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Introduction Premarital sex, an act that is practiced excessively in the world today, is not all that it is caught up to be. It definitely has more side effects than benefits. Premarital sex is an action that causes one's emotional, social, spiritual and physical being to become corrupted. The regretful effects are widespread and can alter one's life forever. The emotional results of premarital sex can lead to psychological damage. This includes confusion that can cause one to question his own self worth. A person may also become depressed and regretful. Premarital sex is not something that happens and is quickly forgotten but can be something that haunts a person forever. Virginity is a gift from God and once it is given away, it can never be returned. The realization of this fact alone can bring emotional damage. Sex before marriage can also cause social problems. Many times these acts are not kept silent, therefore; reputations are degraded. When the news gets around, the outcome usually consists of others gossiping and judging. This can ruin a person's reputation and cause others to loose respect for that person. Our reputations are usually very important to us, and premarital sex is only going to result in the injury of that reputation. Other prominent disadvantages of premarital sex, are those that affect the physical body. Pregnancy is an unfavorable, physical consequence of sex before marriage. Internet statistics show that ten percent of all fifteen to nineteen year old females become pregnant each year. Sexually transmitted diseases are another physical effect of premarital sex. Approximately three million cases of STD's are reported among teens every year. Becoming pregnant before marriage and contracting sexually transmitted diseases are disturbing to the physical well being of a person. Obviously premarital sex does more damage than good because of its negative effects on such a large part of our lives. It can alter our emotional, social, spiritual, and physical lives forever. It may seem right at the time but it obviously does more harm than good in the long run. "Is it ok to have premarital sex?" That is a common question among teens and engaged couples. Perhaps you are in a relationship that is progressing in that direction, but you're not sure what to do. In your mind, you are probably weighing the pros and cons of premarital sex. On the positive side of the scale, there is acceptance from your peers, hope for pleasure, and the fulfillment of sexual desires. The negative side of the scale carries the weights of morals, fear of pregnancy or disease, and guilt. How do these scales balance? What is the right decision? Let's take a look at some of the facts.

What is Premarital Sex? Sex is a very personal and very subjective topic. It can be very confusing as there are no clear cut rules to follow. Many people engage in premarital sex in the hope that it will bring them intimacy only to discover that they feel empty and unfulfilled. Often dubbed the “morning-after-syndrome” this is when a person wakes up after engaging in sexual relations with another person only to discover that the intimacy they thought had developed was not really there at all. Instead there are two people in a bed who shared pleasure with one another but were intimate sexually but in no other way. Bonding and intimacy are about far more than just sexual relations. True intimacy involves the emotional need and desire to share with a life partner and to be a part of the total experience of sharing each other’s lives. While there is sexual intimacy involved, true intimacy involves every aspect of an individual’s being. Many people consider it old fashioned to wait to have sex and studies show that in today’s society sex becomes an issue in a relationship much sooner than it did 20 or 30 years ago. This does not necessarily signal progress however. The intimacy needed to fuel serious, committed and loving relationships between people who wish to spend a lifetime together takes time, effort and patience to cultivate. Mutual respect and trust must develop between two people in order for bonding to take place. It is important to not use sex as the determining factor for whether or not the relationship will survive. Remember to work on all areas of the relationship and not just the physical aspect. Bonding is intimacy and that involves letting another person into our lives completely and allowing love, tenderness, warmth, compassion, acceptance and a feeling of closeness to enter into our hearts and lives. Knowing whether or not premarital sex should be included in the mix is not always a simple question to answer. Look back into your past and ask yourself if premarital sex has helped or hinder your past relationships and then make the decision that is right for you. Premarital Sex - Is it Moral? Morality is a factor for many people when deciding whether or not to have premarital sex. Is it a factor for you? After all, the messages we receive from most TV shows and movies these days tells us "everyone is doing it." In light of today's permissive attitude, your peers may think you're weird to even question it. But maybe there is something inside you, like a voice in your head, that is making you uncertain about whether or not sex before marriage is a right or wrong action. Many people refer to this voice as their conscience. How can you know if your "conscience" is right? People all around the world look to the Bible as a moral or religious book, so let's see what it says about premarital sex.

