Parish Magazine November 2008

The Ven. David Garnett The Vicarage, Edensor, Bakewell, Derbyshire DE45 1PH Tel: 01246 582130 (Church website - www.stpetersedensor.org ) November 2008 Dear Friends In our school at Pilsley we are looking at the family tree of the Bible, beginning with Adam and Eve. I told the children a story about our border collie, Pip. He is still young and I have been busy training him. Bit by bit we are getting there! In particular I have worked hard at telling him not to jump over our garden wall into the next garden. In the summer one of my son’s dogs, Lucy, came to stay. She is a tiny springer spaniel. She couldn’t jump the wall but kept tempting Pip to jump it. “No, I have been told not to do that” I could hear him saying. But as you may guess one day… “Go on, go on” woofed Lucy. And then with a gigantic leap Pip was over the wall and got himself into trouble. He was very glad to be back in our garden again. Yes, the Adam and Eve story is about breaking the rules and the consequences. But I think it is about something deeper as well. Adam and Eve are not historic characters. They are, however, very real people. They are Mr & Mrs Everyman. Cast out of the Garden of Eden they experience that longing to be back home. They represent the universal experience of being tormented by anxieties and fears. And the Paradise Garden is not something we have lost but is something of the future, which we long for. The story foretells a garden on earth, where people will live in unity and peace and have sufficient for all their needs. Whereby the earth may be what the Lord wills it to be. The garden of the Lord, where men and women love each other without shame, and where God walks in the cool of the evening. It is a sublime picture etched by a religious genius. Edwin Muir, the great Scottish poet, wrote: “One foot in Eden still, I stand And look across the other land. The world’s great day is growing late, Yet strange these fields that we have planted So long with crops of love and hate. Time’s handiworks by time are haunted, And nothing now can separate 1

The corn and tares compactly grown The armorial weed in stillness bound About the stalk; these are our own. Evil and Good stand thick around In the fields of charity and sin Where we shall lead our harvest in.” The story of Adam and Eve fills me with great hope, when hope is often in short supply. Its author looking back across the wrecks of time, haunted by his own inadequacies, bored by the brutalities and banalities of everyday existence, still holds fast to paradise. It must be so if the Lord is Lord of all. Please accept/give invitations to “Back to Church Sunday” on Advent Sunday, 30 November, at Edensor. (There will be another at Beeley in the New Year). Our worship will be embellished by the Derbyshire Singers and wine will be served after the service. Who knows? Together we may rediscover a bit of paradise lost! Yours ever, David

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From the Registers Baptism St. Peter’s ~

12th October Sophie Elizabeth Oliver REMEMBER BACK TO CHURCH SUNDAY ADVENT SUNDAY 30th NOVEMBER 10.30am St. Peter’s, Edensor 2

Marriage Rules Eased Rev. Clive Thrower writes Quietly earlier this year new rules were introduced to make it easier for couples to marry in the church of their choice. The basic requirement is that either the bride or the groom reside in the parish or habitually worship at the church but under the new regulation if one can demonstrate a connection with the parishes then there is a right to marry there. There are six acceptable conditions – if one of the parents has lived in the parish for more than six months in the child’s lifetime, or has regularly attended worship there in the child’s life. Couples can marry in a parish where their parents or grandparents were married. They can also marry in a parish if one of them was baptised or confirmed there; or if one of them has ever lived for six months or more in the parish or regularly attended worship there for six or more months. Many couples applying to Edensor and neighbouring parishes do not fall into any of the preceding conditions, they want to get married in this area perhaps because this is where they had spent much of their leisure and courting time, or want a neutral venue rather than choosing one or others home parish, or else they are looking for a pleasant location with good reception venues. For these couples it is easy if they want a civil marriage, they simply apply to the Bakewell registrar and the registrars of their home districts, but for a church wedding they need to either become regular worshippers here or gain a temporary residency. To be recognised as a regular worshipper one of them needs to attend service over a minimum six month period (usually at least once per month). To be accepted as a resident most clergy apply the same rule as for civil registration, namely residing in the parish for seven nights just before reading the banns of marriage. Whatever the reason for choosing to marry here it is an opportunity for gentle evangelism and pastoral guidance of the couple by both clergy and congregation. We have a special calling to nurture young people at a turning point in their lives – they represent the future of our Church even if that is not in our parish (to quote Jesus from St. John’s gospel “The saying `One sows and another reaps' is true. I sent you to reap what you have not worked for. Others have done the hard work, and you have reaped the benefits of their labour." and St. Paul makes it clear in his letter to the Colossians that both the sower and the reaper will be rewarded.) If we have not quiet in our minds, outward comfort will do no more for us than a golden slipper on a gouty foot. - John Bunyan 3

