The Changing Roles Of The Family In Socialization Process

The Changing Roles of the Family in Socialization Process: The Case of The O-Kun Yourba

S.O. Metiboba

INTRODUCTION It is a common agreement that the family is a basic unit of the social structure and it is almost universal in its occurrence. In order to understand the social structure of any society, it is important to look at the family structure of that society. The expression “O-kun Yoruba” is used in this paper to refer to a distinct socio-linguistic unit of the Yoruba cultural group. The term “Okun” is a mode of salutation common but not exclusive to the area1. “O-kun”, therefore, refers to the people and their language and is being applied to the geographical area which they occupy. In the recent past, “O-kun” was used extensively to refer to the area formally known as Kabba Division, which now comprises the following Local Government Areas: Bunu/Kabba, Ijumu, Yagba East and Yagba West. For the avoidance of further doubt, the rest of the O-kun Yoruba like the Akoko, Oworo and Ekiti are not included in this chapter. Previous works on the O-kun people, generally had been quite scanty and the few ones available to this author apparently have failed

to undertake a sociological analysis of the familial/kinship relationship or network among the O-kun people.

Under this claim, special

reference is being made, for instance, to previous historical works in the area.2 The O-kun Yoruba evidently comprises a number of independent groups- Yagba (Iyaba), Ijumu, Abinu, Owe, and Gbedde. These social groupings have more or less a common heritage unified by a common origin. Stories of origins of the O-kun Yoruba are replete with a gamut of differing versions. According to Obayemi, archaeological findings at Ife (Ufe), Ijumu suggest that it was the seat of a fairly extensive civilization that was based on smelting which flourished between the 9th and 13th centuries3. Several historical accounts as to the origins of the O-kun Yoruba strongly suggest that the various segments (settlements) that now constitute O-kun land might have migrated from Ile-Ife. Whatever the variations as to their stories of origins, there is increasingly obvious evidence that the O-kun Yoruba are not only Yoruba in origin but also are a segmented society succinctly referred to as one of the “mini-states” which had been independent of other states from the earliest times4. Today, it is common place to see a lot

of cultural affinity between the O-kun people and their neighbours in Oyo, Ibadan and Ijebu especially with regard to age-grades, births, burials, salutation and marriages.5 The Family: A Conceptualization The family has been described as an institution which is unique to human culture. The structure and the functions of the family change as the social, political and the economic situations in the society change. Different researchers tend to defined the concept of family quite differently.

The definition a researcher gives to the family tends to

depend on the aspect of it that is relevant to his findings. According to Willie, family is defined as an enduring group that provides for the creation and up-bringing of children.6 Family in this regard is considered in terms of its functions of replenishing the society and that of placing the individual in the society. Bell and Vogel in their own study defined family in terms of the existence of recognized relationship between a man and a woman and between one of both of them and their children.7 The assumption here is that the family exists in any society where related positions of mother, father and children are recognized by the participants in the social system. In common usage, the family

refers to a more or less closely integrated group of people who are related to one another through kinship, blood or adoption. In most societies, the institution of marriage leads to the formation of the family. However, family can still be formed without marriage. The diversity in marriage in different cultures makes the definition of the concept of marriage quite difficult.

Generally, the

essence of marriage is to bring men and women together in sexual union with a view to establishing a family and to reproduce. In modern times, it appears not all marriage are contracted with the sole purpose of reproduction, rather, marriage may be contracted for the purpose of seeking affection and companionship.

In many African societies

however, like the Yoruba, the former appears to be case as parents of a couple whose marriage is not blessed with children do strongly show their disappointment with such a relationship. Family and the socialization Process In different societies, the different functions of the family tend to predominate. Two basic principles however may be said to stand out more than others.8 One is the principle of reciprocity and the other is the principle of legitimacy.

