Love Marriage

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fgnko ftnkj

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fgnko-ftnkj 1H nZi d/ :[r ftZu fgnko-ftnkj (love marriage) d/ BK j/mK pj[s G[üyk g? u[Zek j?. nkw wB[Zy ;wMdk j? fe fi; Bkb fgnko j' frnk j? T[; Bkb ;wkie s"o s/ ftnkj eokT[Dk, fgnko-ftnkj j? go fJ; G[b/y/ j/m ehs/ ny"sh fgnko ne;o S/sh jh ;ohoe tk;Bk dh g{osh wro'I sbke dh Feb b? b+d/ jB. fJj sK T[jh wB[Zy ikDd/ jB fiBQK dk ihtB fJ; ny"sh fgnko-ftnkj eokT[D wro'I popkd j' u[Zek j?. 2H go nZi d/ B"itkB pZu/, pZuhnK ns/ nkT[D tkbh gBhoh ~ fJ; d[yKs dh d{o nzd/Fh B j'D ekoB fJj G[b/yk ofjzdk j? fe FkfJd ;kvk fgnko jh ;Zuk fgnko j? s/ T[j ;wMd/ jB fe n;hI jh ;Z;h g[~, jho oKMk, b?bk wi~, ;'jDh wjhtkb tKr ;Zuh nkFeh s/ g{o/ T[soKë. fJ; G[b/y/ j/m T[j nkgDk ihtB popkd eoe/ u?B BjhI pbfe p/u?Bh jh w[Zb b+d/ jB. 3H nkw s"o s/ n;hI t/yhJ/ sK gsk bZrdk j? fe id'I w[zv/ - e[VhnK 13-14 ;kb d/ j[zd/ jB sK T[BQK nzdo e[dos tZb'I ;ohoe s"o s/ itkBh d/ jkow'B} (harmones) c[ZNd/ jB. jkow'B} pdbkt d/ ekoB T[BQK dh ;'uDh Bk}[e ns/ eZuh j[zdh j? fi; d/ ekoB T[j wkB;e ;zs[bB BjhI oZy gkT[_d/. gb gb dh pdbkjN ekoB T[j nkgD/ nkg ~ th ;wM BjhI gkT[&Id/. fJZe gk;/ ;ohoe

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

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fgnko ftnkj

pDso ftZu pdbkjN, d{i/ gk;/ gdkoEtkd dh uwuwkjN, shi/ gk;/ wksk-fgsk Bkb gq/w dh xkN, u"E/ gk;/ ;e{bK ekbiK dh gVQkJh dk ;]s w[ekpbk, gzit/ gk;/ ;wki ns/ doi/ (status) dh GZid"V ns/ nfij/ eJh j'o nB/eK ekoBk eoe/ ni'e/ w[zv/-e[VhnK nkgDh f}zdrh dh ehwsh itkBh d/ ;wÉ fEVe iKd/ jB. 4H eJh gotkoK ftZu wksk fgsk dk nkg;h fgnko Bk j'Dk ns/ T[BQK tZb'I ;wkie iks pokdoh ftZu BZe oZyD, ohshfotk} ns/ w}Qph eowekvK ~ g{ok eofdnK t/y e/ nZi dk B"itkB xo'I T[gokw j' iKdk j?. f;ZN/ ti'I NhHthH, fcbwK, vK;, rkD/, c?FB goZ;sh, Fokp ns/ voZr} i?;hnK uh}K dk ;jkok b?D bZr g+dk j? feT[&Ife T[;~ fJj G[b/yak g? iKdk j? fe w?~ e'Jh fgnko BjhI eodk, w/oh e'Jh d/y-Gkb BjhI eodk ns/ w/ok rbs wZ}Qp ns/ rbs wksk-fgsk d/ xo iBw j' frnk j?. fJ; ekoB xo tkfbnK s'I N[ZfNnk, wK fgT[, G?D Gok s'I rZb-rZb s/ fSZEk ns/ eq'fXs j[zdk j'fJnk pkjo'I fgnko dh Gkb eoB bZr g+dk j?. nfijh fe;w d/ B"itkB wkB;e gq/FkBh eoe/ nkgD/ ihtB d/ we;d ~ BjhI ;wM gkT[_d/ ns/ wB'oEjhB ihtB fiT{_d/ jB. 5H nZi dh p'bh ftZu fJ;~ ftekoK ftZu yfus ihtB th efj ;ed/ jK feT[&Ife wB'oEjhB ihtB ftZu T[dk;hBsk ns/ fJeZbkgB (depression and loneliness) wfj;{; j[zdk j?. f;ZN/ ti'I wkfJeh gdkoE, bkD-ykD dh G[Zy, ][dro}h, ngBk jh ;[Zy nkokw ns/ ekwo{gh fbzr o[uh tZXdh iKdh j? ns/ xo d/ fe;/ th foFs/dko Bkb skb w/b BjhI p?mdk. 6H T[go'es nt;Ek ftZu cZ; rJ/ bZSDK (symptoms) tkb/ B"itkB w[zv/ e[VhnK ~ id'I e'Jh th ;ohoe o{g ftZu ;[zdo brdk j? sK T[BQK dh T[; tZb fyZu g+dk j' iKdh j?. (fJZE/ ;[zdosk

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fgnko ftnkj

ekwh G[Zy tkbh fyZu ti'I ftukoh ik ojh j?.) ;ohoe ;[zdosk ~ n;hI gdkoEtkd tkbh ;[zdosk th efj ;ed/ jK. fJ; ftZu w[zv/ e[Vh d/ B?D-BeF, eZd-ekm, ;ohoe pDso ns/ eko, g?;k, ikfJdkd fijhnK uh}K t/yhnK iKdhnK jB id fe fJBQK uh}K dk nkyoh f;ok e/tb ekw g{osh iK tk;Bk dh G[Zy s/ ik e/ w[Zedk j?. fJBQK uh}K dk nkswe T[&Zusk Bkb fpbe[b th e'Jh w/bi'b BjhI j[zdk. 7H fJj b/y e/tb B"}tkBK ns/ nkT[D tkbh gBhoh tk;s/ jh BjhI pbfe jo/e T[wo tkb/ fJB;kB bJh bkj/tzd j' ;edk j?. fJj rZb tZyoh j? fe fiBQK dk ni// ftnkj BjhI j'fJnk T[BQK ~ fJ; b/y ftZu'I e[M B[es/ nkgDk ihtB ;kEh bZGD bJh bkj/tzd j' ;ed/ jB. 8H n;hI fJ; r[zMbdko ftF/ ~ fJB;kBhns d/ Gb/ bJh fBogZy j' e/ ns/ wiQph i~B dh ;'u s'I T[go j' e/ ;wMKr/. fJ; ;koh ftuko ~ n;hI j/m fby/ fdqFNhe'D s'I ftukoKr/ Li.

ny"sh fgnko-ftnkj (so called love marriage)

ii.

gZSwh w[beK ftZu fgnko-ftnkj

iiiH

g{oph w[beK ftZu fgnko-ftnkj

iv.

nzso Xowh ftnkj (intermarriage)

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fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

fgnko ftnkj

vH

gozgoe ftnkj (gotkoe ;fjwsh Bkb ftnkj (so called arranged marriage)

viH

;Zuk ns/ ;[Zuk fgnko -

T[bMB (dilemma)

-

G[b/yk (misconception of love)

-

;Zu/ Xow dh fBrkj #u ;Zuk fgnko

-

nkgD/ ;wki ~ BthI T[;koh d/D gZy'I nfGnk;

viH

;ko/ b/y dh gVu'b

9H

ny"sh

fgnko-ftnkj

(SO

CALLED LOVE

MARRIAGE)

fi; w[zv/ e[Vh ~ xo'I fgnko BjhI fwfbnk, xo d/ fe;/ th wB[Zy, gotkoe w;b/ iK xo dh fe;/ uh} Bkb brkt BjhI j'fJnk fJ; ekoB pkjo fes/ nZy bV rJh, fi;dk Bkw T[;B/ G[b/y/ iK nfrnkBsk ekoB fgnko oZy fbnk ns/ T[;d/ Bkb ftnkj eoB ~ bt w?foi ;wM fbnk. xo'I wB T[gokw ;h, pkjo fe;/ B/ E'VQh fijh th d/y-o/y ehsh, wB dk d[Zy ;[fDnk iK e'Jh d[fBnkth gdkoE s'j\/ d/ s"o s/ d/ fdZsk, pZ; fJBQK rZbK ~ jh fgnko ;wM fbnk. fJj rZb pko-pko d[jokT[Dh gt/rh fe fJBQK rZbK dk nkswe fgnko dh T[&Zusk Bkb e'Jh ;pzX jh BjhI j[zdk.

(Note : Intermarriage means marriage between people of different races, castes, families, religion etc.

fJzNow?foi dk wsbp tZytZy ikshnK, b'eK, ns/ gotkoK ftZu ftnkj :kBh fe fe;/ th nBXowh iK nBwshJ/ Bkb ftnkj.)

10H f}nkdk so fJj G[b/yk 14 ;kb dh T[wo s'I b? e/ 20 ;kb dh T[wo (fi;~ n;hI eZuh T[wo ;wMd/ jK) tkb/ B"itkBK ~ g+dk j?. T[j fJZe d{i/ Bkb xzfNnK-pZXh c'B, fuZmh

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

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fgnko ftnkj

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

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fgnko ftnkj

gZso ns/ fJzNoB?N okjhI iK Bt/ebhnK EktK s/ b[Ze-fSZg e/ rZbK eod/ ofjzd/ jB. eJh sK fJBQK rZbK d"okB j'NbK ftZu ykDk, fcbwK, fv;e', e?po/ ns/ FokpK dhnK gkoNhnK s/ eJh ;ohoe G[Zy dh fsqgsh sZe gZ[i iKd/ jB. go nc;'; ! T[BQK dk ykDkghDk, bkDk-gkDk, fcbwK, rkD/ nkfd d/ f]nkb sK fwb iKd/ jB go nkswe fwZsosk dh xkN d/ pkti{d T[j fJBQK E'EhnK rZbK d/ w/b-fwbkg ~ fgnko ;wM b+d/ jB.

ns/ Bzr/} Go/ c?FB ~, skFK y/vD ~ wkvoB-g[Dk ;wM e/, ;wki ftZu ;fseko Bkb gotkB eo fbnk. go wB[Zy u[Zgh tkbh fJ; ][dro}h ekoB fJj G[Zb jh frnk fe fJ; d{fFs ;wki #u'I w+ pkjo s/ BjhI ofj ;edk. f;ZN/ ti'I jo/e ][dro} ~ nkgD/ pZfunK ;w/s B[e;kB T[mkT[Dk fgnk ns/ T[mk th oj/ jK ns/ T[mkT[Id/ ojKr/ feT[&Ife gVQ/ fby/ whvhnk d/ :[r ftZu ][dro}h Goh u[Zgh ;kXh j'Jh j? s/ B[e;kB d/y e/ th e[M T[gokb/ BjhI eo oj/ jK.