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Saturday November 8 sees the launch of BASLOW·ROWSLEY·EDENSOR·PILSLEY·BEELEY – Dales’ Life in the Devonshire and Rutland Villages by Keith Taylor, with a foreword by the Dowager Duchess of Devonshire. This book tells the stories of the lives and deaths of all the servicemen from these villages who lost their lives during either the First or Second World Wars and tells of life on the Home Front, with stories of the evacuees, Home Guard, Observer Corps, the Blitz and rationing. Many of the 600 evocative photographs depict life in the five villages prior to the Great War and during the 1920s – 1940s, with scenes of village life and events, school days and work on the farm in the quarries and on the railway. Keith Taylor will be signing copies of his book at: Rowsley Village Hall (next to the school), between 9.30am and 12.30pm Baslow Church Room (in the churchyard of St. Anne’s, Baslow), between 1.30pm and 4.30pm th Saturday 8 November 2008

Everyone is most welcome Published by Dick Richardson (Country Books) 01629 640670 Price £11.95 (500 pages)

Don’t Stop at the Lights: Church year plan on tackling climate change The Archbishop of Canterbury Dr Rowan Williams and the Bishop of London the Rt Revd Richard Chartres have commended a new guide from the Church of England which offers church leaders a template for a year-long programme of practical action to reduce their congregations' carbon footprints, as energy prices head upwards. The book, Don’t Stop at the Lights, launched by Church House Publishing, includes sermon ideas and extensive bible study notes drawing on ancient theological themes which aim to reconnect the church to the natural world and the roots of its faith. 4

Christmas Greetings If you would like your name to be included in the ‘Christmas Greetings’ message in the December issue of The Bridge, look out for the list at the back of church or let me know by’ phone/e-mail before 10th November. Donations will go towards church funds and should be placed in an envelope and marked ‘Christmas Greetings’ and placed on the collection plate during December. Thank you, Liz Bradshaw Climbing stairs could prolong your life Forget the lift – take the stairs instead, and you could reduce your risk of dying young by 15 per cent. A recent study has found that increasing the number of stairs climbed in a day improves fitness and reduces body fat, which of course keeps your heart healthy.

Why a short nap is good for your brain Nodding off, if only for 10 minutes, is good for you. It refreshes the brain and improves the memory. In fact, it is the act of falling asleep more than being asleep that is so beneficial. Recent research from the University of Dusseldorf has found that just before sleep, the brain ‘replays’ recent events, producing dreamlike sensations and ‘crazy’ thoughts which could explain the benefit of a power nap. “It’s as if the brain is sifting through new material to figure out what to work with,” said one researcher. And it is this short period of ‘thought marshalling’, rather than prolonged sleep, which may be crucial for good recall.

Researchers at the University of Geneva now believe that stair climbing at work may have major public health implications. It is a practical way by which busy working people can increase their exercise capacity and gain real lasting benefits to their health

Worries about the economy We used to worry about future generations becoming soft, but no more. Not when we think of the loans they’re going to have to pay off.

What Bishops do We were celebrating the 100th anniversary of our church, and several former pastors and the Bishop were in attendance. At one point, our minister had the children gather at the altar for a talk about the importance of the day. He began by asking, "Does anyone know what the bishop does?" There was silence. Finally, one little boy ventured: "He's the one you can move diagonally." 5

