Essentials Of Counselling

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Prof. Lakshman Madurasinghe, PhD Consultant Psychologist, Attorney

What is Counselling ? Why do we need it ?

Counselling may be defined as 1.providing help and support to a client

2. creating a climate of acceptance

3. Assisting the client to explore, understand and act (EUA)

It is a dynamic relationship between two or more persons- A QUANTUM MODEL

consilium….grasp with sellan….to sell or deliver counselling is delivered and counselee grasps together with counsellor

GOALS AN D AI MS OF CO UNSELLIN G

To understand the counselee’s current situation. To understand how he has tried to handle the problem. To understand his view of the problem……….

To understand his emotional reactions. To evaluate the total problem. To help him clarify his life situation

Prof . Edwi n Herr…. Hypothesi s testi ng

Triple filter of Integrity Honest Accountable Just & Equitable

Herrmann Brain-dominance instrument Left brain- logical thinkers left brain –limbic- sequential thinkers Right brain- holistic thinkers Right-brain-limbic- emotional thinkers

Spect Analysis What happens if full brain is not used

What is the reality around us ?

Confucius in Analects says Wealth and honour are what every person desires. But if they have been obtained in violation of moral principles, they must not be kept

Socrates in Apology says The moral person does not put money or anything above virtue

EastIndiaChina/Japan1000+ BCE Judaism: Moses 1500-1350 BCE Hinduism: 2000 BCE  600 BCE Zoroastrianism: Zoroaster 628-527 BCE Jainism: Mahavira 599-527 BCE Buddhism:

Taoism: Lao Tse 580-500 BCE Confucianism: Confucius 551-579 BCE 100 CE Christianity: Jesus 1-33 CE Shinto: 100 CE600 CE Islam: Muhammad 570-636 CE

Shakespeare on Roses A

rose by any other name smells as sweet……..

Mini wars, hostages, hi-jackings, hundred other horrors and terrors is disquieting. Inside society there is societal entropy. Crimes are escalating. Violence and vices are spiraling.

Counsel ling is not…. .

Advice giving Opinion giving Sympathizing

Counsel ling is not…. .

Giving practical help Not simply interviewing Not simply listening

Skills are gradual not sudden , so constant practice is vital a few months……

to Counselling Client Centred- Carl Rogers Psychodynamic- Freud Gestalt- Frit Perls Humanistic- RET-Ellis Personal Construct- Kelly Behavioural- Watson, Skinner Transactional AnalysisBerne

WHAT ARE THE 3 P’S

Premise Person Process

Premise Human interaction is primary to life 1. 2.

Interdependence Independence

Person Accept 3 factors 1. Recognize importance of spiritual values 2. Love others as self 3. Accept self as human

Counsellor’s qualities

Empathy Some answers Implies risk emotional involvement concern connection between you and the man

Empathy To understand someone from his point of view, by sensing and experiencing his feelings and perspective Apathy; Empathy, Sympathy

Empathy Negotiation Conflict Management Managing diversity Developing others Customer needs networking

Counsellor’s qualities 1. Empathy- Your hurt is my hurt 2. Positive regard 3. Genuineness 4. Concreteness

Counsellor’s qualities 5. Clear thinking 6. Common sense 7. Self awareness 8. Warmth

Counsellor’s Motivation

Counsellor’s Motivation 1. The need for relationships 2. The need to control

Counsellor’s Motivation 3. The need to rescue 4. The need for information

Counsellor’s

Motivation

5. Just fashionable…..

Some don’ts in Counselling Don’t Moralize Don’t compare with your experience Don’t offer advice on personal and emotional issues Don’t tell the client they don’t feel a certain way- of course you are not depressed…..

Counsellor’s Role

Counsellor’s Role 1. Being hasty instead of deliberate 2. Being disrespectful instead of sympathetic

Counsellor’s Role 3. Being judgmental instead of unbiased 4. Being directive instead of interpretive

Counsellor’s Role 5. Emotionally over involved 6.Artificial- not authentic

The Counselee The Counselee’s rights must be respected 6.Right to speak and be heard 7.Right to his/her opinion 8.Right to defend him/herself 9.Right to personal philosophy

The process

Moving Interviews forward

3 Stages Understand Explore Act

Check list of essentials 1. Why does he need help

at this time 2. What has he already done towards solving the problem 3. What help has he already received

Check list of essentials 4. What help does he still need 5. Spiritual needs 6. Plan of action

Unski lled responses

4.Me too 6.If I were you 8.Yes, but

Active listening is a learned skill and not a natural attribute

Listening Assessment

Effective Listening behaviour SOLER 1. Sitting squarely 2. Open position 3. Leaning forward 4. Eye contact 5. Relaxing

Check Li st of listeni ng ski ll s

Be Be Be Be Be Be

accepting concerned patient specific honest faithful

1. Be Accepting Take a non-judgmental stance Accept him for what he is Accept him for where he is

2. Be Concerned Caring and willing to get involved Attentive to what the client says Your motivation is love

3. Be patient The client sets the schedule Giving time suggests interest Do not force the pace

4. Be specific Ask specific questions Give concrete statements Confront inconsistencies

5. Be honest Respond in a way that reflects your feelings Your responses are to be congruent with your feelings Your responses should be gracious

6. Be faithful Absolute confidentiality Refrain from passing along info given by client Always keep an appointment with client

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