11H ;kv/ ;wki ftZu i' ftnkj dh ohs ubkJh rJh ;h T[; nB[;ko xo jh wzdo pD ;edk ;h. go n;hI T[; dh gfoGkFk fJj ;wMd/ oj/ fe fJZe SZs j/mK fJZe fp;so #s/ ;"Dk, fJZe gb/N ftZu ykDk ns/ ;ohoe G'r G'r e/ pZu/ izwDk, fJ;/ jh ;ze'ut/I dkfJo/ ~ gkbd/ ofjDk ftnkj ;wM fbnk frnk. fJ; dk ;G s'I tZvk B[e;kB fJj j'fJnk fe wB[Zy ][dro} j' frnk. fJ;/ ][dro}h fgZS/ e/tb nkgD/ ;[Zy-nkokw bJh, wB[Zy B/ ;[ZyK d/ tZX s'I tZX t;hb/ jfEnkT[D bJh jo ikfJ} B}kfJ} Yzr tos e/ wkfJnk ewkT[Dh F[o{ eo fdZsh. d{i/ gk;/ ;wki dhnK tZXdhnK e[ohshnK ns/ }[bw d/ f]bk\ fJ; eoe/ nktk} BjhI T[mkJh rJh fe fes/ b'ehI ;kv/ Bkb Bkok} j' e/ ;kvk ;kE Bk SZv ikD, ;kvh skes B xZN ikt/. pZ; nkgDh jh skes tXk e/, tZX s'I tZX XB gdkoE, fpokdoh, nkgDk ns/ gotko dk o[spk s/ pDk fbnk go nkswe s"o s/ fJsB/ ew}'o j' rJ/ fe ;wki dh dkigqEk torh fpwkoh ns/ w[zv/ d/ w[ekpb/ e[Vh Bkb ftseok, T[&Zuh iks d/ nfGwkB pko/ u[Zgh ;kX bJh. fco efjDk gt/rk fe u[Zgh (wZeo) sK ;kX bJh fJj ;'ue/ fe ew}'o B j' ikJhJ/ go nc;'; u[Zgh ;kXDk nkgD/ nkg ftZu ;G s'I tZvh ew}'oh BjhI sK j'o eh j? ? fJj u[Zgh ekfJosk dk jh sK ;p{s j?. j'o sK j'o Fokp ~

12H j[D nfij/ d{fFs ;wki ftZu nkw s"o s/ wkg/ FokpK, vK;, rkD/, gkoNhnK, Bzr/ c?FB ns/ jo/e F?skBhns ftZu rbskB (yuZs) jB. nfij/ wkg/ nkgD/ pZu/ th fJ;/ d{fFs ;wkie ;w[zdo #u Xe/b oj/ jB. j[D g[ZShJ/ nkgD/ nkg ~, nkgDh ][dro} ew}'o ekfJo nkswk ~ fe n;K nkgD/ ;[Zy nkokw fJeZm/ eoe/ eh ehsk ? eh ckfJdk fbnk ? n;bhns @u ekwh, e'qXh, bVke/ wB[ZyK tkb/ wkj"b s'I fJbktk ;kv/ jZE e[M th Bk nk ;fenk. j[D n?;/ wkj"b #u ;kv/ pZu/-pZuh dk ftnkj eohJ/ th sK feZE/ ? i/ n;hI ny"sh ftnkj eod/ jK sK th w[zv/-e[Vh d/ f]nkb BjhI fwb gkT[&Id/. dki iK fe;/ Bk fe;/ ekoB ftnkj Boe o{gh i/bQ pD iKdk j?. i/ n;hI gZSwh ;fGnsk tkbh bt w?foi d/ gZy'I jkwh God/ jK sK w[zv/ e[Vh e/tb gdkoEe iK ekwh fsqgsh iK b/y d/ F[o{ #u ehs/ rJ/ f}eo nB[;ko bt w?foi eotk b+d/ jB go ekwh G[Zy w;K 6 wjhB/ th BjhI bzxkT[_dh s/ xo xo #u w"s d/ ;[B/j/ tKr{z sbke d/ BrkV/ tZiD/ F[o{ j' iKd/ jB. 13H ;kok e;{o ;kvh ][dro}h Goh u[Zgh s/ nk e/ w[Zedk j? go T[;d/ fgZS/ th ;kvh gdkoEe ns/ ekwh G[Zy jh S[gh gJh j? feT[&Ife n;hI ;ko/ ;[ZyK d/ t;hb/ i[Nk e/ ekw tk;Bk dh G[Zy d/ szd{o ftZu pkbD gkT[&Id/ gJ/ jK.

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

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fgnko ftnkj

14H g{op j't/ Gkt/I gZSw, Gkt/I T[wo dk e'Jh gVQkn j't/, n;hI ;ko/ fiT{&Id/ ih Boe s/ G'r jh oj/ jK go nc;'; fJ; rZb s/ nkT[&Idk j? fe d{onzd/Fh ~ Bk tosB ekoB, nkT[D tkbh gBhoh tk;s/ j'o v{zxk Boe, nFKs, d[yh ns/ T[bMB Gfonk GftZy pDk oj/ jK. so; nk fojk j? T[BQK s/ fiBQK dhnK T[woK 14-15 ;kb dhnK jB ns/ fijV/ ni/ wK d/ g/N ftZu gBg oj/ jB feT[&Ife T[BQK tk;s/ fJ; d{fFs ;wki B/ uVQ/ ;{oi dh Xosh T[&Zs/ E'e (wholesale) ftZu nB/eK wZ}QpK dh sfj j/mK étb jB/ok ftSk fdZsk j?. fJZe gk;/ fcbwh XVk, d{i/ gk;/ okiBhse XVk, shi/ gk;/ w}Qph ftZseo/ dh Jho]k, u"E/ gk;/ iks-nfGwkB dk ftZseok, gzit/ gk;/ nwhoh-rohph, T[&Zu-Bhu ozr B;b dk e'jV, fJ; s'I T[go nj[dk (status) ns/ gVQkJh d/ ;]s ezghNhFB dk p'M ns/ Xow n;EkBk s'I oZp d/ Bkw j/mK eoweKvK okjhI mZrh. fJj ;ko/ gjkV o{gh gZEoK d/ Gko ~ u[Ze e/ nZi dk B"itkB iK nkT[D tkbh gBhoh ny"sh bt w?foi ~ ;[Zy dk nkfFnkBk ns/ g/VQ dh mzvh SK ;wM e/ ngBk ojh j?. nc;'; ! fJ; ;[Zy dk nkfFnkBk, fJj g/VQ dh SK dk nzs efujohnK ftZu sbke, esb iK ][de[Fh ns/ gkrb]kfBnK s/ ik e/ w[Zedk j?. 15H

gZSwh w[beK ftZu fgnko-ftnkj

j[D }ok gZSwh ;fGnsk gZy'I fJ; fgnko ~ t/yhJ/. wkfJnk dh GZi d"V, ;oekoh N?e; d/ YKu/ ns/ jo wjhB/ eJh fe;wK d/ fpb skoB d/ dpkn j/m, wksk-fgsk d'B'I jh ezw s/ iKd/ jB. gZSwh ;fGnsk nB[;ko nkgDk ezw, ykD ghD, nkg' nkgDh eko, eZgV/, p?vo{w, NhH thH, thH ;hH nkoH, ;?bc'B, ;NhohU ns/ ezfgT{No fJj i' e[M th nkg' Xkgh j?, fJ; ekoB wB[Zy y[dro}h d/ szr y'b ftZu nkswe s"o s/ e?d j' iKdk j?. fJ; ;koh y/v ftZu

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fgnko ftnkj

wB[Zy ~ ;Zu/ frnkB Bz{ gVQB, ;wMD ns/ T[; nB[;ko fiT{D dk ;wK s/ fwbdk BjhI go fJj d[yKs }o{o tkgo iKdk j? fe ;zs'y ns/ dfJnk fJ; d/ ihtB s'I gzy brk e/ T[v iKd/ jB. nfijk wB[Zy pj[s jzekoh j' iKdk j?. 16H j[D nfij/ ekwh wB[Zy B/ nkgDk tZyok p?vo{w pDk fbnk, fdB Go ekwo[uh Bz{ GVekT[D dhnK rZbK, s;thoK ns/ fcbwK d/ Bzr/} Go/ c?FB okjhI o'} oks ~ nkgD/ fJ; tZyo/ p?v o{w ftZu j'o pbdh ftZu s/b gkT[D bZr fgnk j?. nfij/ ekw ftZu yfus eq'Xh, b'Gh ns/ n;zs'yh wksk-fgsk d/ pZu/ fe;/ gk;/ i'r/ Bk oj/ s/ f;ZN/ ti'I T[j th fJBQK nfrnkBsk GohnK nBQhnK rZbhnK ftZu r[nku rJ/ s/ T[BQK B/ th wK-fgT[ tKr tZyo/ p?vo{w, tZyok NhHthH s/ tZyok ;G e[M pDk fbnk. j'fJnk eh ? ;kok gotko fJZe d{i/ s'I N[ZN frnk. wK dh eko, fgT[ BjhI tos ;edk, Xh dk ewok ns/ j'o e[M th wK fgT[ iK Gok iK xo dk e'Jh th w+po BjhI tos ;edk. ][dro}h B/ x/o fbnk ns/ fgnko dh eVh (link) fpbe[b jh N[ZN rJh. 17H j[D nfij/ wK fgT[, nkgD/ pZfunK dk foFsk wkfJe gdkoEK dh pj[bsk tkb/ xo ftZu eod/ jB ns/ T[BQK d/ pZu/ nkgDk ihtB ;kEh (so called boy/girl-friend) th n?;/ jh wkg s'b Bkb bZGd/ jB. 18H pZfunK ftZu j'F ;zGkbd/ jh iK ;e{bK #u F[o{ s'I jh fJ; ftuko ~ nfjwhns fdZsh iKdh j? fe w[zv/ iK e[Vh dk d';s (boy/girl-friend) j'Dk }o{oh j? fi;dk ny"sh d';s Bk j't/ T[;~ fgSfVnk iK Bk;wM (backward or dummy) ;wfMnk iKdk j?. w[zv/ iK e[Vh dk d';s j'Dk }o{oh j? fJ; ekoB

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

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fgnko ftnkj

fJj ;wki dh ny"sh b'V jh pD rJh go n?;/ ][dro} wK fgT[ s'I T[sgzB ][dro}, ekwh, eq'Xh ns/ b'Gh pZfunK dh nkgD/ d';sK, fwZsoK s'I wzr th gdkoEe iK o{g dh G[Zy sZe jh ofjzdh j?. j[D n?;h d';sh fgZS/ e/tb ekwh G[Zy ns/ jT{w? (ego) Go/ n;zs'yh wB d/ sb s/ d';sh feBQh d/o fBG ;edh j? ? fJj sK o/s dhnK BhjK T[&Zs/ wfjb T[;koh, uko fdB dh uKdBh fco nzX/oh oks j' e/ ofj iKdh j?. 19H n?;/ y'yb/ ;zpzXK, E'Eh fwZsosk ftZu ;zs'y iK skbw/b (patience or adjustment) dh e'Jh r[zikfJF BjhI j[zdh_. f;ZN/ ti'_, ny"sh bt w?foi sbke fijk fGnzeo o{g Xko b+dh j?. sbke b\} p'bDk, efjDk iK ;'uDk nk;kB j[zdk j? go sbke wro'I T[dk;hBsk (depression) o{gh Skg jw/Fk bJh }fjB s/ Sg iKdh j? ns/ T[; dhnK go/FkBhnK wB[Zy ~ ;koh T[wo bJh pj[s ew}'o eo iKdhnK jB. wB[Zy x[N-x[N e/ fiT{&Id/ ihn wodk ofjzdk j?. ;wki #u T[&Zuh X"D eoe/ fiT{[ Bjh gKdk. n?;/ wB[Zy s'I ;wki iK nkT[D tkbh gBhoh bJh th T[;ko{ ezwK dh T[whd BjhI oZyh ik ;edh. 20H gZSwh ;fGnsk ftZu sbke fJZe nkw rZb j' u[Zeh j?. T[&ZE/ wB'-ftfrnkBh (psychiatrist) gkrbykB/, BF/ ns/ voZri dh pj[s y[bQ/ s"o s/ j'_d d/ pj[s ;ko/ ekoBK ftZu'I sbke fJe w[Zy ekoB j?. n?;/ gZSwh ;fGnsk tkb/ i/eo ;kv/ ÅF s'I (g{oph ;fGnsk) nkgDk ihtB ;kEh fbiKd/ jB sK eh tkgodk j? ? fJE'I dh ;fGnsk d/ B\/ B[e;kB iK r[D n"r[D n;hI pknd ftZu ftukoKr/ go fcbjkb gZSwh ;fGnsk dh rZb eo oj/ jK gfjbh rZb sK fJj j? fe gZSw d/ pZu/ T[E'I d/ ekwh s/ Bzr/} Go/ y[Zb/-v[Zb/ fynkbK tkb/ wkj"b ftZu gb/ j'D ekoB T[E'I dk jh ;kEh wzrd/ jB. efjzd/