The former is the principle whereby the

family is involved in a patterned network of interwoven social

relationships. The latter refers to the social placement of new members of society. Socialization has been referred to in some quarters as the process by which a biological human being becomes socially human. Certain authors from certain disciplines have also tended to see socialization as the process which transforms the child at birth from babyhood to adulthood.9 It is known to a large extent today that some of the definitions sometimes proffered in respect of the concept are grossly misleading. There

is a common

consensus

among

sociologists

today

that

socialization is a learning process, all through life. ogionwo and Otite defined it as a process not restricted to learning behaviour of the new child alone, but rather as a life-long process since adults continuously learn to take up behaviour appropriate to the new position they occupy in day-to-day life.10 One of the primary aims of socialization is to make the individual acceptable to the society. In the societal perspective, the function of socialization is to enable its members play different roles and interact so that the individual and the group can function as a whole. Socialization, in other words, aims at teaching the individual to behave within a social context and to integrate him into the society.11

The

preceding objectives of socialization may be categorized into the following. (i)

To teach fundamentals of life in society

(ii)

To instill societal aspiration in members

(iii)

To transmit basic skills into the individuals, and

(iv)

To ensure that the individual is capable of fulfilling social roles. The position of this paper and with regard to the stated objectives

of socialization in the preceding paragraph is that the family constitutes the main medium through which these goals are attained. The family is the primary socialization agent. In the socialization process, the family tends to have the greatest influence or impact on individuals. This proposition is made under five sets of assumptions: (i)

The influence of the family on the child at the earliest stage of development cannot be compared to any other agent. This is evidenced in the child’s helplessness in the formative years.

(ii)

It is also known that the family constitutes the medium by which all the initial emotional and physical needs of the child are met

(iii)

The child has been discovered to have the tendency of learning fast from those he has close personal and emotional contact with

(iv)

The social class and status of the parents greatly affect what the child internalizes

(v)

It is not likely that the child will significantly deviate from the norms he has inculcated from the family level when he grows to adulthood.

Marriage and Family Structure in O-kun Land Most often, the marriage contract between couples usually results in the formation of families among the O-kun Yoruba. The principle of unilineal descent is predominant in O-kun marriage. Marriage is surely more than a legalized sexual union between a man and a woman among the O-kun people, a feature quite common to most social groupings within the general Yoruba cultural setting. Among the O-kun Yoruba, marriage indeed, is an institutionalized social relationship of crucial significance and it is usually associated with a number of other important social relationships. Marriage confers acknowledged social status on the offspring among the O-kun Yoruba. One significant feature of traditional marriage among the people is the customary rules which govern mate selection and the process by which

the union between a man and a woman become legalized. Marriage, indeed, was by betrothal. The extended family network (consanguine) dominated the family structure in the area. Based on the principle of unilineal descent, the extended family system was composed of at least three generations. The apparently predominant extended family network in O-kun land was seen as comprising two or more nuclear families affiliated by blood relationship and characterized, among others, by economic cooperation, provision of individual\ members with many social benefits based on co-operative activities, well defined hierarchy of authority, practice of joint rituals and usually of common residence.

Marriage

in O-kun Yoruba was mainly polygamous. A man with several wives could reasonably hope to have more children than a man with only one. This was because a man’s status and property were passed on at his death to his children. Besides, the joy and pride being derived from having many children was enough incentive to have more than one wife. Unilineal descent was used as the basis of local groupings and corporate activities among the O-kun Yoruba. Each village head was seen as the overseer of all the affairs of the village. He had consultations with the ward heads on crucial issues such as marital

conflict or divorce, burial ceremonies or rituals. O-kun Yoruba is a patrilineally organized, exogamous society. The bride leaves her natal group and is taken into the quite separate group of her husband, which may be some distance from her home. The preceding structural analysis of traditional O-kun Yoruba family is quite relevant to our understanding of the traditional role of the family as a primary socialization agent and its changing role in the face of social change.

The Family and Socialization Process in Traditional O-kun land The family plays a crucial role in the socialization process of traditional O-kun Yoruba. Like in most known human societies the family is the most basic of all human institutions. Indeed, many roles and relationships are family-dependent among the people. Examples include marriage, burial, rituals, and birth ceremonies. As a primary socializing agent, the family may be referred to as a system of interacting personalities. In its interactional process the family is able to influence its members in the following ways: (i)

It provides companionship, love and security for the children and members

(ii)

It establishes and continues inter-personal relationships between members

(iii)

It provides the foundations for personality development

(iv)

The family is a smaller group and more closely-knit social system

(v)

Relationships at the family level are more intimate and faceto -face

(vi)

The old and the young are related to a well defined hierarchy of status

(vii)

The family provides the individual with a primary group membership that endures through his life.

