Love

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

145

fgnko

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

146

fgnko

j?. nkU fBogZy j' e/ fJ; pko/ g? u[Ze/ G[b/fynK ns/ fJ; d/ ;jh noEK pko/ ftukoK dh ;KM eohJ/.

8

fgnko 1H fgnko iK gq/w bc} ngD/ nkg ftZu pj[s ft;Eko wzrdk j?. gq/w Bz{ YkJh nZyoh efjDk s/ nk;kB j? go fJ; pko/ fbZyD bJh YkJh XoshnK th xZN g? ;edhnK jB. ;kvh fJ; jEbh g[;se dk we;d sK fJj' jh j? fe Xosh d/ ;ko/ wB[ZyK dh xo/b{ ns/ ;wkie ihtBh fgnko Gog{o j' ikt/. fJ; g[;se d/ b/yK Bz{ fbyfdnK i}pks ebw okjhI, ;w[zdoh bfjoK tKr{z pkjo nkT[D Bz{ T[Skb/ yk oj/ jB fe fgnko d/ e[M i}pks fgnko dh ghIx #u gk e/ e[dos d/ ft;wkd #u gkmeK bJh g/F ehs/ ikD. d[Bhnk ftZu n?;k wB[Zy bGDk n;zGt j? i' fgnko dh p'bh, fgnko Goh sZeDh iK fgnko d/ fJ}jko Bz{ Bk ;wM ;edk j't/ fJj rZb tZyoh j? fe e'Jh fgnko dh p'bh Bz{ ;[D e/ nD-;[Dk eo d/t/ ns/ fgnko Goh seDh Bz{ nD-d/yk eo d/t/. 2H fJ; b/y nzdo ftuko/ rJ/ B[efsnK okjhI fJe fgnko Gfonk fdb$fjodk pDk ;ed/ jK ns/ fiT{Id/ ihn nkgD/ foFfsnK, ;wki, e"w, d/F ns/ ;koh d[Bhnk bJh Xosh #s/ jh ;tor s;Zt[o eo ;ed/ jK. 3H fgnko pko/ jo/e wB[Zy dh nkgDh nkgDh ftukoXkok j?. fJ; i}p/ Bz{ jo e'Jh nkgD/ nkswe, wkBf;e ns/ ;ohoe ;[ZyK nB[;ko p[Ddk j? ns/ wkDB dk isB eodk

4H fgnko Bz{ oZp ih dh sFphj fdZsh iKdh j?. fgnko tk;s/ y{B dk foFsk j'Dk }o{oh BjhI fi; eoe/ d[Bhnk d/ fe;/ th wB[Zy dk fe;/ th wB[Zy Bkb, fe;h th T[wo tkb/ Bkb fgnko j'Dk e[dosh efoFwk j? b/feB fJ; ftu oZsh wkso th ekw g{osh, ekw GVekT{ i}p/ iK ekw tk;Bk Bz{ i'V d/Dk ;kvh ;wkfie G[Zb j?. ;kBz{ nZi ;G s'A tZvk G[b/yk fJj fgnk j'fJnk j? fe fgnko eoD dk wsbp e/tb ekw tk;Bk bJh d' ;ohoK dk fwbB jh j?. 5H fgnko sK wK p/N/ dk th j[zdk j?, fgsk-p/Nh dk th j[zdk j?, G?D Gok dk th j[zdk j? d' w[zfvnK dk iK d' e[VhnK dk th j[zdk j?. fgnko sK wB[Zy tb'I cZ[b, jfonktb, Bdh, gjkV, uzB, ;{oi ns/ skfonK Bkb th j[zdk j?. eJhnK wB[ZyK dk fgnko ikBtoK ns/ gzShnK Bkb th j[zdk j?. fJsB/ ;ko/ pqfjwzv ftu fgnko jh fgnko g;fonk fgnk j?. 6H fgnko pko/ eJh G[b/y/ th jB fiBQK d/ ekoB nB/ eK wB[Zy ftnkj eotkT[Id/ jB ns/ T[; ftnkj dk Bkw fgnkoftnkj (Love Marriage) oZy b?Id/ jB. fJ;/ soQK eJh wB[Zy gkozgoe ftnkj (Arranged Marriage) eotk e/ n;bhns ftu fgnko Bz{ sK BjhI ;wM gKd/ f;ZN/ ti'I nkgD/ ihtB ;kEh Bz{ ekw G'r dh fsqFBk j/m dpd/ e[ubd/ ofjzd/ jB. fi;Bz{ fe F'FD (exploit) eoBk th efjzd/ jB. ekw g{osh Bz{ i/ eo ihtB ;kEh Bk g{ok eo ;e/ sK pj[sks fJ; fe;w d/ ftnkj pko/ rbs XkoBk pDk e/ fJj efjDk F[o{ eo fdzd/ jB fe fJ; i'V/ dk nkg; ftu fgnko BjhI. fgnko Bz{ fbzr GktBk dh fyZu iK g{osh bJh