Make a Will: make a difference in November with Will Aid Will Aid is a partnership between solicitors and nine UK charities. The campaign puts you in touch with participating solicitors who will draw up a basic Will free of charge during November. In return for this service, the solicitors hope you will choose to donate to the Will Aid charities the fee they would normally charge. The suggested donation level is: £75 for a single Will, £110 for a pair of matching or 'mirror' Wills, or £40 for a change or codicil to an existing will. Since its launch in 1988, the scheme has raised almost £7m in donations and very much more in legacies. The money donated is shared between the participating charities: ActionAid, British Red Cross, Christian Aid, Help the Aged, NSPCC, Save the Children UK, Sight Savers International, SCIAF and Trocaire. But this isn’t the only benefit of making your Will with Will Aid. Many people also take this opportunity to leave a legacy to their favourite charity, church or other good cause. Making a Will and keeping it up-to-date is an important way of protecting family and loved ones in the future. This year, people should take advantage of Will Aid to review their arrangements, especially since the Chancellor announced changes to the Inheritance Tax (‘IHT’) rules. These changes, which were incorporated in this year’s Budget, should reduce the tax burden on couples or at least enable many Wills to be simplified, bringing more within the scope of a Will Aid basic Will. In the last campaign, more than 7,000 people were motivated to make their Will with Will Aid and they donated almost £700,000 for the Will Aid charities. They also pledged millions more in legacies to the Will Aid charities and other causes. Make your Will with a Will Aid solicitor this November, and make a real difference to people in need in the UK and around the world, helping to transform the lives of children, families, elderly people and whole communities. Take the opportunity to leave a legacy to your favourite charity and you will be ensuring their good work can continue for years to come. And, most importantly, you will be ensuring the security of your own loved ones. Find a convenient participating solicitor today by using the Find a Solicitor function on the Will Aid website www.willaid.org.uk or by contacting the hotline 0300 0300 013. You can then make your appointment by email or telephone. With the US presidential election in mind... Election Day - John Pierpont A weapon that comes down as still As snowflakes fall upon the sod, But executes a freeman’s will 6

As lightning does the will of God. And from its force nor doors nor locks Can shield you – t’is the ballot box.

Church of England marks Darwin's contribution to science as bicentenary approaches It is this need for humans to think, and love, that forms the centrepiece of the essay by the Revd Dr Malcolm Brown, called 'Good Religion Needs Good Science'.

The Church of England has developed a new section of its website to mark the approaching bicentenary of Charles Darwin's birth in 1809, and the 150th anniversary of the publication of 'On the Origin of Species' in 1859.

After warning of the social misapplication of Darwin's discoveries, where natural selection justifies racism and other forms of discrimination - perhaps predicted in the "misguided" overreaction of the Church in the 1860s Malcolm Brown writes: "Christians will want to stress, instead, the human capacity for love, for altruism, and for selfsacrifice."

As people’s interest grows in the bicentenary, the pages analyse Darwin's faith and his relationship with the Church of England. In the new section, Darwin and the Church reveals that Darwin was surrounded by the influence of the Church his entire life. Having attended a Church of England boarding school in Shrewsbury, he trained to be a clergyman in Cambridge; was inspired to follow his calling into science by another clergyman who lived and breathed botany; and married into a staunch Anglican family.

He separates biological science and human emotions further by pointing out the naivety of assuming a wholesale evolution of the human race: "... even a fairly cursory review of human history undermines any idea of constant moral progress."

However, Darwin and Faith shows, quoting Darwin's own words, how he slowly lost his personal Christian faith, the erosion made complete by a need for evidence, and the sad death of a beloved daughter.

The website section 'On the Origin of Darwin' is online at www.cofe.anglican.org/darwin

Died in the services Little Alex was staring up at the large brass plaque that hung on the side wall of the church. The plaque was covered with names, and seemed to fascinate the seven-year old. “All those names,” he said to the minister. “Who are they?” “Well, they were people who used to go to this church,” explained the minister. “This is a memorial to all the young men and women who died in the services." Soberly, they stood together, staring at the large plaque. Little Alex's voice was barely audible when he asked, "Which service, the 9 o’clock, or the 11 o’clock?”

