautiful on the inside?” It only took me minutes to answer my own question, “Yes!” She was lovely. From the small conversations we had, I was immediately overwhelmed by her selflessness. She wouldn’t take the picture for She by herself, believing as though she didn’t deserve all the credit her loved ones were pouring her way. Remarkable is an understatement for a woman of Sandra’s magnitude. If we could all be a little more like her, it seems like the world would be such a nicer place. Thanks to her silent yet powerful strength, we are able to learn that when times are tough, we can look to the Lord and our friends to help make our way through.

Heather Frick lives in Florence and works for She Magazine as Editorial Assistant (among many other things).

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Counting Blessings “Granny always had something cooking, whether it was a holiday or not, so her house always smelled like comfort and joy.” by Anna K. Pitts Bath and Body Works has their holiday scents out now. Of course, they have for awhile since stores are pressing to begin the holidays earlier and earlier each year. Somehow this year they at least managed to wait until after July fourth before clearing aisles and moving merchandise to make room for the trees and tinsel. I do wish they would bide their time a bit better; allow us to fully enjoy one holiday before moving onto another. But Bath and body Works is a bit different than regular holiday décor and beautiful scents and fragrances are quite a necessary part of ushering in my holiday spirits. Mama used to make the house smell so good during the holidays by taking old fruit that she had frozen and sticking them into a steaming tea kettle on the stove with cinnamon sticks and cloves. I never knew a bad orange could smell so good! And Granny always had something cooking, whether it was a holiday or not, so her house always smelled like comfort and joy. My aunt was one to have a fresh pot of coffee going each time she entered the kitchen and I knew that she felt so comforted by that warm, rich smell, holding the cup as she drank it. In Camden there is always a pie waiting for the most opportune moment to slice and Russian Tea if I make mention of it before I visit my grandparents there. This month I had access to coupons and gifts of Bath and Body Works goodies for my birthday. So I went with some friends and purchased sets of Wallflowers and candles in Fresh Balsam, Pumpkin Patch, and Leaves. I have every intention of taking

them to Brandon’s and plugging them in while we put up his tree later on and make out shopping lists for Christmas and travel schedules for Thanksgiving visits. But tonight I needed some of that subtle comfort a flickering flame and a cozy Fall smell can bring. I am extremely thankful for this year. Blessings upon blessings have been lavishly poured on me and my family and friends. I have witnessed others suffer so immensely that I would be very ungrateful not to say it. Every year I am amazed at its close what trials I have come through and what tragedies I have avoided. But I am most thankful and overwhelmed by the little things; the smells and sights and sounds of what my life consists of this year. Pumpkin and peanut butter chip muffins lend themselves perfectly as an example of what I mean. I visited a dear friend this week and she listened to me ramble on about not much at all. She let me love and her boys and made me turtle brownies with the caramel perfectly incorporated across the top, just like it looks on the box! She put candles on it and sang “Happy Birthday” even though they had just gotten home from two other birthday parties and were probably more than tired of those four repetitive lines. Her friendship and the love her family shows me is such a pleasing, fragrant aroma and how thankful I am for such people in my life. Another friend of mine is a ready and waiting walking partner. Most anytime I need a good stroll she’s right there with me and we can zip through six miles quite easily talking and hashing out issues that require strategies and some detailed planning. She knows that all you really need sometimes is just to walk in a straight line, not having to think about where you’re going or how to get there, just walking.That’s exactly what I’m thankful for: Debbie and straight lines. In the name of “wedding planning” Brandon took me shopping for an entire day recently.Yet another perfect example of a subtle, tiny blessing that makes such a big difference. Not once did he complain, or mention that he wasn’t having the best time ever trying on suit jackets and walking around a mall carrying bags full of purchases. He even sat patiently at the cosmetic counter in a rather large cosmetic store and innocently waited for me to decide exactly what shade I need-

ed while holding various choices in his lap. How thankful I am for his patient nature, as I continuously pray for a look at the “big picture” in order to keep my strength and sanity. Laughing, though not so small or easily unnoticed when around many of my friends, is another one I don’t know what I would do without major doses of, daily. It makes me so happy to be able to name more than ten people who are close to me that can produce a nice belly laugh on demand. I’m so glad my life includes laughter regularly.And I am truly appreciative of the presence of these things in my world. How comforting it is to look around and see all the small parts and pieces that I wouldn’t want to live without.They make time so much sweeter.And the temperatures seem to be bringing us weather that lends itself nicely to these aromas flickering through my room now. I am so enjoying this cozy time. I am so looking forward to re-visiting these smells and sites and sounds day after day for the next several months. I am so thankful to be aware of the rich details of a blessed life and a grateful holiday spirit.

