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fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

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fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

;tkb ns/ itkp @@tho ih, s[;hI ;Zu/ fgnko (real love) pko/ pVh uzrh soQK dZf;nk j?. fJe ;tkb j[D/ th fdwkr ftZu uZb fojk j? fe fgnko ;G Bkb fJe' fijk feT[I BjhI j[zdk ? fe;/ Bkb f}nkdk ns/ fe;/ Bkb xZN feT[I j[zdk j? ?

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fgnko ;G bJh pokpo j'Dk ukjhdk j?. (Love should be equal for all.) go FkfJd n;hI j[D/ th fes/ ][dro} (selfish) jK. i/ fgnko ;kfonK Bkb fJe' fijk BjhI j[zdk sK T[j fgnko BjhI ;r'I ;kvk ;ze'utK fdqFNhe'D j? fi; dk ekoB nzBQK w'j j? fit/I yk; nkgD/ pZu/ d/ Bkb fe fJj w/ok g[Zso j? iK fco fJj w/oh eko j?. @@fJj w/ok p?vo{w j?, fJj w/ok thH ;hH nkoH j?, s[jkvh fjzws fetÉ j'Jh fJ; ~ jZE bkT[D dh.## id'I th fe;/ foFs/ iK fe;/ th uh} Bkb fJ; sohe/ Bkb w'j j' iKdk j? sK fJ; w'j dh geV ep}/ dh GktBk (Possessiveness) ftZu rtku ikD s/ pzdk feBko/ (corner) j' iKdk j?. fJ; eoe/ T[; dk yk; fJe fdFk ftZu fgnko j' iKdk

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j? s/ pkeh gk;'I iK pkehnK Bkb'I N[ZN iKdk j?. T[; dk fgnko ;'fXnk BjhI frnk. fJj w'j pVk ehwsh sZs (chemical) j? ns/ ;kv/ ;oho (body) ftZu g?dk (produce) j[zdk j? go fJ; ~ ;'fXnk BjhI frnk. fJ; fgnko ~ @@;kiB[ ;G e? fBefN yVk (gzBk 924) tKrz{ j'Dk ukjhdk j?, go ;ztkfonk BjhI frnk. fit/I pZu/ d/ Bkb wK dh wwsk j?, w'j j?, pj[s uzrh rZb go fJ; ~ fJ; soQK xfVnk ikJ/ fe j'oBK d/ pZu/ th nkgD/ pZu/ brZD. fijV/ i'fVnK (couple) d/ pZu/ BjhI j[zd/, T[j ;koh T[wo jh d[Zyh ofjzd/ jB fe ;kv/ pZu/ BjhI j'J/. go i/ BjhI j'J/ ns/ s[jkv/ nzdo pZu/ tk;s/ wwsk ikr ojh j? sk fe;/ :shw pZu/ ~ iK fe;/ j'o d/ pZu/ ~ b? e/ gkb bt'. n;bh w}k jh fJj' j? fe d{i/ pZu/ ~ th Sksh Bkb brk e/ gkbDk, fi; soQK nkgDh e[Zy'I izfwnk j't/. fJ;~ e'fFF eoe/ t/yhJ/ go n;hI fJ; soQK feT[I BjhI eod/ jK. ;kvk s/ nkgD/ xoK ftZu ftseok j[zdk j?, d' ;Ze/ GoktK d/ pZfunK d/ ftZu th ftseok j' iKdk j?, d' ;ZehnK G?DK ftZu th ftseok j' iKdk j?. fgnko ~ ;'fXnk BjhI frnk fJ; eoe/ jh ;kv/ s'I fJj ftseok j[zdk j?. fgnko ~ i/ ;'X bJhJ/ sK fgnko v[Zb-v[Zb e/ Sbe/rk (overflow), uko'I gk;/ pokpo tr/rk.