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11th November – 90th anniversary of the end of the First World War On the eleventh hour of the eleventh day of the eleventh month in 1918, the First World War ended. This November marks the 90th anniversary of the end of The Great War, and the Royal British Legion is honouring the memory of the War’s heroes with a unique tribute. It is planting a Flanders’ Field of Poppies in the ground where they fell. The Royal British Legion is inviting people to join ‘our salute’ by sending a personal message, which will be written on a poppy. You are invited to participate either by ringing 0845 8451945, or by visiting the website http://www.poppy.org/content/Flanders-Field-1114.shtml for an online order service. The poppies will be planted beside the Menin Gate Memorial at Ypres for Armistice Day on 11 November. The British Legion urges: “Help us to create this tribute, and our special Flanders’ Field will be awash with scarlet.” Our Remembrance Service The Rev Dr Gary Bowness considers war – and peace. Formal remembrance services in guerrilla warfare was a part of daily churches become ever less common as life. It seems an odd sort of peace. the years go by. In part, it’s because those who have any direct experience In his play ‘Murder in the Cathedral’, of war are, in stable countries, a small T.S. Eliot writes of Becket wrestling minority. In part, it is also because with this theme: “Did Jesus mean such services in the past have been peace as we think of it: the kingdom uncomfortably jingoistic at times. of England at peace with its neighbours, the barons at peace with Some churches have tried to avoid all the king, the householder counting of this by re-naming them ‘peace’ over his peaceful gains?” services. But whatever title they are given, all remembrance services are There’s the paradox. We can have peace services – although that begs the Jesus’ peace, but it doesn’t mean that question of what we mean by ‘peace’. we’ll never have to face conflict. Not all peace is good peace. Nations – and It won’t be too many weeks before we each of us individually – can make are singing about “peace on earth, peace by giving in to what is wrong, goodwill towards men”. And yet those by letting evil win. words are sung to describe a country living under foreign occupation, where Of course, there’s always the temptation to take the easy way out 8

So whatever form our remembrance services take, they are all peace services. We remember those who have died, and who are still dying as a result of conflict. We confess our part in it, even if it has only been a passive involvement. And we commit ourselves to playing our part in building true peace; not cheap peace, not peace at any price, not peace through compromise with evil. We promise to try to do God’s will for His world, so that lasting peace, honourable peace may be built.

when it comes to resolving conflict, to accept what’s wrong and to excuse ourselves by saying that we’re doing it for the sake of keeping the peace. But that sort of peace isn’t worth having and is unlikely to last anyway. Building true peace can be costly. It will mean that we have to admit our own part in the mess, that we have sinned, and that we have to be prepared to forgive other people their sins too. It’s a peace based on suffering and sacrifice – based on the cross. November 6th – St Illtud Not many people have heard of Illtud, but perhaps we should make him the patron saint of all Christian NGOs (Non-Government Organisations) who work in emergency and famine relief.

Certainly the people of Brittany never forgot Illtud’s kindness towards them: even today some Breton churches and villages bear his name. Many churches in Wales are also dedicated to this compassionate man.

Illtud did not set out to be an action hero – he was a gentle and learned abbot heading up a monastery in Glamorgan. Illtud spent his days reading the Scriptures and philosophy. Yet the year that famine struck the coast of Brittany, Illtud put down his parchments and became a man of action.

30th November - ADVENT Sunday As November closes, Advent begins. The exact birth-date of Jesus is not known, but during the 5th century the date of 25 December was chosen to become the Feast of the Nativity, or Christmas. By the sixth century, the Christian Church was in the habit of spending several weeks leading up to Christmas in prayerful, expectant preparation. The fourth Sunday before Christmas Day became Advent Sunday. ‘Advent’, of course, means ‘coming’, or ‘coming in’, and traditionally special candles have been lit, and more recently, advent calendars used, as the Church prepares itself for the coming of the Holy Child, the longawaited Messiah.

Illtud issued what must have been one of the earliest ‘emergency relief appeals’, and was able to collect a great deal of corn. Illtud loaded this corn onto several small ships and set off across the perilous Channel in order to save the people of Brittany. Perhaps he had in mind the words of Christ: “I was hungry and you fed me...” (Matthew 25:35)

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The Promise of Advent Stir up our hearts, we beseech you, to prepare ourselves to receive your Son. When he comes and knocks, may he find us not sleeping in sin, But awake to righteousness, Ceaselessly rejoicing in his love. May our hearts and minds be so purified, That we may be ready to receive his promise of eternal life. from The Gelasian Sacramentary, c. 500 (the oldest official prayer book of the Western Church)

Statistic of the month: Infant baptism is still popular child, I house my child, I get injections for my child, why shouldn’t I have it baptised?" as a Scottish lady (who believed in God but never went to church – apart from these occasions) once said. Most baptisms are accompanied by other friends as well, and often with God-parents. How can we make these occasions special in our church? How can we keep in touch with the families of those who have been baptised, and encourage them to bring their babies to crèche and toddlers to Sunday School? How can we help all those who attend to see something of what the Christian faith is all about, and encourage them to seek the truth for themselves? The Catholics baptise children with oil as well as water, which is a lovely symbol of praying that the Holy Spirit may come upon each child. They also give a lighted candle to each parent, helping to make the occasion especially meaningful. Baptisms are such an opportunity – it is worth considering: how can we best use them?