Anna Pitts lives in Florence. She is currently pursuing her career as a School Library Media Specialist and loving every minute of the journey!

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chicklit: What’s on

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As a Media Specialist, I find it very hard to suggest just one book to the readers of She Magazine. However, I just finished reading The Shack by William Paul Young, and I recommend it for anyone who enjoys reading Christian fiction books. The main character in the book guides us through his journey filled with sadness at

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the loss of his daughter and his desire to forgive man and God. The story provides a unique perspective of God’s desire for a closer relationship with man. I also love, love, love children’s books! One of my favorites is Big Chickens written by Leslie Helakoski. The pictures are by a wonderfully, funny illustrator,

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Henry Cole. I love to read this book to my 5K students. It makes us all laugh and laugh at the silly chickens who think danger is everywhere. The author uses humor to teach us to overcome our fears, and the illustrator makes us laugh at the comical antics of the chickens. Need a good way to feel young again? Read a book to a child!

Jan McKenzie is the Media Specialist at Latta Elementary School in Latta and has worked for LES for eighteen years. She enjoys living in Latta where she is close to her two sons, Spence and Jonathan, and their wives, Heather and Leah. Her hobbies (other than reading) include bike riding and shopping.

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the Second Act

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hen change comes to our lives, it always seems to be at an inconvenient

time. Maybe that’s because most of us just don’t like change anyway. Sometimes,

things just happen. For example, some women have lost their jobs because of the economy, or they had to quit their job and move with their husband because he had to find a new job in another state or town when he lost his job. Either way, they had to essentially start over in the business world. This is always a very stressful period of time and may even be considered a crisis. It is also a chance for this individual to grow spiritually, emotionally and maybe even educationally. Growing can be hard – and even painful. This isn’t something we want to hear because it’s very hard to grow and to have to change, especially if it wasn’t our idea to begin with. This type of situation pulls on every fiber of our being and uses all of our personal resources, talents, gifts – and our faith in God. Going back to school today is very different from attending school ten, even twenty years ago. Applying for a job is also vastly different. One of my degrees is a B.S. in Nursing. In the past, I could take my résumé and go door-to-door to different hospitals or facilities and interview and have a new job – or even a better paying job – in approximately one week, ten days at the longest. Today, this is unheard of. You have to apply online and the entire process is very different. You have to wait and hope that you get a call from someone who probably doesn’t know you and has never met you. School, on the other hand, is all e-mail stuff. The exam you take may be sent to you by e-mail, your term papers are sent to the professor via e-mail, and you search for library books at on-line libraries, etc. Everyone uses PowerPoint for presentations in class. And, if your professor cancels class, you’ll get the message via e-mail. This is all vastly different, and the best way to be prepared for change is to try and keep up with as many of the technological advances as possible. This helps you prepare for what comes next. If you hate your current job, rather than just quit in this economy, I would devise a plan. Decide what job you want and figure out all the details involved in procuring and securing that specific job. It would be excellent if you could get a copy of the written job description so you will have a better idea of what you are getting yourself into. Also, figure out if you possess all the required skill sets. You may need to take a college course to become more up-to-date and ready to compete with the market and be prepared for other competitive factors. Have you considered starting your own business or considered going back to school to make a complete career change? Maybe it’s time to pursue a lifelong dream. People age physically, of course, but most people don’t feel that their minds have changed or slowed down. In other words, if you’re in good physical condition, then it’s never too late to go back to school. According to research, it may take some adults a little longer to learn new material, but they have so many other advantages over younger students. Focus on the positive gifts and characteristics that you possess. Just don’t give up. Be tenacious and consistent, and you’ll accomplish whatever goals you set. Don’t let people rob you of your “second act” if that’s what you desire to achieve. And, don’t let fear stop you and prevent your success. Ouida K. Page is a Master’s Prepared Licensed Professional and National Board Certified Counselor. She has a Bachelor’s Degree in Nursing and is a member of Sigma Theta Tau (International Honor Society of Nursing). She has been in private practice in the Hartsville and Florence areas for over 15 years, specializing in families and issues relating to children, adolescents and women of all ages. You may contact her by e-mailing [email protected] with “Ouida” as the subject matter.