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tho ih ! w+ fjzd{ jK ns/ fjzd{nK ftZu ftnkj iBw gZsoh fwbk e/ ehsk iKdk j?. e[M b'eK dk efjDk j? fe iBw gZsoh fwbkD dk nkXko ftfrnkBe j[zdk

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

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j? ns/ iBw gZsoh fwbk e/ j'fJnk ftnkj ekw:kp j[zdk j?. w/ok ;tkb j? fe T[j fetÉ j[zdk j? ns/ T[; dh eh p[fBnkd j?. i/ fJ; soQK BjhI j? sK dZ;' ftnkj dk eh nkXko iK w{b sZs j'Dk ukjhdk j? ? itkp L

fJj iBw gZsohnK iK e[zvbhnK fwbkT[Dk ;ok;o fBokoEe j? fJ; dk ekw:kp ftnkj Bkb e'Jh ;zpzX BjhI j?. eJh fcbwK ftZu n;hI d/yd/ jK fe gzvs ~ g?;/ d/ e/ iBw gZsoh fwbk bJh iKdh j?. fcbwK d/ Bkb-Bkb pV/ b'eK d/ xoK ftZu Åfynk frnk j? wksk fgsk nkgD/ pZu/ (e[Vh iK w[zvk) dk fiZE/ th foFsk eoBk ukj[zd/ jB sK T[j gzvs ~ g?;/ d/ e/ i/ T[BQK dk foFsk fes/ j'o th j' fojk j't/ sK T[; ~ s[Vtk e/ th nkgDhnK iBw gZsohnK fwbtk b+d/ jB. fJj e/tb fJe wB[Zyh i[rs j? (This is conventional). fe;/ ~ fJ;d/ nXhB BjhI j'Dk ukjhdk. (one should not depend on this ) fJ; dk oZp ih Bkb e'Jh b?Dk d/Dk Bjh_. fJj ;G s'I tZvk X'yk j?. ;k~ ;G ~ ukjhdk j? fe ;Zu ~ ;wMhJ/. ;kv/ d/F ftZu iBw gsoh fwbk e/ ftnkj eok fdZsk iKdk j? fi; d/ f;ZN/ ti'I eJh tko bVeh Boe ;èVdh j?, T[;Bz{ g?o dh i[Zsh pDBk g?Idk j?. d{i/ gk;/ bVe/ ~ th eJh soQK d/ B[e;kB gj[zukJ/ iKd/ jB. n?;/ y'yb/ ftFtk;K ekoB n;hI ;ko/ d[Zyh jK. w?~ bZrdk j? fJ; dk fe;/ th Xow Bkb e'Jh ;zpzX BjhI j?.

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

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iBw gZsoh ns/ e[zvbh Xow d/ BK j/m ubkJh ik ojh fJe X'y/ dh d[ekB j?. fJ; ftu e'Jh FZe BjhI fe g[oksB ;w/I s'I fJ;soh iks d/ Gb/ bJh ns/ ;wkfie YKu/ Bz{ mhe ubkT[D bJh f;nkfDnK B/ ftnkj dk sohek pDkfJnk i' fe ;koh d[Bhnk ftu nwb (practice) ftu fbnkfJnk iKdk j?. fJZE/ sZe jh BjhI pbfe wod Bz{ th nkgDh fJe gsBh ns/ gfotko ftu ofj e/ ;[uZik ns/ T[&Zu/ nkuoB tkbk ihtB fiT{D bJh fdqVQ eokfJnk iKdk j?. fJ; ftu fJ;soh dh fJZ}s oZyDk ns/ pZfunK dh gotfoF dh f}zw/tkoh th wod T[&Zs/ nkT[Idh j?. i' w[zvk ns/ e[Vh ftnkj BjhI eokT[Dk ukjz[d/, T[j ;wkfie pzXB, uzr/ ukb ubB ns/ gfotkoe f}zw/tkohnK s'I w[es j'Dk ukjz[d/ jB, b/feB ;wkfie ftnkj w[zvk ns/ e[Vh Bz{ ;[uZi/ ihtB dh ;/X d/Idk j?. i' w[zvk e[Vh fJ; f}zw/tkoh s'I wz{j c/o e/ ftnkj BjhI eokT[Dk ukjz[d/ T[BQk Bz{ nkgD/ wkV/ f]nkb, wkVhnK eos{sK, wkV/ c[oB/ ns/ Bht/I feodko (character) tZb fXnkB d/Dk gt/rk feT[Ife ftnkj Bk eokT[Dk, f}zw/tkohnK s'I wz{j c/oBk, T[BQK Bz{ wzd eowh ihtB tZb fyZudk j?$XZedk j?. T[go'es ftuko Bz{ w[Zy oZyfdnK ;[uZik ihtB fiT{D bJh, d[Bhnk d/ Gb/ bJh ns/ ;wki dh ftt;Ek Bz{ mhe ubkT[D bJh uzr/ ;kEh dh sbkF eoBh ukjhdh j?. uzr/ w[zv/ Bz{ uzrh e[Vh fwb/ iK uzrh e[Vh Bz{ uzrk w[zvk fwb/ d't/I rqfj;Eh ihtB d/ ;ko/ uzr/ r[DK Bz{ nwb ftu

