Celebrating, Motivating, And Educating

Volume VI

CELEBRATING, MOTIVATING, AND EDUCATING

Real WOMEN

Melissa Birdsong What’s cookin’ mama?

Ashley McGuinn Dooley At home with Ashley

Donna Summers

A Lexington pacesetter

Palliative Care

Hospice Care of Tri-County Cayce, Chapin, Columbia, Irmo, Lexington, West Columbia, and White Knoll

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From the Editor 3 Melissa Birdsong What’s cookin’ mama?

Ashley McGuinn Dooley At home with Ashley

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Donna Summers

A Lexington pacesetter

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Palliative Care

Hospice Care of Tri-County Cayce, Chapin, Columbia, Irmo, Lexington, West Columbia, and White Knoll

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Editor-In-Chief:

Lori Samples Duncan ([email protected])

Project Coordinator: Lauri Truesdale

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Continuing to Cruise for Success 2009 My ordeal Future Lexington women to look for! What’s cookin’ mama? Recipes you’ll love Lori Harmon Moroz Debbie Summers – a Lexington pacesetter Lexington Woman loves Lexington men!

Contributing Writers: Ruth Chapman Allen Cook Edna Cox Hima Dalal Dr. Briana Davis Lori Samples Duncan Dr. John Moore Lydia Ramsey Elaine Samples Jody Truesdale Martha Windsor

Cover Photo:

Clark Berry Photography

Publication Layout and Ad Design: Melissa Wates

Education

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Kids

20 Margaret Jones O’Hara – “Maggie” 21 Timbwerwolves cheerleader takes down gator

Health & Wellness

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Melissa Backman Holiday survival skills Are contact lenses a good choice for kids? Assessing the needs of your loved ones Why not tonight? Losing weight with HealthSource Chiropractic Palliative care

Photography:

Angie Roper Photography Clark Berry Photography Cathy Lindner Cynthia Pace Photography Dream Weaver Photos

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Let it be “Your Style of Success” – Ladies of State Farm Agency Greeting card tango: How to impress, not stress, during the holidays Bathed in color At home with Ashley McGuinn Dooley Portrait of the artist

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48 Lexington County Recreation and Aging Commission 49 Meet a Rockette – Jessica Park 50 Trends for 2009

Celebrating the Survivor in You

51 About our Survivor section 52 Daddy didn’t deserve it 54 Aqua Power 57 Joan Robinson 58 Toni Kelly

Business & Web Directory 59 A Personal Note 60

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hank you for choosing to take the time to read this edition of Lexington Woman. I am continually amazed at how blessed I am to share my thoughts and referrals to the women of Lexington. We of course believe the businesses in these pages are the best of the best. This year has seen many new and exciting things for us in Lexington and nationally. It has brought many challenges and triumphs for us as well. I personally have learned many things about myself this year. I am making it a point to discover those things and to also clear my life of some things that were quiet frankly long over due. I invite you all to do the same. I am excited about the upcoming holiday season, and we here at Lexington Woman are especially excited about this holiday edition. I hope you find it filled with fun and tradition. We love the fall. My children and I talk about the many changes that are all around us, and the way that the cool weather and the color explosion of fall looks like God repainted for the holidays on the canvas of our lives. The smell of fires burning in fireplaces and wood stoves fill the crisp autumn air. Wearing scarves and blowing icy air at each other before heading off to school are just a few of life’s simple pleasures. Fall always meant that my own father would go hunting on the weekends, and I remember hearing his truck and waiting excitedly with my siblings to see what Daddy or an uncle had brought home from the hunt. Camouflage and orange vests remind me of pick-up trucks filled with big, outdoor smelling men and how their smiles seemed to span their faces as they talked excitedly about the one that got away. Happy laughter from October until January with all the excitement that started at Halloween and ran straight into the new year was something we always counted on. I hope that in the Duncan home we have continued those traditions, from making ghouly goodies to a Christmas wish list. I love this time of year and all the love and laughter that it inspires. We invited Mrs. Williams’ first grade class to share a favorite memory with us for our holiday issue; I hope you enjoy reading them as much as I did. I want to encourage you to take a moment as you read to ask your children to share with you some of their own holiday memories and put them somewhere safe for your family to enjoy again someday. We want to wish you a wonderful and safe holiday season from all of us at Lexington Woman. May God bless and keep you,

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Things we love about Lexington! by Lori Samples Duncan

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ere are some of the things we love about Lexington:

We love “This Man Called Jesus” at Lake Murray Baptist Church. I think everyone should take their families to this community event. It is moving and beautifully depicted by men and women who put on this performance every year. We love the Trans-Siberian Orchestra at the Colonial Life Center, and the beautiful sounds and vibrant colors make me want to wrap presents when I get home. The crisp weather is the perfect setting for this wonderful holiday concert. I encourage you to take your family this year. You will be impressed. We love The Studio in Lexington for hand made gifts and gifts that will be cherished for lifetimes. The artist, Karen Petta, and her staff have a wonderful way of embellishing your child’s handprint or footprints, or even fingerprints to make lovely gifts and keepsakes. Last year, we made Christmas plates for the children, and we plan to eat on them at Christmas dinner for years to come. We love the M. Gallery at the Old Mill where you can find prints from local artists like Melony Stuckey. Read about Melony in this edition. Melony also has note cards made from her art that make a great gift for yourself or a favorite gal pal.

We love Sugar Cookie Dolls. These are creations by cancer survivor, Toni Kelly, and she lives right here in Lexington county. They are a must have this season for your girlfriends and your little girls. They are precious. You can find out how to order from this locally owned business at www. sugarcookiedolls.com. We love Aeto Botanica Hair Products. You can find them on Main Street at Palmetto Styles. You will not be able to use anything else again! They make your hair look thick, lustrous, and soft as silk — great for color treated hair. We love Harmon’s Tree Farm and The Corn Maze. These great favorites are two traditions that my family and I partake in every year. There’s nothing like getting lost together in a corn maze for some good fall laughs. It’s wonderful to wrap yourself in tradition new and old. Aqua Detox at Vital Energy Therapy cleanses your body through your feet, which is the most porous part of your body. It’s a thirtyminute detoxification that purifies and releases toxins from your entire system. While you are ‘detoxing’ the water changes colors to signify which part of the body is being purified.

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Continuing to Cruise for Success 2009 by Lori Samples Duncan

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n May 28th over 50 local ladies joined me for one of the best events Lexington Woman has ever hosted, our “Cruisin’ for Success Boat Tour.” We spent two hours cruising around Lake Murray on the Southern Patriot. Clark Berry was on site to photograph the evening and a host of fabulous Lexington women showed up to support Lexington Woman. Chemo with Style provided refreshments, and Dupre Catering put together a delicious menu that was complimented by Bliss Gourmet

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Cupcakery cupcakes…mmmm delicious. Heidi Black of Bringing You Baskets also provided wonderful fudge, and the weather was beautiful. Celebrating our third year in Lexington, we wanted to host an event that would be a night of fun and great company. It was a “ladies only” event, and we had a blast. Just as we did in the last issue, we have chosen several ladies who were a part of our Cruisin’ for Success Boat Tour to feature in this edition. I hope you enjoy reading about the

wonderful ladies who joined us that evening as much as we enjoyed spending a few hours with them. Again, thanks to each of these ladies for hopping on board, leaving the world behind for a couple of hours and making the cruise such a special night. Let’s plan to do it again next year! In this issue, you will read articles featuring Debbie Summers, Lori Moroz, and Ashley McGuinn Dooley. Debbie and Ashley are also featured on the cover of this issue, along with guest Melissa Birdsong. Clark and Becki Berry joined us at a McGuinn model home in the Pleasant Hills subdivision for our cover shoot. We had a wonderful time creating the cover, and of course, the model home was amazing. Call Ashley McGuinn Dooley to inquire about it. I want to thank these ladies and all of the ladies who participated in our Cruisin’ for Success Boat Tour — it was a lovely evening. www.lexingtonwoman.sc



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My ordeal by Ruth Chapman

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n May of this past year I made a momentous decision. My doctor and I discussed a partial hysterectomy, and I was all for it. I have been having trouble with heavy periods and cramping my entire mature life and I was ready for it to be over. I’m 44 years old, and my husband and I have decided that we are happy with our family size. So, it seemed fitting that I would undergo this procedure. Because I would not be able to swim or get in the water at the beach, I put off the surgery until September. That was mistake number one. I spent all summer trying NOT to think about the upcoming surgery. One of the big-

would not be a problem. She even asked me several times to reschedule, but I was tired of worrying about the surgery and could not put it off any longer. Finally, the summer was over, the kids were back in school and Labor Day had come and gone. I began having tremendous headaches over the Labor Day weekend and worked like crazy to get a few projects around the house completed, just in case….On Tuesday, September 8, 2009, I was to have a pre-op appointment with my OB/GYN and then another pre-op appointment with the anesthesiologist. That was the first time I had ever

now a work–in patient in an OB-GYN office, I became low priority. Several pregnant women came into the waiting room and sat, only to be taken back relatively quickly. My appointment was around lunch time and of course I had not eaten yet. An hour and a half later I was called back. The nurse pricked my finger and took my blood pressure, and I asked her if she thought the doctor would examine me. Her response was that he would simply talk to me to see if I had any questions and to make sure I had not changed my mind. That was not something I had even considered. In

So, I came out of the bathroom and the first thing I saw was a bulletin board with pictures of the doctor holding newborn babies. It hit me like a ton of bricks. photo by Clark Berry Photography

gest issues that went through my mind was what if I don’t wake up from the anesthesia? Or what if I’m down too long and become a vegetable? Who will take care of my family? I didn’t want my husband to have to make any hard decisions about whether to remove me from a ventilator, etc. I tend to dwell and overthink things sometimes. So every time an issue came up about the surgery, I intentionally did not think or talk about it and pushed it back in my mind. In fact, I told relatively few people. I only told my mom in July. Unbeknownst to me, my mom and dad had a 3 week vacation planned, and I soon found out that she would not be in town during the surgery. I was very disappointed but determined it 

(left to right) Ruth Chapman with her mother, Beverly Abdalla, and daughter, Christine Chapman heard about a pre-op with anesthesia, but it made sense. So, I arrived on time, by myself, driving up to the 6th floor parking garage, taking the elevator to the 7th floor, walking through the large waiting room to my doctor’s small waiting room. I signed in and sat down. That’s when the trouble began. When I signed in the secretary asked me why I was there. I told her I was there for my pre-op. She said, “Don’t you remember, we cancelled your surgery.” WHAT??? I had no idea what she was talking about. Long story short, she had me confused with another patient. She asked to sit and she would work it out. A little while later she told me everything was okay, and we were still on. Because I was

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fact, her words rang through my mind for next fifteen minutes. I was finally taken back to the room, asked to empty my bladder and have a seat on the table. I was pretty nervous and starving by this time. So, I came out of the bathroom and the first thing I saw was a bulletin board with pictures of the doctor holding newborn babies. It hit me like a ton of bricks. Next, I sat on the table and sitting directly in front of me on a small table was a magazine with two very pregnant women on the cover. Trying to block the images from my mind, I looked to my left at a blank wall except for a picture of a dock leading out to the water. I took it as a sign, and I began to tear up.

Let’s Talk Four tissues later, the doctor came in the room. By the time he came in I was bordering on hysteria. To his credit, he stayed with me, asking me several questions trying to determine the source of my concern. He asked if I had wanted more children. I ticked off, barely able to speak at this point, why I shouldn’t have any more children. I’m 44 years old, I have a daughter about to graduate high school and we have no more room in our house! I also mentioned that my mom was out of town and was not able to be with me during the surgery and that I am Catholic. It was very difficult to talk at this point, and I felt I was blubbering. He finally said that the surgery needed to be postponed at the very least, so that I did not get depressed by doing something I was going to regret. He went over several alternatives to the hysterectomy, but I am sure I did not hear much of what he said. He finally told me to take all the time I needed and we would talk again at another time. He closed the door, and I burst out crying! I cried hysterically for several minutes. I feel it necessary to explain that I am NOT an overly emotional person, but I could not stop crying. I also realized that I couldn’t hide in this room forever. I tried to “dry it up” as best I could, rinsed my face in the sink and tried to muster the courage to walk out of the room to face whomever was out there.

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Never have I been more embarrassed about being overly emotional. But, I am a female going through a life changing decision, and I think I am entitled. I was pleasantly surprised to find that no one was at the desk, and except for one nurse I passed in the hallway briefly, my fast walk to the car was uneventful. I cried hysterically all the way home from downtown Columbia to the outer skirts of Lexington. I walked in the house, lay on the bed and cried some more.

Wearing flowers in my hair and taking pictures by the tree at Christmas.

- Zoe P.

At Christmas when I got my glass jewelry box. It made me feel good, and I still have it.

- Savannah R.

Santa brought me a big plastic horse. It was a total surprise.

- Emily T.