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FAMILY: My family and I are very close. My wonderful mother, Janet, and my supportive brother, Javier, and I all live together in the great city of Florence.

and engage in the Two-Plus-Two Program where I can get my Associate’s Degree at FDTC, and then transfer to a college and receive my Bachelor’s Degree from that college in two years. That way, I’ll have two degrees in four years.

HIGH SCHOOL: Wilson High School RIGHT OUT OF HIGH SCHOOL, I WANTED TO: I was involved in the WHS News Team, and I was a part of the Wilson High School Gospel Choir. Both of these activities were a lot of fun and I’m still inspired by them. The News Team, especially, because this is when I found out what I really wanted to do for a living. ATTRACTION TO FLORENCE-DARLINGTON TECHNICAL COLLEGE: After I graduated high school, I was exhausted, so I didn’t start college right away. I started FDTC during the spring of 08. I was attracted to them by their curriculum. MAJOR: I’m going for my Associate’s Degree in Arts. FURTHER EDUCATION PLANS: Because of the program that I’m involved in called Student Support Services (SSS), I plan to transfer to a four-year college

DREAM JOB: My dream job is to be a News Anchor on Good Morning America; but, if I don’t make it there, a local news station will suffice just fine. SCHOOL ACTIVITIES: Currently I’m in work-study at FDTC as an Administrative Assistant and was chosen to be the Ambassador for the Fatherhood and Families Engagement Program. This is a program designed to help fathers in the community to become better providers for their families, better employees for their jobs and productive citizens by counseling, workshop classes, GED preparation, job training and employment assistance. Our mission is “To empower, equip and educate fathers in the Pee Dee Area to build healthy relationships with their children and become responsible citizens.” We work hard to help the community help themselves. From working here, I’ve been blessed with the opportunity to have my own Internet radio show on www.scvillagevoicesradio.com.

My show is called “Community Times with Princess Emmy” (which is my nickname – I consider myself a princess because my Father, Jesus Christ, is the King). SPARE TIME: When I’m not working, studying or at my church (First Church of Our Lord Jesus Christ), I’m usually bowling at Lee All Star Lanes, eating at Pizza Hut, eating seafood at Miguel’s or at the movies. I love hanging out with my friends; they are so funny; but, most of all, they are loyal. BIGGEST LEARNING EXPERIENCE AS A COLLEGE STUDENT: That’s definitely learning to apply for financial aid on time. However, I’m working my way up on that. I’ve volunteered with Tonya Brown from WPDE News Channel 15 on several occasions. She is a wonderful person, and I love all the time I get to spend with her. MY INFLUENCE: My favorite influential people are my Pastor, Gino Jennings – I follow him as he follows Christ. And, Michelle Obama – she is virtually a superwoman!

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How to Raise a Go-Getter Encouraging Children to Reach Their Highest Potential

What we tell our kids they are, they will believe they are. We are all born with a potential to achieve and succeed. It may be in art, accounting, writing or mathematics. There are different strengths within each of us. As parents, it’s hard to know what we should cultivate in our children and how to help them maintain that adventurous spirit in pursuing their goals. I had a professor once who told us that children are born with potential to succeed, but the world works hard to snuff that out as soon as it can. A cynical view, I agree, and it is not the intention of “the world” or parents to discourage their children. However, it can be a natural parenting error that goes unnoticed. We live in a capitalistic society, one that encourages academic and monetary achievement. It’s natural to attempt to maximize our children’s achievement. After all, we want our children to be comfortable, accepted and secure in, what we so annoyingly call “the real world.” Just know that what you say may not be what they hear, and parenting words may steer them from a successful direction. Yikes! Fatima, an energetic four-year-old, says, “I want to be a ballerina.” A slight fear, ever so slight, resonates in the mother’s heart, and mild anxiety produces a response. Mom says, “You like school; maybe you’ll be a teacher or a doctor.” What do you think Fatima hears? She hears that (1) being a ballerina is unacceptable, (2) she is wrong for wanting something for herself and her parent will tell her who to be, (3) maybe she’s not really good at ballet. Okay, let’s face it. With a four-year-old, you may not say anything. You may simply think she’s cute and giggle her words away. But, be honest. You say to yourself, “She’s still young. Of course, she wants to do that. I have time. I have time.” Imagine if Fatima said the same thing at fourteenyears-old. What would your response be then? Instead of implying that she should not want to be a ballerina, praise her motivation to be something. You could say, “You love