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

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fbnkT[D sK g/e/, ;j[o/ ns/ pZfunK dk ihtB th ;[uZik ns/ ;[yd j' ;edk j?. fJ; eoe/ w[zvk iK e[Vh bZGD t/b/ T[&Zuk nkuoB, ;dr[D ns/ Xkowesk Gog{o (full of spirituality ) ihtB Bz{ gfjb (priority) d/Dh ukjhdh j? go nca;'; fJ; rZb #s/ nkT[Idk j? fe b'eh Xkofwe eoweKv tkb/ Bz{ Xowh ;wM b?Id/ jB, pj[s g?;/ tkb/ foFs/ Bz{ gfjb fdzd/ jB, T[&Zuk nkuoB j? fe BjhI, n?;/ r[D BjhI t/yd/ ns/ nfrnkBsk tZ; Fokp ghD fgbkT[D tkfbnK Bkb foFsk i'VBk p[ok BjhI ;wMd/. fit/I f;ro/N ghD tkbk Gkt/I p/JhwkB B j't/, nkukoB s'I th Bk fvZrk j't/ sK th T[;dh ghsh f;ro/N T[;d/ ;oho ns/ gfotko d/ pkeh w?IpoK Bz{ pj[s B[e;kB gj[zukT[Idh j?. j{-p-j{ fJ;/ soQK Fokp ghD tkbk nkgD/ nkg Bz{ fgnk Fohca nky/ go BFJh fposh j'D ekoB T[; dk feodko (character) ;'uDh uzr/ BjhI pD ;ed/ jB. f;ZN/ ti'I ;ko/ xo dk wkj"b ftrV iKdk j?. e{fVnkoK dh ;zrs eoB ekoB pZfunK #s/ th pj[s wkVk n;o g?Idk j?. fJe th wkVh eos{s j't/ sK d{ih, shih, u"Eh ns/ nBzs wkVhnK tkdhnK rqfj;Eh d/ ihtB Bz{ jVQ ns/ G{ukb tKrz{ y/o{z-y/oz{ eo fdzdhnK jB. n?;/ gfotko dk rqfj;Eh wfjb nkgD/ nkg bJh Boe, ;wki bJh }fjws ns/ d[Bhnk bJh G?Vk nkdoF ;kps j[zdk j?. ;' Fokp, i{nk, skF, :koh ns/ nB/eK j'o B[es/ ihtB ;kEh bZGD bJh fXnkB r'uo/ oZyDk pj[s }o{oh j?. w[edh rZb j?