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;[Dhdk j? fe Gkos d/ w[zv/ e[Vh gZSw #u gj[zu e/ skb-w/b (adjust) BjhI eo gkT[Dr/ feT[Ife fgSV/ j[zd/ jB. Uj j' ! T[BQK ftukfonK ~ eh gsk Gkos ftZu th NhH thH ns/ fcbwK okjhI fdykJ/ ik oj/ Bzr/}, c?FB ns/ Bzr/ Bku okjhI, ekwh ns/ n;zs'yh ftrfVnk pZuk jh fsnko ehsk ik fojk j?. y?o gZSwh pZfunK ~ fJj G[b jh iKdk j? fe T[BQK tor/ wkj"b #u gfbnk pZuk T[BQK tKr jh ekwh, e'qXh, jzekoh ns/ ;fji s/ ;zs'y s'I ;ZyDk j[zdk j?. ;' f;ZN/ ti'I T[j th ny"sh bt w?foi (love marriage) okjhI sbke dh yZv ftZu ik fvrd/ jB. 21H

g{oph w[beK ftZu fgnko-ftnkj

nkT[ j[D gZSw s'I g{op dh bt w?foi (love marriage) tZb ns/ fJE'I d/ pZfunK dk gkbD-g'FD ns/ wK-fgT[ dh ;wkie ;'u ~ t/yhJ/. gZSw dh soQK fJE/ th wK fgT[ ek\h jZd sZe sK ezwK #u jh o[ZM/ j'J/ jB. e[M ;wK gfjbK sZe g{op dh ;fGnsk (culture) dh fJj fJZe nfjw eVQh ;h fe wK ~ rqfjDh (housewife) j'Dk ukjhdk j?. wK xo ~ ;zGkbdh, pZfunK dh o'Nh gekT[_dh s/ ;Z; ;[jo/ dh ;/tk eodh ;h. nZi gZSwh wB'ftfrnkBh dh gVu'b th fJj efj ojh j? fe wK i/eo rqfjDh j't/ sK jh uzrk j?. feT[&Ife gZSw ftZu n"os d/ rqfjDh B j'D d/ pj[s rbs ns/ fGnzeo f;ZN/ fBeb/ jB. b/feB g{op nkgDh ;fGnsk dh T[_rbh gZSw jZE cVQk e/ nkgD/ nkg ~ T[ikV tZb gk fojk j?. ]?o ! g{op dh wK dh dFk ~ ftukohJ/. i/eo T[; dh gVQkJh fJ; f]nkb Bkb T[&Zuh s'I T[&Zuh eokJh ikt/ fe B"eoh eoe/ T[j ][dw[]fsnko j' ;e/ sK mhe j?. nkw s"o s/ B"eoh ekoB T[j gsh Bkb skb-w/b (adjust) BjhI eo gkT[_dh s/ Bkb jh pZfunK ~ th B}onzdk} eoBk g+dk j?. xo d/ p}[orK dh

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;/tk ;zGkb ~ fsbKibh fdZsh iKdh j?. go T[j nkgDh ewkJh Bkb fJsB/ g?;/ BjhI i[Nk gkT[_dh fe ;koh T[wo dh ewkJh dk e[b i'V eoe/ th nDrfjbh ekoB ftrV/ pZu/ mhe j' ;ed/ j'D. fw;kb ti'I w[zvk e[Vh BF/ iK wkVh ;zrs ftZu g? ikD sK eo'VK o[gJ/ brk e/ th T[BQK ~ nkdoF (ideal) pDkT[Dk Bk w[wfeB j' iKdk j?. wK dh B"eoh iK ezw okjhI ehsh ewkJh fe;/ ezw BjhI nk gkT[_dh. e/tb T[;d/ BtÉ egV/, ;+vb, go; dh G[Zy dh g{osh }o{o j' iKdh j? ns/ T[j nkgDh j+eV #u fe w+ th ewkT[_dh jK fe;/ Bkb skb-w/b (adjust) eo jh BjhI gkT[Idh. id'I ed/ gsh dk ezw ftrV ikt/ iK phwkoh nk x/o/ sK jkbksK tZ; j' e/ gsBh dk B"eoh iK ezw eoe/ xo ubkT[Dk ikfJ} j?. go fJ; ;'u dh nkw jkbksK (cases) Bkb s[bBk (generalise) BjhI eo ;ed/ jK. f;ZNk fJj fBefbnk fe n"os d/ rqfjDh o{gh r[DK dk xo ns/ ;wki ~ f}nkdk ckfJdk j?. 22H i/eo e[Vh ~ fJj ;'u e/ uzrh gVQkJh eotkJh ikt/ fe T[j f;nkDh wK, gsBh, Xh iK ~j ;kfps j't/, Yzr Bkb xo ~ ubkt/, b'V g?D s/ pZfunK ~ gVQk ;e/, gsh d/ d\so d/ ezw tk;s/ wdd eo ;e/ ns/ fe;/ ekoB gsh dh w"s wro'I fJeZb/ j'D dh bkukoh #u nkgD/ g/e/ ;j[o/ iK fe;/ dh w[Ek}h ftZu r[bkwh Bk ;jkû, n?;h ;'u ~ w[Zy oZy e/ e[VhnK ~ gVQkT[Dk w[pkoe j?. bVehnK ~ Bk gVQkT[Dk pj[s jh rbs ns/ fgSKj fyZu{ ;'u j? ns/ nwkBth (inhuman) th j?. wkBtsk gZy'I fJj n"osK Bkb XZek th j?. 23H g{op dh fJ;soh dh gVQkJh d/ gZy dh ftuko s'I fJbktk don;b ;wMD tkbh rZb j? fe g{op #u th wkfgnK dh rbsh ekoB pZu/ ny"sh bt w?foi (love marriage) tZb Xe/

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b/ ik oj/ jB. Gkos @u th wkg/ eoweKv, iks pokdoh, ohsh fotk}, iks nfGwkB j/m w[ekpb/ dh d"V (competition) ftZu fJsB/ r[nku u[Ze/ jB fe pZfunK dh ikB Bkb w[;hps jh pD rJh j?. w}Qph eNZVtkd ns/ c'e/ eowekvK d/ s[\kB #u pZu/ nkgD/ xo s'I T[gokw j' e/ nzsoXowh ns/ ny"sh gq/w ftnkj (so called love marraige) tZb gq/fos j' oj/ jB. wkfgnK d/ nkg;h n;[yktÉ tksktoB (disharmony) ekoB th pZu/ gq/w ftnkj tZb ik oj/ jB, go n\;'; - @nk;wkB ;/ frok, ]}{o g/ nZNek# - nB[;ko pZuk gotko dk Xow SZv e/ fJzNow?foi (intermarriage) dk gZbk cVQdk j?. n?;/ ftnkj uko fdBK #u d{o d/ Y'b ;[jktB/ dh soQK p/o;/ s/ p/;[o/ wfj;{; j'D bZr g+d/ jB. rZb sbke iK nkswjZfsnk sZe g[Zi iKdh j??. eJh tko fiBQK dh bt w?foi (love marriage) nkgD/ Xow tkb/ Bkb j[zdh j? T[BQK d/ gotkoK ftZu th wB w[Nkt ekoB MrV/ uZbd/ ofjzd/ jB iK fco e[Vh ~ g/e/ ikD dh s/ c'B sZe eoB dh ;koh T[wo bJh bSwD o/ yk gk fdZsh iKdh j?. eJh tko s/ woB wokT[D sZe th B"ps nk iKdh j?. ;kok f;jok ny"sh gq/w ftnkj (so called love marriage) d/ wZE/ jh wVBk ukjhdk j?. 24H

nzso Xowh ftnkj (intermarriage)

tZyo/ w}QpK ftZu ehs/ rJ/ ftnkjK ~ G[b/y/ Bkb fgnko ftnkj ;wM fbnk iKdk j?. GktÉ g{op j't/ iK gZSw, nzsoXowh (Inter-marriage) ftnkj d/ s/ pj[s jh d[yKs tkgod/ d/y/ rJ/ jB. ;" ftnkj fg&ZS/ fJZe ftnkj th ekw:kp B}o BjhI g+dk. fJj rZb tZyoh j? fe i/ fJZe ftnkj ekw:kp wzB th bJhJ/ sK nkgD/ ;wki ns/ w}Qp s'I T[j eZN u[Ze/ j[zd/ jB, T[j fJZe e'B/ #u nkgD/ ;[ZyK nokwK sZe wfjd{d (restricted) ofj iKd/ jB.

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g{op s'I gZSw tZb rJ/ wK pkg nkgD/ ezw-Xzd/ dh ns/ ;[ZyK d/ bkbu ftZu tfj rJ/ j'D ekoB wkfJnk d/ izikb ftZu'I S[ZN BjhI gkT[_d/. T[BQK d/ pZu/ nkgD/ g{oph ;wki s'I ns/ foFs/dkoK s'I N[ZN/ j'D ekoB nzso Xowh ftnkj bJh jkwh Go b+d/ jB. f;ZN/ ti'I T[BQK dk gotkoe foFsk N[ZN iKdk j? ns/ T[j nkgD/ Xow ns/ ;fGnkuko (culture and religion) s'I N[ZN iKd/ jB. nr'I T[BQK d/ pZu/ dk Bk e'Jh Xow ofjzdk j? ns/ Bk jh e'Jh ;z;eko pD gkT[_d/ jB. T[j pZu/ nkgD/ wK-pkg s'I Bok} j'J/ fJj efj oj/ j[zd/ jB fe s[;hI ;k~ fe;/ gk;/ i'rk BjhI SZfvnk. ;fGnkuko ns/ Xow ekoB n;hI g{oph ofj BjhI gkJ/ ns/ gZSwh n;hI pD BjhI ;e/ ns/ Bk jh gZSwh b'eK #u ozr eoe/ n;hI gqtkB j' gkT[_d/ jK. f;ZN/ ti'I u"okj/ T[&Zs/ GNe e/ ofj rJ/ jK s/ @@X'ph dk e[Zsk Bk xo dk Bk xkN dk## ;kps j' oj/ jK. 25H

n;hI t/y u[Ze/ jK fe fJ; gZSwh ny"sh bt w?foi (love marriage) dk d[yKs fet/I u[o;s/ #u sbke iK y[de[Fh s/ ik e/ w[Zedk j?. nr/Q }ok e[ ftukohJ/ id'I gZSw (west) dk e'Jh w[zvk iK e[Vh g{op #u nk e/ foFsk bZGd/ jB sK T[j S/sh Bkb n]pkoK okjhI g?;/ ns/ ;[ZyK dk fdyktk eoe/ fJE'I foFsk gZek eo b+d/ jB. T[BQK ftZu'I eJhnK dh sK T[&ZE/ gqd/F ftZu ny"sh bt w?foi iK e'Jh B}kfJ} foFsk uZb fojk j[zdk j?. fJZE'I nfrnkBsk tZ; ekwh, eq'Xh ns/ bkbuh wK pkg ;[ZyK d/ bkbu ftZu nkgD/ pZu/-pZuh ~ ftnkj d/Id/ jB. i/ w[zvk T[&ZE/ ikt/ sK xo itkJh pD e/ Ghrh fpZbh pfDnk fiT{_dk ofjzdk j?. e[Vh T[;~ gSfVnk eoko eoe/, }'o{ dk |[bkw pDk e/ oZydh j?. T[j rohB ekov (green card) d/ bkbu ftZu ;ko/ }[bw ;fjzdk ofjzdk j?. go fJzwhro+N (immigrant) pDB sZe T[;dh ;koh nkswe

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Fesh ]sw j' u[Zeh j[zdh j?. nkf]oeko (ultimately) fJZe ew}'o Fy;hns sbke sZe g[Zi e/ BfFnK (drugs) ns/ nkswjZfsnk (suicide) dk ;jkok b? b+dh j?. 26H i/ eo g{op dh e[Vh gZSw iKdh j? sK w[zv/ d/ j'o ftnkj iK B}kfJ} skb[Zeks ~ ;[D e/ sbke, T[dk;hBsk (depression), gkrbgB iK nkswjZfsnk dk ;jkok b+dh j?. i/ eo e'Jh e[Vh ;kfonK s[\kBK dk w[ekpbk eoe/ nkgD/ xo g{op, g/e/ w[V nkJ/ j? sK xo tkb/ nkgDh fJ}s dk tk;sk gk e/ T[;~ tkg; G/i fdzd/ jB. i/ Bk G/iD sK ;wki T[BQK d/ pkeh pZfunK Bkb foFsk i'VB bJh wkVQh okJ/ pDk b+dk j?. n?;/ d[yKs Bk tkgoB, fJ; eoe/ T[j pZu/ ny"sh fgnko-ftnkj (bt w?foi) eoe/ xo'I BZ; iKd/ jB. ny"sh bt w?foi ekoB nkgD/ d/F ftZu wKfgT[ ;wki dhnK fBzfdnk GohnK rZbK s'I pZu BjhI gkT[_d/. nc;'; ! pj[sks #u wkfgnK dh wkfJe gdkoEe G[Zy ns/ ekwh s/ ][dro}h ekoB jh nfij/ f;ZN/ fBebd/ jB. B[e;kB ;kvk ;G dk j' fojk j? ns/ nkT[D tkbh gBhoh tk;s/ jB/ok jh jB/ok fd; fojk j?. 27H nzso Xowh (intermarriage) tkbh bt w?foi tkb/ gsh-gsBh fJZe d{i/ d/ fJFN dh edo BjhI eod/ jB. T[BQK dh wkB;e ftukoXkok nB[;ko T[j fJZe d{i/ d/ w}Qp d/ eoweKv iK ohsh fotk}K ~ th gqtkB BjhI eo ;ed/. eJh tkoh w}QpK ns/ fdB fsT[jko dh rbQ nkT[D s/ T[BQK dh ny"sh bt w?foi dh p/Vh v[ZpD br g+dh j? fco T[BQK ~ efjzd/ ;[Dhdk j? fe fJ; w;b/ pko/ n;hI e'Jh rZb S/VBh BjhI j?. fJj sK fJzi j'fJnk fitÉ wzih EZb/ ;Zg gb fojk j? go n;hI T[; ~ S/VBk BjhI j?.