Never have I been more embarrassed about being overly emotional. But, I am a female going through a life changing decision, and I think I am entitled. I have come to the conclusion that a hysterectomy is NOT for me. I keep thinking about never being able to have another baby. And even though my husband and I don’t necessarily want any more children, I still want the option left open. Is that crazy?

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Future Lexington women to look for! Christa Danielle Hall

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hrista Danielle Hall is a junior, Honors student at Lexington High School. She has a passion for life and others. Christa has been taking piano for 9 years, clarinet for 6 years, and taught herself to play oboe and the flute. She is now taking private oboe lessons and plays oboe in the concert band and marches with the clarinet. She is Secretary of the Lexington High School Marching Band and loves the camaraderie of the band family dearly. She is also Vice President of Future Business Leaders of America for the

ture and history. She also participated as an Alumni of People to People Student Ambassadors in President Obama’s inauguration. She is a leader in her community, not only in school but in her faith as well. She is a very fun, loving, caring, and giving person. I know Christa will go on to do great things with her life and will become a leader in the community wherever she is. —Norma J. Hall

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Lexington Technology Center. She won first place at state competition this past year in the Business Communications category and went to the National Competition in Anaheim, California this past summer to compete. She is a member of Lake Murray Baptist Church and has participated in the drama “This Man Called Jesus” for the past six years. She also sings with the youth choir “Priority” for Mt. Horeb United Methodist Church and plays oboe in their church orchestra. Christa participated in the People to People Student Ambassadors during the summer of 2008 and spent 3 weeks touring European countries to learn their cul

eautiful, talented, and smart! Mallie Bray and Sara Platt are triple threats. Both of these young ladies attend Northside Middle School and are in the 8th grade. Not only are the girls on the honor roll at school, they also take classes at the Columbia Conservatory of Dance six days a week. Both girls have a passion for ballet, but their other dance classes also include jazz, lyrical and tap. Mallie and Sara take part in the Annual Ballet Productions of The Nutcracker and Dracula. One of the owners of the Conservatory, Mariclare Miranda says that both Mallie and Sara are well rounded and serious dancers with positive attitudes.

at the Kids Artistic Review in Myrtle Beach. Also, she was Little Miss South Carolina in the year 2007-2008. Not only does Sara dance and do pageants, she also volunteers. Sara volunteers for organizations such as Palmetto Health Children’s Hospital and First Ladies’ Walk for Life. She is also the founder of GrandPals, a volunteer group that provides pen pals and visitors to nursing home residents. Mallie Bray was awarded a tap scholarship through the conservatory for the 2009-2010 season. She also accepted an invitation to New York to take lessons with the Radio City Rockettes and Steps on Broadway in 20072008. After graduation Mallie plans to head to New York to pursue her dreams as a professional dancer. Both of these young ladies have bright futures as they plan to pursue dance in their careers. Until then, we are fortunate to watch them perform in local productions.

Sara Platt was the winner of the 2009 National Photogenic Competition

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What’s cookin’ mama? One on one with Melissa Birdsong

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2W: Melissa, we all want to know about your weight loss of course, but…I really want our readers to know about your accomplishments in the kitchen. Can you tell us about some of the awards you have won? Melissa: I started competing about 5 years ago. My first competition was the peach recipe contest at the Lexington County Peach Festival. I won first place with a Peach

brownies, candy, jams, jellies, preserves and pickles. It’s not so much the competition I enjoy, but more so challenging myself to see how creative I can get in the kitchen. W2W: Where do you think your love of cooking comes from? Melissa: I can honestly say without a doubt… I have NO earthly idea! It just happened out of the blue. When my husband and I met I could not boil water and that is the gospel truth! I actually spot welded a pot to my burner! Not only that, but my first attempt at

It’s not so much the competition I enjoy, but more so challenging myself to see how creative I can get in the kitchen.

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Melissa Birdsong Stuffed Pork Tenderloin with a Dijon Brandy Sauce. I was hooked from then on! The next year I placed with Goat Cheese and Peach Filled Wontons and Peachy Tortellini Salad. That year I also won the Farmer’s Shed Peach Cook-off with a Peach & Mascarpone Stuffed French Toast. Over the past five years I have won the SC State Spam Championship, the Farmer’s Shed Collard Contest, and various peach recipe contests. I placed in the top three of the National Fleishman’s Bake-Off, The National Pork Board Recipe Competition, KC Masterpiece Recipe Competition, Malt-O-Meal Recipe Competition, Hidden Valley Ranch Recipe Competition, SC State Nutritious Cookie Competition, and the Epicurious National Tailgating Recipe Competition. Currently I’ve won over 120 ribbons at the SC State Fair in breads, cakes, cookies, cheesecakes,

homemade pizza resulted in an uncooked, soggy dough crust, with so many things piled on top of it, you had to eat it with a spoon! Horrible. It literally took me years to go back into that kitchen. And even then it wasn’t by choice, but by necessity. My mother passed away 10 years ago this past March 28. After her death my sister and I realized neither of us were blessed with kitchen skills. The thought of no more Mama’s Chocolate Pound Cake or Banana Pudding, no more LiverNips, no more of her homemade Ham with Coca Cola glaze was unbearable! So, back in the kitchen I went, but this time on a mission to recreate all of mama’s specialties. I have no idea what had changed, but all of a sudden, I could cook. I mean really cook! It was more of a surprise to me than anyone, but sure enough everything started to turn out….right. More importantly, edible! The passion was born! The dishes went from mom’s ye old southern comfort faithfuls to original, creative appetizers, cheesecakes, you name it, out of nowhere I seemed

to be able to make it. I still laugh every time I think of about it. The first difficult recipe I tried was a Smoked Salmon Mousse and I remember running into the hall yelling, “My Mousse, Moussed! My Mousse, Moussed!” All I can tell you is I think my mother is still SOMEWHERE in that kitchen, putting her special touch on everything made there. W2W: How difficult was it to lose weight when you love to cook? Melissa: First, I have an extremely supportive husband who also likes to cook…and eat! He gladly agreed to finish all the extra pasta and mac and cheese for me! Portion control has been a major factor in this journey. I like to eat. A lot. I’m a self labeled foodie! Seriously, part of my joy in cooking is the challenge. So what better challenge than to turn the things I loved into light dishes. Who says healthy food has to be boring. I can promise you that not only have some of those lightened recipes turned out amazing, but no one could even tell the difference. It was just another way to challenge myself in the kitchen. Also, after creating these recipes I was chosen to be a Field Editor for Healthy Cooking Magazine which allowed me to use my passion for writing and my passion for cooking together. I will say again, healthy and nutritious does NOT have to be boring! W2W: Tell us what your total weight loss is and how you achieved it. Melissa: I began this lifestyle at 298 pounds and a size 28. I’ve lost over 100 pounds and 8 or 9 sizes depending on the style. I wish I could say that I woke up one morning and decided that I wanted to be thin or healthier. Or that I wanted to live longer for my family or something heart felt like that. But for me it didn’t happen that way. I woke up one morning and simply said, “enough.” Maybe it was seeing that little black hand on the scale so very close to 300 pounds. Really, other than that there was no reason or life altering thing causing that decision. I’ve never had self esteem issues or poor health. I’ve always been comfortable in my own skin. Just like my love for cooking…totally out of the blue. So I went online and started to research healthy www.lexingtonwoman.sc



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I’ve lost over 100 pounds and 8 or 9 sizes depending on the style. nutrition. The big picture was very scary and seemed impossible. I needed to lose 150 pounds. I knew that I did not want to have surgery or go on any medication. Although that is a viable option for some people, I wanted it to be all natural and most importantly realistic. I began developing weekly menus focused around 1600 calories a day and started walking on my lunch breaks. I cut out all white pasta, potatoes, breads and rice and added all whole grains. I had no sweets in the beginning except once ounce of dark chocolate in the evening. I drank water and sometimes Crystal Light. A Diet Mountain Dew was my treat once a week. I also joined a free online fitness service called Livestrong that allowed me to track my caloric intake daily along with protein, carbs, fat, etc. It began there by setting small, reasonable, achievable goals. I lost 15 pounds the first month and that gave me motivation to keep going. Before I knew it, the first year had passed, I had lost almost 100 pounds. One of my goals was that if I achieved the 100 pound mark, I wanted to do a cartwheel. They’re FUN right? So on that day, I did my first cartwheel in almost 20 years! W2W: What has changed about your life since you have lost the weight? Melissa: I’m the same person now as I was at 298 pounds, and truthfully I don’t see myself any different until I see pictures. Someone asked me if it was hard to see myself as the person in the photos now and I say no, it was harder to see myself in the old photos because I never saw myself that size. I guess the biggest change other than that is I look at food differently. I know that I am still a food addict and that I will always have to be mindful of what I eat. Not to say I don’t take a break once in a while, like for my favorite fair food! But as a rule of thumb, I have promised myself that I will maintain nutritious daily eating habits and that I will maintain my regular workout schedule. No excuses. That has been my motto through this entire experience. No excuses. Lord knows we all have them or can create them. Don’t get me wrong, I have had MAJOR slip ups 10

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Before... like the night now known as the Spaghetti and Red Wine Incident where I enjoyed several glasses of red wine….and two plates of spaghetti! One of my tricks has been to look at food, think of the calories in that food, and ask myself if eating that would be worth the time it takes to burn the calories off on what I affectionately call the Devilliptical (Elliptical). Most of the time I can say no. That night I said a resounding YES! So, chalk it up to being human and move on! W2W: What has been your favorite change? Melissa: My pair of size 10, Express Stella destroyed blue jeans! Oh my goodness I love those things! Really, it is so nice to not have to special order clothes. It is an absolutely amazing feeling to walk into a store and KNOW I can wear their clothing. It’s also nice to know I can wear clothes without the huge flower prints designers insist on using for larger clothing. I will never wear another huge floral print again as long as I live! Another thing that was one of the worst experiences of my life was the year I had to ask my husband to ride the rides at the fair with my daughter. I was afraid I wouldn’t fit. That is tough to admit. You learn to be honest with yourself through experiences like this. The honesty keeps you motivated. For the first time last year I rode every single ride there was to ride and for the first time in years, had absolutely no worries if I would fit in them. That was fantastic change! I know that’s silly. But it really meant a lot to me… just like the cartwheel!

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...After! W2W: Is there anything about your journey you would like to share with our readers? Melissa: Wow. Other than what I’ve said, I want people to know this is possible and worth it. I tried diet after diet after diet and failed time and time again. This time I found the RIGHT thing. I believe the right thing is out there for all of us no matter what addiction or hardship we face. I’ve realized there is a solution for every problem we just have to find it. I love the way my daughter tells me how proud of me she is. I love the way my husband has supported me every step of the way, being kind and sincere and just loving me no matter what size or weight I was. I love the way my daughters friends say I’m a sexy mom! (Giggling about that one) I sure never thought I’d ever hear THAT again! I love the way my sister and I can trade clothes! And I have made some amazing online friends along the way who have had the same nutrition goals; Kim, Lacey and Nikki who have become not only my best friends, but like sisters to me even though we all live so far apart. At the end of the day it is great to do things for others. For your family and friends and even complete strangers, but weight loss and lifestyle changes are something you have to do for yourself. You have to really want it. You have to accept it will be hard and trying at times and be willing to hang in there and move past that point. It’s a way to help yourself so you can help others. You have to be good to you first. Having a good positive support system like I do with my husband, my daughter, my sister, and my girls is also worth its weight in gold.

Let’s Talk I started this not being able to walk a mile. Now I can kickbox, I can do hours of step aerobics, I can run for five miles, I can do cartwheels! I have been able to discontinue several asthma meds as I have the best lung capacity I’ve had in 20 years. I still have about 25 pounds to go to reach goal, but I feel this amazing sense of accomplishment and I want others to feel it too. No matter your circumstances, or your lifestyle, where there’s a will, there’s a way and YOU CAN DO THIS. Just take baby steps….and be good to yourself. W2W: What is your favorite holiday tradition? Melissa: COOKING…ANYTHING! DUH! I think my favorite specific tradition is spending the night before Thanksgiving with my in-laws. (YES, I really do love my in-laws!) Then getting up at 4am with my father-in – law to perform the turkey rub down! We have coffee, I rub the turkey with butter and sing how you have to love your turkey, he makes jokes about the manner in which I rub the turkey, and we laugh. That’s always a really cool morning. Then we have a great thanksgiving meal with the family, watch my favorite sport in the world, football of course and plan out our shopping adventures for the next day as my mother-in-law proclaims, NEVER again! You will NEVER talk me into THAT again! You people are insane!!” Oh I am so excited already!!! Come on Thanksgiving!!!

