Journey Into Better Relationship - Patience

Journey into Better Relationship Lesson 2 Patience

15 Ingredients that require love as their foundation  These

ingredients are like the ones you use for a cake—if one is left out, the cake is lacking.  If we leave out one of these 15 ingredients our relationship will be lacking.  Built on a foundation of love these 15 characteristics are the building blocks to better relationship.

MEANING OF PATIENCE Makroqumevw - greek  

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to be of a long spirit, not to lose heart to persevere patiently and bravely in enduring misfortunes and troubles to be patient in bearing the offenses and injuries of others – to be mild and slow in avenging – to be long-suffering, slow to anger, slow to punish – Taking a long time to boil

Patience  Developing patience

requires divine help because our natural tendency is to be impatient with people.  Proverbs 14:29 – A patient man has great understanding but a quick tempered man displays folly.  To be patient, we must understand that we are all different; we are each one of a kind.

Cont. Patience  We

need patience with people because our differences create misunderstandings. God sees us differently then others. First Samuel 16:7b - The Lord does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart. I often fail to demonstrate patience because I can’t see the heart of man therefore I look at only what I see; which can be misleading. Impatience results in a lack of love. Ephesians 4:2b – Be patient, bearing with one another

We must mature in patience  There

are four things we must do if we are to mature, or grow in patience – – – –

We must remember how patient God is with us We must be willing to forgive We must overlook the faults of others We must be willing to listen

We must remember How patient God is with us  Patients puts up with

a lot of things.  I Timothy 1:16 Howbeit for this cause I obtained mercy, that in me first Jesus Christ might shew forth all longsuffering, for a pattern to them which should hereafter believe on him to life everlasting.

We must be willing to forgive Unwillingness to forgive is the greatest enemy of patience. All of us are prone to lose our patience at times, even with people we dearly love.  Proverbs 19:11 - Smart people know how to hold their tongue; their grandeur is to forgive and forget.  How many times should we forgive – seventy times seven – how many times is that (490) or unlimited 

We must be willing to overlook each other faults 

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None of us are perfect, and we all have some weird personality traits or idiosyncrasies that must be overlooked. Also we all have bad days when we are not very likeable. Proverbs 12:16 - Fools have short fuses and explode all too quickly; the prudent quietly shrug off insults. When someone annoys us or insults us, it is only natural to retaliate, but this only hurts the relationship. Proverbs 15:1 - A gentle response defuses anger, but a sharp tongue kindles a temperfire.

We must be willing to listen Most of us have a real problem listening because we would rather talk.  We develop patience by practicing our listening skills, but we also earn the right to be heard by listening.  People are not going to listen to us until they have said all they want to say.  The only way to understand a person is by listening, especially if tension is involved. 

James 1:19 • Post this at all the intersections, dear friends: Lead with your ears, follow up with your tongue, and let anger straggle along in the rear.

Motivation for patience  God

never commands us to do anything He doesn’t do Himself.  2 Peter 3:9 God isn't late with his promise as some measure lateness. He is restraining himself on account of you, holding back the End because he doesn't want anyone lost. He's giving everyone space and time to change.

Luke 23:34 – Jesus prayed, "Father, forgive them; they don't know what they're doing."