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28H i' gsh-gsBh fJe d{i/ d/ w}Qp dk ns/ fJFN dk ;fseko BjhI eo ;ed/ T[BQK dh nkg;h fJe;[osk (harmony) nZi iK eZbQ yso/ ftZu j?. eJh d\k gsh gsBh nkgD/ Xow gqsh nfrnkBh j'D ekoB Xow dh ;jh ikDekoh BjhI oZy gkT[_d/. id'I d{i/ w}QpK tkb/ Bkb ftnkj eokT[_d/ jB sK e[M no;/ pknd iK f}zdrh d/ fe;/ gVkt s/ g[Zi e/ id'I T[BQK ~ nkgD/ w}Qp d/ ;jh f;XKs gsk bZrd/ jB sK fJB;kBhns Gog{o ihtBh T[BQK d/ nzsonkswk ~ fyZu gkT[_dh j?, T[BQK #u nkgD/ w}Qp dh jh fyZu dk gqekF pb g+dk j?. T[; tes T[BQK dh bt w?foi dh p/Vh vZe/-v'b/ ykD bZr g+dh j? feT[_fe T[BQK ~ fJZe d{i/ d/ w}Qp Bkb nzdo'I fgnko, ;fseko j[zdk jh Bjh_. fiBQK dh bt w?foi nkgD/ Xow s'I pkjo j[zdh j? T[BQK #u f}nkdkso w[zv/ tkb/ nkgD/ w}Qp d/ eoweKv ns/ ohsh fotk} g{o/ eotk b+d/ jB. pZu/ dk BkweoB, w[zvB, ;[zBs, nkfd w[zv/ tkfbnK d/ Xow d/ nB[;ko ehsk iKdk j?. T[&ZE/ e[Vh dZph x[ZNh ofjzdh j?, i/ p'bdh j? sK ;j[o/ gotko tkb/ wkod/ e[ZNd/, pdubD iK g/fenK ~ rkbh-rb'u d/ srw/ d/_d/ ofjzd/ jB. i/ e[Vh nkgD/ gsh ~ wBtk e/ gsh d/ ns/ nkgD/ w}Qp dk e[M th BjhI ;thekodh sK n?;h bt w?foi tkfbnK d/ pZu/ tZv/ j' e/ gZSwh wK-fgT[ d/ pZfunK tKr{z u[o;s/ s/ gj[zu e/ fJeZb/ fB];w/ j' iKd/ jB ns/ ;wki s_' N[ZN/ ofjzd/ jB. nzs T[BQK wK fgT[ dh bt w?foi woB sZe g/e/ ;j[o/, pZfunK ns/ nkgD/ nkg bJh d[Zy dh goSKJh pD e/ Boe o{gh sgF ;jkodh ofjzdh j?. fJZe nZX w[zvk e[Vh d[gk;h fgnko pBkT[D #u ekw:kp i/ j' th iKd/ j'D sK pZuk izwD s/ ohsh fotk} dk MrVk T[BQK d/ wK-fgT[ tZb'I fco T[Go g+dk j?. eJh irQk fJ;d/ j'o d[yKs tkgod/ jB. id'I fJZe G?D iK Gok dh ny"sh bt w?foi ekoB S'N/ G?D Gok th fJzNow?foi (intermarriage) ftnkj bJh

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fgnko ftnkj

T[m g?Id/ jB. wK-fgT[ bJh fco GKpV pb g+dk j?. e?;h j? fJj ny"sh bt w?foi i' jw/Fk bJh nkgDk xo vkfJBkwkJhN (dynamite) T[&Zs/ T[;kodh j? - Bk nkg ;[yh - Bk g/e/ - Bk ;j[o/ - Bk G?D Gok Bk T[BQK d/ pZu/ ns/ Bk jh T[j ;wki d/ Gb/ dh ;'u ;ed/ jB. fiBQK dh bt w?foi s'I g/e/ ;j[o/ jh y[F BjhI jB T[j ;z;ko ~ eh ][Fh d/ ;ZeDr/ ? fJj' fij/ i'V/ i' nkgDh ;ohoe sb s/ pDkJh y/v ~ ftnkj sZe b? iKd/ jB iK T[j fiBQK dk ftnkj nfij/ f]nkbK dh ;KM d/ wK-fgT[ d[nkok bZG/ ;kEh Bkb j[zdk j?, d'B'I jkbksK ftZu (arranged marriage/ love marriage) i/ nkswe sb dh ;KM BjhI j? sK d't/I jh nkf]o f}zdrh d/ rfjo/ y{j ftZu Xe/b/ iKd/ jB. ikro{e Bk j'D ekoB fJj d't/I jh ;Zu dh e;tZNh, nzso-nksw/ d/ fwbB s/ g{o/ BjhI T[sod/. 29H eJh tko nzsoiksh ftnkj tkb/ wkfgnK d/ pZu/ tZv/ j' e/ fejVk Xow ngBkT[D fJj T[BQK wkfgnK bJh fJe pj[s tZvh ;wZf;nk pD iKdh j?. T[j d'B'I nkgD/ ftZu'I fi;dk Xow tZX s'I tZX fJB;kBhns tZb gq/odk j?, T[; nB[;ko pZu/ pDkT[Dk ukj[D sK nkb/-d[nkb/ ftZu'I nfijh bt w?foi dh :kd sk}k j' e/ T[BQK d/ ;kjwD/ nk iKdh j?. T[BQK dh ùVh v[Zp Bk ikt/ fJ; eoe/ T[j nkgD/ pZfunK ~ nXowh oZyD ~ fsnko ofjzd/ jB, go Xow dh pKj cVQBk n?;/ gsh-gsBh ~ rztkok BjhI j[zdk. T[BQK d/ pZu/ tZyo/ tZyo/ Xow u'I tZv/ j' e/ shi/ w}QpK tkbk ;kEh ftnkj e/ xo fbnkT[_d/ jB, T[; ekoB T[BQK d/ xoK ftZu Xow d/ Bkw j/m ny"sh ftu'b/, mZrK, ;zsK ns/ ghoK-\ehoK dh iwks fe;/ Bk fe;/ sohe/ tV nkT[_dh j?. w}Qph MrV/ iK ikd{ wzso, N{D/, Xkr/, sths, G{s-gq/s, to, ;okg dh i' jöoh T[; bt w?foi tkb/ gsh gsBh d/ xo nkT[_dh j? T[; ekoB nzs #u T[BQK dh p/Vh

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fgnko ftnkj

v[ZpD bZr g+dh j?. T[j ;wki ns/ d[BhnK d/ ;kjwD/ r[zMb Goh fw;kb g/F eoe/ pZfunK ~ Fokph, i[nkoh ns/ Bzr/} Go/ c?FB tkbh f}zdrh (life) d/ iKd/ jB. 30H ny"sh fgnko (co called real love) tkb/ w[zvk e[Vh dh i/ ftukoXkok fJZe j? sK ;'uDk gt/rk fe T[BQK B/ fes/ n;bh Xow d/ gZy'I nZyK pzd sK BjhI eo bJhnK ? eh T[BQK dk fgnko, ekw iK gdkoEe G[Zy se sK ;hfws BjhI j? ? i/ eo Xow ~ nZy'I Ujb/ eoe/ gdkoEe iK ekwh G[Zy se ;hfws j? sK T[j gsh gsBh bt w?foi ~ fJe' jh gfoGkFk tZb'I t/y oj/ jB fe ek~Bh ftnkj eoke/ fJZe SZs j/m ofj e/ pZu/ izwDk ns/ nkgDk gotko gkbDk j?, go b/y d/ F[o{ ftZu fJ; gfoGkFk tkbh w?foi d/ i' B[e;kB jB n;hI ftuko nkJ/ jK. 31H

i/eo w[zv/ e[Vh dk ;Zuk fgnko, i' fe fJe' eoBh (doing deeds), fJe' ;'u, fJe' ;op ;KMk oZp, fJB;kBhns Gog{o ihtBh tkbh ;wki d/ Gb/ tkbh T[;ko{ ;'u tkbk j? sK T[BQK ~ nkgD/ wK fgT[ ns/ ;wki d/ ;fseko ~ w[Zy oZy e/ nzso-Xowh ftnkj (intermarrige) dh b'V BjhI, feT[_fe T[j sK nkswe s"o s/ fJefwe j' e/ fiT{ oj/ jB. nfij/ w[zvk e[Vh ~ ;wki d/ Gb/ bJh T[;ko{ ezw eoB/ ukjhd/ jB sk fe nkT[D tkbhnK B;bK ns/ nZi dh d[BhnK T[BQK dh wkB;e ns/ nkswe fJZefwesk dk bkjk b? ;Ze/. 32H i' n;bh nkFe j[zd/ jB, T[BQK d/ ;Zu/ gq/w d/ o;s/ ftZu e'Jh nfijh (gdkoEtkd o{gh G[Zy, ekw-tk;Bk) o[ektN BjhI pD ;edh s/ T[j fe;/ th ftekoh G[Zy ftZu wK fgT[I okjhI iK xo'I GZi e/ ftnkj BjhI eokT[_d/ jB. T[j ;wki ftZu BthnK T[bMBk g?dk BjhI eod/. T[j wK fgT[ ns/ ;wki dk ;fseko