My favorite specific tradition is spending the night before Thanksgiving with my in-laws. – Melissa Birdsong

Recipes you’ll love! by Melissa Birdsong

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1. Rosemary Roasted Cornish Hens with Root Vegetables & Fingerling Potatoes   4 cornish hens 1 bag baby carrots 1 small bag fingerling potatoes 1 container mushrooms 2 onions, quartered 2 celery stalks rough chopped 1 apple quartered ¼ cup melted Smart Balance margarine salt & pepper chopped fresh Rosemary

  Wash hens. Sprinkle the cavity of each hen with salt, pepper and half of the rosemary. Fill each cavity with one quarter apple, one quarter onion and celery. Place hens in a pan with vegetables and potatoes. Brush each hen, veggies and potatoes with melted margarine and sprinkle all with additional salt, pepper and remaining Rosemary. Roast at 400 degrees for about 20 minutes; reduce heat to 350 and continue roasting 30 minutes or until juices run clear. You can exchange the Rosemary for any herb of your choice.   2. Apple Gingerbread Cake  

¼ cup Smart Balance margarine  3 chopped apples ¾ cup Smart Balance margarine - warmed  1 tablespoon honey ½ cup Splenda ½ cup Splenda brown sugar 3 egg whites or eggbeaters 2 cups all-purpose wheat flour 2 teaspoons baking soda 2 teaspoons ground cinnamon 1 teaspoon pumpkin pie spice 1 teaspoon ground cloves ½ teaspoon ground ginger ¼ teaspoon salt ½ cup skim milk     ½ cup Smart Balance margarine, softened 1 cup confectioners’ sugar 1 (8 ounce) package fat free or reduced fat cream

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Melt ¼ cup of margarine in a large skillet over medium heat. Add the apples; cook and stir until tender. Set aside and allow to cool. Preheat the oven to 350 degrees. Grease and flour a bundt cake pan. In a large bowl, mix ¾ cup of margarine, honey, brown sugar and white sugar until light and fluffy. Beat in the egg whites until blended. Combine the flour, baking soda, cinnamon, pumpkin pie spice, cloves, ginger and salt; stir into the batter, with the milk. Stir in the cooked apples. Pour into cake pan. Bake 30 minutes or until toothpick is clean.   To make the frosting, mix together the butter, confectioners’ sugar, vanilla and cream cheese until smooth. Drizzle over cake.   3. Walnut & Goat Cheese Mixed Green Salad with Raspberry Balsamic Vinaigrette   Salad: 1 bag mixed greens ½ cup walnuts ½ cup crumbled goat cheese ½ cup cranberries ¼ thin sliced red onion

  Toss in salad bowl.   Dressing:

1 c. extra virgin olive oil ½ c. balsamic vinegar 3 to 5 cloves garlic, minced 3 tbsp. parmesan cheese ½ cup mashed raspberries salt and pepper to taste

  Mash raspberries through a sieve to remove seeds if desired. In blender, combine all ingredients together gradually adding the olive oil. Salt and pepper to taste.

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Let’s Talk

Lori Harmon Moroz Pine Press Printing

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2W: Please tell us a little about Pine Press Printing and the history of the company. Lori: Pine Press Printing was opened in October 1979 by Norbert Simpson and his wife, Jackie. Norb and Jackie moved to Lexington to be closer to her family after Norb retired from managing the Classified Department at the Cleveland Press in Cleveland, OH. The original location was on North Church

at Pine Press Printing. They were two of my first mentors in life and I felt like part of the family. After working in every department over the next 15 years, I had the opportunity to purchase the business in November, 1999. Now ten years later, we are still thriving, sur-

It challenges me everyday – the deadlines, the clients, the employees, the equipment! They are all a wonderful parts of this career. Street in downtown Lexington. We moved to our new location in 1988 on Ellis Avenue.

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W2W: When did you start the business or purchase it? Lori: I was a senior at Gilbert High School in October, 1984, as well as, a student of the Lexington Technology Center in the Graphics Program. During my senior year, I had the opportunity to intern with Norb Jackie Dream Ad 8/31/09 12:37 PM and Page 2

of hard work. Then you need to find the find personnel for the team. It takes a lot of team work, determination and getting involved in the community. A daily prayer doesn’t hurt either. W2W: What do you love about this career? Lori: It challenges me everyday – the deadlines, the clients, the employees, the equipment! They are all a wonderful parts of this career. I like to be challenged and printing, which encompasses so much more than ink on paper, greets me and the entire team at Pine Press Printing with challenges daily. I also love working with people and finding solutions for the clients that we are able to help through marketing their own businesses. W2W: What do you find most challenging? Lori: On this particular day – the economy! On every other day, the challenge is staying on the cutting edge of technology with our equipment, training and software. These are all integral parts of staying up to date to help with solutions for our clients.

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Lori-Harmon Moroz viving and growing stronger. W2W: How did you go about making your dream a reality? Lori: Making any dream a reality take a lot

W2W: How has Pine Press grown over the last five years? Lori: Pine Press Printing has grown particularly in the area of a strong team working together. The employees that are here today were here five years ago. This creates a relationship with clients of trust and stability. It allows me as an owner to work on the busi-

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Let’s Talk ness instead of in the business on a daily basis. Secondly, our equipment has evolved, today we are an environmentally-friendly printer. Our new digital printers and Heidelberg digital 4-color press allows us to be chemical free and waterless providing a safer and greener work environment. W2W: What is your vision for the future? Lori: I expect this economy can only stifle us so long and we will continue to grow. I am excited about moving forward, while we have leaned up and become stronger, this will allow us to become more profitable as we grow. Pine Press Printing will continue to support the community that we live and work in, by giving back, getting involved and shopping locally. W2W: What do you love about Lexington? Lori: There is so much to love about Lexington – the people, the places, the atmosphere and even the traffic. I grew up attending Gilbert High School one of the wonderful schools in Lexington School District #1, and now have the opportunity to live and work within the Town of Lexington. I have personally felt the safety that our award winning police department maintains and would suggest if you have not attended our Town of Lexington Police Citizen Academy – you should. You won’t regret it. W2W: Share with us a favorite quote or something about another female who has inspired you. Lori: My mother raised me with a loving and gentle spirit. She would be the angel that instilled in me the value of nurturing and taking care of those around you – family, friends and the community. I am so lucky to still have her in my life and continuing to support me and love me.

I expect this economy can only stifle us so long and we will continue to grow. I am excited about moving forward, while we have leaned up and become stronger, this will allow us to become more profitable as we grow. I have to mention Nikki Haley, a good friend who is inspiring me daily as I watch her strive for fiscal responsibility throughout our government. I admire her for her charisma and determination as she follows her dream of servitude leadership and making a difference that we as business owners can count on and trust.

My mom had a small tree on a table and it had rainbow candy canes on it for Christmas.

- Leonasia B.

It was the Christmas before my Nanny died, and she gave me a soccer doll and a cheerleader doll. It made me happy.

- Savannah G.

One Christmas I got this yellow car I always wanted. I play with it all the time.

- Kyle S.

W2W: Also, what male has played the most significant role in who you are today? Lori: My Dad would be my first role model in my life, followed by Norb Simpson, the owner who hired me to work at Pine Press Printing. Both of these men were very influential in who I am today. My dad was a masterful salesman and instilled in me some of those great qualities. Norb pushed me to become more involved in the community and give back. He also saw in me a desire to work hard and never give up. He gave me the opportunity to use my skills and took the time to train me so that I could continue what he started back in 1979.

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Debbie Summers – a Lexington pacesetter

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2W: I know that choosing to run for chairwoman of the County council was not about gender for you, yet as the first female chairwoman you are an inspiration to other women. Tell us what it means to you, to be the first female chairwoman. Debbie: Being the first female chairwoman is quite an honor. To have your fellow Coun-

basis by women who take on challenges that are far greater than I have ever encountered. W2W: I know Debbie you are a family woman. How have you balanced being a mother, wife, grandmother and many other roles with being a career woman as well? Debbie: The only reason that I am able to consider serving is that I have a tremendous husband and family. They are so supportive of my desires to serve as a public servant to the citizens of Lexington County. Whether it’s working with my campaign or helping

It is awesome to know that I may have inspired another woman to step out of a comfort zone and try something that their heart is leading them to do.

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Debbie Summers cil members elect you to represent them is humbling. Serving as Chair is so much more than a title, it is an opportunity to serve in a position that is more challenging. I asked my fellow Council members if they would allow me to serve in that capacity. It was eight men, five of whom had previously served as Chair, who gave me that chance. They know that the opportunity afforded me to serve as Chair will help me to be a more effective, better informed Council member. The most meaningful benefit of serving as Chair of Lexington County Council, is the opportunity to meet some of the finest citizens and to better understand their love of the place they call “home”. It is awesome to know that I may have inspired another woman to step out of a comfort zone and try something that their heart is leading them to do. But it is I who am inspired on a daily 14

with the responsibilities of the home, my husband is the one who makes it all possible. Our family is blessed to have him as the leader of our family. Finding the balance is not always easy. Some days it is a challenge. I laugh at the fact that I have to check my phone every night to remind myself where I have to be the next day! Not all days are long, but all days are busy! I have wonderful kids and grandkids, too. We get together a minimum of once a week. We call it family night and we’ve done it for years. It thrills me that my children, daughter Misty (32) and son-in-law Lee, Taylor (25) and Bryson (22) look forward to getting together. Being a grandmother is, well, how can one explain – it’s the best! Tradd and Jackson, 3½ year old twins, call me Gigi. I am blessed to be in a family that understands the importance of supporting one another as we pursue our various dreams. My family is everything to me, and I look forward to being there for each of them as they continue to pursue their dreams!

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W2W: What personal characteristics do you feel help attribute to your success, both as Chairwoman and in printing with Sun? Debbie: I love meeting new people. As a sales person for Sun Printing in West Columbia I have the opportunity to meet new clients every day. Being Chair offers me that same opportunity. Engaging in conversation with others and learning more about them, their company or community and their needs, allows me to know how I can help them accomplish their goals. Being a good listener is a characteristic that any successful sales person or public servant should have and I try very hard to do that. I believe my strongest attribute is staying positive. When faced with any difficult situation, we can choose to look at the glass as half empty or half full. My glass will be half full! That is a choice I make. W2W: What do you find most rewarding about being Chairwoman of Lexington County Council? What do you find most rewarding in your career at Sun Printing? Debbie: What I would find most rewarding would have to be the opportunity of being in a position to help others - whether it is a citizen or a client. Helping someone else to be successful is something that Sun Printing uses as part of their overall mission, so it was a compliment to my position as a Council member in helping Lexington County citizens and businesses be more successful. When we place the needs of others at the top of our agendas, then more is accomplished and more people are successful. By far the most rewarding thing we do in this world is what we do for others. W2W: Tell us about your best day. Debbie: The ideal day begins with a meeting where I have the opportunity to reconnect with someone that I haven’t seen in a long time, or meet someone new! Calling on a potential client to form a new relationship, or having the opportunity to deliver a print job to an existing client and know that they will love it! Spending quality time at family night supper, that Bud and the guys cook on the grill. Play with the grandsons while

Let’s Talk the big “kids” clean the kitchen, check my email, watch the news and call it a day. A great day because I chose to make it a great day! W2W: What can we expect to see from Debbie Summers in the future? Debbie: Never say never, but I love being at the local level with my position on Council. Starting my second term, I can say with confidence that I am a better representative today because of the learning curve that I experienced as Chairman. So much still to learn, but I want to continue to learn as much as I possibly can so that my service to the citizens will be more efficient. Professionally, I want to be the top sales person at Sun Printing. Having been with them less than a year, I continue to work to attain that goal. The competition at Sun is tough because we have an excellent sales team. But whether it is Lexington County Council or Sun Printing, I will be more successful if I

surround myself with others who have the same goals and values. That is true in any venture. W2W: This edition is focused on the holidays, share with our readers one of your favorite holiday traditions or memories. Debbie: The one tradition for my family that really makes both Thanksgiving and Christmas special is our tradition of selecting our Christmas tree. For many of the past 26 years, we have traveled to the majestic mountains of North Carolina with special family friends, to find the perfect tree at a tree farm! A real Christmas tree! We normally leave Thursday after we have celebrated Thanksgiving with our respective families and head north! I just love that this tradition is now something my Grandsons look forward to! On our way home after a fun weekend, we reflect on how thankful we are for family, friends, and traditions. We rejoice that our “perfect tree”, decorated in

grand fashion, will be the centerpiece of our homes for the holidays, as we focus on and celebrate, the birth of Jesus Christ!

The one tradition for my family that makes both Thanksgiving and Christmas special is our tradition of selecting our Christmas tree. – Debbie Summers

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Lexington Woman loves Lexington men! Meet Bubba Easler – a local “Good Guy”

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illiam L. Easler, better known as “Bubba,” sets the example when it comes to loving other people and building relationships in his community. He loves people and people love him. He can bring a smile to anyone’s face and he’s never met a stranger. You would think he’s a celebrity if you ever joined him to eat breakfast at the Lizard’s Thicket in Lexington. He stops to speak to everyone, young and old, before finally sitting down at a table to eat. His positive energy just radiates and his smile is contagious.