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

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fe foFsk bZGD t/b/ T[&Zu/ nkuoB tkbk, ;dr[Dh ihtB tkbk Xkofwesk Gog{o ihtBh tkbk jh gfotko ns/ ihtB ;kEh bZGDk ukjhdk j?. ;tkb L

ihtB gq/FkBhnK, fuzsktK Bkb Gfonk j'fJnk j? eh f}zdrh ftZu Fkdh n;hI nkgDhnK w[FebK ns/ gq/FkBhnK ~ tXkT[D tk;s/ eod/ jK. eh fJBQK Ë/FkBhnK s'I S[Nekok gkT[D dk e'Jh jZb j? ?

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j' ;edk j? ;kvh f}zdrh ftZu gfjb/ jh pj[s w[FebK ns/ gq/FkBhnK j'D. w[FebK ;kv/ ihtB ftZu (gzBk 469) d[y[ dko{ ;[y[ o'r[ GfJnk Ò tKr ihtB dk fJe ehwsh gZy jB go n;hI fJ; pkoheh (thin line) ~ ;wM bJhJ/ fe ;kvhnK ew}'ohnK w[FebK BjhI pbfe T[j ;kv/ ntr[D jB. w[FebK j[zdhnK jB i' ;kv/ o'}wok d/ ihtB ftZu Bk Nkb/ ik ;eD tkb/ jkbks (unavoidable circumstances) ekoB g?dk j[zdhnK jB fiBQK ~ n;hI d[Zy dk BK d/ fdzd/ jK. ;kvhnK ew}'ohnK ;kv/ ntr[D jh j[zd/ jB fiBQK ~ ;'XD pko/ n;hI ;'ud/ jh Bjh_. ntr[DK tkbk wz[vk ns/ ntr[DK tkbh e[Vh dh }pod;sh iBw gZsoh fwbk e/ fJj efj e/ fe @j[D e[Vh tZvh T[wo dh j' rJh j?# T[BQK dk ftnkj eo jh dJhJ/. fJ; soQK w[FebK d{DhnK (multiply) j' iKdhnK jB, ;kok e[M popkd j' iKdk j?. ;k~ fJj ukjhdk j? i' bVek iK bVeh ftnkj s'I pknd ;cb (successful) ihtB

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

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fiT{Dk ukj[zd/ jB T[j nkgD/ ntr[DK ~ ;'XD. fiT[I fiT[I T[j nkgD/ nkgD/ ntr[DK ~ ;'XDr/ T[BQK dh e[wZs ;[wZs pDdh ikt/rh ns/ ;[wZs pD ikD #s/ T[j frnkB dk ;[owk gk e/ nkgD/ ihtB-;kEh ~ Yzr Bkb bZGDr/. fco T[j o{g, ;[zdosk, nwhoh ns/ ikfJdkd d/ pdb/ fJe-d{i/ d/ r[DK ~ d/yDr/. uzr/ r[DK dk ;zr eoB tk;s/ ;k~ uzr/ r[DK tkbk ;kEh bZGDk j?. fJ;dk wsbp j' frnk fe ftnkj s'I gfjbK nkgD/ ntr[DK ~ ;'XD ~ gfjb d/Dh gýrh. Fkdh sK nkg;h ;fjwsh (mutual understanding) j?. fJe d{i/ d/ Bkb fwb tos e/ fJ; Xosh #s/ fgnko dh y[Fp{ fybkoB dk d';skBk w"ek j?. ;tkb L

tho ih ! w+ S'Nh fijh no} eoBk ukj[zdk jK. n;hI id'I th pZfunK dh Fkdh eod/ jK sK jo bVe/ d/ wK-pkg fJj rZb efjzd/ jB fe nZi s'I fJj ;kvh p/Nh j?, b/feB id'I T[; dk nzs ;wK nkT[_dk j?, id'I T[;dh w"s (death) j[zdh j? sK nkw fotk} j? fe T[; t/b/ fJ; dk e\B fJ;d/ izwD tkb/ wK-fgT[ tb'I j't/rk. eh n;hI T[; t/b/ i' r[o{ wjkoki dh j}{oh ftZu efjzd/ jK fe nZi s'I fJj ;kvh p/Nh j?, go T[; s'I T[bN feT[I eod/ jK ?