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

147

fgnko

tosDk pj[s Gkoh G[Zb j?. 7H ;tkb T[mdk j? fe id'I wK pZu/ Bz{ fgnko eo ojh j[zdh j? iK e'Jh S'N/ s'I S'Nk iK tZv/ s'I tZvk fe;/ Bz{ fgnko eo/ sK eh T[;dk wsbp e/tb ekw g{osh iK ;ohoe w/b jh j[zdk j? ? jofr} BjhI. fiBQK b'eK B/ fgnko dk fJsBk xNhnk ns/ BhtK noE eZY fbnk j? T[j fe;h irQk d' wB[ZyK dh nkswe fJefwesk ns/ fynkbK d/ w/b Bz{ ;wM BjhI gkT[Id/ pbfe fJ; BhthI ;'u ekoB T[BQK pko/ ;ohoe i'V w/b dh BhthI XkoBk pDk b?Id/ jB. 8H ekw sK f;qFNh Bz{ ubkT[D bJh e[dos dk fJe T[sgsh (Procreation) dk fB:w$j[ew (system) j? go id'I wB[Zy B/ fJ; Bz{ fdb goukt/ (Recreation) bJh tosDk F[o{ eo fdZsk sK ;koh wB[Zy iks B/ fgnko Bz{ rbs noEK ftu Ykb fdZsk idfe fgnko dk ekw Bkb e'Jh sknb[e jh BjhI. T[sgsh (Procreation) s'I fJbktk ;wki dk ekw g{osh tkbk i'V w/b jh fgnko Bz{ rbs GktBk d/ u"yN/ #u YkbD dk fizw/tko j?. 9H ;wkie XkoBk #u ekwg{osh$ekwtk;Bk dh G[Zy Bz{ fgnko dk Bkw d/ fdZsk frnk go fiZE/ fynkb fwbd/ j'D, wB[Zy nkdoF ihtBh tkbk j't/ T[E/ fJ; ekwh G[Zy dh fsb wkso th EK BjhI j[zdh. 10H e'Jh ;wfbzrh (gay/lesbian) iK y{B d/ foFs/ tkb/ d' wB[ZyK (G?D-Gok, G?D-G?D nkfd) dk fgnko Gkt/I nkswe sb s/ j't/ go ekw g{osh tkbh ;wkie rbs XkoDk Bz{ n;hI nfrnkBsk t; gotkD eoh ik oj/ jK. fgnko sK ;ohoe j[zdk jh BjhI feT[Ife fgnko e/tb fJe i}pk j?, t/r j?, Bdh j? i' e/tb d{finK d/