I guess it’s these qualities that make his phone ring constantly with people calling him from all over the country. Whether it’s people he currently works with on the NASCAR circuit, or those he worked with on the S.C. Probation and Parole Board before he retired calling to just chat about life, or old friends and coaches from Eau Claire High School calling to reminisce about the “Good Ole Days” when he was a football legend and track star back in the 60’s, or the elderly in the community to just see how he’s doing, or his renters down in Swansea just call-

in law is Steven Fitts, who is the president of The Fitts Company in Lexington where they manufacture signs, ATM buildings, and commercial millwork. Bubba also has a pet teacup Chihuahua named Max. Some of Leah’s favorite memories with her Dad are of him coaching her recreational league soccer teams and softball teams, and teaching her Sunday school class. “He was always involved in whatever I was doing, whether it was coaching the teams I played on, teaching my Sunday school class, teaching me and my friends how to ski on Lake Murray, taking clothing and food to the poor, or helping me with school projects. I remember him helping coach our first ever girls rec league soccer team here in Lexington County. We were undefeated and unscored on one year. Our team’s name was the Lady Bugs and after every game, it was our tradition to make a circle at center field around Dad. We would sing cheers while he did a victory dance! We loved it!

He’s always got a story to tell and can give you examples of how the Lord has looked out for him many times in his life. Bubba and Harriett Easler with their first grandchild, William Two of his favorite mottos in life are “Hard work pays off!” and “Don’t ever give up!” He has lived by these words and enjoys using them to motivate others. From his humble beginnings here in South Carolina, he learned that there is a price to pay for everything and the Lord will be there for you through the thick and thin of life. He is a self made man in a lot of ways and a hero in our community by the way he helps others and takes time to get to know people. He loves to see others succeed. He is never one to forget where he came from or to judge others by what they have or don’t have. He never looks down on other people and he’s the first to lend a helping hand to those in need. 16

ing to check on him, they all want to share their life with him because he truly cares for others and their well being. He’s always got a story to tell and can give you examples of how the Lord has looked out for him many times in his life. People can easily relate to him and his great sense of humor and fun loving spirit are a magnet to others. He is a loyal husband and father and he always puts his family first. His wife, Harriett, teaches kindergarten at Lexington Elementary School. She has been teaching at Lexington Elementary for 38 years and started her 39th year in August. He has one daughter, Leah, who is an interventionist at Carolina Springs Elementary School and is also a real estate agent in Lexington. His son

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Another favorite memory is when he was our softball coach and before every game, he would take our whole team to the batting cages in Lexington. We would all get practice batting before the game, but the best part was when we left the batting cages. We would all pile in Dad’s little Ford Escort GT and head to the softball field singing cheers with Dad blowing the horn the entire way! We were so motivated by the time we started the game, we believed we could beat anyone! Dad taught our Sunday school class at St. Stephen’s Lutheran Church from the time I was in 2nd grade until about 5th or 6th grade. Every Christmas, we would pack a church van full of clothes and food, and Dad would drive us to poor areas in South Carolina where there was a lot of need. He would let us pick out the homes that we thought were the neediest, and we would get out and hand the families food and clothing. I can’t tell you what an impact that had on

Let’s Talk our lives. It touched us just as much as those that we were helping.”   Bubba is a local “good ‘ole boy” because he enjoys spending time with others. Whether it’s having a cookout in his backyard and inviting everyone he knows, or taking some fresh tomatoes out of his garden to people in the community, he loves to visit with them and share life with them. He spends time giving talks about NASCAR to all the local elementary, middle and high schools. The children just love him and call him “Mr. NASCAR.” He has just as much fun as they do. You might catch him in his “Sanford and Son” green truck hauling loads of stuff for his wife, daughter, and other teachers in the community as they move to different classrooms or helping friends move in to their new homes. He’s also a popular choice among young couples getting married who need a get away car (his ’57 Chevrolet) to drive them away on their wedding night. You can hear him revving up the engine and blowing the horn all around Lexington as he drives the newly weds off to their destination. He loves talking with children and handing out high fives or helping the elderly with their needs around town. You might see him taking his neighbor, Mama Jackie, to get her hair done or occasionally to the bank and then to eat a hot dog for lunch. He can be seen walking the dam or walking around town 3 mornings out of the week. Horns blow and hands wave as people see

him and pass by. He’s got a special nickname for everyone so he loves to yell out a special saying to everyone who passes by and help them start their mornings with a smile. He serves as an usher at St. Stephens’s Lutheran Church and enjoys shaking hands with everyone on Sunday mornings. Bubba is turned 62 on July 31st of this year. He had a lot to celebrate. He survived a massive heart attack two years ago and he believes he survived because the Lord has some more plans for him before it is officially his time to go. In October, his first grandchild, named “William” after him, was born. Bubba Easler truly appreciates life and enjoys building relationships with everyone around him. He’s never too tired or too busy to spend time getting to know a new friend or helping out an old one. He says there have been a lot of people who have helped him along the way and he will never forget that. He’s a good guy that has touched many lives and believes in giving back to his community.

Do you know a local “good guy” who should be featured here? Please send us a detailed essay explaining why you feel your nominee deserves to be featured as our next “Local Man of the Hour.” Emails can be sent to our editor at [email protected]. We will notify you by email if your ‘good guy’ is chosen.

When I got my flying Robot my dad gave me for Christmas.

- Colton D.

The Christmas that I got a DS and an iPod.

- Cassidy W.

Playing with my brothers at Christmas. - Lexi M.

At Christmas time because we eat dinner for breakfast

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Education

fastFORWARD by Martha Windsor

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o you remember the resolutions you made last January? If you’ve told yourself that you’d walk every night after supper, or that you’d wash your ride weekly, your good intentions have probably been sidetracked at some point. Life does that. Beatle John Lennon was right, “Life is what happens while you are making other plans.” If you’re one of hundreds who feel you’ve hit the pause button on your plans, then you may have admitted to yourself, “I need to go back to school.” If that sounds familiar, Newberry College challenges you not to go back, but to go forward- and in a hurry. fastFORWARD is a new program designed for busy, ambitious adults who want to complete their degree. Program Director, Jessie Long has first-hand understanding of trying to juggle career and family. She can relate to the young adults who have responsibilities as spouse, parent, chef, chauffeur, and _______. Fill in the blank with your choice of duties. You can think of a few, right? “As a full-time employee, mother of two, wife and often a student myself, I know how challenging it can be to return to school. But in today’s society education is more important than ever.” Like it or not, we are often defined by our jobs. For most of us, our jobs determine our

income. Better financial rewards demand better jobs. Better jobs demand degrees. Many of us are on a human version of a hamster wheel. We work hard and are always

“Newberry has a long history of more than 150 years. Even with record enrollment, we’re still small enough for the students to receive individualized attention. ‘We bring out the best in you’ is more than a slogan; it’s our goal.”

If you’re one of hundreds who feel you’ve hit the pause button on your plans, then you may have admitted to yourself, “I need to go back to school.”

fastFORWARD is a forward-thinking program that offers students a choice. There is a blended program which is 90% online and requires minimal trips to the campus. The other option includes one class one evening per week. Both provide a completed degree within 18-24 months.

busy, but we aren’t making the progress we desire. We’re trying hard to make our time and our money count. Frustration builds; we know where we’d like to go, but can’t see how we can get there. “There are many things in life we wish we had taken the time to do. Now even full-time parents and employees have the opportunity to earn their bachelor’s degree at a highly accredited institution” Jessie is proud of the opportunities fastFORWARD provides.

Unlike other online degree programs, Newberry is a real mortar and brick institution. We offer fastFORWARD students perks that traditional students receive. For example, a person could participate in sports, attend cultural and sporting events, join a fraternity or sorority, and take advantage of a host of student-sponsored programs. Most of the jobs in a seven-county radius require a degree, yet ironically we live in an undereducated area. Of the more than 170,000 people in the Midlands who began but did not complete their degree, 41,000 are in Lexington County. If you are one of those folks who started college, earned credits, but for some reason didn’t finish, Jessie urges you to contact her.

About Jesse Long Jessie is a Lexington County native. She was born in Gaston, attended Swansea High School and received her B.A. in education from USC, Aiken. She is a former high school teacher who now lives in Newberry with her husband, Daniel, and her preschool children. While son Daniel II, age four and eight month-old daughter Marley keep Bud, the Rottweiler and Sunny, the orange tabby on their toes, they all keep Mom busy. When Jessie isn’t working you may find her playing church league softball, relaxing at Lake Murray or busy with her favorite pastime, her children.

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For more information, contact the Director of Adult Education, Jessie Long at 803-321-5691 Email: [email protected] Website:www.NewberryFastForward.com

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The Halloween I got $5 and bought a shirt.

- Adrien E.

Dressing up like the Red Power Ranger and Trick or Treating from the back of cars when I was in Kindergarten. - Justin H.

Halloween at Mimi’s with my cousins. - Caroline V.

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Margaret Joan O’Hara –“Maggie”

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ongratulations Maggie O’Hara! Maggie is a 10 year old gymnast at Sunburst Gymnastics. She qualified for the 2009 USA Gymnastics TOPs Testing which took place September 25-27, 2009 in Houston, Texas at the Women’s National Team Training Center located at Bela Karolyi Gymnastics Camp. Maggie completed the 2009 USA Gymnastics TOPs Testing and was one of the 27 girls chosen. TOPs is a Talent Opportunity Program for female gymnasts ages 7-11 and their coaches. During the summer, gymnasts are evaluated on physical abilities at the State and Regional level. From the more than 2,700 participants that tested, 300 gymnasts qualify to participate in the National TOPs Testing. From here, these athletes hope to qualify to the TOPs National Team. Those who qualify to the TOPs National Team will be invited back to attend a training camp this December in Houston, TX at Karolyi’s Gymnastics, home of well-known coaches Bela and Marta Karolyi. The Karolyi’s coached Nadia Comaneci, Mary Lou Retton, Kim Zmeskal, Kerri Strug and many other World and Olympic Champions. More than 50% of the current Nation-

al Team and 3 of the 2008 World Championship Team members have been National TOPs team members, marking the success of the program.

She has maintained straight A’s throughout her schooling while training upwards of 20 hours per week. Maggie also attends the 5th grade at New Providence Elementary and is in their Accelerated Math and Eagles Programs. She maintained straight A’s throughout her schooling while training upwards of 20 hours per week. Maggie is coached by Mike and Cassandra Krotchko at Sunburst who have coached her to 4 State Titles and one of 8 spots on the 2009 Level 8 SC Regional Team. Keep up the great work Maggie!

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Timberwolves cheerleader takes down gator

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ammie Colin, a sophomore and JV cheerleader at White Knoll High School, became the first 16-year-old female to kill and harvest an alligator in South Carolina. Her alligator weighed in at 353 pounds and was 10-feet, 5 inches long. It was killed at Lake Marion just south of Sparkleberry Swamp. To bag her gator, Cammie had to win one of 1,000 lottery slots available for South Carolina’s annual public alligator harvest. The hunt is allowed by the state as a way to harvest some of the 100,000 estimated alligators habitating South Carolina. Over 3,700 people applied for permission to hunt, but Cammie was one of the lucky 1,000 chosen. She was the only person in her hunting party authorized to shoot the alligator. Cammie was in a boat with four others including: family friend and guide Jay Iadonisi; her father, Emil Colin III; her uncle, Ian Beck; and her 13-year-old brother, Emil Colin IV. Hunters must use a crossbow or a harpoon (something with a line) so the alligator does not get away when shot.

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Cammie Colin, a sophomore and JV cheerleader at White Knoll High School, became the first 16-year-old female to kill and harvest an alligator in South Carolina. So, prior to going out, Cammie was trained on how to use the crossbow (pictured right) that weighed more than 10 pounds. When Cammie shot the crossbow at the alligator, she struck the tail, and the alligator pulled the boat for more than an hour. Cammie gained interest in alligator hunting when her Dad went last year, so she decided she wanted to give it a try. Cammie thought it looked “interesting and fun.” Here in the midlands, we are all about taking down gators. Way to go Cammie!

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Melissa Backman White Knoll Dentistry

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2W: Please tell us a little about what it means to grow up in Lexington One and graduate here, and now own a business here. Melissa: Growing up in Lexington One was a wonderful experience. I attended Red Bank Elementary, White Knoll Middle School, and Lexington High School. The education I received prepared me for college and dental school and I look forward to having the opportunity to give back to the community. W2W: Will you share a little about your vision for White Knoll Dentistry? Melissa: My vision for White Knoll Dentistry is to provide quality dentistry in a caring, comfortable environment while respecting the needs and desires of our patients. I believe it is important to teach patients how to maintain a healthy smile. I look forward to treating the whole family and getting to know each person. W2W: Your new facility is beautiful I love the beveled glass and the White Knoll letters at the top, how does it make you feel to come to work at a place that you have dreamed about from the ground up. Melissa: White Knoll Dentistry is a dream come true for me. God has blessed me with a beautiful office and a wonderful staff. I look forward to going to work every day!