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fJj pj[s skoee s/ Gkt[e ;tkb j? ? (Very very logical and sensitive question ?) fJBQK B/ d[Zydh oZr ~ jZE bkfJnk j? fe id'I n;hI nkgD/ ftnkj dh

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gZuhthI iK gzikjthI ;kbfroQk (marriage anniversary) wBkT[_d/ jK s/ efjzd/ jK fe fJZE/ s/o/ g/e/ p?mDr/, fJZE/ úo/ xo tkb/ p?mDr/. fJsB/ ;kb fJeZm/ fpskT[D pknd th foFfsnK ftZu s/o/ w/o/ dh GktBk j?. fJ; dk w{b ekoB j? fe n;hI d{i/ dh Xh ~ nkgDh Xh BjhI ;wfMnk. d{i/ gk;/ T[; Xh ~ gfjbK xo'I jh uzrk tshok BjhI f;ykfJnk frnk. fitÉ fe fJ; g[;se ftZu n;hI ftuko nkJ/ jK fe nkgDhnK XhnK ~ fJsBh uzrh gVQkJh eokU fe d{finK d/ xo ik e/ T[j uzrhnK ~jK ;kps j'D. i/ T[j uzrhnK ~jK ;kps Bk j'JhnK sK T[j nkgD/ gsh, pZfunK, ;Z;-;j[o/ ns/ nkgD/ tk;s/ th w[FebK yVQhnK eoBrhnK. uzrhnK XhnK pDkJhJ/ sK i' T[j ;j[o/ xo ik e/ uzrhnK ~jK ;kps j'D. ïeo uzrhnK ~jK ;kps j' rJhnK sK ;j[o/ xo tkb/ efjDr/ fe fJj ;kvh p/Nh j?. fJ; sohe/ Bkb id'I n;hI eoKr/ sK fJe fgnko tkbk, o';/ frb/ s'I fpBK ;[yktK wkj"b fsnko j't/rk. go nkw s"o s/ nfijk wkj"b BjhI j[zdk fi; eoe/ w"s tor/ w"fenK s/ n;hI efjzd/ jK fe e\B e[Vh tkfbnK tZb'I nkt/rk. nuBu/s jh n;hI fesB/ nu/s gkg eod/ ofjzd/ jK. id'I ;kv/ xoK ftZu fe;/ dh w"s j' ikt/ sK n;h xo nk e/ nzfvnK s/ p?m iKd/ jK s/ w{zj s/ 31 skohy pDk b+d/ jK fe e[Vwk tZb'I o'Nh nkt/. eh T[j e[VwK dk u¯ek (o;'Jh) tZy j? ? e[Vw e'Jh nbZr fJB;kB jB ? fJj eh wsbp j? ? n;hI fejVh y/v ftZu c;/