Two babies in every five in the UK are baptised. Despite the fact that young people are less and less in church, nevertheless 40% of those newly born are brought to a church for infant baptism or christening. The percentage has declined – it was 55% in 1991 and 50% in 2000, but in 2008 it was still high – at 40%. These percentages include all those babies baptised in the Church of England (and other Anglican churches in Wales, Scotland and Northern Ireland), the Roman Catholic Churches in each country, the Methodist church and the smaller denominations, some of which also practice infant baptism. The number of baptisms in the Roman Catholic Church is increasing because of the large number of Polish immigrants who have come to the UK to find work, and Catholic baptisms are more than a third, 36%, of the overall total. Why do people have their babies baptised? The percentage doing so is about three times greater than the number who attend church even once a year, let alone once a week. Some see it as a sort of ‘insurance’ policy – "I feed my 10

Drink an OKÉ smoothie – and help a poor farmer into fair trade... ‘AgroFair’, 50% owned by fruit farmers in poorer countries and 50% by Fairtrade organisations.

There are two new products out this autumn which look and taste as good as any other, but which can also help poor farmers in the developing world. They are two new smoothies with the exotic name of OKÉ.

AgroFair’s new OKÉ smoothies are delicious and nutritious, with no concentrate, just 100% top quality fruit. Fairtrade farmer Roberto Ugalde from Costa Rica explains: “If we can sell more Fairtrade pineapple purée this will give us money to bring water where there are no fresh supplies...”

OKÉ smoothies are the first products to be developed by AgroFair, which was itself created by Solidaridad, a Dutch NGO established by the Protestant and Catholic churches.

So next time you are shopping, look out for an OKÉ smoothie. It is good for you, and good for farmers on the other side of the world.

Several years ago Solidaridad objected to the terrible conditions experienced by banana farmers. Harsh social conditions and extensive use of hazardous agrochemicals led to serious health issues. And so Solidaridad established its own company,

More information is at www.okefairtrade.com

Invite a stranger for Christmas Visits from strangers at Christmas began with shepherds turning up at a Bethlehem stable, and continued with the arrival of wise men from a foreign land. This year, you could carry on this tradition, by inviting an international student to spend Christmas in your home. HOST is a well-established charity, backed by the Foreign Office and many universities, which links adults studying in the UK with hospitable volunteers throughout Britain. Guests come from all over the world, including many from China. They speak English and are keen to share their own culture, while longing to know more about our way of life. Welcoming a student who might otherwise spend Christmas on a deserted campus, fosters international understanding, and could make your Christmas special. See www.hostuk.org or call HOST on 020 7254 3039 to be put in touch with your local organiser. HOST arranges visits throughout the year, so if your 'inn' is full this Christmas, you can still offer an invitation at another time.

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The Bakewell Oxfam Supporters group is arranging two events in November:

Pre-Christmas Sale Monday, 17th November from 9.30am to 12.30pm. Bakewell Town Hall Jewellery, Books, Bric-a-brac, Home-made goods, Christmas goods and cards, Tombola, Traidcraft Stall and Refreshments. Entrance 30p. *If you have any jewellery you would like to give to the stall, this would be gratefully received. Please ring 01629 810076

Ceilidh -Our Social Event of the Year Friday, 28th November at 7.30pm for 8pm Bakewell Town Hall Building on our past successful ceilidhs, we present The Well-Heeled Appalachian Dancers, dancing to the Downtrodden String Band. Have a go yourselves to the calling of Bob Barrett! Tickets £6 (concessions £4) from Bakewell Bookshop: 01629 815469 or at the door.

Bar and Traidcraft Stall available. If you help with the church flowers... 8 and18. A quarterly news booklet is sent to all registered members, this contains an exchange of news, views and announcements. The CEFAA was founded in the Liverpool Diocese, where several of the National Officers are now based.

