Honesty

What do you consider the following: Honest or Dishonest Telling a lie 1% 98% Situation: A guy tells his parents he is going to a specific friend’s home, but actually only stops at that friend’s house on the way to

Totally Honest

1

Shady, but OK

2

3

Totally Dishone st

4

5

1% 3% 20% 41% 35 %

What do you consider the following: Honest or Dishonest Spreading Gossip 5% 94% Situation: While talking with a friend on the phone a person tells that friend something that is confidential about another friend.

Totally Honest

1

Shady, but OK

2

3

Totally Dishone st

4

5

3% 4% 11% 25% 58 %

What do you consider the following: Honest or Dishonest Taking something that 2% 97% doesn’t belong to you

Situation: A person receives back too much change after paying for lunch, and keeps it.

Totally Honest

1

Shady, but OK

2

3

Totally Dishone st

4

5

2% 4% 14% 22% 59%

Which is worse? Cheating 2% Lying 19% Gossiping 7%

Stealing Difference 36%

No 59%

Tax Evasion No Difference 23%

55%

Shoplifting Difference 46%

No

The “Report Card on the Ethics of American Youth,” a study of the habits of 12, 474 students in grades 9-12, found: 2000 % of students who admitted cheating on a test at least once within the past year. % that had lied to their parents in the last year.

2002

70% 74%

92% 93%

% that had lied to their teachers. % that said they would lie to get a job.

78% 83%

(Information obtained from the Josephson Institute of Ethics, www.josephsoninstitute.org)

However, given these responses, students ironically, overwhelmingly (95%) indicated that they agreed with the following statement:

It is important to me that people trust me. (Information obtained from the Josephson Institute of Ethics, www.josephsoninstitute.org)

Surveys Indicate: Students do know whether an act is honest or dishonest. Students will often respond according to their perceived best end. Students see degrees of honesty.

Surveys Indicate: Students do know whether an act is honest or dishonest. Students will often respond according to their perceived best end. Students see degrees of honesty. Students do not fully understand the benefits of honesty and/or the consequences

Rebuilding Trust Punitive costs of broken trust Military Parents Loss of specific privileges

Loss of specific privileges

Loss of good standing in the wing

Loss of proper standing in the home

Administrative sanctions

More notification required

Rebuilding Trust Rehabilitative costs of broken trust Military (Honor Probation) Parents REFLECTION No early release from probation. No exceptions.

REFLECTION No early release from period of disciplinary action. No exceptions.

Rebuilding Trust Rehabilitative costs of broken trust Military (Honor Probation) Parents REHABILITATION

REHABILITATION

A presentation at the beginning and end of probation

Secure a written commitment to telling the truth

Keeping a daily journal w/entries about honor, integrity, morals, & values

Assign a book or chapter of book for reading on honesty/integrity

Rebuilding Trust Rehabilitative costs of broken trust Military (Honor Probation) Parents REHABILITATION

REHABILITATION

Counseling

Meet together to pray

Meet with a mentor

Meet with a mentor

Complete a project, which educates the whole wing on honor and integrity

Apologize to the whole family, asking for their forgiveness

Rebuilding Trust Rehabilitative costs of broken trust Military (Honor Probation) Parents RESTORATION Evaluation & completion

RESTORATION Evaluate and grant your trust. No matter what is done to earn back your trust, you, at some point, must grant it.

Keep the first commandment. Loving God is a passion that requires cultivation, discipline, and renewal.

Stay focused on a vision. A shared vision or mission keeps me focused on what is important and that which ultimately bears lasting fruit in my life.

Live in community. I need help for True North living. I will find a friend or friends who will keep me accountable to stay on True North.