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eoe/ nkgD/ wB dhnK ykfjFK ~ d[BhnK d/ Gb/ bJh fBSkto eo fdzd/ jB. nfij/ gq/wh woihtV/ j[zd/ jB. ny"sh ftnkj Bk j'fJnk sK eh j'fJnk. ;ohoe ekwh G[Zy fgZS/ ;wki dhnK dhtkoK s'V e/, nkT[D tkbh gBhoh bJh rabs fw;kbK BjhI xVd/ - ;Zu/ gq/wh. fiBQK wB[ZyK (w[zv/-e[VhnK) dk fynkb intercaste, inter-religion marriage tkb/ gZy¸ fgnko-ftnkj (love marriage) eoB dk j? fJj fbys e/tb T[BQK dh ;'uBh ~ n;bhns gZy'I irkT[D pko/ j?. ;' gkme ;ZiD fJ; rZb dk fXnkB oZyD fe fJ; b/y okjhI n;hI ;wkie ftnkj iK marriage institution d/ fybk\ e[M BjhI fby oj/ ns/ Bk jh nkw b'ekJh ~ fJ; ftZu #u e[M ;wMk oj/ jK. fJj e/tb bt w?foi (intercaste marriage) eoB tkb/ w[zv/-e[VhnK ~ fJ; b/y okjhI ikfrqs eokT[D dk T[&Zdw jh j? p; ! nfij/ ikro{e gq/wh T[wo d/ jo gVkn s/ gq/w eo ;ed/ jB. fiZE/ ][droi gq/wh nkgD/ fgnko fg&ZS/ fe;/ ftnkj[sk i'Vh d/ ihtB ~ th T[Eb g[Eb eo fdzd/ jB T[&ZE/ ;Zu/ gq/wh nkgD/ fgnko/ d/ ftnkj[sk ihtB ftZu }fjo x'bD dh pikJ/ T[; tk;s/ bkj/tzd ;kps j[zd/ jB. e/tb nkgDh ekw-G[Zy ~ fsqgskT[D bJh T[; gq/wh Bkb BZ; e/ fes/ ftnkj eokT[D dh wzdh ;'u BjhI ;'ud/ jB. T[;d/ gotko d/ Gb/ bJh e[M th fBSkto eoBk gt/ sK nkgDh ikB s/ th y/v iKd/ jB. ;Zu/ gq/whnK dk w/b nkswe sb s/ yVQk j[zdk j?. wkfJe gdkoE o{gh ekw-tk;Bk dh Bk sK wzr j[zdh j? s/ Bk fe;/ uh} ~ jfEnkT[D dh B}o iK wzdh Bh:s j[zdh j?. don;b ;Zu/ gq/whnK ~ fJZe d{i/ s'I e[M th b?D dh wzr j[zdh jh BjhI ns/ nkgD/ tZb'I ehs/ fgnko d/ fJt} (in return) ftZu fJBkw (reward) iK tkj-tkj sZe dh Fbkxk dh fJZSk fpbe[b BjhI j[zdh j?. T[BQK d/ fgnko dk nkXko (foundation) b'eK d/ 33H

67

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fgnko ftnkj

ns/ xo tkfbnK d/ d[ZyK T[&Zs/ BjhI pbfe b'eK d/ ;[ZyK bJh j[zdk j?. 34H gkme ;ZiD fJj ;tkb th g[ZS ;ed/ jB fe i/ eo eo'VK #u'I fJe i'V/ (w[zv/-e[Vh) dk jho oKM/ tKr ;Zuk-;[Zuk fgnko j? ns/ T[j e/tb nkswe sb s/ nkswe ftukoK d/ fwbkg s/ jh nkgDh nkFeh ~ fBGk oj/ jB sK eh T[j th ftnkj Bk eotkT[D ? 35H nZi d/ gdkoEtkd d/ :[r ftZu fiZE/ y[dro}h gqXkB j? T[&ZE/ fJ; soQK dh T[whd xZN jh ehsh ik ;edh j? fe y[dro}h s'I fpBK ;Zuk-;[Zuk fgnko j't/. go ftukoB tkbh rZb j? fe ftnkj wro'I n?;/ i'V/ ~ th fJe d{i/ T[go ekp{, ep}k iK nfXeko (obsession, possession or dominate) eoB dh tkdh g? ikD d/ pj[s f}nkdk w"e/ (maximum chances) jB feT[Ife ek~Bh (legal) ftnkj wro'I jh fJj i}pk (feeling) nkT[_dk j? gfjb'I BjhI fe s[;hI T[; e[Vh$w[zv/ ~ t/y feT[I oj/ ;h, fe;/ Bkb p?m e/ bzpk ;wK rZbK feT[&I eod/ j', eZbQ oks xo feT[I BjhI nkJ/ fJfsnkfd. pZ; fJ;/ ep}k eoB dh T[X/Vp[B ftZu @fgnko# nb'g j'D bZr g+dk ns/ d'B' fJe d{i/ bJh u"ehdko ;kfps j'D bZr g+d/ jB. i/eo 100 eo'V fgZS/ e'Jh fJe i'Vk n?;k th j? i' fe fJ; fpwkoh s'I nS{sk ofj iKdk j? sK T[BQK ~ w[pkoe ! oZp ih ;G ~ ;[wZs p¥FB. 36H

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

68

fgnko ftnkj

37H n;hI ;G ikDd/ jK fe T[; }wkB/ #u e[Vh ~ e[ZSV u[Ze e/ bktK d/ fdZshnK iKdhnK ;B iK eJh EktK s/ g?dk j'D s'I gfjbK iK g?dk j'D ;ko jh fe;/ w[zv/ Bkb foFsk BZE fdZsk iKdk ;h iK d';sh Bks/ foFs/ dk fttjko ns/ tuB-pZX j'D ekoB ftnkj eo jh fdZsk iKdk ;h. fJZE/ sZe jh BjhI pbfe @@d[nkmh## dk ftnkj th j[zdk ;h fi; ftZu nkgD/ xo'I fJe foFsk d/ e/ T[BQK d/ xo'I foFsk b? fbnk iKdk ;h. eJh EktK s/ sK eoik T[skoB tk;s/ iK tkoh tZN/ d/ gZy s'I th ftnkj eo fdZs/ iKd/ ;B. fJBQK ;kohnK fe;wK d/ ftnkjtK ~ ;wki B/ gozgoe ftnkj dk Bkw d/ fdZsk b/feB ;'uD tkbh rZb fJj j? fe fJ; ftZu gsh-gsBh dh nkswe fJZefwZesk pko/ ftukoB dh e'Jh EK jh BjhI ;h. 38H T[go dZ;hnK fe;wK s'I N[od/-N[od/ ;oekoh ek~B pDk fdZs/ frJ/ fiBQK ftZu Bkpkfbr ftnkj ~ |?o ek~Bh eoko eo fdZsk frnk. g[oksB sohe/ s'I sK Gkt/I n;hII T[go T[m ræ jK b/feB ;kv/ ;wki ftZu nZi th wkg/ e/tb fJj' t/yd/ ofjzd/ jB fe e[Vw g?;/ tkb/ jB, T[BQK dh ikfJdkd j? iK w[zvk$e[Vh ftZu'I e'Jh fJe pkjob/ d/F (foreign) ftnkj e/ b? ikJ/rk iK w[zvk$e[Vh T[&Zuh fvroh dk wkbe j? fJfsnkfd, fJj ;G e[M t/y e/ foFsk rzY fdzd/ jB. nZi d/ Bk}[e ;wÉ ftZu th fJ; B[es/ fBrkj (criteria) Bkb foFsk BjhI ehsk iKdk fe w[zv/$e[Vh dk nkswe úb ns/ ftukoXkoe ;KM j? th iK Bjh_.

gozgoe ftnkj (gotkoe ;fjwsh Bkb ftnkj)

ARRANGED MARRIAGE

fJ; w[Zd/ ~ ;wMD tk;s/ }ok e[ fgSb/ 7-8 djkfenK (decades) dk }wkBk ftukohæL-

39H nc;'; ! fe nZi th foFsk fJ; nkXko s/ eo fdZsk iKdk j? fe w[zv/$e[Vh dh T[wo tZX ojh ;h, cbkD/ dk nkyk BjhI ;h w'fVnk ik ;edk, cbkD/ ;zs ih (d/jXkoh ny"sh r[o{ ih) B/ j[ew eo fdZsk ;h fe fJZE/ foFsk eoBk }o{oh j? iK fco

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

69

fgnko ftnkj

nZi d/ ;kfJz; d/ :[r ftZu iBwgZsoh, e[zvbh iK uzB-sko/ d/ nkXko s/ gzvs d/ nky/ ftnkj eo fdZsk iKdk j?. go fJ; ny"sh gozgoe ftnkj ftZu th w[zv/$e[Vh d/ nkswe w/b-fwbkg dh e'Jh ftuko BjhI ehsh iKdh. 40H T[go'es ekoBK d/ Bkb-Bkb eJh EktK s/ foFsk j'D wro'I i/ gsk bZr th ikJ/ fe w[zv/$e[Vh d/ fynkb BjhI fwbd/ sK th ;wki d/ vo s'I (fe b'eh eh efjDr/) }pod;sh gozgoe ftnkj eo jh fdZsk iKdk j?. 41H nfrnkBsk tZ; Xosh s/ fJ; gozgoe ftnkj d/ j'o th eJh nB/eK sohe/ ngDkJ/ ik oj/ jB. bZrdk j? T[BQK eJh ekoBK eoe/ nZi dh B"itkB ghVh fJ; gozgoe ftnkj (arranged marriage) s'I w[Beo j' rJh j? ns/ nZi d/ }wkB/ dh uek-u"_X d/ ftZu nfrnkBsk tZ;, ;Zu/ Xow s'I w[Beo B"itkB ghVh fgnko ftnkj d/ jZe (favour) ftZu p'bh ik ojh j?. go T[&Zgo ftuko/ fJ; gozgoe ftnkj d/ rbs B[esk-fBrkj dk wsbp fJj BjhI eZfYnk ik ;edk fe w[Feb dk jZb e/tb fgnko ftnkj jh j?. fJj ;koh ftuko dk wsbp fJj ;kfps eoBk BjhI j? fe gozgoe ftnkj mhe j? iK fgnko ftnkj. go nZi eZbQ dh B"itkB ghVh nfrnkBsk ns/ f}zdrh d/ xZN s}op/ ekoB itkBh d/ i'F ftZu j'F rztk e/ ù;wMh Bkb ihtB-;kEh u[D b+dh j?. BshisB nZi T[; ny"sh fgnko-ftnkj ekoB j'J/ sbkeK Bkb wB[Zysk dk rbk x[ZN fojk j?.

;Zuk s/ ;[Zuk fgnko T[bMB (DILEMMA) 42H

j[D fco eh eohJ/ ? fJ; b/y ~ fbyD dk we;d

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

70

fgnko ftnkj

sK fJj' fbnk ;h fe w"i{dk ns/ nkT[D tkbh gBhoh ~ ;Zu/ fgnko ns/ ftnkj pko/ e[M ehwsh B[es/ d/ ;ZehJ/. id'I sZe nkswe, ;fji, ;zs'y, u?B tkb/ ;Zdr[D ns/ ;dkuko dh ;KM Bk ehsh ikJ/ sd'I sZe ;jh fgnko dh gfoGkFk ;kv/ B/VQ/ BjhI Y[Ze/rh, Bk fgnko b? ;eKr/, Bk jh d/ ;eKr/. feT[&Ife j[D sZe fgnko dh gfoGkFk L- @n;hI nkgD/ fBih bkG ns/ ;[nkoE dh g{osh bJh d{finK ~ dpkn e/, nkgD/ ;[ZyK bJh tos e/ e/tb ns/ e/tb fgnko ~ fJZe gZyh ;wMh p?m/ jK fe fJ; dh ][Fp{ dk M'ek e/tb ;kv/ tZb jh nkT[Dk ukjhdk j?.# G[b/yk (MISCONCEPTION

OF LOVE )

43H n;hI ;ko/ nfrnkBsk tZ; fgnko dk noE fJj ;wMd/ jK fe e'Jh ;k~ fgnko eo/, e'Jh ;kvk fynkb eo/, e'Jh ;k~ e[M d/t/, e'Jh nkgDk foFsk ;kv/ ;[ZyK bJh ;kv/ Bkb pDkt/, e'Jh w[;hps t/b/ ;kv/ ezw nkt/, fe;/ dhnK ykfjFk ;kv/ Bkb w/b yKdhnK j'D, fe;/ d/ o;-e; ;kv/ wBGkT[&Id/ j'D. pZ; ! J/;/ fe;w dhnK nB/eK XkoBktK ~ n;hI fgnko dk Bkw fdZsk j'fJnk j?. 44H nkT[, j[D god/; ftZu tkgoh fJZe xNBk okjhI ;Zu/ ns/ ;[Zu/ fgnko ~ ;wMhJ/. fJ; xNBk ftZu fJe B"itkB dk fJe T[&Zu/ xokD/ dh ;[zdo e[Vh Bkb nkswe fgnko dk foFsk pD iKdk j?. T[j B"itkB T[; e[Vh dh f}zdrh ftZu T[; d/ nB/eK ezw ;ztkodk j? fi; ekoB d'jK ftZu fJe d{i/ bJh edo tZXdh j?. go fgnko ftZu fe;h soQK dh w?b Bk j'D eoe/ T[BQK dk fgnko fJe pVh fwZmh ;KM d/ f;tk j'o e'Jh Feb XkoB BjhI eodk. e[Vh dk nwho fgsk nkgD/ T[&Zu/ o[sp/ eoe/ e[Vh dk foFsk fe;/ T[&Zu/ xokD/ ftZu eo d/Idk j?. gq/wh ~ id'I gsk bZrdk j?