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dancing and are so good at it. It makes you so happy. You’re so good at so many things; you can be whatever you want to be.” We have a tendency to forget that our children need to enjoy life, too. By implying that something that makes them happy is a waste of their time or an unnecessary pursuit, we’re really missing the boat. Raising daughters that way encourages them to become women who don’t practice self-care or pursue personal time. Know any of those? Here it comes. Are you ready? This is a golden nugget of information. What we tell our kids they are, they will believe they are. The way we evaluate them, through our actions and our words, will become the way they evaluate themselves in thoughts and emotions. You hold a very important power in your hands – their self-concept. Focus on what they do well. You should address and work towards bolstering their weaknesses; but, get in, manage and get out of those times. Spend more time – much more time – focusing on their strengths. You believe in them and they will believe in themselves. Trust me, you want an internally-motivated adolescent, so work hard to raise one. You can encourage responsibility by giving your child roles and tasks in the home. Yes, chores. Reward efforts more than results; this will create an internal feeling of “wanting-to-do” within your child. If they didn’t do a “good job,” instruct them how to do better in a matter-offact teaching way rather than a you-should-have-done-itright-the-first-time way. After all, they did attempt the chore. There are many children who don’t get that far. Be careful you’re not punishing effort. You must encourage problem-solving and decision-making. In our hectic days, we tend to solve our children’s problems for them and take away their decisionmaking power. We don’t want to raise children who don’t believe in themselves enough to solve problems in which they will be presented. We want them to believe that they

are competent to make decisions. If we take away all of their control, we don’t teach them self-control and how to manage independence. Encourage them to do for themselves. My son is four-years-old, and he makes his own bed. It won’t be in any children’s décor magazine, but he makes it himself. He grabs those covers and slings them up towards the pillows. When I’m making my bed, I verbalize, “Mom likes to smooth the wrinkles like this. Swoosh!” and “Mommy likes to put the pillow on top of the covers, then the shams over top. Can you help me tug the bottom down? Thanks. Wow, you’re a good bed maker!” Over the course of a couple weeks, I’ve noticed his pillows and shams are being placed in their proper place, and his wrinkles are getting smoother. He’s actually doing a very good job with it. And, yes, I’m gonna say it; he wants to do it every morning, and he wants to show off his progress! Do you see how there was no scolding for doing it wrong because that just makes him not want to do it again. Why would they not want to avoid criticism? There was no direct, firm, teaching that implied he did it wrong, either. After all, it is his bed. This is a small example of a broader parenting approach that we should strive to adopt. The good news is this; we don’t have to raise gogetters. They usually are just born ready to do. We just have to work towards encouraging their motivation to do, and we must be kind in our instruction. Cultivate their desires to achieve and their motivation towards accomplishing any goal. These skills will generalize into self-confidence and self-esteem. If they believe in themselves, they will succeed in life, have better boundaries with others and be more emotionally well-rounded. That’s what we want, right? We want them to be happy and live a good life. Remember, you hold the power, so be careful where you point that thing!

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The Entrepreneurs Recent reports say women are starting new businesses at 1.5 times the rate of men. Even during the recession, more and more women are saying, “Now is the time.” Ironically, losing a job or failure to find one can be the boost a woman needs to pursue the dream of owning her own business. The truth is, women are natural business owners. They have an innate ability to juggle and multi-task, think quick on their feet, and they are fearless. Research also suggests the fact that women are such great networkers gives them an advantage over their male counterparts.

Let’s hear it for GIRL POWER! With She Magazine’s regular advertisers, we have nearly 70 women-Owned Businesses. These businesses fuel our local economy and offer a diverse shopping experience. This month, we celebrate the REMARKABLE WOMEN ENTREPRENEURS who pursued their dreams to own their own businesses.

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Empty seat by Melia Flowers Berry

It’s November. Normally, by this time of year, I’m ready (though “prematurely” as my children tell me) for the Thanksgiving and Christmas seasons. This year, though, for the first time in my life, those warm, fuzzy, festive feelings are absent. It’s not that I’ve lost my love for these special holidays, it’s still there. It’s just buried beneath an avalanche of pain and sad memories. This November will mark the one-year anniversary of the death of my DaDa. He went to be with the Lord the day before Thanksgiving last year. On Thanksgiving Day, I felt so much grief that I didn’t even think of it as Thanksgiving.

we ever shared, and I am thankful that my daddy now spends Thanksgiving with our Heavenly Father. I know my DaDa wants me to enjoy this Thanksgiving. He wants me to cook and hum in the kitchen. He wants me to smother those poor vegetables in cream of mushroom soup and cheese and all the ingredients needed to take them from their natural state to a good ol’ Southern casserole. He wants me to love on my mother and hug my children and remember him with laughter. Most of all, he wants us to never, ever forget how much he loves us. That, I can do.