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

148

fgnko

fjod/ o{gh ;w[zdo tZb tZrdh j?. fgnko dk nkXko jh nkswe sb j[zdk j?. 11H fiBQK dk fgnko nkswe sb s/ j[zdk j? T[BQK d/ fgnko ftZu o[spk, egV/, Xow, ikfJdkd, o{g-ozr dh e'Jh EK BjhI j[zdh. nfij/ wB[ZyK dh nkswe ;KM ekoB T[BQK ftu T[;ko{ fposh f;oiBkswe ;'u ns/ @;ops d/ Gb/# bJh shpo sKx j[zdh j?. n?;/ wB[Zy j}koK whb d{o ofj e/ th fJe d{i/ d/ fgnko/ j[zd/ jB. 12H id'I pZu/ Bz{ p[yko uVQdk j? sK wK Bz{ nkswe p[yko j' iKdk j? fJ;h soQK id'I fe;h fgnko/ Bz{ d[Zy brdk j? sK j}koK whb d{o p?m/ fgnko/ dh nkswk th d[Zyh j' iKdh j?. fJj' fgnko i}pk id'I g{oB i'pB #u T[Skb/, j[bko/ b?D bZr g?Idk j? sK n?;h nkswk Bz{ ;koh d[Bhnk dk d[Zy nkgDk dZ[y bZrD br g?Idk j?, fi;dk ;dek T[j ;G Bz{ nkgDk ;wM e/ ;G d/ d[Zy d{o eoB bJh T[gokb/ eodk j? s/ nkgD/ nzdo p?m/ oZp ih Bz{, f;qFNh d/ eos/ Bz{ noi'Jh eoD br g?Idk j? irs[ ibzdk ofy b? nkgDh feogk Xkfo Ò (gzBk 853) 13H fgnko pko/ fJ; ebw d/ i}pksK dk B}ohnk eh j? T[; Bz{ fJ; b/y okjhI ;KM eoB dk fus eodk j?. iH

fgnko e'Jh uh} BjhI i' p}ko'AI yohdh ik ;edh j't/.

iiH

fgnko e'Jh XB, ;'Bk iK i/to BjhI i' bkZeoK, nbwkohnK iK p?IeK ftu ofynk ik ;edk j't/.

iiiH

fgnko e'Jh gVQkfJnk ikD tkbk ftFk BjhA fi;

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

149

fgnko

fgnko e'Jh p'bD, fbZyD iK ;wMkT[D tkbk feskph ftFk BjhI fi; pko/ ;wMkT[D tkbk dknt/ (Claim) Bkb efj ;e/ fe T[;Bz{ th gq/w eoBk nkT[Idk j?.

vH

fgnko nZyoK iK p'bh dk w[Eki BjhI.

vi H

fgnko fe;/ Xow dh wbehns BjhI fi;Bz{ e[M wB[ZyK se wfjd{d ofynk ik ;e/.

viiH

fgnko fdwkrh ekY, ubkeh, us[okJh iK p/JhwkBh Bkb jk;b eoB dk w[Eki BjhI.

viiiH

fgnko fe;/ T[wo, foFs/, fbzr iK ozr B;b dk w[Eki BjhI.

ix H

fgnko e'Jh pugB, itkBh iK p[Ykg/ tKr{z e/tb fJe T[wo dk gVkn BjhI, fJj ;koh T[wo wkDB tkbh oZp ih dh nBw'b ns/ ns[ZN dks j?.

fgnko

BjhI i' fBg[zBsk ekoB wkfDnk ik ;e/.

pko/ fvrohnK fwbdhnK j'D. iv H

150

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

xivH

fgnko fpBK ftseo/ d/ e/tb fdZsk jh ik ;edk j?. d{ih fXo tkg;h (Return) @u fgnko d/t/ B d/t/ n?;h GktBk dk w[Eki BjhI.

xv H

d{ih fXo iK uh} (Object) ;kjwD/ j't/ iK Bk j't/, fgnko fe;h w"i{drh iK ra?o w"i{drh dk th w[Eki BjhI.

xviH

fgnko e/tb rohpK-nwhoK dh G[Zy BjhI. fgnko e/tb fJ;soh, wod ns/ pfunK dh GZ[y BjhI pbfe y[;o/, ;wfbzrh (gay/lesbian) ny"sh t/Ftk iK ny"sh nS{s ns/ fgSVhnK iksK Gkt ;G wB[ZyK dh G[Zy j?.

xvii H

fgnko tes, fdB-oks ns/ fe;h w";w dk w[Eki BjhI.

xviiiH fgnko dh ghIx fpBK w[FZes (efforts) s'I M{bdh

ofjzdh j?. xH xi H

xii H

xiii H

fgnko bJh y{B dk foFsk j'Dk bk}wh BjhI. fgnko Bkb gekJh iK y[nkJh GkJh bkb' dh ;kdh ;Z[eh o'Nh th nzfwqs o{g j' iKdh j? ns/ fpBk fgnko Bkb gekJh iK y[nkJh tXhnk o'Nh th }fjo o{g j' iKdh j?.