(viii)

The social class and status of the parents greatly affect what the child internalized.

Whether in Abinu or Owe land, Ijumu Arin, Yagba or Gbedde group, the family operates as a system of interacting personalities. And this

enhances the process

of socialization

among

the various

communities. Members of the family tend to perform different roles at another level of social interaction; a level where roles are less formalized and more subtle. At one level, a member may be the affection-giver, at another, the disciplinarian. One may be standard carrier, another the innovator.

Children tend to learn in subtle ways to perform different social functions within the family group. While one child wins approval for being the “good child”, another earns disapproval for being the “rebel” etc. The Family and Socialization: The Wind of Change Due to certain winds of social change blowing everywhere, there is hardly any aspect of human institution that can rightly be referred to in absolute terms, as being static. Olusanya noted that even though some measure of conservation and “staticness” is required of all human institutions, yet observation shows that society and indeed its component parts change continuously, though often imperceptibly.12 Among the O-kun Yoruba, one of the most affected institutions in the process of change has been the institution of the family. Certain factors of change such as industrialization and urbanization, migration, western education, culture contact and the dynamics of political and social change are known to have had a tremendous impact on the structure and stability of familial relationships in O-kun land.

Their

effects range from the growing problems of marital instability to changes in family structure, kinship and communication pattern within the family set-up.13

In traditional O-kun Yoruba, the younger ones were socialized in three basic ways: (i)

Through shared and learned activities, e.g. eating, marriage etc.

(ii)

Through learned and shared ideas, and

(iii)

Through socially acquired and shared artifacts such as working tools (hoes, arrows, cutlasses) and clothes

In recent times, however, due to the effects of modernization and industrialization, the role of the family as a socializing agent in all the three ways listed above tends to have assumed some new dimensions. First, unlike what obtained in traditional O-kun land where communal activities were embarked upon based on family units, today the family seems to have lost grip of its members among the O-kun Yoruba especially with regard to influencing the behaviour of the younger ones in the area of “shared and learned activities”. Marriage, birth and burial ceremonies are being done today even where the cooperation and approval of most family members are not enlisted. The family in its socializing role is no longer the basic unit of most cooperative and economic activities in O-kun land. It is not longer the basis for social organization.

Second, the extent to which the family is able to transmit ideas, beliefs and values to its members seems to have been much more limited. In the face of the seemingly increasing complexity of social life, ideas and beliefs from the traditional set-up within the family structure are no longer deemed relevant, in some cases, to cope with the demands of a technological milieu. Whereas words of wisdom in form of proverbs and stories were seriously adhered to as guiding posts in traditional O-kun land, such socializing functions seem to have been taken over by other agencies like the school, the Church and the mass media. Ideas and belief activities, norms and values are now based more on a number of complex network of external social relationships independent of the family among the O-kun Yoruba. In most parts of this area, a few days (exact number varies from one settlement to the other) preceding the formal handing over of a lady to her intended husband, it was common place to see jubilating singing groups, organized

by both spouses, chanting marriage

choruses across the length and breadth of the village. One of these songs virtually common to all the segments of O-kun Yoruba has these lyrics: “Omo kon oun gha, o se bi a kelu hode”.

The literal translation is that “a wife has been given, it affords us avenue to drum and dance”. This tradition for years seemed to have an enduring impact on the young ones who were beginning to perceive marriage as a thing of great social significance. That role today appears to have been taken over by the peer group of the intended spouses. The practice is more towards organizing formal functions (parties, bachelor’s eve etc) a day or days preceding the marriage date. Members of the spouses’ families may and may not be present at such functions. The socializing role of the family with regard to socially acquired and shared artifacts has also assumed a different pattern among the people of O-kun Yoruba. Traditional occupations like hunting, traditional medicine, carving, and pottery which used to be transmitted by families have suffered neglect and decline. Since the values of the society are not static, patterns of behaviour cannot also remain static. Emphasis today is more on acquiring

technological

skills,

professional

knowledge

and

skill,

enhanced social status through personal achievements, etc. Formal education therefore which characterizes the school system appears to have taken over most of the learning roles of the traditional O-kun Yoruba family.