“Most of all, I can see the love in his eyes looking back at me from the end of the table.” So, this year when we have Thanksgiving dinner, it will be the first time without him. My throat tightens as I write this from my den and look into my dining room at the chair in which my DaDa sat since I began having Thanksgiving dinner at my house. As the days begin to unfold leading up to the night he died, I know I will relive each moment. I dread the process beginning. I can recall the events of that last month almost hour by hour, and it makes me so sad. Even thoughts of saying the words,“It’s been a year since my daddy died” make it all seem so final. Up until this point, I could think back to memories of “last year.” Now that it’s actually the one-year anniversary, I have only one memory – my DaDa is gone. I can no longer say, “Last year this time, I was with my daddy.” My daddy was over six feet tall and lean from a life-time of working hard and staying active, and he had a ferocious appetite. He loved to eat and loved Thanksgiving dinner. However, he always ate healthy and he always loved food in its purest form. For example, I love sweet potato casserole, and I make it at Thanksgiving. My DaDa would rather have just a plain sweet potato with a little butter (not margarine, again, the real thing). The same went for green beans and squash; give them to him in their natural form with a little seasoning, and he was good to go. He wasn’t impressed with green bean or squash casserole. For these special holiday dinners, however, he would let me pile his plate high with food from all the dishes I made, all the while saying, “Not so much, Love.” Though DaDa was always the last man sitting, he would finish every bite, just to make me happy. And, then he would eat dessert. One of the many things I’ll always remember about him was the way he would place his hands together and say in almost a whisper, “Oh, boy!” when about to consume something good. He seemed like a little boy when he did this, and it made me realize just how much he loved the simple things in life – like a bowl of vanilla ice cream or the old-fashioned flour bread my mother baked just for him. He was precious that way. I can see his beautiful smile now and hear his deep yet soft voice and roaring laugh. His laugh was incredible. Most of all, I can see the love in his eyes looking back at me from the end of the table. I’m struggling to get in the spirit of the Thanksgiving season, but I’m still thankful. I am so thankful for every moment God gave me with my DaDa. I am thankful for every Thanksgiving dinner Melia Flowers Berry is the Editor and Publisher of She Magazine. Most proudly, she is the daughter of David (her DaDa) and Earline Flowers and mom to Josh, Jacob and Haley.

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“We were having a pool installed and needed to extend the wrought iron fencing that was already in place. After researching several suppliers with no luck we received the She Magazine for the month of August and saw the ad for fencing. That same day we called and discussed our needs. Seegars Fence had a booth at the home show through the HBA of the Pee Dee at the Magnolia Mall. Helpful advice was given and product examples were shown to match our existing fence (wrought iron). We scheduled a free estimate at our home and a price was given that day. Fence installation began soon after without being bothered by boarding our dog. The fence went up so fast! It is perfect for our landscape and we enjoyed working with them very much. They made this so easy for us." -The Sparrows of Hartsville, SC

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THE IMPACT OF DIABETES Dr. Andrei Talantov is an Inpatient Physician (Hospitalist) at McLeod Regional Medical Center. Dr.Talantov specializes in Internal Medicine, and completed a Diabetes Fellowship at East Carolina University in 2007. Dr. Talantov works closely with the McLeod Diabetes Center. Andrei Talantov, MD

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Diabetes mellitus is a condition in which a person has chronically raised blood glucose concentration. It is caused by an insufficient level of the hormone insulin, which is produced by the pancreas.

• Amputations are 15 times more likely in people with diabetes • There are approximately 80,000 lower extremity amputations per year related to diabetes complications • 50% of the patients have an amputation on their other extremity within 3-5 years • The direct cost of amputations is over $600 million per year • The average cost per amputation $25,000-$40,000

Diagnosis of Diabetes: • Fasting Blood Glucose > 125 on two occasions • Random Glucose > 200 in patients with symptoms of diabetes (excessive thirst and hunger; frequent urination, tiredness)

What is the Prevalence and Impact of Diabetes in the United States?

