The Power Of Positive Attd

PERSONAL & PROFSSIONAL DEVELOPMENT THE POWER OF POSITIVE ATTITUDE

MANAGERIAL/INTERPERSONAL SKILLS, ETIQUETTES, MANNERISM, GROOMING AND MOTIVATIONAL LEADERSHIP & KNOW THY SELF. BY

FAISAL KAMRAN

WHO ARE YOU?

WHAT ARE YOU?

YOU ARE THE PRODUCT OF YOUR ATTITUDES

These attitudes are maintained by the inner conversation you constantly have with yourselves, both consciously and subconsciously

So, The first step in changing your attitude is to change your inner conversation.

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POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE

Positive or Negative Active or Passive. Optimist or Passimist

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is quite common to hear people say: "Think positive!", to someone who feels down and worried. Most people do not take these words seriously, as they do not know what they really mean, or do not consider them as useful and effective. How many people do you know, who stop to think what the power of positive thinking means?

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following story illustrates how this power works. Allan applied for a new job, but as his self-esteem was low, and he considered himself as a failure and unworthy of success, he was sure that he was not going to get the job. He had a negative attitude towards himself, and believed that the other applicants were better and more qualified than him. Allan manifested this attitude, due to his negative past experiences with job

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mind was filled with negative thoughts and fears concerning the job for the whole week before the job interview. He was sure he would be rejected. On the day of the interview he got up late, and to his horror he discovered that the shirt he had planned to wear was dirty, and the other one needed ironing. As it was already too late, he went out wearing a shirt full of wrinkles.

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the interview he was tense, displayed a negative attitude, worried about his shirt, and felt hungry because he did not have enough time to eat breakfast. All this distracted his mind and made it difficult for him to focus on the interview. His overall behavior made a bad impression, and consequently he materialized his fear and did not get the job.

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applied for the same job too, but approached the matter in a different way. He was sure that he was going to get the job. During the week preceding the interview he often visualized himself making a good impression and getting the job.

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the evening before the interview he prepared the clothes he was going to wear, and went to sleep a little earlier. On day of the interview he woke up earlier than usual, and had ample time to eat breakfast, and then to arrive to the interview before the scheduled time.

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got the job because he made a good impression. Of course he had also the proper qualifications for the job, but so had Allan.

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What do we learn from these two stories? Is there any magic employed here? No, it is all natural. When the attitude is positive we entertain pleasant feelings and constructive images, and see in our mind's eye what we really want to happen. This brings brightness to the eyes, more energy and happiness. The whole being broadcasts good will, happiness and success. Even the health is affected in a beneficial way. We walk tall and the voice is more powerful. Our body language shows the way you feel inside.

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thoughts, words and attitude bring up negative and unhappy moods and actions. When the mind is negative, poisons are released into the blood, which cause more unhappiness and negativity. This is the way to failure, frustration and disappointment.

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Instructions  In order to turn the mind toward the positive, inner work and training are required. Attitude and thoughts do not change overnight.

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a negative thought enters your mind, you have to be aware of it and endeavor to replace it with a constructive one. The negative thought will try again to enter your mind, and then you have to replace it again with a positive one. It is as if there are two pictures in front of you, and you choose to look at one of them and disregard the other. Persistence will eventually teach your mind to think positively and ignore negative thoughts.

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case you feel any inner resistance when replacing negative thoughts with positive ones, do not give up, but keep looking only at the beneficial, good and happy thoughts in your mind.

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does not matter what your circumstances are at the present moment. Think positively, expect only favorable results and situations, and circumstances will change accordingly. It may take some time for the changes to take place, but eventually they do.

Let yourself be Happy. Count your Blessings Every Day

Definitions of Will Power and Self Discipline?  It

is the inner power that overcomes the desire to indulge in unnecessary and useless habits, and the inner strength that overcomes inner emotional and mental resistance for taking action. It is one of the corner stones of success, both spiritual and material.

SELF DICIPLINE  The

human being is full of inner unconscious, or partly conscious, impulses. People sometimes say or do things they later regret saying or doing. On many occasions people do not think before they talk or act.

Will power and selfdiscipline  Will

power and self-discipline help us to choose our behavior and reactions instead of being their slaves. Don't think that life will become dull and dry in this way. On the contrary, you will feel more powerful, in charge of yourself and your surrounding, and consequently much more happy and satisfied.