The Bible refers to premarital sex as fornication. That's a word we don't hear much these days, so what does it mean? Fornication is sexual intercourse between people who are not married to each other. The only distinction the Bible makes between premarital sex and adultery is that adultery involves married persons while fornication involves those who are unmarried. Premarital sex is just as much of a sin as adultery and all other forms of sexual immorality. They all involve having sexual relations with someone you are not married to. The Bible explains, "…The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body" (1 Corinthians 6:13). Verse 18 of this chapter goes on to say, "Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body." Galatians 5:19 speaks the same, "The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity…" Ephesians 5:3 says it most plainly, "But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people." From these verses, we see that the Bible promotes complete and total abstinence from premarital sex. Premarital Sex - Is it Safe Physically and Emotionally? Another consideration when deciding about premarital sex is safety. Did you know that 50% of the people who currently have HIV are between the ages of 15 and 24?1 Using a condom only reduces the risk of contracting HIV by 85%. Condoms do not significantly reduce the risk of contracting other sexually transmitted diseases.2 Take these statistics into consideration when making your decision. Most people don't consider the emotional effects of premarital sex. You see, sex is an emotional experience and it affects our lives in ways we don't understand. After engaging in premarital sex, many people express feelings of guilt, embarrassment, distrust, resentment, lack of respect, tension, and so much more. As you read the next section, consider God's love for you as a primary reason for sexual purity. God does not want you to experience unnecessary emotional pain!

Premarital Sex - Recreation or Re-creation? In discussing premarital sex, we often focus on the "recreation" aspect of it. Yes, sex is pleasurable. God, our Creator, designed it that way. It may be hard to think of God creating sex, but He did! In God's plan, sex was designed for married couples to enjoy the pleasure and excitement of sexual relations. The Bible talks about this in Hebrews 13:4, "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral." God created sex to be fun, exciting, and pleasurable. At the same time, though, it is clear in the Bible that God restricts sexual activity to married couples.

Why is this? Yes, sex is pleasurable, but in God's view, the primary purpose of sex is not recreation, but rather re-creation. In other words, sex is for reproduction. God does not limit sex to married couples to rob pleasure from those who are unmarried. Rather, God commands against premarital sex in order to protect unmarried people from unwanted pregnancies, from children born to parents who do not want them, and to protect children from parents who are not prepared for them. Imagine, for a moment, a world without premarital sex. There would be no sexually-transmitted diseases, there would be no un-wed mothers, there would be no unwanted pregnancies, there would be no abortions, etc. According to the Bible, abstinence is God's only policy when it comes to premarital sex. Abstinence saves lives, protects babies, gives sexual relations the proper value, and most importantly abstinence honors God. Premarital Sex - Where Should We Draw the Line? A frequent question in relation to premarital sex is, "If we can't have sex, how far can we go?" A better question would be "How far should we go?" God's Word does not give us a detailed "list" of things a couple should or shouldn't do before they are married. Some use this as an excuse to "push the envelope" as close to premarital sex as possible. However, just because the Bible does not directly address what a couple should or shouldn't do, that does not give us license to do everything up to the borderline of premarital sex. By essence, "foreplay" is designed to be "before sex" and to get a couple ready for sex. Logically then, all forms of "foreplay" should be restricted to couples who are married. Anything that could be considered "foreplay" should be avoided until marriage. So, if sexual activity and all forms of foreplay should be restricted to married couples, what can a pre-married couple do? This is to some degree up to the couple and their own relationship with God. It is generally recommended that a couple not go past holding hands, hugging, and light kissing before marriage. The more a married couple has to share exclusively between themselves, the more special and unique the sexual relationship becomes. Premarital Sex - What If It is Already Too Late? If you have already engaged in premarital sex, you should make a commitment with God, your boyfriend/girlfriend, and yourself to remain sexually pure from this point on until marriage. Ask God for help and strength to remain sexually pure until marriage. God will provide the strength (Philippians 4:13) and grace to overcome the temptation to have sex, as long as you are willing and careful not to put yourself in a place of temptation. Remember the Lord's Prayer: "Lead us not into temptation?" That does not mean He will deliver us from the consequences of our own bad choices. If you fall to temptation, it is not because God led you there. 1 Corinthians 10:13 declares, "No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it." It is possible to fight temptation.

Also, it is important to remember that God can and does forgive the sin of premarital sex. When a person places his or her faith in the Lord Jesus Christ for salvation, desiring to turn away from the old life of sin, all sins are forgiven. That includes past, present, and future, big and small. Jesus died to pay the penalty for all of our sins, including premarital sex. Once they are forgiven, they are all forgiven. Colossians 1:13-14 says, "For he has rescued us from the dominion of darkness and brought us into the kingdom of the Son he loves, in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins." What we are to do is confess our sins. 1 John 1:9 says, "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness."