Diabetes is also associated with an increase in heart disease (2 - 4 times); vascular disease (4 times); erectile dysfunction (3 times), and perinatal mortality (2 - 6 times). Even more serious, the life expectancy in people with Type 1 diabetes is reduced by about 15 years, and by about 5 years in people with Type 2 diabetes.

Prevalence and Incidence of Diabetes: Economic Costs of Diabetes: • There are more than 24 million people with diabetes in the country • Approximately 90% of these people have Type 2 diabetes (adult onset) • More than 3 million new cases of diabetes were diagnosed in the last 2 years • Diabetes is the seventh leading cause of death in our nation (According to the Centers of Disease Control, 2008 data) The prevalence of diabetes is 13.7% among all men in the United Sates and 11.7% among women. Across the nation, age-standardized diabetes is highest in Mississippi,West Virginia, Louisiana,Texas, South Carolina, Alabama, and Georgia (15.8 - 16.6% for men and 12.4 - 14.8% for women). Vermont, Minnesota, Montana, and Colorado have the lowest prevalence (11.0 - 12.2% for men and 7.3 - 8.4% for women).

• $138 billion total costs • Two-thirds of diabetes expenditures are related to complications • 25% of the total Medicare budget is devoted to the treatment of diabetes and its complications (more than $30 billion a year) The financial impact on people living with diabetes is great as well.The average out-of-pocket medical expense for people with diabetes is nearly three times that of the general population. In addition, it is often difficult for people with diabetes to obtain medical and life insurance. Prevention of Complications: The American Diabetes Association estimates that up to 85% of complications can be prevented by tight glucose control, normal blood pressure and cholesterol levels, treatment of early kidney disease, annual eye exams, evaluation of nerve function and proper diabetes education.

Costs of Diabetes: The costs of diabetes are high both financially and in its toll on the human life. According to the American Diabetes Association, diabetes is the leading cause of new cases of blindness, the leading cause of End Stage Renal Disease, and the leading cause of non-traumatic lower extremity amputation in our nation. Diabetes also results in an increased Apgraduate Kievers revalenofcetheofMcLeod cardioFamily vascMedicine ular disResidency ease. (AProgram, mericaDr. nD iabetCunningham es Associrecently ation)returned to McLeod to serve as a member of the Faculty. He

The McLeod Diabetes Center is staffed by certified diabetes nurses and an Advanced Practice Registered Dietitian certified in diabetes education. The center’s education programs help people self-manage their diabetes to prevent or lessen complications. The McLeod Diabetes Center is hosting their annual Diabetes Health Fair November 7, from 9:30 a.m. - 2:00 p.m. in the McLeod Medical Plaza (800 E. Cheves Street, Florence). The health fair offers blood glucose, blood pressure and vision screenings, foot checks, diabetes education, cooking demonstrations, motivational talks, and much more. For more information, call the McLeod Diabetes Center at (843) 777 - 6000.

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Florence’s Only Certified Bariatrics Center

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I had a really bad SAHM (stay-at-home-mom) Day recently, and I thought seriously about going back to work and putting my children in daycare. I thought, “Surely, they would be better off where they could play with other children and have scheduled activities all day long.” That way – as opposed to being at home – every day would be different. At home, the girls have each other but not playmates their age. Sometimes, they have to entertain themselves while Mommy cooks, cleans and does laundry. Or, they have to succumb to a less exciting idea for play because Mommy is just too worn out to do the high-maintenance activity they want to do. My oldest (3) has even told me before that she wanted to go to daycare (since other children do). So, why do I do this? Why do I stay at home and make my children lead this inadequate life with me? Well, the answer should have been obvious: it is not inadequate. In fact, it is more than adequate. It is advantageous to their growth in Christ and, therefore, in life. My mother-in-law had wise advice that I have heard confirmed by other experienced parents in this matter, “The first five years of a child’s life are vitally important in the outcome of the rest of his life.” I have heard it said that a child can learn a second language most quickly by age five. Well, there is a lot more that a child can learn other than languages. A child can learn about God. In just three years, my daughter has memorized a half a dozen Scripture Passages, the Ten Commandments, The Lord’s Prayer and countless Bible and praise songs. Even more, I can’t keep track of how many times I’ve had opportunities to teach the girls about putting each other first, not being selfish, loving, sharing, caring for each other, being obedient, being respectful, obeying out of a love for God and a love for His Word and focusing on the Kingdom of God and not on the pleasures of this world.