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

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j'J/ jK ? e[Vw tkb/ ;'ud/ jB fe eZbQ d{i/ e[Vw o'Nh b? nkJ/ ;B, j[D fszB fdB ;kv/ tZb' o'Nh j't/rh. T[j nkgDh j'V ftZu bZr/ j'J/ jB fe ;kvh p/Nh d/ ;j[o/ gotko ftZu e'Jh wo frnk j? ns/ i/ o'Nh dh tkoh ;kvh j? sK uzrh o'Nh b? e/ ikDh j? BjhI sK pokdoh ftZu BZe eZN ikJ/rh. fJ; soQK T[j nkgDh y/v ftZu bZr/ ofjzd/ jB. fJ; dk wsbp fJj j'fJnk fe nkgD/ ihtB ~ T[&ZfunK eoB bJh ;k~ fJBQK y/vK (game), c'e/ ohsh-fotk}K ftZu'I fBebDk gt/rk. w?~ fJj rZb gkmeK Bkb ;KM eoB dk wkD nk fojk j?. e[M ;wK gfjbK w/o/ fgsk ih id'I fBT{:koe ftZu ihtB ;cao w[ek rJ/ sK w+ nkgD/ Gok d/ ezB ftZu fejk fe @@b'ehI e[Vwkukoh dk uZeo gkT[_d/ jB, fJ; eoe/ w/oh gsBh ns/ nkgDh gsBh d/ xo tkfbnK ~ gfjbK jh c'B eoe/ efj fdT[ fe T[j bzro Bk b? e/ nkT[D. fJj ;ko/ fotki n;hI ;theko (accept) BjhI eod/. fJ; eoe/ ;ko/ foFs/dkoK ~ efjDk fe ;kv/ Bkb ;kv/ xo ubD, bzro dk gqpzX n;hI nkg eoKr/ ns/ ob e/ yktKr/. fgsk ih d/ ftS'V/ dk w[Ffeb ;wK ;h, w"s dk w"ek ;h go n;hI fJ; rZb T[&Zs/ gfjok fdZsk. ;k~ ;kfonK ~ fJ; soQK jh eoBk ukjhdk j?. r[o{ d/ f;ZyK ~ nkw s"o s/ n?;k ihtB fiT{Dk ukjhdk j? fe ;jh wkfJB/ ftZu T[BQK d/ ihtB ftZu fgnko j'ý. id'I se n;hI ;koh y/v ~ ;wMKr/ BjhI sd se n?;hnK fpwkohnK s'I n;hI S[ZNKr/

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Bjh_. r[o{ d/ f;ZyK ~ T[dkjoD (role model) g/F eoBh ukjhdh j?. ;k~ ;wMDk ukjhdk j? fe n;hI T[j tkbk ihtB d[BhnK d/ ;kjwD/ fiT{ e/ fdykT[Dk j? fe n;hI dki BjhI b?d/ jK. ;k~ T[BQK B/ p/Nh d/ fdZsh j?. T[BQK dh p/Nh fJe BtK ;z;ko ofus (create) eoB tk;s/ ;kvh wdd eo ojh j?. ;k~ T[BQK wkskfgsk dk XzBtkdh j'Dk ukjhdk j? fiBQK B/ nkgD/ f}ro dk N'Nk d/ fdZsk j?. T[BQK ~ ;fseko Bkb wzwh-v?vh efjDk ukjhdk j?. T[BQK d/ xo ik e/ nkeV Bkb itkJh pD pD BjhI p?mDk ukjhdk. nfijk ihtB ;k~ BjhI fiT{Dk. ;k~ fdqVQ j' ikDk ukjhdk j?, w}p{s s/ gZe/ fJokd/tkbk pD e/ nkgDh gsBh d/ wksk-fgsk ~ efjDk ukjhdk j? fe @@id'I w+ nktK sK w/o/ tk;s/ e'Jh T[u/u BjhI j'Dk ukjhdk feT[Ife w+ s[jkvk itkJh Bjh_, s[jkvk g[Zso jK. T[j id'I ;'B/ dk eVk gkT[D bZrD sK ej' w+ r[o{ dk eVk gkfJnk j'fJnk j?, w?~ s[jkvk ;'B/ dk eVk BjhI ukjhdk. fJBQK rZbK pko/ gfjbK jh fBoDk (decide) eo b?Dk ukjhdk j?. go n\;'; n;hI sK fJj rZbK jh eod/ fcod/ jK fe id bVek nzdo ikJ/rk, x'Vh s/ fe; soQK uVQ/rk, fejVh uh} T[mkJ/rk, c'N'rqkco fJ; soQK nkt/rk, fco T[j T[&ZE/ p{ZN T[sko/rk, T[; dhnK ;kbhnK p{ZN u[Ze e/ b? ikDrhnK. T[BQK ~ d/D bJh w[zv/ e'b g?;/ j'D/ ukjhd/ jB. fJBQK ;kohnK rZbk dk c?;bk n;hI eod/ ofjzd/ jK. n;hI nfijhnK fcbwK t/y e/ oh;'-oh;h fJj

