Sex Guide

Great Sex Guide: Sex Positions Over the centuries various sexual positions (ways in which couples physically position themselves for sexual intercourse) have been used. In ancient texts it reveals that it was an art form among certain cultures, as in the Indian Kama Sutra and Arabic Perfumed Garden. There are many sexual positions which are mostly variations on a few basic positions. As with any other desire you have to find the positions that are most enjoyable to you and your partner. Everybody's needs are different. Some couples are very innovative, some prefer the standard missionary position (manon-top). The aim of lovemaking, however, should be measured by fulfillment and satisfaction for both partners. The sexual positions a couple uses depends on a variety of factors: • • • • •

physical comfort inhibitions about experimenting with different positions prolonging or hastening orgasm may determine the position circumstances, such as time available, location, etc.) may find one position more satisfying

Some Sexual Positions are: • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • •

Man-on-top (missionary position) Woman-on-top Side-by-side Rear-entry Spread-eagle Leapfrog Position Cross Position Cuissade Position Armchair Position Furniture Position Head to toe Lap Dance Split level Position Spoon Position Standing Position Standing and Carrying Position Swimming Position Spontaneous Position Anal intercourse (practiced by some heterosexual couples and some gay men)

You can vary these positions by performing them: • • • • •

lying down sitting standing kneeling combination of these

There are many different ways of enjoying sex and countless sexual positions. Some positions offer:

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chance to embrace and kiss more with all-over body contact deeper penetration greater intimacy more excitement and tension as they are quite difficult to maintain

Lovers will always find variations of their own. The important thing is to explore each other's feelings and needs and enjoy yourself.

The Man-On-Top Position/Missionary Position

The Man-On-Top Position/Missionary Position is named after the 19th century Christian missionaries who believed that the man on top was the only natural and proper position for intercourse, and preached to their converts to give up their animal positions in favor of the man-on-top position. The missionary position is the most common lovemaking position because: • • • •

it is comfortable it allows a great deal of body contact it allows good depth of penetration you can kiss and hold each other at the same time

How to Do In the man-on-top position: •

The woman lies on her back with her legs spread and her knees raised while the man enters her vagina with his penis

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The man can either lie flat on the woman if he is not too heavy in weight and it is not uncomfortable for her, or he can support some or all of his weight on his elbows, hands or knees (sometimes the weight of the man on them can restrict a woman's pelvic movement)

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The woman can wrap her legs around the man's hips, back, or over his shoulders, the higher her legs the deeper the man may penetrate with his penis

The woman can use her hands freely to caress the man or stimulate her clitoris as the man has limited use of his hands, but it is a good position for being able to see each other and for kissing and to caressing. Some women do not like the deep penetration of this position.

The Woman-On-Top/Astride Position

How to Do In the woman-on-top/astride position: • • • • •

The man lies on his back and the woman sits on his erect penis Facing him, she may squat on her haunches Facing him, she may kneel, supporting herself with her hands, making it easier to lean forward and kiss his mouth. Sitting on top, facing away from him, increases the depth of penetration Lying with her whole body along his increases the intimacy

On top the woman can control the pace of lovemaking and regulate the depth of penetration and the rate of thrusting of the penis. The woman-on-top position allows: • • • •

for maximum indirect stimulation of the clitoris by the penis some women to reach orgasm more easily freer hand movements for caressing couples to see each other

Some women do not like the deep penetration of this position. This can be regulated by limiting how far down they lower themselves onto the erect penis. Due to the vigorous movements the penis can slip out of the vagina which can cause frustration.

The Side-By-Side Position

Some couples do not like the side-to-side position as deep pelvic thrusting is difficult. The partners can kiss and touch each other's genitals while making love in this position. How To Do In the side-by-side position: •

The partners lie on their sides facing each other

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The man enters the woman's vagina with his penis

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The woman wraps her leg around her partner's body to facilitate deeper penetration pulling him towards her with her leg as he thrusts

This position is useful: • •

during later pregnancy to accommodate the woman's belly for people who need to avoid strenuous activity

Rear Entry

Rear entry position is not the same as anal intercourse. In rear entry position the man's penis enters the woman's vagina when she has her back to him. Whereas, in anal intercourse the man's penis is inserted into his partner's anus (rectum). Rear entry allows for deep penetration and vigorous thrusting rather than tender lovemaking so is not really suitable during pregnancy. How To Do This position allows for deep penetration. • • • •

The woman gets on on her hands and knees and her partner kneels behind her (commonly known as 'doggy style') Both partners may stand with the woman bending forward and supporting herself against something, bed, furniture, wall, etc. Both partners lie on their sides, her back to his front The position allows the man to caress his partner's breasts, buttocks and clitoris

An alternative rear entry position known as the Spread-eagle Position: • •

The woman lies face down with the man on top of her and spreads her legs, while lifting her bottom off the bed slightly (with a pillow, etc.), to achieve deeper penetration The man supports his weight on his arms or lays with his full weight on his partner

Spread-eagle

In this rear entry position, the woman lies face down with the man on top of her. She spreads her legs and he supports his weight on his arms. How To Do • •

If she raises her bottom off the bed slightly, perhaps with the aid of a pillow under her hips, then it will be possible to achieve deeper penetration. The man can also lie with his full weight on his partner, from which position it is easy to roll into 'spoons'.

Leapfrog Position

This position is ideal when the woman starts to feel uncomfortable with the man's weight pressing down on her. It also protects her belly from over-enthusiastic thrusting. How To Do • •

The woman kneels on the bed with legs spread wide falling forwards as the man enters her from behind The man can then caress her back and control the depth of thrust

The Cross Position

This position is somewhat easier to maintain if the man lies beneath on his back and the woman is in control. How To Do • • •

The woman lies on her back on the bed and the man lies diagonally across her. She opens her legs to allow him to enter and he rocks gently from side to side. She can guide his movements with the pressure of her hands.

Cuissade Position This position is known as cuissade, from the French cuisse, meaning thigh. The woman can exert a certain amount of restraint with her thigh, which can make it more exciting. The position is a very intimate one and the lovers can hold one another and kiss. How To Do • • •

The woman lies on her back with the man at her side She raises the leg nearest to him and rests it on his body He enters from under her thigh with his nearest leg crossing her body

Armchair Position

How To Do • • •

The woman sits comfortably in an armchair with her hands and legs around the man The man kneels in front of her and enters her He can support himself with his hands on the back of the chair which will allow him more thrust.

Furniture Position

This position allows the man greater control and very deep penetration. How To Do • • • •

Find furniture that is the correct height The woman lies on the edge of a table, futon or bed covered with quilts and pillows and spreads her legs wide The man begins by kneeling and giving the woman cunnilingus The man enters the woman supporting himself on his knees and holding her legs.

Head to toe

The woman is very much in control in this position.

How To Do • •

The man lies on his back with his legs spread and his penis inside the woman The woman lies on her back with her legs spread across her partner's and her toes pointing to his head and her head away from him.

Lap Dance

The woman is very much in control of the the pace of lovemaking in this position.