Are you one of our church flower arrangers? If so, would you enjoy keeping in touch with other church flower arrangers further afield? The Church of England has its own Flower Arrangers Association, and would welcome you as a member. It has more than 400 members, and aims to get more people interested in the creative art of church flower arranging.

Flower arrangers from the Anglican Church, and any church ‘in felIowship’ with it are eligible to join. For further Information, contact The Secretary of CEFAA, Mr L W Fielding, 32 East Wapping Quay, Liverpool L3 4BU tel0151 709 5116 or email [email protected]

The CEFAA is a voluntary charity and is non-competitive. It has a junior section for those between the ages of

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PILGRIM PLACES: Historic Christian Sites in Britain WHITBY – part three In terms of the Church year the important difference between the two Churches was in their celebration of Easter. The Celtic Church had a tradition, which it believed went back to St John and dated Easter in relation to the Jewish Passover. Canterbury Christianity, with its Roman identity, dated Easter differently. While this was not a very important theological difference, it did have practical significance. As with Christians all over the world, British Christians put great importance on Easter and it was the major celebration of the whole Christian year. Now in Britain this important festival was observed on different dates between the two Christian communities. Celtic Christianity celebrated Easter on one date and Canterbury Christianity on another. This division was particularly noticeable in the household of King Oswy, the very influential King of Northumbria. Among the Celtic Christians kingship was very important and the king was regarded as the anointed of the Lord. In contrast Canterbury Christians recognised the Bishop of Rome, now being called a Pope (from the Latin papas, father), as the Head of the Church. To complicate matters further, King Oswy’s second wife was a Roman Christian while he was a Celtic Christian. This meant that in the royal household King Oswy could be celebrating Easter while the queen and her attendants were observing the Lenten Fast! Finally King Oswy decided that this question of the date of Easter must be settled once and for all. He called a Synod of both Celtic and Roman Christians and the meeting place was Whitby Abbey where Hilda was the greatly esteemed Abbess. The two parties arrived to take part in the Synod, the Celtic monks and priests and the Canterbury clergy. They were easily distinguished from each other by their hairstyles! The Celts had adopted the tonsure, shaving the crowns of their heads but the Roman clergy did not adopt this custom. Colman, bishop of Lindisfarne, led the Celtic monks, supported by Irish and Scottish monks and Hilda. The Roman deputation was led by Agilbert, Bishop of Dorchester, Wilfrid, Abbot of Ripon, and James the Deacon. King Oswy presided and none of those attending that gathering in Whitby could have foreseen the long-term outcome of the proceedings. Colman argued that the Celtic tradition went back through Columba, who brought the gospel to Iona, Polycarp, bishop and martyr in the 2nd century, and the Apostle John. Wilfrid, the Roman spokesman, said their tradition was now accepted by Christians all over Europe and that it could be traced back to the teaching of both Peter and Paul. Argument and counter argument followed. Colman and his supporters emphasised that John was the Lord’s beloved disciple and that his teaching therefore carried great weight. (Continued next month). 13

Review Boundaries - when to Say Yes, How to Say No, to Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud& John Townsend, Zondervan £5.99 Do you suspect that other people are running your life? Are you constantly knocked off course by other people’s demands on your time? If so, this is the book for you.

and give us renewed awe for our Creator. Often, Christians focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limits and limitations. When confronted with their lack of boundaries, they ask: - Can I set limits and still be a loving person? What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries? How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money? Aren't boundaries selfish? Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries?

Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances. Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions. Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others. Spiritual boundaries help us to distinguish God's will from our own

Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend offer biblically-based answers to these and other tough questions, showing us how to set healthy boundaries with our parents, spouses, children, friends, co-workers, and even ourselves.