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many times have you felt too weak, lazy or shy to do something you wanted to do? You can gain inner strength, initiative and the ability to make decisions and follow them. Believe me,

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is not difficult to develop these two powers. If you are earnest and are willing to become stronger, you will certainly succeed.

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practicing appropriate exercises, you develop your powers the same way, as a person who trains the muscles in order to strengthen them.

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Developing Will Power and Self Discipline  One

way to develop and improve these abilities is to practice doing some disagreeable things in your daily life. Your mind and feelings will probably oppose doing them, nevertheless, do them.

 Remember,

strengthening one of these abilities, automatically strengthens the other one.

EXCERCISE  1)

You are sitting in a bus or train and an old man or woman, or a pregnant lady walks in. Stand up and give up your seat even if you prefer to stay seated. Do this not just because it is polite, but because you are doing something that you are reluctant to do. In this way you are overcoming the resistance of your body, mind and feelings.

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There are dishes in the sink that need washing, and you postpone washing them for latter. Get up and wash them now. Do not let your laziness overcome you. When you know that in this way you are developing your will power, and if you are convinced of the importance of will power in your life, it will be easier for you to do whatever you have to do.

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You come home tired from work and sit in front of the T.V. because you feel too lazy and tired to go and wash yourself. Do not obey the desire to just sit, but go and have a shower

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You may know your body needs some physical exercise, but instead you keep on sitting doing nothing or watching a movie. Get up and walk, run or do some other physical exercise.

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Do you like your coffee with sugar? Then for a whole week decide to drink it without sugar. You like to drink three cups of coffee each day? For a week drink only two.

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Overcome your laziness. Convince yourself of the importance of what is to be done. Convince your mind that you gain inner strength when you act and do things, in spite of laziness, reluctancy or senseless inner resistance.

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Sometimes, when you want to say something that is not important, decide not to say it.

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Don't read some unimportant gossip in the newspaper, even if you want to.

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You have a desire to eat something not too healthy. Refuse the desire.  10) If you find yourself thinking unimportant, unnecessary, negative thoughts, try to develop lack of interest in them, by thinking about their futility.

Advantages of Possessing Strong Will Power and Self Discipline 

You need both of them in order to rule your thoughts and to be the boss of your mind. The stronger they are, the more control you have over your thoughts, and consequently your powers of concentration get stronger.

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abilities are essential for self growth, spiritual growth and meditation. They give you control over your daily life, help you improve your habits and behavior, and they are the keys to every success.

List 10 Things you are grateful for.          

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Then which of the Blessings of your Lord will you both (jinns and men) deny? SURA AL-RAHMAN

AVOID HIPOCRACY  NEVER

MAKE THE PROMISE TO YOUR BROTHER, WHICH YOU FELT THAT YOU WOULD NOT BE ABLE TO FULFIL

Thank you God

Even though I clutch my blanket and growl when the alarm rings, Thank you, God, that I can Hear. There are many who are deaf. Even though I keep my eyes closed against the morning light as long as possible, Thank you God, I can see. Many are blind.

Even though I huddle in my bed and put of rising, Thank you Lord, that I have the strength to rise. There are many who are bedridden. Even though the first hour of my day is hectic, When socks are lost, toasts are burned and Tempers are short, and my children are so loud, Thank you, God for my family. There are many who are lonely.

Even though our breakfast table never looks like the picture magazines,and the menu is at times unbalanced, Thank you God, for the food we have. There are many who are hungry. Even though the routine of my job is often monotonous, Thank you, God for the opportunity to work. There are many who have no jab.

Even though I grumble and bemoan my fate from day to day, and wish my circumstances were not so modest, Thank you, God, for life.

So, do some reflection, and count your blessings. Your day will improve.

ALWAYS NOTICE THE POSITIVE SIDE OF LIFE.

WHAT YOU GIVE IS WHAT YOU GET.

Have you ever thought why some people are more successful than others?

Because They Think & Act More Effectively.

Remember It.  The

Most Selfish one word letter “I” Avoid it.  The Most satisfying two word letter “we” use it.  The Most selfish three word letter “EGO” Kill it.  The Most beautiful four word letter “Love” Value It.  The Most five words generous letter “SMILE” Keep It.  The Most six word bad effect letter “Rumor” ignore it.