The traditional O-kun society was more stratified in terms of age, sex and marital status but less stratified in terms of occupation. Division of labour was not pronounced as would be expected of a preindustrial society. Since culture is essentially the contents of education, the traditional O-kun family was able to transmit to a large extent all the norms and values of the larger society to its members. And in most cases, this was enough to build the educand (learner) into a wholesome, confident adult. Due to factors of social change (migration, culture contact, Christianity, urbanization) it has become obvious today that it is only a part of what is needed to mould individual behaviour into a socially acceptable one that can be effected from the family level. Other agencies are fast complementing the socializing role of the family in this regard. By sending their children to formal schools members of the younger generation are overtly being inculcated with non-traditional values such as emphasis on personal achievement as a basis for social mobility as opposed to ascriptive one (age, sex, tradition). Effects of the Changing Role of the Family With the declining socializing role of the family among the O-kun Yoruba and the consequent take-over by other institutions, family discipline in many O-kun communities tends to have relaxed. Matters

of yester-years which strictly fell under the domain of the family are now deemed outside its prerogative.

The result is a slack in family

cohesion. Family integration under new orientation (socialization) has become relatively less amenable to parental influence especially in matters where the young ones now feel they have exclusively personal discretion. The wind of social change blowing across O-kun land especially with regard to the changing role of the family has been held accountable for the contemporary loose morals, weakened parental control and the scant regard for the sanctity of marriage. The result of all these is manifest in the pattern and dynamics of broken relationships (courtship) and their effects include an apparent break-up of traditional kinship systems, a greater convergence into a family structure of a more nuclear type, as well as autonomous mate selection (as against the traditional practice of betrothal). The increasing emancipation of women on a global scale has resulted in the duality of functions for some educated O-kun women. While some of them are still primarily tried to the domestic chores, a good proportion of them are now found in wage employment outside the home, while simultaneously still bearing the burden of domestic responsibilities. The impact of this development is manifest in a shift

in the authority structure of some homes.

Some women who have

become “bread winners” as a result of their relatively advantaged occupational status now tend to control the major decision-making process in their marital homes. While the economic buoyancy of certain families have no doubt been enhanced due to the taking up of salaried employment outside the home, some family sociologists have put the seemingly ever-increasing anti-social behaviour of a significant proportion of the Nigerian populace at the door step of this development.

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CONCLUSION We have argued in this chapter that all the three elements of the socialization process have undergone tremendous changes in different areas of O-kun land, even though to varying degrees. In the face of such factors as modernization, industrialization, culture contacts, religion and Western education, it is not likely that the traditional functions of the family (especially its socializing ones) will remain intact for any length of time. Peer groups, religious organizations, the school and the media tend to have virtually taken over such functions in O-kun land. The thrust of this paper is that even though certain values in the traditional functions of the family must result from the effect of agents

of change, care must be taken to preserve as much as possible those traditional socializing features of familial/ kinship system in this area. Failure in this regard may result in increased anti-social behaviour and inability of society to provide adequate means (structures) to fulfill certain needs for its members. This view rests on the following assumptions: 1. Attitudes, values and other behaviour patterns conducive to antisocial behaviour (e.g. delinquency and crime) found in the larger society by the child could be better discouraged in the child from the home setting. 2. It is the family that determines the geographical and social class position of the child in the community. This in turn determines the kind of primary relations the child encounters outside the family. 3. The family determines the prestige of various persons and consequently affects the child’s preference for certain types of social relations. He learns to appraise persons as important or not according to their language. 4. If the primary relations in the family are obnoxious, the child may have them either by physically abandoning the family or by withdrawing psychologically. The family thus loses control over

him and is unable to direct his membership in other primary groups. It is against this background that it is being suggested that one crucial way of ensuring meaningful, enduring development in O-kun Yoruba land is to re-visit the whole process of traditional family socialization. Any development that has no support of the most basic unit of the social structure is bound to wane with time. Socially approved and anti-social tendencies are to a large extent nurtured by the socialization process within the family setting.

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