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

71

fgnko ftnkj

sK T[j ;'udk j?, uzrk j[zdk i/ T[j nkgDh gqhswk Bkb ftnkj eoe/ T[; d/ j'o B/V/ ofj ;edk. go d{i/ gb jh ;'udk j? fe e[M th ftrfVnk Bjh_, w/oh gqhswk s/ fiT{Idh j?. gfjb/ fgsk e'b ;h j[D gsh e'b oj/rh. gfjb/ dh soQK j[D th w+ T[;~ fgnko eoKrk ns/ T[;d/ ezw nkT[_dk ojKrk. T[j fJe pVk bkfJe tehb ;h. T[;B/ nkgDh fbnkes Bkb gqhswk s/ T[;d/ gsh dh eJh tkoh ;jkfJsk ehsh, T[;d/ fgsk dhnK eJh n"fynkJhnK d{o eoB bJh ezw nkfJnk. gq/fwek s/ T[;dk gsh pV/ gq;zB ofjzd/ ;B s/ fJj shik, gq/wh th T[; gotko ftZu pVh fgnkoh ns/ b'Vh_dh j;sh ;wfMnk iKdk ;h. id'I T[j T[BQK d/ xo nkT[_dk ;h, ;kfonK ~ uzB uVQ iKdk ;h, yk; eoe/ gsBh ~. gq/wh dh fBoSbsk s/ T[; dk nkgk-tko{ y/Vk ;G ~ nkgDk pDk b+dk ;h. e[M ;wÉ pknd Ffjo ftZu prkts j'Jh ns/ T[; dk gsh th fJ; dh bg/ N ftZu nk frnk. ;oeko tZb'I T[; ~ w"s dh ;}k ;[DkJh rJh. fJBQK w[;hpsK dhnK xVhnK ftZu tehb fwZso th nukBe T[&ZE/ gj[zu frnk. ;kok jkb ;[De/ T[;d/ wB ftZu e[M ;[ZMh. T[; B/ ;oeko e'b'I T[;d/ gsh ~ i/bQ ftZu fwbD dh fJ}kis wzrh. fwZso i/bQ ftZu frnk, gsh Bkb rZbpks eofdnK eofdnK fJe FhFh okjhI T[;~ e[M ;[zxk e/ p/j'F eo fdZsk. e?dh d/ egV/ bkj e/ nkg gk bJ/ s/ nkgD/ T[;~ g[nk fdZs/. T[;B/ f;gkjh ~ fejk, w/ok fwZso w/oh w"s dk f]nkb ;jko BjhI ;fenk s/ |w yk frnk j?. nkg fJ; ~ w/oh ykso cbkD/ gs/ T[&Zs/ gj[zukT[D dh y/ub eo'. T[BQK fdBK ftZu ;?_eV/ nkdwhnK d/ o'} rb/ eZN/ iKd/ ;B fi; eoe/ f;gkjhnK ~ fe;/ d/ u/jo/ dh bzwh gSkD BjhI ;h ofj ;edh. xo gj[zukJ/ ikD wro'I j'F nkT[D s/ d'tK ~ gsk bZrk fe gq/wh cK;h uVQB bJh fe; soQK e[opkBh eo frnk ns/ gqhswk d/ gsh ~ ;bkws oZyD bJh gq/wh B/ nfj;kB, Fbkxk iK gqtkBrh

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fgnko ftnkj

dk fJe Fpd th ;[D/ fpBQK jZ;fdnK jZ;fdnK rbk cK;h d/ sys/ T[&Zs/ oZy fdZsk. 45H fgnko dk wB'oE ;[Zy d/Dk j?. i/ ;kvk fgnko fe;/ ~ sebhcK ftZu gkT[_dk j? sK T[; s'I ;ze'u ehsk ikt/. fgnko dk nkBzd d/D ftZu jh j?, b?D ftZu Bjh_. fJj' s/ fgnko dk n;bh nkBzd j? ns/ fJ; ~ jh n;bh fgnko efjzd/ jB. fJ; ejkDh dh T[[&Zusk ns/ Gkt noE ~ ;wM e/ n;hI fJ; ftuko dh e;tZNh s/ gj[zu/ jK fe fgnko dk c[Zb jw/Fk d{finK dh p|huh ftZu fyVQdk j?, d{finK ~ ][Fp{ fdzdk j?. fgnko dk g/VQ d{finK ~ SK ns/ cZb fdzdk j?. fgnko dk sB, wB, XB, o{gh ][Fp{ dk M'ek, nkgD/ s'I d{finK tZb e[opkB j[zdk j?. fgnko dk tbtbk sK pkjow[Zyh j'D d/ pdb/ nzsow[yh j[zdk j?, fJ; ftuko ns/ ;'u dh sfjs fe w/ok foFsk d{finK tk;s/ bkj/tzd j' ;e/. id'I fJ; gqeko d/ fgnko ~ n;hI ;wM iktKr/ sK ;G s'I gfjbK n;hI nkg nfijh tZvh F]Fhns pD iktKr/ fi;~ fJj ;wM nk ikt/rh fe f}zdrh d/D bJh j?, b?D bJh Bjh_. T[; d/ fgnko dh F[o{nks ;G s'I gfjbK nkgD/ nkg ~ fgnko eoB Bkb F[o{ j[zdh j? ns/ nkgD/ nkg ~ fgnko eoB dk wsbp, nkgD/ ntr[DK ~ eZY e/, r[DK Gog{o wB[Zy pDBk j?. 46H

;Zu/

Xow

dh

fBrkj

#u

;Zuk

fgnko

(LOVE IN THE EYES OF TRUE RELIGION)

j[D i/eo ;Zu/ gq/wh dh rZb ~ Xow d/ Bkw j/mK ;wMhJ/ sK fJj' efjDk gt/rk fe fiZE/ ;Zuk gq/w j[zdk j? T[&ZE/ f}zdrh d/D bJh j[zdh j? Bk fe b?D bJh Gkt d{finK tk;s/ fiT{Dk jh f}zdrh dk fJZe ehwsh gfjb{ pD iKdk j?. fco sK d[Zy sebhc t/b/ gq/wh ~ SZv e/ ikD dh pikJ/ n"eV s'I bzx e/ th nZr/ j'

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

73

fgnko ftnkj

e/ nkgDk nkg tkoBk j[zdk j?. rbh ftZu fuZeV j't/, gq/wh dk xo pj[s d{o j't/ iK o;s/ #u ;w[zdo iK BZdh ftZu v[Zp ikD dk vo feT[I Bk j't/ go fco th ikB sbh s/ oZy e/ ikDk jh gq/w dh T[&Zusk dh fBFkBh (b]kfJe) j[zdh j?. GktÉ gq/wh d/ o;s/ s/ N[oB #u fteko o{gh ikBtoK dk vo feT[I Bk j't/, gq/wh fBvosk Bkb bzxdk jh iKdk j?. fJ; ;koh ftuko dk wsbp fJj' fBefbnk fe i/eo n;hI oZp ih Bkb nfijk gq/w gk fbnk sK oZp ih dk xo d{o BjhI bZr/rk, oZp ih d/ o;s/ s/ GktÉ feBQhnK th w[FfebK nkT[D, n;hI ;ZukJh (dhB, w}Qp, f;XKs) BjhI SZvKr/ GktÉ ikB jh feT[I Bk tkoBh gt/. oZp ih dh pDkJh j'Jh f;qFNh M{mh BjhI ikg/rh. fJZE'I sZe jh BjhI pbfe ekw, eq'X, b'G, w'j, jzeko ns/ ;[zdo iK eo{g ;G e[M oZp ih tZb'I fe;/ wB'oE tk;s/ pDkJ/ ikgDr/. e/tb nkgDh p[ZXh dk ftek; eoe/ T[BQK ftekoK dh tos'I #u yfus j'D dh pikæ, T[BQK s'I T[&Zu/ j'Dk ;wM g? ikt/rk. oZp ih tZb'I fisBh wo}h wkfJnk dk g;kok pkoF tKr{z Gkt/I fgnk to;/ b/feB oZp ih dk ;Zuk gq/wh oZp dh wkfJnk dh fBzfdnk BjhI eo/rk feT[&Ife wkfJnk th oZp ih dh wo}h d/ ekoB j?. n;hI fJ; wkfJnk ftZu yfus j'D dh pikJ/ wkfJnk ~ nkgD/ nXhB, fpp/e pZ[Xh nB[;ko tos e/ oZp ih Bkb fJZefwZe j'D ~ jh jw/Fk nkgDk nkdoF ;wMKr/. 47H fJ; soQK oZp ih d/ fJ; fgnko tbtb/ ftZu fgnko/ dh jo/e uh} fgnkoh bZrdh j? ;G d/ Bkb jh ;kvk fgnko g? ikt/rk. ;ko/ jh oZp ih d/ pDkJ/ wfj;{; j'D bZr g?Dr/. w}Qph ozr, B;b ns/ fbzr iK iks-pokdoh, nwhoh-rohph d/ ftseo/ w[Ze jh ikDr/. ;' oZp ih d/ fgnko ftZu n;hI fJ; Xosh dh, fe;/ uh} iK wB[Zy ~ fBzdKr/ Bjh_, T[BQK ~ d[o/-d[o/ eoe/ ùfJZ}s

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74

fgnko ftnkj

(insult) BjhI eoKr/. fitÉ fe b?bk dh rbh dk ][ibh Gfonk e[Zsk th wi~ ~ uzrk bZrdk ;h. 48H nfGnk; L-

nkgD/ ;wki ~ T[;koh d/D tk;s/ fJe j'o gZy'I

nkgD/ ;wki ~ BthI T[;koh d/D tk;s/ ftnkj/ i'V/ iK fiBQK d/ ftnkj BjhI j'J/ jB, T[BQK bJh n;hI fJe BtK nfGnk; (exercise) eo ;ed/ jK. fJ; dh wdd d/ Bkb nkgD/ @ntr[D S'v r[Dk e' Xktj[# eod/ j'J/ nkgD/ foFs/ nkswe sb s/ xV ;ed/ jK. nzro/}h dh nZ]owkbk (alphabets) d' soQK dh j[zdh j? S'N/ ns/ tZv/ nZyo (small and capital letters). fJBQK ftZu n;hI nzro/}h nZyo @C# (;h) ~ d' dh pikJ/ uko fe;wK ftZu wzB b+d/ jK. S'Nk @c# (;h), tZvk @C# (;h), T[; s'I tZvk @C# (;h) ns/ ;G s'I tZvk @C# (;h). :kBh fe - Criticiser, Complainant, Consumer, Creative. S'Nk ‘c’ (;h) - Criticiser - fJ; ftZu T[; fe;w d/ wB[Zy nkT[_d/ jB i' jo tes d{;fonK ~ fBzdd/ jh ofjzd/ jB. T[BQK ~ d{;fonK ftZu f;o\ n"r[D jh B}o nkT[_d/ jB. tZvk ‘C’ (;h) - Complainant - fJ; ftZu T[; fe;w d/ wB[Zy j[zd/ jB fiBQK ~ f;o\ s/ f;o\ fFekfJs eoB dh jh nkds j[zdh j?. T[BQK ~ xo d/ foFfsnK ftZu ns/ xo s'I pkjo, jo wB[Zy Bkb fFekfJsK jh ofjzdhnK jB. T[; s'I tZvk C (;h) - Consumer - fJ; ftZu e/tb T[; fposh d/ wB[Zy nkT[_d/ jB fijV/ T[gG'rsk (Consumer) efjbkT[_d/ jB. T[j d[BhnK ftZu pDkJhnK uh}K s/ e/tb w"i eoBk ukj[zd/ jB. T[j fJ; fposh d/ BjhI j[zd/ fe fJj ;'uD