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

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nfGnk; eod/ ofjzd/ jK. i/eo ;Zu f;Zy fbnk ns/ ;ko/ ohs fotk}K tZb'I ikr gJ/ sK ;ko/ w;b/ (g/e/, ;j[o/, e[VwK tkb/) jZb j' ikDr/. ;tkb L

tho ih ! fit/I s[;hI fejk j? fe ;k~ n?;k ihtB-;kEh bZGDk j? fi; Bkb ;kv/ ftuko fwbd/ j'D. i/eo ;kv/ ftuko fwbd/ jB go Xow nbZr jB sK eh ehsk ikt/, nzso-iksh (intermarriage) ftnkj pko/ s[jkv/ eh ftuko jB ?

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fJj s/ j'o pVk ysoBke j?, fiBQK d/ nkg; ftZu fJFN BjhI fwbd/ jB. nZi eZbQ nzso-iksh ftnkj (intermarriage) ~ pVh gq'Vsk fdZsh ik ojh j?. e[Vh iK w[zv/, d'jK ftZu'I fijVk gqpb j[zdk j? iK fi; d/ wK fgT[ ;ys j[zd/ jB, T[j T[; s'I nkgD/ Xow d/ ohs-fotk} eotk b+d/ jB. fijVh e[Vh d{i/ Xow tkfbnK d/ xo iKdh j? T[j jh ikDdh j? fe T[&ZE/ fe; Gkn ftedh j?. f;Zy xo dh e[Vh ~ BjhI gsk fe fjzd{nK d/ xo ik e/ jB{wkB ih ~ fe; soQK g{id/ jB. i/ e'Jh fjzd{ pZuh f;Zy gotko ftZu nk ikt/ sK T[; ~ fJj BjhI gsk fe ;qh r[o{ rqzE ;kfjp ~ fetÉ wZEk N/ed/ jB. gsh nkgD/ Xkowe ;EkBK s/ ik e/ nkgD/ Xkowe eoweKv eodk ofjzdk j? ns/ gsBh nkgD/ Xow w[skpe nkgD/ Xow dhnK oj[-ohsK ~ g{ok eodh ofjzdh j?. nzsoiksh ftnkj nkw s"o #s/ ;cb BjhI jz[d/ feT[âfe tZy Xow tkb/ w[zvk-e[Vh dk ;fGnkuko, ;'uDh, ohsh-fotk}, T[&ZmDk, p?mDk, ;G

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e[M tZy jB. fiBQK dh ;'uDh fJe' fijh BjhI j?, fiBQK dk fJFN fJe' fijk BjhI j?, fiBQK dk T[d/F fJe' fijk BjhI j?, T[j nkgD/ ns/ nkgD/ pZfunK d/ ihtB ~ eh pDkT[Dr/ ? ;k~ }pod;sh B"itkBK ftZu w}Qph ftseo/ dh ftukoXkok sK BjhI g?dk eoBh go nkgD/ w}Qp ftZu'I uzr/ r[D T[BQK ~ }o{o dZ;D/ jB. B"itkBK ~ w}Qph Bcos f;ykT[D pdb/ fJj f;ykT[Dk j? fe ;ko/ wB[Zy pokpo j[zd/ jB. ;ko/ XowK tkb/ pokpo jB, ;ko/ wB[Zy pokpo jB, b/feB fitÉ fe n;hI T[go ftuko nkJ/ jK fe w}Qp ~ pdbD eoe/ d{;o/ w}Qp d/ Bkb ftnkj eoB t/ b/ w[FebK g?dk j' jh iKdhnK jB. fJ; eoe/ ;k~ nzso-iksh ftnkj (inter-marriage) pko/ ikrDk ukjhdk j? ns/ n?;k ftnkj BjhI eoBk ukjhdk. f;Zy w[zvk iK e[Vh nkgD/ f;Zy gotko ftZu jh ftnkj eo/ sK uzrk oj/rk. Fkdh d/ ekw:kp j'D d/ f}nkdk w"e/ j'Dr/. fjzd{ f;oc fjzd{ gotko ftZu jh ftnkj eoB s/ w[;bwkB f;oc w[;bwkB xo ftZu jh ftnkj eoB sK T[j th ;[yh ofjDë, uzr/ ofjDr/. go i/ d{i/ w}Qp tZb ub/ rJ/ sK T[j }pod;sh ftnkj t/b/ , iBw woB t/b/, nkgD/ ohsh-fotk} eotk b?Dr/, pZu/ dk Bkw th nkgD/ Xow w[skpe oZyDr/ fco n;hI ;koh T[wo b{Z;d/ otQKr/ fe @@pZu/ ~ fJj BjhI f;ykT[Dk ukj[zdh ;h, w+ s/ fJ; ~ T[&ZE/ b? e/ ikDk ukj[zdk ;h, w+ fJ; ~ T[j eokT[Dk ukj[zdk ;h.## T[j pZuk wksk-