My vision for White Knoll Dentistry is to provide quality dentistry in a caring, comfortable environment while respecting the needs and desires of our patients. Dr. Melissa Backman W2W: What do you love about dentistry? Melissa: Dentistry is a great career. A person’s smile is often one of the first attributes that is noticed by others. It is a rewarding experience to be able to help someone who is in pain or who is unhappy with their smile. By helping patients obtain the smile they desire, every aspect of their life can be affected, such as improving their self esteem and boosting their self confidence. W2W: What are some of the advantages of having your own practice? Melissa: Starting my own business from scratch has been a fulfilling experience. It is has allowed me to have the opportunity

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and freedom to be creative, innovative, and make all of my own decisions. Also by starting my own practice I was able to provide input on designing my office to better serve the needs of my patients in a more efficient and effective manner. W2W: What are some disadvantages? Melissa: As with starting any business there are always risk that the business will not succeed. Starting a new business requires investing a lot of time, energy, and money. To run a practice you must have knowledge about many things beyond just being a dentist to be successful. W2W: What do you hope to accomplish in the next five years?

Health & Wellness Melissa: Professionally, I have achieved most of my goals like becoming a dentist and starting my own practice. I have achieved more than I ever dreamed possible and feel blessed to be a part of a profession which I enjoy so much. Over the next five years I want to focus on growing my practice and developing skills and techniques to better serve my patients. In regards to my personal life, I hope to start a family of my own in the near future.

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Along the way, we will help supply incentives and goals to help you not only meet your personal goals but win some fun stuff as well. This program is designed to change you and your families’ lives. Although you are the participant, all that you learn through the upcoming year will be things you can implement in the lifestyle of your family. We will be featuring the winner of the our twelve-month challenge on the front cover of the January 2011 edition of Lexington Woman. You will also receive a makeover by a renowned makeover artist here in Lexington, along with a photo shoot with master photographers, Clark and Becki Berry. You will be featured in all media blitzes for the next six months following your success, including radio and television spots. Lexington Woman will be helping to host events throughout the year, where you will be featured as a group of women. You are invited to many events hosted by Lexington Woman; these events are optional and not required for inclusion in the program. Lexington Woman will also offer many forms of support (i.e. websites, monthly meetings, and educational tools) to help you in your weight loss effort.

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Holiday survival skills by Edna Cox

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n average, Americans gain 2 pounds during the holidays, but these 2 pounds are not shed. One study showed 14% of those studied gained 5 pounds or more. Those participants who were overweight or obese gained more holiday pounds than those who were normal weight. This research showed that holiday weight gain explained over half of the annual weight gain for those who were in the study. This weight gain is probably one cause of weight that creeps up from year to year.

On average, Americans gain 2 pounds during the holidays... Surviving the holidays requires a new mindset. Rather than focus on continuing to lose weight, focus instead on not gaining weight. Consider yourself successful if you continue to exercise regularly and don’t gain any weight.

At the party, focus on more than eating. Holidays are for connecting with family and friends. This is a great time to catch up with them. If it is a business related party, network. Focus less on the food and more on the fellowship.

10 Holiday Survival Skills 1. Scan the buffet before filling your plate. Decide what foods are worth eating and what can be ignored. Why waste calories on foods that don’t bring you pleasure? 2. Eat a snack before you leave home. If you are starving, you’re more likely to overindulge. 3. Eat your calories instead of drinking them. Stick to lower calorie or caloriefree drinks (diet soda, water, light beer or wine spritzer) instead of punches, eggnogs, and mixed drinks that can have up to 500 calories per cup. 4. Sip a large glass of water between every alcoholic drink or non-alcoholic punch or eggnog. This will help keep you hydrated and you’ll drink fewer calories. 5. Stand away from the buffet table. You’ll be less tempted to keep eating if it’s an effort to fill your plate. 6. Watch your portions. In most cases, es-

pecially when it comes to holiday sweets and alcoholic beverages, less is better. 7. Leave a few bites of food behind, especially if you’re eating something you don’t really like. 8. When you are the host or the hostess, include nutritious and lower calorie foods

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Health & Wellness like fruits, vegetables and lean meats. When you are a guest, bring along a lower calorie dish to share. 9. Avoid feeling deprived all evening long. Allow yourself one holiday dessert per event. 10. Switch out of holiday mode when the party’s over. Don’t turn Thanksgiving through New Year’s into one long binge.

Bad Egg Traditional Eggnog contains 460 calories and 20 grams of fat per cup. And that’s without the rum. Add 65-100 calories for each ounce you add. Serving Size: 1 cup Calories: 460 Fat: 20 g Sodium: 640 mg Carbs: 58 g Fiber: 0 g Sugars: 58 g Protein: 12 g

The Good Egg

5 cups light vanilla soy milk 1 small package (4 servings) Jell-O sugar free/fat free instant pudding, mix, vanilla 6 packets no-calorie sweetener products 1 tsp rum extract ½ tsp ground nutmeg

In a blender, combine all ingredients and blend on high until mixed thoroughly. Refrigerate for a few hours to allow it to thicken. Makes five 1 cup servings.

Preheat oven to 350 degrees.

Serving Size: 1 cup Calories: 88 Fat: 2 g Sodium: 350 mg Carbs: 11 g Fiber: 0 g Sugars: 5 g Protein: 6 g

In a large bowl, combine whole wheat and all purpose flour, no calorie sweetener, brown sugar, baking powder, cinnamon, salt and pumpkin spice (all dry ingredients).

Pumpkin Bread (traditional) Pumpkin bread is loaded with eggs, sugar and butter, sometimes even nuts making this treat loaded with fat and calories.

In a medium bowl, mix canned pumpkin, egg substitute, and vanilla extract. Then add this mixture to the dry ingredients, and stir until just blended. Slowly sprinkle in the craisins, mix to distribute them.

Serving Size: 1 slice Calories: 370 Fat: 16 g Sodium: 360 mg Carbs: 51 g Fiber: 1.5 g Sugars: 26 g Protein: 5 g

Spray a large loaf pan (9” x 5”) with nonstick spray. Spoon batter into pan. Bake for 50 minutes or until the top of the loaf is firm to the touch. Allow to cool. Cut into 8 slices. Makes 8 servings.

Perfect Pumpkin Bread This is a delicious low fat, high fiber holiday treat. One-15 oz can canned pumpkin 1¼ cup whole wheat flour ¼ cup all purpose flour ½ cup fat free liquid egg substitute ½ cup no calorie sweetener (Splenda) ¼ cup brown sugar ¼ cup craisins 2¼ cup baking powder 1½ cup cinnamon 1 tsp vanilla extract ½ tsp salt ⅓ tsp pumpkin pie spice

Serving Size: 1 thick slice Calories: 143 Fat: 0.5 g Sodium: 281 mg Carbs: 31 g Fiber: 4.5 g Sugars: 9 g Protein: 5 g

To make muffins, pour batter into muffin pan sprayed with nonstick spray. Makes about 8 standard sized muffins. Cook for 35 minutes at 350 degrees. Let cool. Enjoy!

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Are contact lenses a good choice for kids?

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common question many parents have about contact lenses and kids is: “When is my child old enough to wear contact lenses?” Physically, your child’s eyes can tolerate contact lenses at a very young age. Some babies are fitted with contact lenses due to eye conditions present at birth. And in a recent study that involved fitting nearsighted children of ages 8-11 with one-day disposable contact lenses, 90% had no trouble applying or removing the contacts without assistance from their parents.

Contact lenses can do wonders for some chidren’s self-esteem. Many kids don’t like the way they look in glasses and become overly self-conscious...

A matter of maturity So the important question is whether or not your child is mature enough to insert, remove and take care of their contact lenses. How they handle other responsibilities at home will give you a clue. If your child has poor grooming habits and needs frequent reminders to perform everyday chores, they may not be ready for the responsibility of wearing and caring for contact lenses. But if they are conscientious and handle these things well, they may be excellent candidates for contact lens wear, regardless of their age. Contact lenses for sports Many kids are active in sports. Contact lenses offer several advantages over glasses for these activities. Contacts don’t fog up, get streaked with perspiration or get knocked off like glasses can. They also provide better peripheral vision than glasses, which is important for nearly every sport. There are even contact lenses with special tints to help your child see the ball easier. For sports, soft contact lenses are usually the best choice. They are larger and fit closer more securely to the eye than rigid gas permeable (GP) lenses, so there’s virtually no chance they will dislodge or get knocked off.

Controlling nearsightedness If your young son or daughter is nearsighted, rigid gas permeable (GP) contacts may be the best choice an alternative. In some cases, GP contact lenses may slow the progression of myopia in children. (Soft lenses don’t offer this potential benefit.) Also, GP lenses are more durable, healthier for the eye, and often provide sharper vision than soft contacts. Cosmetic contact lenses Contact lenses can be used as fashion accessories. Much like scarves, necklaces, hats, or shoes, colored contact lenses can be used to achieve a desired look. Almost any eye color can be found. Colored contacts are a great option for the fashion conscious teen. Building self-esteem with contact lenses Contact lenses can do wonders for some children’s self-esteem. Many kids don’t like the way they look in glasses and become overly self-conscious about their appearance because of them. Wearing contact lenses can often elevate how they feel about themselves and improve their self confidence. Sometimes, even their school performance and participation in social activities improves after they switch to contact lenses.

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Health & Wellness Glasses are still required If your child chooses to wear contact lenses, they still need an up-to-date pair of eyeglasses. Contact lenses worn on a daily basis should be removed at least an hour before bedtime to allow the eyes to “breathe.” Also, there will be times when your child may want to wear their glasses instead of contact lenses. And contact lenses should be removed immediately any time they cause discomfort or eye redness. Don’t push contacts on your kids Motivation is often the most important factor in determining whether your son or daughter will be a successful contact lens wearer. If you wear contact lenses yourself and love them, that still doesn’t mean they are the right choice for your child. Some children like wearing glasses and have no desire to wear contact lenses. We can usually tell at your child’s contact lens consultation if they really want to wear

(left to right) Gretchan Reynolds of Envision Family Eyecare with her daughter, Andy, and sons, Ryan and Colby contact lenses. If it appears that they would rather stay in glasses, we will certainly respect their decision – and you should, too. Sometimes it’s just a matter of timing. Often, a child may feel they don’t want contacts, but a year or two later, they do. There’s always time to make that decision.

When your child is ready to try contacts When you and your child agree it’s time for contacts, call our office to schedule a contact lens consultation. We welcome the opportunity to help kids of all ages enjoy wearing contact lenses.

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Assessing the needs of your loved ones by Allen Cook

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illions of Americans are faced with a common dilemma: how to decide if their aging loved ones are mentally and physically capable of providing for their own well-being. While aging is a natural process, it can be an unpredictable and potentially traumatic one. As parents or other

While aging is a natural process, it can be an unpredictable and potentially traumatic one. family members become less and less active and able, their need for assistance becomes more and more pronounced. In many cases significant changes can occur overnight. With other individuals, a marked decline in health is gradual and can be imperceptible to casual observers. When is the threshold crossed? Family members struggle with this question for long periods of time before deciding that inter-

Melba Allard,Veronica McMahan, Betsy Sippel, and Suzanne Tarrant vening action must be taken for the safety of an aging parent or other loved one. It is important to know and recognize the signs that a person may no longer be capable of living at home: • Increasingly unsteady walking, with potential for falls

• Inadequate grooming and personal hygiene • Decreasing appetite, altered eating and cooking habits • Keeping food past dates of expiration • Unpredictable/unreliable driving ability • Decreased interest in favorite activities • Hesitancy to socialize

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Health & Wellness • Loss of focus or sound judgment • Loss of memory - forgetfulness, confusion • Improper administration of medications • Energy loss and fatigue • Irritability with sudden mood changes • Failing to open/process important mail In evaluating your loved one’s capabilities and functionality, there are several questions to ask. These questions should be considered and revisited regularly as situations change: • If there was an emergency, does he or she know how to exit the home quickly and safely? • Has he or she begun to wander away from the safety of the home and yard? • Can he or she recognize signals for potential dangers such as fire alarms? • If there was an emergency, would he or she know how to access emergency services? Does he or she know how to utilize 911? Is he or she able to use the phone? • Does he or she have medical conditions that might cause vulnerability requiring immediate medical attention? Does he or she have access to all necessary medications? Can he or she easily follow a prescribed medication regimen? • Does he or she make good choices regarding who should or should not be let into the home? Would he or she recognize family, friends, and/or emergency respondents and allow them

to enter the home? • When he or she is hungry, is he or she able to prepare nutritious food? After using the stove, does he or she remember to turn it off? • Is he or she able to get to the bathroom and use the toilet without assistance? • Are you uncomfortable leaving him or her alone for an hour or more? When caregivers leave, does he or she become clingy and call frequently? If and when the family does decide that the aging loved one should be placed in an assisted living facility, another series of questions should be addressed: • Are the grounds and the building well cared for? • Are you comfortable with the staff? • Do you like the food and food service? • Does the facility smell clean? • Do the residents appear to be content and friendly with each other? • Are the residents treated with dignity? • Are there sprinklers, fire alarms, and fire drills? • Is the security and lighting of the community adequate? • Are you welcomed by the staff if you make an unannounced visit? • Do the families of other residents appear to be comfortable with the facility and staff? • Is the facility near medical offices, stores, entertainment and recreation?

