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LEAVING THAT WHICH DOES NOT CONCERN YOU A lesson on leaving that which does not concern you based on the commentaries of the famous hadith, stories and comments made by Imam al-Ghazali in his book Minhaj al-Abideen. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------
Teacher: Shaykh Abdal Aziz Ahmed Born and educated in Nottingham. Qualified as a teacher from Leicester, taught in England, Scotland, USA, South Africa and Saudi Arabia. He has travelled to Tunisa, Hijaz, Yemen, Turkey and East Africa for Islamic Studies. Studied under Al-Habib Ahmed Mashur, Al Haddad (Jeddah), Shaykh Abdul Rahman Al Khitamy (Kenya), Fethullah Gulen (Turkey), Abdul Qsim Bin Zein (Qairnawan, Tunisia). Spent 10 years with Shaykh Mahmud Galal, a lecturer at Al Azhar. Translated Al Risalah Al Jamiah of Ahmed Bin Zein Al Habashi. Edited some books from Riali Al Nur and speeches of Fethullah Gulen.
Leaving that which does not concern you On the authority of Abu Huriarah, the Messenger of Allah, upon him be peace, said:
"�������� � �� ������ � �������� ������ ������ ���" From the excellence of a person’s Islam is his leaving that which does not concern him. (Tirmidhi, Ahmed and Ibn Majah)
This is said to be one of the most important ahadith in the Islamic tradition. One can understand its importance from the statement of Al-Qalyubi that ‘if someone concentrates on the necessities of his life, his living in this world and safety on the journey back (to his Creator) – and these are very few compared to the things that do not concern him - he will be protected from much harm. Safety from much harm is itself much good’. He adds that ‘whoever knows that his words are part of his actions would speak very little except about that which concerns him.’ The hadith is also connected to the principle that Muslims are like ‘one body’. Those who practice ‘excellence in their Islam’ help each other in their spiritual development. Speaking about that which does not concern you, at worst, leads those around you into bad habits and characteristics and at best wastes your time and theirs. In this regard, when al-Ahnaf ibn Qays was asked from where he learned gentility (�����), he replied, ‘from myself’. When asked how this could be, he replied ‘whenever I saw something that I did not like in someone I worked on never allowing that characteristic to appear in myself.’ It is important that one concentrates only on that which concerns you, for example, reading Quran, making istighfar (seeking forgiveness), etc. The scholars and righteous ones took a lot of care to avoid falling into that which does not concern them. It has been reported that Hasan bin Sinan passed by a room with a newly built wall. He said to himself ‘how long ago was this wall built?’ On realising what he had said, he condemned his own nafs saying ‘O deceitful soul how dare you ask about that which does not concern you’. He then treated this fault by fasting for one year. Speaking only about that which concerns you is the way of the righteous and the opposite is the way of Shaytan. Shaytan wants people to waste their time as he knows that one’s lifespan is a ‘gem’ and ‘one’s capital’ in this world. If it is wasted he is pleased. For this reason, the one that calls others to that which does not concern them is described as a ‘shaytana’ (female of Shaytan) and the one that follows is a shaytan. He upon him be peace said:
"��"�� ������ � � ��� �� ���� �ﻥ The male shaytan follows the female shaytan. (Ibn Majah, Abu Dawud and Ibn Hibban)
Al-Munawi says that he or she is called a shaytana because of his or her ‘distance from the truth, turning from worship and inviting to that which does not concern him’. Shaytan takes you away from Allah. Al-Hasan said that ‘from the signs of Allah’s rejection of a slave is his allowing him to get involved in that which does not concern him.’
For this reason, the Messenger, upon him be peace, warned that:
����� � ���� ���� ������ ������� ��� ������� ����� �ﻥ The people with the most sins on the Day of Resurrection are those who spoke the most about that which did not concern them (related by al-Suyuti who said it was sound)
Speaking about that which does not concern you can be a cause for Allah’s blessings to be restricted. Malik ibn Dinar said ‘if you see hardness in your heart and weakness in your body and lack of provision, know that you have spoken about something which does not concern you. The Messenger feared that the vices of the tongue would overcome his nation. It is reported that Sufyan bin Abdullah, may Allah be pleased with him asked him, upon him be peace, what he feared most for him. He, upon him be peace, took his own tongue indicating the enormity of the vices of the tongue. The Messenger of Allah, upon him be peace, taught Ali, may Allah enoble his face, a supplication for increasing his ability to memorise the Quran. It included the words:
������� � �� ������ ��� ������� And show mercy to me by not burdening me with that which does not concern me. (al-Tirmidhi) May Allah show us all mercy by keeping us away from that which does not concern us and protect us from the evils of our nafs and our tongues. Amin.
The dua for increasing memory
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