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

143

;tkb ns/ itkp

fgsk d/ tZy' tZyo/ Xkowe fynkbK ns/ ohs-fotk}K ekoB fwb-r'Gk j' ikt/rk. fJ; bJh nzso-iksh ftnkj pj[s jh ysoBke j?. feqgk eoe/ fJ; s'I pu'. (Intermarriage is very very dangerous, please stay away from it.) ;tkb L

itkp L

fi; soQK n;hI iwKdko ~ efjzd/ jK fe fJj g?;/ b? b? ns/ e{V/ dh N'eoh ;[ZN nk T[;h soQK n;hI e{V/ dh N'eoh dh EK e[Vh ns/ g?f;nK dh EK Y/o ;kok dki fdzd/ jK. w?I nkgD/ ftnkj d/ ;w/I e{V/ dh N'eoh BjhI pDBk ukzj[dh go i/ w/o/ wksk-fgsk efjD fe s[;hI ftnkj fJ; soQK jh eoBk j?, n;hI dki ÅDk jh j?, n;hI ;';kfJNh ftZu sK nkgDk Bkw eoBk jh j? sK w+ eh eoK ? nkgD/ nkg ~ fsnko eo bt' fe w?I dki d/ Bkw s/ e{V/ dh N'eoh tKr, wkfJnk Bkb pzBQ é, g?;/ d/ e/ ftZeD ~ fsnko BjhI jK. xpokU Bjh_, j¯;bk oZy', s[;hI ekw:kp j't'r/. n;b ftZu fijVhnK G?Dk d/ Bkb dki d/ ekoB }[bw j' fojk j?, T[; d/ tk;s/ w/ok ;[gBk j? fe ihtB iku dk ]}kBk (The Living Treasure) tZb'I fJe t{w?B n?;';hæFB (Women Association) j'Dh ukjhdh j? fijVh n"os iks d/ Bkb j'D tkbh fe;/ th Bk-fJB;kch (injustice) d/ fto[ZX yVQh j't/. fjzd{, f;Zy, w[;bwkB, fJ;kJh, nkfd fi; xo ftZu th n"os d/ Bkb e'Jh

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

144

;tkb ns/ itkp

th }[bw j' fojk j?, fJj n?;';hJ/FB T[; dh wdd eo/. s[jkv/ torhnK ikfrqs G?DK ~ nkgDhnK d[yh G?DK dh wdd bJh nZr/ nkT[Dk ukjhdk j?. ;wki d/ ftZu fJ; rZb dk }'odko gquko j'Dk ukjhdk j?. nkgD/ nkg ~ tuBpZX (commitment) eo bt' fe w+ s/ ;wki dh ;/tk eoKrh Gkt/I w?~ wdo N/o/;k (Mother Terresa) tKr{z, wksk r[ioh tKr{z, phph GkBh tKr{z, e'Jh th ;/tk eoBh gt/, w? eoB Bz{ fsnko jK go dki d/ Bkw j/m fteDk wz}{o BjhI.