It is important to know and recognize the signs that a person may no longer be capable of living at home. • Are there a variety of organized activities conducted by trained staff? • Does the community offer on-site entertainment and religions actives? • Is there adequate transportation for the residents? • Would you stay there? Choosing the appropriate time for the transition is a major decision for the family. The second major decision will be finding the facility that is best-suited for your loved one. Both decisions should be deliberate and well-informed. Solicit expertise from medical professionals well-versed in geriatrics. Friends and associates who have recently been through this transition may also be helpful as will clergy members who are familiar with your family’s situation.

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Why not tonight? by Dr. John Moore

Up to 40% of women complain of a low sex drive at some point in their lives...

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y sex drive is too low. What can I do to increase it?” This is a question frequently addressed by all primary care physicians, and it is not an easy one to answer. Low sex drive, also referred to as low libido or hypoactive sexual desire disorder, is defined as the persistent or recurrent lack of interest in sex that causes you personal distress. But what is a normal libido? That is much harder to define as your sex drive normally fluctuates over your lifetime and what is normal for you may not be normal for other women. Even leading medical researchers cannot agree on what constitutes a normal libido or how to measure it! Even when desire is present, sexual activity may be affected by fatigue, stress or even lack or absence of a partner. Up to 40% of women complain of a low sex drive at some point in their lives, and since a woman’s desire for sex is influenced by many factors including physical and emotional well being, previous experiences, beliefs and current relationship status, there are also many possible causes for low desire: • sexual problems such as painful intercourse or inability to achieve orgasm • medical illnesses such as cancer, diabetes, hypertension, STD’s among others • medications used to treat hypertension, depression, and insomnia • excessive alcohol or illicit drug use

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• anxiety or depression • financial or work stress • poor body self imagine or low self esteem • a history of physical or sexual abuse • unresolved conflict or poor communication with your partner • infidelity • and, as any mother with young children knows, FATIGUE! Hormonal changes are another potential factor. The increase in estrogen production at puberty helps to prepare the vaginal tissues for future sexual activity. Estrogen levels begin decreasing in most women by the late thirties. In the forties, when most women begin the transition to menopause, estrogen levels drop precipitously which can lead to decreased vaginal lubrication, thinning of the vaginal tissues and, in some cases, decreased sexual desire. Testosterone levels also drop in this period which may further reduce desire. The first step in evaluating you for low libido should be a careful review of your medical history. This may allow identification of certain medications or excessive alcohol use as a potential cause. A thorough physical exam should help to uncover any undiagnosed medical conditions such as hypertension and diabetes. If necessary, you may be referred to a licensed counselor or sex thera-

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pist to screen for underlying emotional or relationship causes. Blood testing for thyroid hormone, estrogen and testosterone levels may also be needed. Pinpointing a cause for low libido can often be difficult, and therapy can be as well. There is no one treatment which increases sex drive in all women. Treatment may include lifestyle changes, relationship counseling, sex therapy and/or medication. The single lifestyle change which can have the most

But what is normal libido? That is much harder to define as your sex drive normally fluctuates over your lifetime and what is normal for you may not be normal for other women. profound positive effect in most women (and men!) is 30 or more minutes of aerobic

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Health & Wellness exercise daily. This promotes general good health and may enhance libido through reduced stress, weight loss and improved mood and body image. Meditation and relaxation techniques, such as yoga, may also help alleviate stress. Open and honest communication with your partner is also one of the best, but not always the easiest, ways to maintain your emotional bond to your partner, which may greatly improve desire. It is very important to include communicating about sex, such as discussing likes and dislikes, in these talks. Sometimes professional counseling is required, and your caregiver should be able to refer you to an appropriately licensed counselor or sex therapist depending on your unique situation. Medical therapy usually begins if blood testing reveals thyroid abnormalities or a deficiency of estrogen or testosterone. Thyroid abnormalities occur in up to 15% of women in the reproductive years between puberty and menopause. These are usually fairly easily corrected with thyroid hormone supple-

mentation and, less commonly, with surgery. Estrogen deficiency can lead to significant hot flashes and night sweats as well as vaginal dryness and painful intercourse, all of which may inhibit desire. Estrogen therapy may be given to treat the whole body in pill, patch, or shot form. It may also be given locally to the vaginal tissues in cream, ring, or suppository form, depending on your specific symptoms. Testosterone therapy is more controversial as it is not approved by the FDA for use in women with low libido. It may still be prescribed for you by your physician, but needs close follow up and frequent monitoring blood levels of testosterone. Side effects of testosterone therapy, such as deepening voice and unwanted hair growth can be particularly troublesome if normal female levels of testosterone are exceeded. Unfortunately not every woman will respond to all, or even one, of these therapies. Despite the frustration and embarrassment which may be caused by having low desire, it is important that you bring it to your care-

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Lose weight with HealthSource Chiropractic

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rittani Bunce gives her take on HealthSource’s new weight loss program.

W2W: What kind of results are people seeing with this HealthSource line of products? Brittani: We started our program at HealthSource several months ago and so far we have seen GREAT RESULTS! It has been so exciting to be a part of our clients’ success. On average, our patients are losing three pounds each week. We have had patients lose seven pounds in the first week alone!   W2W: Have you personally used this product and what kind of results did you personally see? Brittani: I’m not on the weight loss plan; however, I do eat the protein bars daily basis for energy to make it through the day, and I take the entrees to school. They are easy to heat, and I can store them in my desk drawer.

W2W: We know there are thousands of products out there promising results. Brittani, what sets this program apart from the other weight loss programs? Brittani: HealthSource has taken pieces of a variety of weight loss programs and combined them into one program which produces awesome results. The program is a doctor supervised, high protein, low carbohydrate diet. We have weekly “weigh-ins” with the doctor and the weight loss specialist. Every client who comes into the office has tried at least two diets. Most of the diets they have tried produced some level of weight loss; however, none of these diet options have given the clients the tools they need to keep the weight off and stay healthy. We believe the missing link to keeping the weight off and maintaining a healthy lifestyle is the BRD (Behavioral Repatterning Device). This device, similar to an iPod®, can

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be used in the comfort of your own bed. It is a wonderfully relaxing series of guided visualization to help us change our thinking about exercise, portion sizes, snacking and many other topics which can inhibit or aid weight loss. W2W: I know you and Adam really care about the overall health of your patients. How do you feel this product line can help you, help them? Brittani: It makes so much sense to pair chiropractic and weight loss. Many of our weight loss clients were chiropractic patients first. They are finding as they reach their weight loss goals, their other health issues are alleviated. A major benefit of the program is better health on the inside, while looking great on the outside is just a wonderful perk!

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Palliative care by Martha Windsor

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edical terms have become part of our conversational vocabulary. Thanks to TV, we’re familiar with doctors ordering a CBC (complete blood count) STAT. We know about a trach tube, etc. Yet, the lingo can be confusing. Would we be alarmed or annoyed by the person who clutches his or her chest and wails, “I’m suffering from ‘functional dyspepsia,’ what shall I do?” Some readers may begin Googling while others search for a Tums to offer.

living with a life-limiting illness,” Edna McClain the Regional Administrator for Hospice Care of Tri-County explains. The Palliative care program at Tri-County Home Health and Hospice Care of TriCounty is a program of cross trained nurses for patients that need a skilled service provided by home health and also need the experience of special trained nurses in pain and symptom management.

‘We help guide the patient through the process of living with a life-limiting illness,’ Edna McClain explains. Linda Knight and Stacey Rowlette We’ve seen ads for hospice; home health care is a growing business, and pain management is an industry unto itself. Now it’s time to gain a better understanding. Hospice and home health care are related, but not identical. Briefly, hospice is supportive care provided in the final stages of a terminal illness. Generally, the care is given at home or in familiar surroundings. Home care is also known as skilled care. It includes more than what a nonmedical primary caregiver can provide. This article deals with palliative care, a component of both hospice and home health care. Palliative care focuses on a person’s symptoms, not on the disease itself. “We help guide the patient through the process of 34

Hospice Care of Tri-County is a network of 13 offices across South Carolina. It was licensed in 1996 and is a sister company to Tri-County Home Health which began in Lexington County more than 25 years ago. The palliative care program serves patients in Richland, Lexington and Saluda counties. According to McClain, the Palliative care nurses are not only experienced in acute care, home and hospice care; they also have additional training in pain and symptom management. “Patients must meet certain criterion: have skilled need (nurse or therapist,) home-bound, unable to leave home without extended support and a doctor must order home health services.” Nurses Linda Knight and Stacy Rowlette

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have more than 30 years of combined experience in hospice and acute care. How does the palliative care program work? “The doctor refers a patient to palliative care. One of our palliative nurses becomes the patients nurse and will remain his/her nurse, even following the patient to hospice, if necessary.” McClain stresses the importance of the continuity of care. “The patient may be new to home health care. Building a relationship and developing rapport with one nurse is helpful because it increases the emotional comfort level of the patient. Trust is essential. The nurse learns the patient and the family and unique individual needs. McClain is a registered nurse who worked in acute care “for years.” She says hospice is the Lord’s path for her. “It’s where to put an old nurse who can no longer manage a 12 hour shift in the hospital, she modestly jokes.” After she received her M.N., she was asked if she was interested in becoming a home health manager. That was long before, but nevertheless the first step down the path toward meeting Ron Young and Jim Hardman owners of Medical Services of America (located in Lexington) and creating Hospice Care of Tri-County. “Palliative care is an option for people that need help. We can manage their pain. The right medicine prescribed for the right reason is not addictive, a fear many have. The individual may think they have to be sedated to be pain free and that is not true. If it is the right medication for the right pain at the right dose the person can be kept comfortable without sedation. Suffering isn’t necessary and most symptoms can be controlled. There are many fears associated with pain management and our nurses are there to help you understand pain management and education about medications.” For more information, call Tri-County Home Health at (803) 561-7680 or Hospice Care of Tri-County at (803)-400-1177.

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When your pet brings home uninvited guests by Dr. Briana Davis

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ets enrich our lives in countless ways. They provide companionship, comfort, devotion, and entertainment. In exchange for enjoying these attributes we find ourselves cleaning muddy paw prints off the floor, nose smudges off the windows, litter-boxes, and hair off furniture that’s supposedly “off-limits”. We love our pets. That does not mean however, that we love the pests that sometimes accompany them.

Fleas thrive in hot, humid climates (sound familiar?) so odds are, if you are a South Carolinian with a pet, you are going to have a run-in with fleas.

Fleas are considered at best a nuisance, but they can pose a serious threat to the health of a pet. Fleas can cause tapeworm infestations, skin conditions, and in severe cases, life-threatening anemias. Fleas can also transmit diseases to humans, the best known of which is the plague. Fleas thrive in hot, humid climates (sound familiar?) so odds are, if you are a South Carolinian with a pet, you are going to have a run-in with fleas. What can be done to prevent or treat a flea infestation in your pet? The first rule to having a successful campaign against these pesky parasites is to know your enemy. Fleas

have 4 stages of development: eggs, larvae, pupae, and adults. Female fleas can lay up to 40 eggs per day in your pet’s coat. Some of these eggs fall off of your pet into the environment (which may be your house!). The eggs develop into larvae, which prefer dark, moist areas outside and deep in the fibers of rugs/carpet inside. As the larvae develop into pupae it produces a protective cocoon. This allows the pupae stage to be resistant to many insecticides. This means you may

continue to have fleas emerge after you’ve sprayed the house with insecticide if they were in the pupae stage at the time of spraying. These life stages are also important to know because not all products created for flea control are effective against all stages of the flea. Now that you know your enemy, you now need to pick where to have your battles and what weapons to use. The where is easy; you

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Pets need to treat for fleas not only on your pet but also in your pet’s environment. Choosing what products to use for flea control may be a little more complicated. Your veterinarian can help you decide which flea control is best for your pet. Flea products are available as either topical products (applied to skin) or oral products. Topical products include spot-ons, sprays, dips, shampoos, and collars. Oral products are either tablets or liquid. Your pet’s lifestyle is an important consideration when choosing an effective flea control product. For instance, a pet that swims daily or is bathed frequently may benefit more from an oral medication versus a topical that may be washed off. Also take into account your pet’s environment. If the environment is heavily infested with fleas then flea baths and dips may be of limited value. Though they may be effective in killing the fleas on the pet they have little residual effect. This means the pet is rapidly re-infested when it goes back to its environment and continues to have an infestation until the next bath/dip. In heavily infested environments it is better to use products that have a residual effect, such as many of your spot-ons, sprays, and oral products. A common misconception is that these products major mode of action is repelling fleas from getting on your pets. In actuality the primary way these products work is by having the flea bite the pet, thereby ingesting the medication that then kills the flea. So, when owners see fleas on their pet, it doesn’t necessarily mean the product isn’t working, but it can indicate a very heavy infestation in the environment. This brings us to our next topic, your pet’s environment. In the house, flea larvae and pupae tend to migrate towards rugs, upholstered furniture and

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Dr. Brianna Davis Grace Animal Hospital bedding. Foggers, sprays, dusts, and powders are available to help control flea infestations in the house. Washing your pets bedding will also help. However, one of your strongest tools is the vacuum. Vacuuming stimulates the tough pupae to emerge as the more fragile adult, which the vacuum then sucks up, as well as ridding the carpets of eggs and larva. Just be sure to change your vacuum bag afterwards. You may want to consult a professional pest control company for flea control outside. If you are doing it yourself, concentrate on shady, moist areas of the yard. Pets bring a lot of joy and fun into the home. Instituting an effective flea control program for your pet and your pet’s environment helps ensure that’s all they bring to the home!