The Advantages and Disadvantages of Premarital Sex Pre-marital sex experience benefits us both physically and psychologically-conducive to health, because of the urgent need, not towed until adulthood. According to psychological studies, it shows that when the organs of our body become mature because of hormone secretion. Psychologically, people will, accordingly with the changes, have sexual desire, which is normal. If the desire cannot be satisfied, it will affect people's work, learning, and life. However, it varies according to the different people-some are very strong, and some are very weak. When people are with a strong desire, the so-called "sexual energy", they can temporarily alleviate the sexual energy produced by having sex, which can give them a happy feeling, and a sense of achievement. Many modern young women do not mind the long-term relationship. They think that as long as men love them, they do not care about if it is a long relationship. In fact, these women can only see the surface. They do not know what would happen later actually. Premarital sex in general have occurred in the students and those without a stable source of community among the youths. They have sex because sex is something curious for them, and they will not be responsible, or in any obligations. When the sexual desire is gone, and something unexpected happens, some of them have the psychological fear, inferiority. Because premarital sex occurred in the majority of those who lack the knowledge of sex and experience, they may be pregnant after having sex, which may do great harm to these women physically and psychologically. Some of the disease once infected, there is no way to treat the disease, such as AIDS. According to analysis and what we discussed above, I think premarital sexual experience has pros and cons, and by and large, the benefit of premarital sex is far less than the disadvantages. How to solve the problem of premarital sex behavior still remains an arduous task and a problem for us to tackle.

Conclusion Pre-Marital sex is a big issue when it comes to teenagers. Not only is it questioned by Pentecostal teens but it is also questioned by worldly teens. Everyone wants to know “Why not?” I think that we should take the time now to just further analyze this question. Instead of asking the question “Why not?”, let’s ask the question “Why?”. Why exactly should we have premarital sex. There is one main answer found why teenagers, both Pentecostal and worldly, think premarital sex is ok. And there are also many ways that pre-marital sex can affect YOU as a human being. There are physical, Spiritual, and Emotional effects it can have on you. Let’s figure out the reason why we think it is ok or not ok and then find out the different effects it could have on you. The answer found through a study conducted by Don W. Hills, was that premarital sex was just pure pleasure. Of course, sex is said to be fun. That attitude is as old as mankind. But I think only half of that statement is true. Sex is obviously a pleasure, but is premarital sex really pure??? First of all let’s define what pure means. Pure in the “Webster’s New world College Dictionary” is defined as free from any adulterant; clear; free from sin or guilt; blameless. From the information gathered above, I would come to the conclusion that Premarital- sex and pure pleasure, being put into the same sentence and into the same context as above, is an oxy-moron. They go against each other and cancel each other out completely. The statement “sex is fun”, is another that concern’s me. Only a fool would tell a teenager to stop thinking about sex. My answer to that is money is also fun but responsablily goes along with it as well. Driving a car is fun but there are also certain precautions you should take along with that also. There is lots of room, while driving, for a serious mistake to occur. That is why we have so many laws to abide by while performing the task of driving. Driving remains fun only when the laws that go along with it are obeyed. While the carelessness of not abiding by the driving rules can be the cause of death or a serious injury, it falls short of the effects premarital sex can have on your human personality, physical well-being, spiritual status, or even your emotional well-being. The bible says “Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body; but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.” (I Corinthians 6:18) When you sin against your body you loose respect for your body as well as the body of the one you are involved with. Once the respect is gone it is much easier to remain sexually active. Losing respect then leads to a mis-leading view of love in which you believe love is built around physical acts. There are also emotional effects that pre-marital sex has on us. Without the committed bonds of marriage, sex is a selfish act done for personal satisfaction or gain. When have committed the act of premarital- sex, your self value and dignity is lost. One’s partner can say “I love you because or if you have sex with me rather than “I love you.” Guilt is a consequence of violating God’s law. There are two kinds of guilt in our world today. The first is moral guilt. This is the type of guile that God has placed in a Christians heart and

lets us know when we have stepped out side of God’s boundary he has set up for us. The other is known as the floating guilt. This is caused by people that believe there is no right or wrong but does have guilt attacks because of the fact they don’t know if they are doing right or wrong. Now both of these can play with our head and cause us to have wavered emotions. Which causes stress in our lives and just isn’t a healthy outcome. Premarital sex can mess up our spiritual status. “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.” (Matthew 5:8) “God will judge fornicators and adulterers.” (Hebrews 13:4) It is made clear to me that God’s word forbids any type of sex outside of marriage. There are spiritual consequences any time we disobey God. There are many Bible characters who committed sexual sins and all were punished for there ungodly acts. Great trouble and grief came to each of them just as they would to you. Sexual purity is a way to show respect for others. It is impossible to show someone the love of God while engaged in sin. When we maintain sexual purity, we can show God’s love to others and present him correctly.

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OUTLINE

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Introduction

A.Significance of Study B.What is Premarital Sex? C.Advantages and Disadvantages of Premarital Sex

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Causes of Premarital Sex

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Effects of Premarital Sex

V. Conclusion

Bibliography

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