75

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

fgnko ftnkj

fe d[BhnK ftZu ;ko/ ;[Zy nkokw dhnK uh}K ~ fe; B/ fJikd (invent) ehsk, fet/I ehsk, fejVhnK w[FebK dk ;kjwDk eoBk fgnk, fejVhnK xkbDk xkbhnK s/ J/no ezvhFBo, N?bhc{B, ;?bc'B, NhH thH, jtkJh ijk}, fJfsnkd dh ekY eZYh. ;G s'I tZvk C (;h) - Creative - fJ; fe;w d/ wB[ZyK dh fposh gfjb/ fszBK s'I pj[s T[&Zuh j[zdh j?. T[j nkgD/ foFfsnK ftZu Bk sK fFekfJsh, GzvD tkb/ ns/ Bk jh foFfsnK ~ e/tb G'rD sZe ofjzd/ jB pbfe nkgD/ foFfsnK ~ nkswe sb s/ pDkT[_d/ (Create) jB ns/ ;wki ftZu e/tb ns/ e/tb ;[Zy-nkokw G'rD (consume) dh pikJ/ d{finK d/ ;[ZyK, nkokwK tk;s/ ;'ud/ jB. f;o\ fJ; fe;w d/ wB[Zy ;Zu/ fgnko dh p/Vh s/ uVQd/ jB. nfijh f;oiDkswe F];hns (creative personality) pDB tk;s/ ;k~ j'o gzi C's (;h) dh ikDekoh b?Dh gt/rh. Creative

 



 1 chemistry

2 compatibility

3 communication





4 compromise

5 commitment

(a) Chemistry (fdwkrh ns/ Gktkswe ;'u)L f;oiDkswe wB[Zy (creative human being) pDB bJh ;kvk gfjbk edw

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

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;kfonK Bkb nkgDh fdwkrh ns/ Gktkswe ;'u (chemistry) ~ fwbkT[Dk j[zdk j?. fJ; dk wsbp ;KMhtkbsk ns/ ;fj:'r (cooperation and support) Bkb nkgD/ jo foFs/ d/ ftZu wKfgT[, pZu/, dkdk-dkdh, wkfbe iK B"eo ;G Bkb ;KM pD nkt/. (b) Compatibility (nB[e{bsk) L fJ; dk nkXko r[DK

T[&Zs/ j[zdk j?. fijV/ Xosh s/ ftnkj/ i'V/ jB T[j r[DK tZb tZX e/ nB[e{bsk (compatibility) tXk ;ed/ jB ns/ fijV/ th wB[Zy fgnko dh p/Vh T[&Zs/ uVQBk ukj[zd/ jB, T[j nkgDh nB[e{bsk (compatibility) dk nkXko e/tb ns/ e/tb r[DK dh ;KM jh oZyD. nB[e{b fwZsosk pBkT[D bJh jho/-itkjoks (jewellery), o[gJ/, doi/ (status), pkjobh ;[zdosk (outer beauty), ~ nkXko (criteria) Bk pDk e/ e/tb fJe F];hns ~ bZGDk j? i' ihtB ~ T[sKj tZb gq/fos eo ;e/. nfij/ ;kEh fJe d{i/ dk F'FD (exploit) eoB dh pikJ/ wkB;e dp-dpk (obsessive) oZyD dh pikJ/ fitÉ fe s[;hI w/o/ fpBQK jZ;/ feT[_, d/oh Bkb feT[I nkJ/, s[;hI e/tb w/oh jh ;/tk eo', fJ; soQK nkgD/ foFfsnk ~ i/b]kBk pDkT[D dh pikJ/ fJe d{i/ ~ nkgDh nB[e{bsk d/ nkXko s/ irQk (space) fdzd/ jB. fJj irQk nkg;h foFfsnK dh GbkJh tk;s/ j[zdh j?. nk}kdh (freedom) d/D Bkb foFfsnK ftZu ;Zu/ fgnko d/ Gktkswe nfj;k;K (true emotions) dh ehws g? iKdh j? i/eo r[DK dh ;KM eoe/ nB[e{bsk j? sK nk}kdh foFfsnK ~ j'o w}p{s eodh j?. go fJj th ;'uDk gt/rk fe i/eo nk}kdh dk F'FD (exploit) ehsk frnk sK ;kEh nkgDk j? jh BjhI ;h. (c)

Communication (;zgoesk) L nkgDh fjzws

fJsBh tXkJhJ/ fe nkg; ftZu f]nkbK dh ;KM eo ;ehJ/. T[BQK

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

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pko/ y[ZbQ e/ rZb eo ;ehJ/. fpBK f]nkbK dh ;KM d/ fJe uZwu Bkb fJe gb/N ftZu ykDk, fJe wzi/ s/ ;"Dk, Bk s/ fgnko j? ns/ Bk jh e'Jh w[FebK dk jZb j?. ;[Zy-d[Zy ~ o[Z;-o';/ Bkb Bk bwekJhJ/. FKswJh tksktoB (harmony) pDkT[D tk;s/ ftnkj[sk i'V/ iK fiBQK dk ftnkj BjhI j'fJnk, T[j nkg; ftZu fwb e/ p?mD ns/ d't/I nkgDhnK w[FebK ~ y[ZbQ e/ ;KMk (share) eoB ns/ T[BQK d/ jZb bZGD. T[BQK d/ tkoskbkg dk w[Zdk fJj BjhI j'Dk ukjhdk fe feZE/ jBhw{B wBkT[Dk j?, fesB/ pZu/ g?dk eoB/ jB iK n;wkB s'I sko/ s'VB/ jB pbfe fJBQK pdb/ nkgD/ f]nkbK dh ;KM eoBk j'ý. T[j nkgD/ f]nkb fwbkT[D ns/ ;'uD fe n;hI ;wki dhnK e[ohshnK ~ fet/I d{o eo ;ed/ jK, d[BhnK ftZu fJB;kBhns d/ Gb/ bJh eh eo ;ed/ jK. i/ T[BQK B/ fJB;kBhns pko/ ;'u fbnk sK fJj ;'ufdnK ;'ufdnK T[BQK xoK d/ foFfsnK ftZu fJB;kBhns g[zro gt/rh. (d) Compromise (;wM"sk) L nkg;h foFfsnk ftZu ;wM"sk (compromise) eoB tk;s/ ;kvk jzeko pj[s tZvh o[ektN

pD iKdk j?. @w+ Bk wk~# dh fposh foFfsnK ftZu d{oh gkJh oZydh j?. id'I n;hI nkgD/ nkg dhnK ewhnK (shortcomings) tZb Mksh wkoBh f;Zy b+d/ jK iK Mksh wkoB bZr g+d/ jK sK nkg w[jko/ fBwosk d/ XkoBh pDd/ iKd/ jK. fJ; soQK nkgD/ pkeh n"r[DK tZb i/ Mksh wkoBk F[o{ eohJ/ sK ;wM"s/ (compromise) dh p/Vh s/ uVQ iKd/ jK. d{i/ gk;/ n;hI fJ; g"VQh s/ uVQB tk;s/ d{finK d/ n"r[D t/y e/ nDfvZm eoBk f;Zy b?Id/ jK. n;bh fgnko dh gfoGkFk j? - @;theko eo' fit/I j? fstÉ jh# (accept it as is). ;wM"s/ (compromise) dk wsbp fe;/ ~ m/; gj[zuk e/, G?Vk uzrk efj e/, fdbK ftZu

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

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S/d eoe/ T[; ~ GoBk BjhI j?. fJe iK nBzstkoh wk\ eoBk gt/ sK th nkgD/ uzr/ r[D SZv/ fpBK wk\ eod/ ofjDk jh ;wM"sk (compromise) j?. wk\ eoBk jh ;ZG s'I fwZmk pdbk j? :kBh fe The sweetest revenge is to forgive. (e) Commitment (gqshpZXsk) L nkg;h fwbkg ftZu id'I n;hI T[go f}eo ehs/ rJ/ uko C's dhnK g"VQhnK uVQd/ iKd/ jK sK n;bh fgnko dk MoBk c[ZN g+dk j? Gkt fdqVQsk (commitment)

tork r[D ;kvh M'bh ftZu nkgD/ nkg jh nk g+dk j?. 49H fijVk wB[Zy fJj gzi' r[D f;Zy b+dk j? T[j fe;/ Bkb th nkgD/ fgnko d/ pdb/ FosK BjhI wBtkT[_dk, frb/, fBj'o/, fFet/ (taunts), wB-w[Nkt ns/ o';/ gqrN BjhI eodk. T[; d/ foFfsnK ftZu skb-w/b ;fji ;[Gkn pD iKdk j?. T[j woB s'I pknd fe;/ ;tor dh ekwBk Bk eod/ j'J/, f}zdrh ~ f}zdkfdbh Bkb fiT{D bZr g+dk j?. i/ fJBQK r[DK eoe/ ;kv/ ;G nzdo' fgnko c[ZN fgnk sK Xosh s/ jh ;tor pD ikýrk. fJ; Xosh s'I S[Nekok gkT[D dh b'V BjhI ofj ikt/rh. fJj s/ oZp ih dh pDkJh fJsBh ;[jktDh s/ uzrh Xosh j?. nfij/ oZp ih d/ gq/w ftZu fgnK ;ko/ wB[ZyK Bkb fgnko g? iKdk j? fi; ekoB wB[Zy Bk sK ;[ZyK ftZu r[nkudk j? s/ Bk jh d[ZyK ftZu.

;ko/ b/y dh gVu'b 50H fJ; ;ko/ b/y okjhI n;hI i' e[M th ;wM ;e/ jK T[; dk fBu'V fJzi j? L iH

nzsoiksh ns/ nzsoXowh (intermarriage) tkb/

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

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fgnko ftnkj

ny"sh fgnko-ftnkj eoB tkb/ i'V/ fJ; gk;/ i/ eo ;'uD fe T[BQK d/ ftnkj wro'I Gkt/I T[j nkg ;[yh s/ y[F ofj ;ed/ jB fe BjhI go ! T[BQK d/ g/e/ ;j[o/ gotkoK d/ nkg;h skbw/b BjhI pDd/, iZdh MrV/ uZbd/ jB ns/ w}Qph eoweKv eoe/ w}Qph c;kdK sZe B"ps nk iKdh j?. fJ; eoe/ n;hI e/tb n?;/ ny"sh fgnko eoB tkb/ i'fVnK pko/ ftuko ;KM eo oj/ jK fe ;wki dh FKsh ekfJw oZyD bJh ;Zu/ fgnko tkb/ i'fVnK ~ fgnko ftnkj dh b'V jh BjhI ofjzdh pkeh i/eo d'B'I fXoK fJe' w}Qp dhnK jB ns/ nkg;h gq/w-ftnkj Bkb d'B'I gotko T[BQK d/ fgnko ~ ;wkie (arranged) ftnkj dk o{g d/ ;ed/ jB. fJj ftuko fe;/ th w}Qp d/ snZ;p iK eZNVtkd i~B ~ w[Zy oZy e/ BjhI fbyh ik ojh pbfe fJB;kBhns d/ fgnko ftZu w}Qp d/ snZ;p ekoB MrV/ B tZX ikD, fJ; eoe/ fcbjkb fJj' ;'u bkj/tzd j' ;edh j?. iiH

ftnkj dk wsbp, e/tb b?Dk jh b?Dk iK ekw g{osh BjhI j' ;edk.

iiiH

ftnkj dk wsbp e/tb nkgD/ pZu/ gkb e/ nkgD/ gotko sZe ;hfws ][dro} f}zdrh fiT{Dk BjhI j' ;edk.

iv H

d' tZyo/ w}Qp tkb/ nro ;Zu/-;[Zu/ gq/wh jB T[j fpBQK ftnkj ehfsnK th fJ; d[BhnK dh ;/tk eo ;ed/ jB. T[j e/tb fJe d{i/ tk;s/ ihtB

