RIPPLE EFFECT The Family Challenge November 28 & 29, 2009
Tierce Green
“The jailer called for lights, rushed in and fell trembling before Paul and Silas. He then brought them out and asked, ‘Sirs, what must I do to be saved?’” “They replied, ‘Believe in the Lord Jesus, and you will be saved – you and your household.’ Then they spoke the word of the Lord to him and to all the others in his house.” “At that hour of the night the jailer took them and washed their wounds; then immediately he and all his family were baptized. The jailer brought them into his house and set a meal before them; he was filled with joy because he had come to believe in God – he and his whole family.” Acts 16:29-34 (NIV) 1.
AVOID THE DOUBLE LIFE
“Such people should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. Their loyalty is divided between God and the world, and they are unstable in everything they do.” James 1:7-8 (NLT)
THREE FACES:
PUBLIC FACE PRIVATE FACE PERSONAL FACE
STATED VALUES
STATED VALUES
CONFLICT WITH
EBB & FLOW WITH
CONSISTENT WITH
ACTUAL BEHAVIOR
ACTUAL BEHAVIOR
ACTUAL BEHAVIOR
DYSFUNCTIONAL
2.
STATED VALUES
FUNCTIONAL
PURSUE A BALANCE OF DISCIPLINE,
INSTRUCTION & LOVE “ … the Lord disciplines those He loves … God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father?” Hebrews 12: 6-7 (NIV) “Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.” Proverbs 22:6 (NIV) HIGH LOVE
PERMISSIVE
AUTHORITATIVE
LOW DISCIPLINE
HIGH DISCIPLINE
& INSTRUCTION
& INSTRUCTION
NEGLECTFUL
AUTHORITARIAN LOW LOVE
“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.” 1 Corinthians 13:13 (NIV)
3.
DISCOVER A TRANSCENDENT CAUSE
“So the men of Israel said, ‘ … and it shall be that the man who kills him the king will enrich with great riches, will give him his daughter, and give his father’s house exemption from taxes in Israel.’ “And David said, ‘ … Is there not a cause?’” 1 Samuel 25-29 (NKJV)
“And He died for all, that those who live should no longer live for themselves but for Him who died for them and was raised again.” 2 Corinthians 5:15 (NIV)
WHAT’S MINE IS HIS
RIPPLE
WHAT’S HIS IS MINE
EFFECT