xixH

fgnko fJe wB[Zysk Gog{o e'wb fjod/ s'I pkjo trdh j'Jh Bdh j? i' j'oK tZb jVQ tKrz{ v[ZbQv[ZbQ trdh iKdh j?.

xx H

fgnko fJe y[Fp{ j? i' fe S[gkfJnK S[gdh BjhI. fpBK ftykfJnK th B}o nk iKdh j? ns/ fpBK p'fbnK th ;[DkJh g?Idh j?.

xxiH

fgnko jwdodh Gfonk w'j ns/ brkt (concern

fgnko e'Jh wzr e/ b?D tkbh, y'j e/ jzYkD tkbh iK ipod;sh b?D tkbh F? BjhI. fgnko e'Jh gfjbtkBh, e[Fsh iK e'Jh dkt g/u

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

151

fgnko

& caring) j?. fgnko Go/ fjod/ dh Xosh s/ c[Zb

jh c[Zb fyVQd/ jB i' j'oBK wB[ZyK Bz{ ;[zdo fdqF ns/ y[Fp{ d/D d/ ekfpb j[zd/ jB feT[Ife T[j fgnkoh Xosh nkgD/ bJh T[gikT{ ns/ d{finK d/ Gb/ bJh j[zdh j?. xxiiH

fgnko fdbK s'I fdb ns/ nkswK s'I nkswk dh ;KM j?.

14H fgnko bJh e'wb fjs{ ;[Gkn nfs b'VhIdk j? fi; Bkb gZEo fdb w'w j' iKdk j? efjD dk Gkt fJj j? fe gZEo fdb th fgxbB s/ w}p{o j' iKd/ jB. fiZE/ em'osk t?o, eq'X ns/ wkV/ p'bK Bkb fBe/-fBe/ ezw th gops fiv/ w[Ffeb ikgd/ jB T[&ZE/ fgnko Bkb gjkV fiv/ tv/ ezw th u[Neh ftu j' iKd/ jB. fgnko dh eZ[y, wzd/ fynkb, wkV/ c[oB/ ns/ fe;/ dk ftrkV eoB i?;h wkVh ;'u j[zdh jh BjhI fJ; bJh T[; dk d[FwB s/ th tko eoBk Bkw[wfeB j[zdk j?. 15H fgnko d/ i}p/ s'I fpBK wB[Zy ;jh noEK ftu Xowh BjhI j' ;edk fiB gq/w ehU fsB jh gqG gkfJU Ò (qÍ pRswid sv`Xy) (sRwvg su`D)

d/ i}p/ tkb/ fjod/ ftu fe;/ wB[Zy dk fdb s'VB tkbh e[ofyns tkdh BjhI j[zdh. fi; fjod/ ftZu fe;/ wB[Zy dk fdb s'V ;eD dk i/ fsb wkso th c[oBk c[o ;edk j? sK T[j wB[Zy oZp dh fJpkds, g{ik dk jedko BjhI j' ;edk. ;G[ e' whs[ jw nkgB ehBk jw ;GBk e/ ;kiB Ò

(gzBk BzH 671)