Remember It.  The

Most meaningful seven words letter “Success” achieve it. The Most Ugly Eight Words letter “Jealousy” Distance it. The most necessary nine words letter “Knowledge” Acquire it. The most useful ten words letter “Confidence” Trust it.

WHO WAS THE INVENTOR OF ELECTRIC BULB?

THOMAS EDISON

Thomas Edison had tried 9,999 times to perfect the light bulb and hadn’t succeeded, someone asked him, “Are you going to have ten thousand failures? He answered, I didn't fail. I just discovered another way not to invent the electric light bulb.”

Every mistake is an opportunity to learn something new.

The secret to success is never to give up.

FORGIVE YOURSELF… AND MOVE ON

Know That When One door Closes, others Open.

SKY IS THE LIMIT HUM NEY JAA KE DEKH LIYA RAHGUZAR SE AAGEY BHI…………. RAHGUZAR

HI RAHGUZAR HAIN RAHGUZAR SE AAGEY BHI.

SOME OBSERVATION S ON OUR ATTITUDES

People often violate small rules and regulations .

ONE :

People do not have a tendency to make a que.

TWO:

•Violation

of traffic lane and signals. •Wrong

parking

THREE: • Most

of the cycles do not have proper back lights.

FOUR: People often come late and leave early.

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They feel happy if they reach home half an hour early.

It is now indeed FIVE: very hard to find any footpath or sidewall without pan’s stains. Or Chalking on Walls •

SIX:

Throwing paper cups, plastic bottles, used tissue papers on streets.

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Throwing garbage outside the house.

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There are numerous ways in which such attitudes reflect poorly on a nation.

DO NOT UNDERESTIMAT E YOURSELF.

YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINK YOU ARE!!

The Eaglet that turned a Chicken

A story goes that a farmer once found an eagle’s egg and put it with the eggs of the hen in his courtyard. The eaglet hatched with the brood of chicks and grew up with them.

All his life the eaglet did what the chicks did, thinking he was a chicken. He scratched the earth for worms and insects. He clucked and cackled; and he would sometime thrash his wings and fly a feet or so in the air. Years passed by and the eagle grew old.

One day he saw a magnificent bird above him in the cloudless sky. It glided in a graceful majesty among the powerful wind currents, The old eagle looked up in awe.

Who’s that? He asked. That’s the Eagle,

The King of Birds, said his neighbor.

He belongs to the sky. We belong to the earth – we’re Chickens.

So, the eagle lived and died a chicken, for that’s what he thought he was.

YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINK YOU ARE !

And Do Not Let Anyone Crush your Spirit.

THE JAPANESE AND THE GERMAN SPIRIT

TURNING HUMILIATING MILITARY DEFEAT INTO ECONOMIC VICTORY !

We need to recall, and capture the message of Dr. Allama Iqbal who says

PEOPLE WITH POWERFUL POSITIVE ATTITUDE EXAMPLES OF RECENT TIMES

ERIK WEIHENMAYER

MOTHER TERESA

ERIK WEIHENMAYER

DARING CONQUEST OF EVEREST

BLIND MAN  CONQUERED

AGE-35

 BLIND

SINCE HE WAS 13 YEARS

 VICTIM

RETINA

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EVEREST AT THE OF

OF A RARE DISEASE OF THE

BEGAN ATTACKING MOUNTAINS IN HIS EARLY 20s

BLIND TO FAILURE

Everest eats the unready and the unlucky. Almost 90% of Everest climbers fail to reach the summit.

For Erik, the key was acceptance-not to fight his disability but to learn to work within it.

Not to pretend he had sight but to build systems that allowed him to excel without it.

It could be called the most successful Everest Expedition ever.

It is not the mountain we conquer, but ourselves. - Sir Edmund Hillary

Huge Transformation of South Africa

Mandela’s words, “the struggle is my life,” are not to be taken lightly.

MOTHER TERESA

Touched by the utter poverty and misery in India, she decided to devote her whole life for the welfare of the poor and sick people.

Her Words Today it is fashionable to talk about the poor. Unfortunately it is not fashionable to talk with them.

YOU AND GOD

People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered; Forgive them anyway If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; Be kind anyway If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies; Succeed anyway If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you; Be honest and sincere anyway

What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight; Create anyway. If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous; Be happy anyway The good you do today, will often be forgotten Do good anyway. Give the best you have, and it may never be enough; Give your best anyway.