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

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fgnko ftnkj

fBSkto BjhI eod/ pbfe ;ko/ iZr tk;s/ th nkgk e[opkB eo ;ed/ jB. pFos/ fe T[j ;Zu/ gq/wh j'D. vH

fiBQK wB[ZyK dk nkgD/ w}Qp tkb/ Bkb ftnkj j' u[Zfenk j? T[j j[D th ny"sh gsh-gsBh tkb/ }/bQykB/ d/ pdb/ ;Zu/-;[Zu/ gq/wh pD e/ nkgD/ nkg bJh, pZfunK, gotko ns/ iZr bJh fJB;kBhns Gog{o ;/tk eo ;ed/ jB. fJ; ftZu d'tK ~ ekwo{gh G[Zy s'I T[go T[mDk gt/rk ns/ fJZe d{i/ ~ dpkT[Dk (dominate) th SZvDk gt/rk. fJZe d{i/ s/ ftFtk; eoe/ nk}kdh d/Dh gt/rh ns/ ob e/ nkgD/ w}Qp dh gVQkJh eoe/ eoweKv, nzX ftFtk; SZv e/ pZfunK d/ Gb/ bJh, ;jh Xowh ihtB fiT{Dk gt/rk. i/eo gsBh dhnK rbshnK, fi; soQK fe \?FB, pj[s/ you/, ;'Bk, ;{N, go;K ns/ fdyktk eoe/ e"V/ p'b, iks pokdoh iK d/jXkoh r[o{ ;zsghoK d/ r[zwokj eoB tkb/ f]nkbK ekoB xo ftZu nFKsh pDdh j? sK gsBh ~ fJBQK rbshnK s'I T[go T[mDk gt/rk. i/eo gsh dhnK rbshnK, Fokp, pdubBh, i{nk, f;roN, gkB, voZr}, u'oh, g?;/ ekoB gsBh ~ g?o dh i[Zsh pBkT[Dk, gsBh d/ g/fenK ~ BhtK fdykT[Dk, dki dh G[Zy ekoB gsBh ~ ;skT[Dk ns/ d/jXkoh, r[o{, gho, shoE iK nzX ftFtk; iK ;z;ekoK (superstition or rituals) eoe/ i/eo xo dhnK dhtkoK N[ZNdhnK jB sK gsBh ~ szr eoB dh pikJ/ gsh ~ nkg ;[u/s j' e/ uzr/ s/ ;[uZi/ ihtB

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

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fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

i' gsh e/tb wkfJnk ewk fojk j? ns/ gsBh ~ e/tb ekw G[Zy bJh g?o dh i[Zsh (d/tdk;h) iK r[bkw pDk e/ tos fojk j? T[; dk nZi sK nkgDh j+eV ftZu bzx fojk j? go T[j ;Zuk gq/w gqkgs BjhI eo ;edk. T[;B/ o/s T[&Zs/ nkgDk ny"sh wfjb T[;ko oZfynk j?. i/eo T[; gsh ~ ;Zuk gq/w ukjhdk j? sK gsBh ~ g?o dh i[Zsh, r[bkw ns/ ekw g{osh dk fyv"Dk pDkT[D tkbh ihtBh s'I T[go T[mDk gt/rk ns/ i' gsBh nkgD/ gsh ~ e/tb fJ; eoe/ gotkB eodh j? fe pZ; w/o/ w/eng ns/ wkfJeh gdkoE, rfjD/, eZgV/, eko, nkfd dh w/ok gsh fe;/ soQK g{osh eodk oj/, pkeh @@s{z e"D s/ w+ e"D## sK T[;~ nfijh ;'u tkbh ihtBh (practice) s'I T[go T[mDk gt/rk.

viiH

;Zu/ gq/wh iK gsh-gsBh fJZe d{i/ dk d[oT[g:'r (misuse or abuse) iK F'FD (exploit) BjhI eod/ pbfe gzi/ fteko - ekw, eq'X, b'G, w'j, jzeko pko/ nkg th T[&Zu/ j'e/ ;kEh (spouse) ns/ gotko ~ th fJ; gkf;T[I T[&Zuk j'D bJh wdd eod/ jB. fJ; soQK dh ;'uBh fe i/ gsh dk fdb ekwo[uh dk j't/ ns/ gsBh T[;dk ;kE d/t/, fJ;/ soQK i/ gsBh dk fdb j't/ sK gsh ;kE d/t/, fJj ;'uBh rZbs j? feT[&Ife fJj ;G e[M ekw GVekT[ fposhnK dh nZr ftZu pkbD gkT[D d/ s[b jB. pbfe d't/I fXoK ftZu'I fi;~ ekw pko/ e[M ;wM

fgnko ftnkj

fgnk j? ns/ i/eo T[j fJ;dh fBzdk ehs/ fpBQK fJ; s'I T[go th T[m fojk j? sK ! T[;Bz{ ukjhdk j? fe nkgD/ ;kEh ~ fJ; ekw G[Zy s'I T[go T[mD ftZu wdd eo/ Bk fe T[;dh wzr s/ ekw g{osh eodk ikt/. i' gsh gsBh fJZe d{i/ dh ekw dh G[Zy t/b/ g{osh eod/ ofjzd/ jB T[j fJ; s'I T[go BjhI T[m gkT[_d/ pbfe T[BQK dk fXnkB gokJ/ o{gK tZb g?Dk F[o{ j' iKdk j?. nZi gq/w dh gfoGkFk ~ e/tb ekw g{osh dh G[Zy fwNkT[D sZe ;hfws oZfynk ik fojk j?. ÷qw dk wsbp e/tb ekw esJh BjhI j' ;edk. ;jh ;iZD fwZso T[j j[zd/ jB i' ;kv/ Bkb ;Zuh ;zrs eoe/ ;k~ gziK o'rK s'I T[go T[mDk f;ykT[Id/ jB. fJBQK ~ fBzdd/ iK fJ; s'I toid/ BjhII pbfe fJBQK pko/ ;[u/s (aware) eoe/ fJBQK ~ nkgD/ nXhB eoBk f;ykT[_d/ jB.

bJh ;Zu/ frnkB dk gZbk cVQBk ukjhdk j?. vi H

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i' w[zvk e[Vh gq/w #u g? u[Ze/ jB ns/ fiBQK dk ftnkj j[D/ BjhI j'fJnk go T[j ;wMd/ jB fe ;k~ ftnkj s'I gfjbK fJZe d{i/ Bkb ekw o{gh êv y/vBh }o{oh j? sk fe gsk bZr ;e/ fe w/ok ;kEh ekw #u fesBk wkfjo j?, nfij/ i'V/ ftnkj s'I gfjbK n?;h ekwh y/vK y/v e/ nkgDh nkswk ns/ ihtB popkd eo b+d/ jB. fiT[I jh T[BQK ~ FZe g?Idk j? fe w/ok ;kEh ekw dk uzrk fyvkoh Bjh_, T[j gq/w iK ftnkj dk f]nkb SZv d/Id/ jB, T[BQK G[bVK ~ fJj BjhI gsk fe gq/w dk iK ftnkj dk sknb[e

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

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étb ekw y/v BjhI j' ;edk. ;Zu/ fgnko dh y/v ftZu ekw (sex) dk tiB oZsh wkso d/ pokpo th BjhI j? feT[_fe fJj fgnko nkswe sb s/ j[zdk j? Bk fe ;ohoe sb #s/ pbfe ftnkj wro'I th i/eo ihtB ;kEh dh HHHH (1) nkswe T[&Zusk j' rJh j?. (2) nkswe T[&Zusk tkb/ ;kEh Bkb ftnkj j' frnk j?. (3) i/ ;kEh ekw o{uh #u fJS[Ze jh BjhI j?. (4) ;kEh ekw dh y/v #u fe;/ ;ohoe ew}'oh iK fbzr d/ nX{o/gB eoe/ g{ok BjhI j?. sK th uzr/ gq/wh iK ftnkj[sk i'V/ fJBQK rZbK ekoB nkgD/ ;kEh Bkb MrVk iK tZy j' e/ sbke dk o;sk fJ]fsnko BjhI eod/ jB. i' wB[Zy MrV/, Bkok}rh iK tZy j' e/ sbke dk o;sk fJ]fsnko eod/ jB, T[j ;Zu/ gq/wh j[zd/ jh BjhI jB ns/ Bk jh ftnkj[sk i'fVQnK ~ fJBQK rZbK ~ pj[s nfjwhns d/Dh ukjhdh j?. fiBQK i'fVQnK dk ftnkj[sk ;zs[bB fJ; rZb ekoB N[ZND- N[ZND eodk j? fe ;kEh ekwg{osh bJh g{oB BjhI j? sK w/ok pZuk fetÉ j't/rk ih ? ;kvk gotko fet/I pD/rk ih ? tzF fetÉ uZürk ih ? iK w?~ wK pDB dk F"_e j? ih -- fJj ;kohnK c'ehnK dbhbK ekoB, i' sbke eod/ jB iK ftnkj BjhI eokT[_d/, T[j ;G ;Zu/ gq/w dh dbhb s/ g{o/ jh BjhI T[sod/ jB. feT[_fe e/tb pZu/ dh gqkgsh sK fe;/ b'Vtzd rohp ~ r'd b? e/ th ehsh ik ;edh j?. i/ eo nkgD/ jh ihB; (Genes) dk fgsk-g[oyh tkbk tzF th i/eo ubkT[Dk j't/ sK }whB }kfJdkd d/ tkfo; dh gqkgsh bJh nZi-

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

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eZbQ dh w?vheb ;kfJz; (medical science) dh ;jkfJsk tkbk o;sk fJ]fsnko eoBk th uzrk ;[Mkt j? b/feB fJ; w[Zd/ ekoB sbke eoDk iK T[; gq/wh Bkb ftnkj jh Bk eokT[Dk, pj[s rbs ;'uDh dk b]kfJe j?. 51H Xosh s/ nB/eK jh nfij/ gq/wh jB i' fpBK ekwg{osh (;ohoe tk;Bk s'I T[go T[m e/) d/ ofjzd/ jB ns/ eJh n?;/ ftnkj/ i'V/ th jB i' fJZe d{i/ ~ ftekoK s'I T[go T[mk e/ fJ; fpBQK th fiT_{d/ jB. go ! nkw s"o s/ fiBQK ~ n;hI ftnkj[sk ekw:kp gsh gsBh ;wMh p?m/ jK, T[BQK d/ fynkb sK nkg; ftZu fwbd/ Bjh_, fJZe d{i/ Bkb ;wkie pzXB eoe/, T[BQK ~ ekwg{osh bJh ;kEh tosBk g+dk j? iK ;kEh dh JhB wzBDh g+dh j?. eJh gq/whnK d/ MrV/ fJ;/ rZb s/ j' iKd/ jB fe ekw fsqgsh BjhI j' ;edh. go fiBQK gq/whnK ftZu ;Zu/ gq/wh tKrz{ f]nkbK dk, nkswk (soul to soul) dk w/b j? sK ekw, fJ; gq/w ftZu nkN/ #u b{D wkso th Bjh_, ekw dk w[Zb fgnko d/ Bkw j/mK gk;e{ th BjhI j[zdk. fJj ;'uBh rZbs j? fe e/tb ekw fsqgsh dh T{DskJh ekoB d' ny"sh ÷qwhnK dk ftnkj Bk eokT[Dk ns/ ftnkj[sk i'fVnK dk sbke j'Dk. n;hI fJ; Bk}[e B[es/ ~ fJZE/ ftukfonk j?. fJ; b/y okjhI oZp dh fdZsh ekw Fesh dh fBzdk iK dpkD (suppress) dh rZb n;hI BjhI eo oj/ jK pbfe fJ; Fesh ~ tos e/ (;ziw #u fbnk e/) ;wki ns/ fJB;kBhns bJh T[;ko{ ezw th ehs/ ik ;ed/ jB. e/tb fJ; Bkb pZu/ pDkT[D/ ns/ ekwg{osh sZe ;hfws ihtB #u yfus BjhI j'Dk ukjhdk. fJ; w}w{B T[&Zs/ ;wki, vkeNoh ns/ wB'ftfrnkB (psychology) d/ B[es/ s'I tX/o/ y'i eoe/ d[BhnK #u gquko j'Dk ukjhdk j?. i/eo oZp ih B/ ;kv/ ;oho ~ fJj r[D o{gh ]}kBk pyfFnk j? sK ;k~ fJ; ~ gkg ;wMD dh pikJ/ fJ; pko/ y[bQ e/ ;wMDk ns/ ;wM-;wM e/, ikro{e j' e/ fJ;

fdb ~ fdbK dh okj

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fgnko ftnkj

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