Not only have I had countless opportunities to teach my children about God; but, as a result of being with them all the time, God has taught me about Himself. Recognizing His holiness, I have become more keenly aware of my sinfulness – especially in the areas of impatience and anger. I’ve had to rely so heavily on God in those areas, praying and memorizing Scripture to combat those sins. He has also worked on my heart to modify its treasure. Staying at home means less money, which means less stuff, changing the desire of my heart to wanting less and giving more. I also feel, sometimes, that this once bright individual has become slow due to the loss of brain cells that came with pregnancy, birth and too much Blues Clues and Dora. Then, God revealed to me through some amazing Christian women authors and speakers to sharpen my mind through deep study of His Word. Reading and studying a subject results in an increase of knowledge; so, reading and studying the Bible increases your knowledge about God. The subject is called theology – definition: “the study of the nature of God.” I read the lyrics below on the blog of a Christian hip-hop artist that I like, and I felt they described my hopes and desires perfectly. I hope one day someone can say this about me.

“Her passion grows greater as she beholds Him Job title: Homemaker/Theologian Early in her walk, she would fight against His will then The Lord used her marriage and the Bible to reveal sin Now she fights to kill sin and her greatest joy is serving her husband as she’s disciplining her children While worldly mothers stress shopping for the new style She’s pouring into younger women,Titus 2 style Teaching others how to rightly see brothers and be mothers And most of all, better Jesus lovers Christ crucified! That’s her permanent shout And, by the grace of the Lord, she’s working it out” Most of the time, I feel very blessed to be a SAHM. I know that if I worked, I wouldn’t have the same opportunity to interact with my children on this level of teaching about God at this point in their lives. I would be stretched too thin. Some women feel they have more to give as working moms, and I can understand that, too. But, knowing myself fairly well, I’m confident that I’m right where God wants me – able to instruct my children in righteousness throughout the day – every day – in these few early formative years. The more time I have with my children, the more opportunity I have to teach them God’s Word – and, hopefully, on the good days, exemplify what it means to follow Christ.

Originally from Orlando, Florida, Annie Collins now resides in Marion with her husband, Dan, a Youth Minister, and their two daughters, Maddy and Phoebe. She is a 2004 graduate of Columbia International University with a Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology. Annie looks forward to your feedback. You may contact her at [email protected].

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Whooo? Who is the most remarkable woman you know?

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Perry Benton, Jr. - Florence “The most remarkable woman I know became my stepmother when I was four. Three years later, she was diagnosed with cancer and flat-lined during surgery to remove it. Although there was serious permanent damage, she still has the best outlook on life that I could ever imagine. She is a great reminder to me to never take anything for granted, and I’m lucky to have such a remarkable mother.”

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Jim Berry - Florence “The most remarkable women in my life are my mother, Dianne, and my wife, Esther, because of their Christ-like love, encouragement, support and prayers for me.”

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David Walters - Hartsville “My wife, Marla Walters, is the most remarkable woman I know. She’s the best teacher, an excellent mother (she loves all children), my best friend and the love of my life.”

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Dear

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For a couple years,I have seen the ads in She Magazine for veneers, and I would like to know if the procedure is painful. Also, do you have to have every tooth replaced with veneers all at once, or can you get veneers on the ones that need it most and keep going until you have replaced all needed teeth. My front teeth are badly discolored, and I’ve been told that whitening will not work for me. Thank you,

with

Joe Griffin, DMD Advanced Dental Center of Florence

B. J., Florence, SC by ??????? Dear B. J., There is prep work that is done prior to the placement of the veneer. During this

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porcelain veneers that are “contact-lens-thin,” placed over existing teeth without having to reshape as much tooth structure.

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Generally, the dentist would place six, eight or ten veneers at one time. This depends

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on your smile and how many teeth really show when smiling or laughing. If you were to place

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just two – or even one at a time – you would have different shades and sizes of teeth. Those results would probably not make you happy with the veneer applications.

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Family: Parents, Perry and Karen Grice; Sister, Carmen; & Dog, Precious

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Dreams for the Future: To attend the University of South Carolina and major in Chemistry or Biology

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What Makes Me Laugh: Corny jokes

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Often, back pain or injury doesn’t happen as the result of a major accident. It is the simple everyday task that can be a real pain in the back.

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