Transactional Analysis Ten Tenets 1. Every grown-up was a child 2. Every human being with sufficient functioning brain tissue is potentially capable of reality. 3. Every individual who survives into adulthood has had either functioning parents or someone in that position 4. It is possible to change or re-decide anything that has been decided earlier. 5. We are born OK, and become not OK by accepting/internalizing negative injections of our “parents.” 6. Our brain acts as a recorder capturing every sensory experience from birth (possibly prior). 7. We are born with stimulus hunger and without it the infant may become crippled or die. 8. Our decisions of how to get along in life are based on our perception of the moment. 9. Our perceptions are influenced by past experiences, future aspirations, and more importantly as a child, by a level of cognitive ability. 10. We have a need to structure time in ways designed to achieve a desired level of strokes.
Alter Ego States 1. Parent – ‘Thought’ - Ingrained voice of authority, absorbed conditioning, learning and attitudes a. Witch b. Smothering c. Nurturing 2. Child – ‘Felt’ - internal reaction and feelings to external events the seeing, hearing, feeling, and emotional body of data within each of us. When anger or despair dominates reason, the child is in control a. Rebellious b. Compliant c. Free 3. Adult – ‘Thought’ - Our ability to think and determine actions based on received data. Begins to form early in life.
OKness Okness is seeing oneself and others as having the potential to be fully human and fully alive.
Think Trust Caption
Joy Creative Spontaneity
OK Corral – life positions
I’m ok ………………..………………………………. I’m ok…………………………………………………. I’m not ok…………..………………………………. You’re not ok………………………………………
You’re ok You’re not ok You’re ok I’m not ok
Structure Time for Recognition
Withdrawal – isolation in own thoughts Activity – work Intimacy – closeness taken to another level; unuttered recognition Ritual – predictable Pastime – like ritual; no emotional attachment; lead to set up game Scripts – life plan made in growing up Games – ulterior motive; predictable series of interactions o Blame game o Kick me
Why Games? o o o o o o o
Structure time Acquire strokes Maintain substitute perception Confirm parental injunction, furthering script Maintain person’s life position by “proving” that self/others are not ok. Provide a “high level” of stroke exchange while blocking intimacy and maintain distance To make people predictable
Drama Triangle
Perscutor
Victim •genuine victim (forced)
Rescue •genuine rescuer (gives opportunity)