Establishing A Good Buddy Relationship

ESTABLISHING A GOOD BUDDY RELATIONSHIP •The

importance of trust •The emotional rewards •Other EQ factors involved in a buddy relationship

Various roles of a critical friend (CF) a) CREATING A POSITIVE CLIMATE b) PROVIDING A SUPPORTIVE ROLE

1. Effective attending and listening 2.

Actively listens to the teacher  

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genuine ‘unconditional positive regard’ (Rogers 1969) tough-minded listening : accept that it is the teacher’s views; understand (Egan)

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‘Get inside the skin of the problem’ - probe teacher’s explanations - analyse collaboratively - diagnose

4. Creating empathy * Empathy vs. Sympathy (looking with) (looking at) - imagine being in another’s shoes - look at things from the other’s angle - reserve judgment

Supportive interventions Supportive interventions affirm the worth of clients, of their qualities, attitudes of mind, actions … (Heron, 1990: 116) Important to establish relationships based on trust & develop a teacher by emphasizing the good work done ( a developmental model) rather than being critical of performance (a deficit model)

CF can be supportive of:  

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The teachers as people The positive qualities of the teacher as a person The beliefs, norms and values that the teachers hold The actions of the teacher The products and projects of the teacher

Supportive interventions 1. Validation (Feel-good factor : start with positive) 2. Sharing and self-disclosure 3. Apologising 4. Expressing care by doing things and giving things