What you spend years creating others could destroy overnight; Create anyway. If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous; Be happy anyway The good you do today, will often be forgotten Do good anyway. Give the best you have, and it may never be enough; Give your best anyway.

In the final analysis, it is between you and God; It was never between you and them anyway -Mother Teresa

Abdul Sattar Edhi - taking care of the poor, the sick, and the dead

Edhi established his first welfare center and then the Edhi Trust with a mere Rs. 5000.

one-man show operating from a single room in Karachi is now the Edhi Foundation, the largest welfare organization in Pakistan.

The Edhi Foundation refuses to take any aid from the Government, thereby maintaining its independence.

BANKER TO THE POOR

FOUNDER AND MANAGING DIRECTOR OF GRAMEEN BANK

He Demolished the Myth that poor cannot be provided Credit

No one can achieve anything without a Dream.

One must have A Vision and A Mission

One must be a Revolutionary And think the Unthinkable.

His ideas have changed the face of Rural Economy And Social Development forever.

What is Motivation?

Motivation is the process of getting other people to do what you want them to do.

Why is

Motivation Needed?

To Accomplish anything, you must first

Be Motivated to do it.

Effective Motivation puts the best people on the best projects – the ones that will produce the best possible future results.

Intrinsic Motivation Since intrinsic motivation is the key to a person’s performance and fulfillment on the job, you should create an environment where intrinsic motivation can flourish.

Motivate others by Minimizing their weaknesses and maximizing their Strengths

MOTIVATION IS LIKE A FIRE, UNLESS YOU ADD FUEL, IT GOES OUT.

LEADERSHIP

What is a Leader?

A Leader is someone who sets direction in an effort and influences People to follow that direction

What is Leadership?

LEADERSHIP IS ABOUT NURTURING AND ENHANCING - TOM PETERS

The Faces of Leadership Charisma Instills   

Faith Respect Trust

Individual Consideration    

Activity listens Coaches Advises Teaches

Why are Leaders Needed

Manage through times changing: They Determine Direction • They take Organization from were they are to where they Need to Be •

Leaders make things happen: They shape the Culture • They use the Management Tools •

Leaders are Revolutionaries: •

Catalysts or Agent of Change

Customer are not Demanding Excellent Service, they are Demanding more Attitude  Productivity  Cutting Costs  Profitability 

Self-esteem. 

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Build a person’s self esteem

When people feel good about themselves, it is easier for them to be motivated.

CHANGE ACCEPTANCE Leaders can help the change process by changing their employees' Attitude from avoidance into acceptance.

“Great Leaders, like diamonds, are the products of pressure” ARNOLD H. GLASOW

MOTIVATIONAL LEADERSHIP

Team Work

Topic Please deliberate amongst yourselves and make a presentation on any sustainable socio-economic activity of Pakistan that is the Product of Motivational Leadership

5 Teams Each team itself to select the Team Leader for Presentation. Time to Prepare:

25 mins.

Time to present:

02 mins.

Time to Q & A:

01mins.

Time for observation from OAH: Total Time:

05 mins.

45mins.

A Role Model

A Human Development Dynamo

- Intellectually Honest - Demonstrating And - Inspiring

He did not follow the beaten track

FOUNDER OF THE COMMILA RURAL ACADEMY & ORANGI PILOT PROJECT (OPP)

ORANGI PILOT PROJECT (OPP) Bringing the Ethnic Groups together To Work for their collective growth

Sindhis Baluchis Pathans Muhajirs Punjabis

He taught them Self - Reliance

And guided these who were victims of Deprivation And Discrimination

- Healing Rifts And - Bridging Distances

He was  A Dreamer  Philosopher  Poet Revolutionary and above all A

Doer

Dr. Khan's heart, soul, body, and mind worked for poor People.

“It would be very wrong if I boast that I did this or that. I merely observed a lot of things then founded supporting institutions. But the people did the work themselves.” Akhter Hameed Khan

It didn't matter whether he was serving the poor community, meeting the President or a high Government offical, or receiving an award, he always wore the same, simple clothes made of Khaddar (rough and cheap cloth).

To be a High Achiever you have to stop thinking in a Fragmented Way…

…you have to go for….

Unity in Diversity

So, please put Passion Zeal and Enthusiasm into everything you do.

BECAUSE IT IS YOUR ATTITUDE THAT DETERMINES YOUR ALTITUDE.

Thank you!