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

152

fgnko

nB[;ko fgnko Go/ wB[Zy bJh e'Jh p?oh fprkBk BjhI ofjzdk feT[Ife ;G nkgD/ j' iKd/ jB. n?;/ wB[Zy Bz{ Jhoyk, t?o, s/o w/o ns/ fBzdk i?;/ ezfvnkb/ o;s/ T[s/ N[oBk BjhI nkT[Idk go i/ d{i/ gk;/ t/yhJ/ sK Jhoyk, t?o ns/ fBzdk torhnK jhD (;'u) GktBktK tkb/ wB[ZyK Bz{ fgnko Go/ wywbh o;s/ s/ s[oBk th n"yk ikgdk j?. 16H fgnko Go/ fjod/ ftu GkDk wzBD dh skes j[zdh j?. n?;/ wB[Zy Bz{ p[ZXh, neb, us[okJh fdwkr tosDk BjhI nkT[Idk. n?;/ @nykD# s'I nr/ wzBDk gt/rk fe fgnko Go/ fjod/ e'b @fpp/ e p[ZXh# j[zdh j? fi; Bkb T[j fe;/ d/ ntr[DK Bz{ wkc eo ;edk j? ns/ gq/wh dh jo/e tXheh ;jko b?Idk j?. 17H fgnko dh T[funkJh dhnK gT[VhnK uVQd/ uVQd/ wB[Zy n?;h Fy;hns dk wkbe pD iKdk j? fe T[; Bz{ nkgDk dZ[y th d[Zy BjhI bZrdk feT[Ife T[j jo gb d{finK d/ d[ZyK Bz{ d{o eoB bJh w;o{c ofjzdk j?. T[; nzdo irs ibzd/ Bz{ mzv gkT[D dh fposh ns/ shpo sKx pD iKdh j?. T[j fe;/ ft;wkdh j[bko/ u, oZp dh g{ik, fJpkds iK fBih w[esh bJh fe;/ e'B/ #u r'F/ #u nZyK B{N e/ BjhI p?m ;edk. 18H fgnko Gog{o fjodk nkgD/ ;Z[yK nkokwK ns/ gotkoe y[dro}h se ;hfws BjhI ofjzdk feT[Ife T[j wBZ[ysk d/ fgnko B{z ;G s'I T[&Zuk ;wMdk j?. fgnko Go/ fjod/ dh ;G s'I tZvh gSkD fJj j[zdh j? fe T[j jo/e ozr, B;b iK iks ns/ T[wo tkb/ Bkb fwb tos e/ ofj ;edk j?. T[; ftu pugB tkbh bue, itkBh tkbk row y{B j[zdk j? fi;dk ;dek p[Ykgk nkT[D #s/ th T[;dhnK M[oVhnK ;[zdosk, fBowbsk ns/ e'wbsk dk fdqF ftykT[IdhnK jB.

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

153

fgnko

19H fgnko #u fJe e'wbsk j?, eo[Dk j?, fjs{ ;[Gk j?, fBFekwsk j?. gsh iK gsBh, wksk iK fgsk, Bz{j ik ;Z;, wkfbe iK B"eo, okik iK gqik, S'Nk iK tZvk, nwho iK rohp, r[o{ iK u/bk, frnkBh iK nfrnkBh - id'I nkgD/ pb Bz{ tos e/ fe;h dk p[ok eod/ jB iK dpkT[Id/ (dominate) jB sK fgnko d/ i}p/ s'I ;ZyD/ ofj iKd/ jB. 20H id'I n;hI nkgD/ pb dh e/tb :'r Gkt f;oiBkswe gZy'I tos'I eod/ jK, @;ops d/ Gb/# dh GktBk tkbh fposh ns/ g{oD s"o s/ fBowkDsk Gog{o ihtBh fiT{Id/ jK ns/ nkgDk sB wB XB d{finK d/ Gb/ bJh e[opkB eoB bJh fsnko j' iKd/ jK sK n;hI fgnko Goh ;w[zdoh fje (fjod/) d/ bkfJe j' iKd/ jK. n?;/ fgnko Go/ fjod/ Bz{ J/j[ ft;[ ;z;ko[ s[w d/yd/ J/j[ jfo ek o{g[ j? Ò jfo o{g[ Bdoh nkfJnk Ò

(gzBk 922)

B}o nkT[Dk, wfj;{; j'Dk F[o{ j' iKdk j?. fJj ;koh eokwks fgnko i}p/ dh jh j?. fJ; b/y okjhI T[whd eodk jK fe n;hI ;G w}Qph MrfVnK, s/o-w/o, fbzr fyZu, y[dro}h, nwhoh rohph d/ G/d Gkt s'I T[go T[m e/ ;KMhtkbsk tkb/ fgnko Bz{ fiT{ ;ed/ jK. 21H fJZE/ jh pZ; eoBk Bkw[wfeB j? feT[Ife fgnko Bz{ ft;Eko d/ e/ bca}K ftZu fpnkB eoBk @@r{zr? eh wfmnkJh## bZr fojk j?.



fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

154

fgnko