At Christmas time when I was playing with my friends in the snow.

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At Christmas when I can hear bells from Santa’s sleigh and reindeer footsteps on the stairs.

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It’s not just about earning a living. It’s about building something great, expanding your earning potential, and giving back.

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earning potential, and giving back. Few things are more fulfilling and energizing than doing meaningful work that makes a difference in the lives of others. That’s what being a State Farm® agent is all about! If you want to build a successful career while balancing work and family, helping others, and giving back to your community, you can do that too! Who says you can’t have it all? Makeover yourself in a new career as a State Farm® Agent! Who says you can’t have it all? This is Where Dream Meets Opportunity!

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Greeting card tango:

How to impress, not stress, during the holidays by Lydia Ramsey

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hen it comes to holiday greeting cards, to send or not to send is often the question. Once you have decided in the affirmative, you then have to determine who to include on your list, what kind of card to choose and how to address the envelope. There are lots of reasons for sending those holiday cards. You might want to enhance your current business relationships, attract new customers, remind old clients that you exist or show appreciation to those who have faithfully supported you during the year. What is obviously a well-meaning gesture can actually offend the people you want to impress when it is not done properly.

The most elegant cards should still have your personal signature and a short handwritten message or greeting. The first place to start is with a good quality card to show that you value your clients and colleagues. Skimping on your selection can be interpreted in a number of ways. Your recipients might take it as a sign that business has not been good or that they aren’t worth a little extra investment on your part. Make sure your list is up-to-date with correct names and current addresses. If you do this on a regular basis, it does not become a dreaded holiday chore. As you gain new clients and contacts, take a few minutes to add them to your database and mark them for your greeting card group. This way you won’t overlook anyone or embarrass yourself by sending the card to the old address. Sign each card personally. Even if you have preprinted information on the card such as 40

your name—which is an impressive detail— you need to add your handwritten signature. The most elegant cards should still have your personal signature and a short handwritten message or greeting. Sound like a lot of trouble? If the business or the relationship is worth it, so is the extra effort. This is your chance to connect on a personal level with your clients and colleagues. Take the time to handwrite the address as well. If you are ready to throw up your hands at this point and forget the whole project, then have someone else address the envelopes for you. Whatever you do, don’t use computer-generated labels. They are impersonal and make your holiday wishes look like a mass mailing. You may save time and even money, but lose a business associate in the process. You may mail your greeting to the home if you know the business person socially. Be sure to include the spouse’s name in this instance. The card is not sent to both husband and wife at the business address unless they both work there. Whether you are addressing the envelope to an individual or a couple, titles should always be used. It’s “Mr. John Doe,” not “John Doe,” or “Mr. and Mrs. John Doe, rather that “John and Mary Doe.” Be sensitive to the religious beliefs of the people to whom you are sending your cards. Find out whether they observe Christmas, Hanukkah or Kwanzaa and make sure your message is appropriate for each individual. If you decide to go with one card and a single message for all, choose a generic one that will not offend. “Season’s Greetings” and “Happy Holidays” are both safe bets. Mail your greetings in time to arrive for the designated holiday. If you find yourself addressing the envelopes on Super Bowl Sunday, keep the cards until next year and send

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out a high-quality note thanking people for their business during the previous year. The best way to avoid the last minute greeting rush is to have all your envelopes addressed before Thanksgiving. Then during December you can write a short message— one or two lines are all that is necessary on each card, sign your name and have them in the mail with a minimum of hassle. You should now have all the time in the world for the shopping, baking, decorating and celebrating that accompanies the holiday season.

7 Additional Tips for Addressing Envelopes If you are about to address your holiday greeting cards or the invitations to the company party and you are confused about the correct way to do it, you are not alone. There are situations that we have not had to consider before. There are more women with professional titles, increased numbers of women who retain their maiden name after marriage, and couples choosing alternative living arrangements. The simple act of addressing an envelope has become quite complicated. Here are a few tips to cover the majority of those demanding dilemmas.

1. Always write titles on the envelope. The card or invitation goes to “Mr. John Smith,” not “John Smith.” It is addressed to “Mr. and Mrs. John Smith,” instead of “John and Mary Smith.” 2. When you address a couple, use titles, rather than professional initials. It’s “Dr. and Mrs. John Smith,” not “John Smith, M.D. and Mrs. Smith.” 3. If both the husband and the wife are doctors, you write, “The Doctors Smith.” However, if they use different last names, you address the envelope to “Dr. John

Professional Smith and Dr. Mary Brown.” The husband’s name is placed first.

4. If the wife is a doctor and the husband is not, you send your invitation to “Mr. John Smith and Dr. Mary Smith.” 5. Try to get it all on one line. When the husband has an unusually long name, the wife’s title and name are indented and written on the second line. 6. When a couple is not married

and share a mutual address, their names are written on separate lines alphabetically and not connected by the word “and.”

7. When the woman outranks her husband, her name is written first. It’s “Major Mary Smith and Lieutenant John Smith.” Note: The man’s name is always written first unless the wife outranks him or if the couple is unmarried and her last name precedes his alphabetically. So much for “Ladies first.”

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Bathed in color by Jody Truesdale

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elony Stuckey has been intrigued by color since she was a little girl. Early on, she told her mother she wanted to be a coloring book artist. Even though her middle school art teacher attempted to dampen her love for art, Melony continued to be intrigued by color and art. As she matured, she began to find opportunities to express her love for art. A snapshot of Melony’s life today exemplifies that love. She is simultaneously a painter, a glass artist and a customer service representative for Pine Press Printing. The theme for all of Melony’s art could be “capturing something and keeping it forever.” Her paintings are primarily flowers, while her glass art revolves around using old, recycled glass and creating something new. As a customer service rep, she concentrates on creating the best, most colorful work for her clients. I asked Melony why her paintings concentrated on flowers. She said, “A flower’s life is short. When I paint a flower, it lives on.” One look at Melony’s flower paintings and anyone would agree; they truly look alive. One of my favorite paintings, a sunflower, literally shines like the sun. The vibrant yellow she uses is vividly contrasted by the teal

Melony’s vibrant color and art ‘inspires the mind to dream and enjoy every moment in life.’ photo by Cathy Lindner

Melony Stuckey background. One could easily envision this sunflower, joined by hundreds more, swaying gently in a warm summer breeze. Another facet of Melony’s art also intrigued me. She is a glass artist. Melony takes stained glass, fused glass, mosaic glass, any recycled old glass, and creates a new work of art with the old glass. Rebirth. Melony concentrates on wind chimes and glass mosaic windows, but has done fused glass pieces for clients. The vibrant colors in her glass pieces are a continuation of her painting. Melony’s vibrant color and art “inspires the mind to dream and enjoy every moment in life.”

Understandably, when Melony needs to decompress, she and her husband frequently choose the beach as a favorite getaway. Melony says her heart is at the beach. It is appropriate; the beach contains such vibrant colors, smells and examples of nature, and it is a favorite getaway of Melony’s. Melony’s work can be seen at M. Gallery, at the Old Mill in Lexington, or at Wink’s on Lady Street. Do yourself a favor; add some color to your life by buying one of Melony’s paintings or pieces of glass art. You will be happily reminded daily of nature’s beauty.

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2W: Ashley, Tell us a little about yourself. Ashley: Not sure what to tell! I am a local gal; I went to Airport High School! After Airport I accepted a soccer scholarship and attended North Greenville College, a small school in the upstate. I had 4 great years there! After college I worked for the department of the Navy as a civilian auditor in Washington, DC. While I was in DC, my father’s business was evolving from strictly large scale custom homes to real estate development and subdivision construction. DC life was crazy and I am a southern gal and was homesick. I knew I could never be a ‘builder’ but the new track the company was taking was one I knew I wanted to be a part of! So I said goodbye to the fast paced life of the BIG city and my cubicle (ha) and headed home to jump headfirst into the wild world of construction and real estate! When I returned to Columbia, I was blessed to meet the love of my life, Christopher, who I’ve been happily married to for 3½ years now! W2W: How is your work rewarding? Ashley: As cheesy as it may sound, there is just nothing better than to see someone SO excited about their new home! It is amazing to see a raw piece of land become transformed into a community within a few short years. It’s great to know that you are helping someone with one of the largest decisions of their life! You are directly affecting people and can see the direct result of how the work you do impacts someone’s life, and that’s what I love! I just felt lost and bored in my past cubicle life! W2W: What are three things you attribute to your success? Ashley: I thought of four things! I wouldn’t be where I was today if it weren’t for my parents. They never accepted anything but 100% effort out of everything I was doing: Grades, sports, work, you name it. I was always pressed to be better and work harder. A strong work ethic is second nature in my family. You MUST have a job as soon as you’re old enough to work and you’re out on your own supporting yourself at 18!

Definitely my husband. In my line of work it’s easy to get overwhelmed with your workload and responsibilities. The stress level is definitely on high 6 our of 7 days a week (sometimes 7!). He constantly helps to keep me focused on the issues at hand, prepared and relaxed. He’s the “wizard behind the curtain” of my day to day operations! I think my background as an athlete has played a major role in my success - to be a great athlete you have to be disciplined and most of all you have to be COMPETITIVE - and I definitely am competitive! Great peers and mentors are a must have! When I left the wild world of auditing (ha!) and obtained my real estate license no one at our company had the time to train me!

graduated with his Masters in Real Estate Development (MRED) and has joined my parents and me at McGuinn Homes. ‘My vision’ is really ‘our vision’ since we all work together! Our vision is to continue to grow our company in an innovative way that supports our community, our family and God’s work. We’re looking forward to what God has in store for our family and our business! W2W: Tell us about your family. Ashley: I have a wonderful husband who was born and raised here in Lexington. He is still showing me the ropes of the town

Our vision is to continue to grow our company in an innovative way that supports our community, our family and God’s work. We turned to my father’s mentor Ray Stoudemire and he patiently taught me the real estate business for two years. Ray taught me how to have integrity and kindness in tandem with being successful. There aren’t many people in the business world like Ray and I was grateful to have him as a mentor! Ray still takes time when I call to help me through this crazy career! W2W: What is your vision for your company in the future? Ashley: Being in the development and construction business we have definitely seen ups and downs. I’ve joked with my dad before that I have seen the best of times and the worst of times all before I was 30 years old! I have been very blessed to be involved in a ‘family business’. My brother recently

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Ashley Dooley since I am from ‘the other side of town’ (ha! We joke about that all of the time, that I am not an ‘original Lexingtonian!’) I have a great family and am blessed to see most of them on a daily basis at work, well almost all of them, with the exception of my sister who lives in Georgia with my three gorgeous nieces! I try to see them as much as I can! Seeing your family everyday makes work fun – and definitely keeps it interesting! There isn’t much ‘personal’ information in a family business! Everyone knows everything! www.lexingtonwoman.sc

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Ashley Dooley with Melissa Birdsong (left) and Donna Summers (right) in a McGuinn model home in Pleasant Hills W2W: What male role model has played the biggest part in who you are today? Ashley: I would definitely have to say my father. Not only is he my ‘boss,’ he is a great leader in our family. He has taught me to give freely and dedicate myself 100% to whatever I do. The best part is that he doesn’t just tell you to do it - he shows you, through the way he lives his life. There’s nothing he commits to that he doesn’t commit 100% to. That’s the best way to live because you’re definitely not promised tomorrow! W2W: What female role model has made the biggest impact on who you are today? Ashley: I would have to say it’s a tie between my two grandmothers! One was the most patient, loving and caring woman. She taught me unconditional love and patience. My other grandmother is a true fighter - a cancer survivor. She has taught me how to be strong and courageous! W2W: What is a favorite quote that helps you get through difficult days or situations? Ashley: There is a poster in our office by Charles Swindoll that reads: “The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the

past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company, a church, a home. The remarkable thing is that we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past. We cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you. We are in charge of our Attitudes.” Also, here is a great one from Ray Stoudemire: “If you’re ever going to get out of the real estate business, quit on the day of a closing, you’ll never want to quit!” (I love that one, and too funny too!) W2W: Share with us one thing that most people may not know about you. Ashley: That’s a tough one! I would have to say I am deathly afraid of heights! Sometimes even standing on a chair can make my knees shake - HA!

W2W: What is one holiday tradition that you plan to make part of your family’s tradition or some tradition that you have brought to your marriage? Ashley: Thanksgiving is always fun! Instead of the traditional turkey and fixin’s, we have homemade chicken enchiladas, with fresh tortillas sent in from our family in Phoenix with homemade refried beans and rice. My husband and I will definitely carry that tradition on with our own family! It’s the Thanksgiving fiesta! There’s plenty of turkey to go around at all of the other holiday stops! Now I just have to convince my dad to pass along the top secret recipe!