Hand-written on the wall of Mother Theresa's room Build anyway. People are often unreasonable, If you find serenity and happiness, illogical, and self-centred; they may be jealous; Forgive them anyway. Be happy anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse The good you do today, people will you of selfish, ulterior motives; often forget tomorrow; Be kind anyway. Do good anyway. If you are successful, you will win Give the world the best you have, and some false friends and some true it may never be enough; enemies; Give the world the best you've got Be successful anyway. anyway. If you are honest and frank, people You see, in the final analysis, it is may cheat you; between you and God; Be honest and frank anyway. It never was between you and them What you spend years building, anyway. someone could destroy overnight; 14

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The Green Bible, HarperCollins Publishers, £12.99 Here is the UK’s first Bible to be printed on environmentally sustainable FSC paper. The Green Bible, hailed by its publishers as “a priceless message that doesn’t cost the earth,” contains the complete text of the modern New Revised Standard Version. It also includes a specially written study section showing what the scriptures have to say about the environment. As Britain’s largest Bible publisher, HarperCollins has now promised that it will make each Bible translation it publishes available on FSC paper within the next two years. Currently, HarperCollins has four different Bible translations in print: The New Revised Standard Version (NRSV); English Standard Version (ESV); Good News Bible (GNB); and the King James Version (KJV).

Smile……… ‘Comeback Lines’ for domestic and workplace use (if only you had the nerve!) 1. I don't know what your problem is, but I'll bet it's hard to pronounce. 2. Any connection between your reality and mine is purely coincidental. 3. I like you. You remind me of me when I was young and stupid. 4. I will always cherish the initial misconceptions I had about you. 5. I'm really easy to get along with once you people learn to worship me. 6. You sound reasonable. It must be time to top up my medication. 7. You're just jealous because the little voices talk to ME. 8. I'll try being nicer if you'll try being smarter. 9. I'm out of my mind, but feel free to leave a message... 10. Who me? I just wander from room to room.

Children's Kitchen Terms BOIL: The point a parent reaches upon hearing the automatic "Yuck" before a food is even tasted. CASSEROLE: Combination of favourite foods that go uneaten because they are mixed together. DESSERT: The reason for eating a meal. EVAPORATE: Magic trick performed by children when it comes time to clear the table or wash dishes. FRUIT: A natural sweet not to be confused with dessert. REFRIGERATOR: A very expensive and inefficient room air conditioner when not being used as an art gallery. SODA POP: Shake 'N Spray. TABLE LEG: Percussion instrument. 15

SERVICES & ROTAS FOR NOVEMBER 2008 St. Anne’s, Beeley Flowers 2 Nov 9 Nov 16 Nov 23 Nov 30 Nov 7 Dec

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Miss Abell 3pm Remembrance Service " " Mrs M Fearn 2.30pm Evensong " " Advent no flowers " "

St. Peter’s, Edensor Sidesmen 2 Nov 10.30am Holy Communion & Baptism Mr & Mrs Jackson *9 Nov 10.50am Remembrance Service Mr & Mrs Machin 16 Nov 10.30am Matins Mr & Mrs Wardle 23 Nov 10.30am Holy Communion R S Sherwood/Diana Walters 30 Nov 10.30am Holy Communion Mr & Mrs Flemming 7 Dec 10.30am Holy Communion R A Gray/J Bowns * There will be a Service of Remembrance in the School Yard at Pilsley at 10.15am Coffee Cleaning Flowers 2 Nov Mrs Bradshaw ------------------------------- Angela Dempsey 9 Nov NO COFFEE Mr & Mrs Jackson Diana Symonds 16 Nov Mrs Cooper/Mrs Clarke ------------------------" " 23 Nov Pat Cree Mr & Mrs Wardle ????????????? 30 Nov NO COFFEE ------------------------Advent – no flowers 7 Dec Mrs Mather Mrs Bateman/Mrs Robinson " "

Readings at St. Peter’s Epistle Gospel Reader 2 Nov 1 John 3: 1-3 Matthew 5: 1-12 Diana Symonds “All Saints” 9 Nov Readings to be decided Tony Gray Remembrance Sunday 16 Nov Matthew 25: 14-30 ---------------------------David Jackson Parable of the Talents 23 Nov Ezekiel 34: 11-16, 20-24 Matthew 25: 31-46 John Bowns Christ the King (preacher Cedric Blakey) 30 Nov Isaiah 40: 1-11 Luke 12: 35-48 Roger Wardle “The Road Home” (Advent – “Back to Church Sunday) 7 Dec Romans 15: 4-13 Luke 21: 25-32 Molly Marshall Bible Sunday ‘The Bridge’ Parish Magazine – From the January 2009 issue the price will be 60p per copy (£7.20 per year) Items for inclusion in the December th magazine should reach me by Monday 10 November. e-mail:[email protected] 16