Thanksgiving is always fun! ...It’s the Thanksgiving fiesta! – Ashley Dooley

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Portrait of the artist by Jody Truesdale

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he portrait was mesmerizing. The more I gazed at it, the more I realized just how perfect, how beautiful it was. The attention to detail was amazing. Each child wore a matching pearl bracelet and their gowns literally blended into one. As the younger sister slept, older sister serenely watched over her, almost as if whispering in her ear, “sleep little sister, I’ll protect you.” That attention to detail, that perfect positioning, that beauty, they all are hallmarks of Cynthia Pace Photography. The owner, Cynthia Pace has loved photography since she took a photography class at University of South Carolina while she was still in middle school. As her love for photography grew, so did her professional aspirations. Cynthia earned her undergraduate degree in studio

to love doing what you do to succeed, and I love taking pictures of people.” To truly experience Cynthia’s passion, you have to visit her studio on Sumter Street or her website, www.cynthiapacephotography.com. At either location, you will see extraordinary portraits of individuals and families, infants, maternity portraits and beach scenes. My personal favorite, the one described above, came from Cynthia’s Heirloom and Signature Portraits gallery. Regardless of your favorite portrait, a common theme runs through all of Cynthia’s work. Cynthia describes it as sharing God’s work with her family friends and clients. “I am constantly amazed at the beauty and inspiration that surrounds us. It overwhelms me, and my heart overflows with appreciation for what God has blessed us with. If I can share just a fraction of that joy and elation, I have done what I believe I was put on this earth to do.”

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A common theme throughout Cynthia’s website is an awesome reverence for God and His creations. This love is obviously what also led Cynthia to her “Angels and Sweethearts” charity event. The charity event began as a promotion that Cynthia held in the weeks leading up to Valentine’s Day. Pace turned her annual promotion into a fundraiser for the March of Dimes. The idea for the charity was to hold a portrait special and then use the images in a calendar. The key to the program’s success however, was creating multiple revenue streams. Pace raised funds for the charity not only through session fees and calendar sales, but through

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sponsorships, charity auctions and additional print sales. One of the key additions to the promotion was instituting an online voting competition for the calendar images. The project kickoff was held in November, 2008 at a banquet for the March of Dimes. Pace raised $1,000 for the march of Dimes immediately by auctioning off one of the calendar spots. In January, Cynthia held 25 “Angels and Sweethearts” sessions over the course of several weekends. Indoor sessions had a sitting fee of $80. Outdoor sessions cost $100, with all of the sitting fees going directly to the March of Dimes. The introduction of the online voting truly increased the donations to the March of Dimes. After the 25 images were posted online, friends and family could vote, for $1.00 per vote, for their favorite images. The top 11 images would join the original auction winner to create the 12 calendar images. In one month, participants cast more than 15,000 votes for the different images. That gave the March of Dimes $15,000 from the voting alone! In all, Cynthia’s charity event raised nearly $20,000 for the March of Dimes. The calendars will be sold at Cynthia Pace Photography and through local boutiques, with all proceeds going to the March of Dimes. “To raise that much money with only 25 sessions is amazing,” says Pace. “But we think we can do better. For next year, we’d like to book 100 sessions. Just imagine what we can contribute with those numbers!” Whether she is raising money for worthwhile charities, taking pictures of her friends and family, or creating “one of a kind” lifetime memories through her portraits, Cynthia pace truly feels blessed. She loves what she does, and what she does captures loving memories, for a lifetime. Cynthia says it best when she states, “It’s our life’s work, and we wouldn’t do it if we didn’t have that love for what we do.” Go by Cynthia Pace Photography, or visit her online at www.cynthiapacephotography.com. You will be intrigued, awed and humbled at the “celebrations of God’s creations” she creates.

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Lexington County Recreation and Aging Commission by Elaine Samples

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he mission of LCRAC is to improve the quality of life for all citizens through creative and meaningful life enriching experiences. LCRAC was created by an act of the South Carolina Legislature in 1968 as a Special Purpose District to serve community residents living in Lexington School Districts 1-4 and officially absorbed into its operation the existing senior citizen program in 1980. The Commission currently owns and operates over 45 parks and facilities, including seven multipurpose Senior Centers, three leisure and wellness centers, gymnasiums, a tennis complex, ball fields, sports complexes, horse arenas, bike track, soccer complexes, and multiple parks with playground equipment, walking trails, ball fields, soccer fields and tennis courts.

throughout the year are centered around the needs and requests of the local communities where the various facilities are located and the groups using them. For example, all seven Senior Centers offer the same core group of services, but they vary greatly on types of recreations and educational activities offered. LCRAC’s Council on Aging offers a variety of programs and special services for the elderly adults in Lexington County. Service provisions for senior adults include Meals on Wheels, Home Care, transportation to/from senior centers, Medical Escort, Information and Referral Assistance, Noon time meals at the Senior Centers and an annual service project for home repair. The LCRAC Council on Aging has programs offered Monday through Friday at each of the

LCRAC offers a wide range of programs, classes, and services for residents of all ages... Lexington County Tennis Complex LCRAC offers a wide range of programs, classes, and services for residents of all ages including art, dance, karate, exercise and fitness, sports camps, gymnastics, and tennis tournaments. It also hosts a variety of local, regional, and national soccer, football, and tennis tournaments, and runs an after school program and summer day camp for children ages 5 through 12. Aside from the basic physical benefits of team sports and calorie burning, children can benefit in other ways, including social, emotional and physical ones. Involvement in team sports also helps reinforce the three “P’s” – practice, patience and persistence, which translate into more important life lessons as well. Programming and special events offered 48

seven senior centers located throughout Lexington County. These assorted programs are expanded to include nutrition and wellness information, physical fitness classes, health screenings, local trips, crafts, educational programs, and recreational/socialization opportunities. Through the LCRAC, seniors are also able to enjoy special events such as the annual Luau, Senior Sports Games, holiday projects (i.e., Tree of Blessings and Holiday Goody Bags), volunteer opportunities, Classic Travelers program and much more. LCRAC also regularly partners with other agencies and groups to provide additional or coordinated services for clients. The Commission receives 73% of its budgeting operating revenue from property taxes approved by the taxing authority of Lexington County Council. Additional revenue

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Jay Criscione – The baton is passed Ted Stambolitis, owner of the Flight Deck in Lexington and Community Leader said of Jay Criscione, “Because of his vision, hard work and diligence, sporting events and facilities have grown tenfold in Lexington County.” Mr. Criscione was the Executive Director of the Lexington County Recreation and Aging Commission (LCRAC), and he was also a cancer survivor for several years. In 2006, he was diagnosed with Squamous Cell Carcinoma of the throat which he battled successfully, but then was diagnosed later with Cholangiocarcinoma, or cancer of the bile duct, which he ultimately lost his battle with it earlier this year. “The quality of life in Lexington has increased to the better substantially because of Jay,” said Mr. Stambolitis. Paulette Criscione, Jay’s sister, had this to say about Jay’s impact on our community: “He was very proud that his vision helped the county and that it had an economic impact on everyone. He was proud of his staff and all the employees that helped with making his vision possible.” As Randy Gibson steps into the role of Executive Director, the baton is passed. Randy shares the same vision and commitment to the community as Jay. Lives of children as well as those of Senior Citizens have been impacted by the legacy of work that Randy will continue.

“Because of his vision, hard work and diligence, sporting events and facilities have grown tenfold in Lexington County.”

Services comes from program fees, grants, and fundraising. LCRAC maintains an “AA-” rating from Standard and Poor’s on its outstanding general obligation bond debt for capital improvements that is guaranteed by the taxing authority of Lexington County Council. The leading challenge facing LCRAC today is the recent and continued rapid growth in requests for services, especially that of Group Dining and Home Delivered Meals. Every year, the number of meals served increases by several thousand. Lexington, Tri-City and Batesburg-Leesville Senior Centers are regularly serving more than 100 meals per day, with the other Senior Centers experiencing similar growth. This demand will escalate as the Baby Boomers move into their 60’s and beyond. The challenges lie not only in funding the services, but in managing the logistics of providing the services: staffing, volunteers, space, equipment, vehicles, etc. LCRAC has been proactive in planning for these challenges by acquiring funds to build additional facilities or expanding existing ones, increasing the frozen meal program, and actively seeking funding to pay for additional meals and staff. If you or someone you know can help in any of these areas, please contact LCRAC through its website provided below. LCRAC and its programs have enjoyed recognition for its excellence, including the 2003 Agency of the Year Award from SC Recreation and Parks Association and several program awards from the South Carolina Office on Aging. From its directors, front line staff to part time employees, LCRAC prides itself with a staff that works hard to enhance the lives of others, especially those it serves, through creative and enriching life experiences. To learn more about the sites, programs and special events offered by LCRAC, please visit its website at www.lcrac.com or call (803)359.4048 to be placed on its quarterly newsletter mailing list.

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2W: What lead you down the path to becoming a Rockette? Jessica: I’ve been taking dance lessons since I was 2 and 1/2 years old. I started out at Miss Marion’s School of Dance in Spartanburg SC. My tap and jazz teacher, Lori, was a former Rockette, and I remember seeing her Rockette photos hanging on the studio walls. I remember looking at those beautiful ladies in their glamorous costumes thinking “I’m gonna be one of those girls one of these days.” I took lots of ballet as well. I spent summers away at summer ballet programs one of which was Columbia City Ballet’s summer program led by William Starret. After high school I went to the University of Oklahoma where I received my B.F.A. in Dance. Then I moved to NYC and started auditioning!

Jessica Park W2W: How does it feel to be performing so close to home? Jessica: Well, I’m actually going to be performing in NYC this year but I think it is fantastic that the Radio City Christmas Spectacular is coming to my home state and that people from the Columbia area will get to see this fabulous holiday tradition right in their own backyard! We will be performing at the Colonial Life Arena on December 6th for two dazzling performances! W2W: What is one of your favorite memories of holidays at home? Jessica: I remember sleeping in my bed when I was a little girl at home in SC on Christmas Eve and I heard reindeer bells ringing. I knew Santa had landed on my roof and was about to drop all my presents off. I was very excited and didn’t get out of bed because I remembered my mom telling me that Santa wouldn’t leave my presents if I got out of bed

and he caught me snooping around. It makes me laugh because now as a Rockette I’m one of Santa’s reindeer dancing on stage and pulling his sled! Oh, and because I was a good girl and didn’t get out of bed, Santa had left all kind of presents for me when I woke up Christmas morning! W2W: How much do you rehearse? Jessica: The Radio City Rockettes rehearse 6 hours a day 6 days a week for about 4 weeks to perfect our precision dance routines. One of which is the parade of the wooden soldiers which has been in the Radio City Christmas Spectacular since 1933. W2W: Where all do you travel? Jessica: With the Rockettes I have performed in Nashville, Denver, Detroit, and New York. The arena tour is visiting 31 cities starting in Canada and traveling all up and down the East Coast including, of course, a stop in our state capitol of Columbia. W2W: What is your favorite venue that you have performed in? Jessica: I have to say my favorite venue that I have performed in is Radio City Music Hall because it is such a beautiful example of Art Deco style and grace. It is huge theater with almost 6,000 seats. I love the fact that Rockettes for over 75 years have been entertaining audiences on the Great Stage just like I do now. W2W: What would you say to someone else who may aspire to become a Rockette? Jessica: Live your dream. If you have a goal, work hard to achieve it. Don’t ever listen to anyone at anytime tell you that you can’t do something. Also know that hard work and persistence will get you farther than you ever can imagine. I loved dancing and took dance classes almost everyday growing up but I was never the favorite. I never picked dance steps up the fastest. I never had the most flexibility or the prettiest feet but I knew what I wanted and went for it. These are the people who are currently out there making it in the world of professional dance! The Rockettes will perform at the Colonial Life Arena on December 6th. (See their ad on page 32.)

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Trends for 2009 by Ruth Chapman

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he name of the game in jewelry for 2009 is value. With the state of the economy women are looking for more bang for their hard earned buck. According to the August 2009 issue of Modern Jeweler, a trade publication, the following is a compilation of some of the top ten national trends in jewelry for 2009.

1. Silver is a big item this year. With gold prices hovering around $1000.00 per ounce and silver prices about $17.00 per ounce it only makes sense. The trend is bold geometry and sculpture. The chunky bangle, the long beaded necklace, these are what’s hot this year. 2. “Blackground”, this is a blackened finish added to distinguish silver designs and is a good companion to other metals as well. It makes the colors “pop” and really adds depth to jewelry. 3. Retails under $500.00. Again this makes sense with most of America’s disposable income dwindling. Look for affordable, yet bold. 4. Rocks and minerals are big this year. Colorful, patterned ornamental gems give a pretty stylish look at an affordable price. 5. Organic gem shapes, for instance fire opal are in vogue. Pull out those pretty stones you found on your family trip to the gem mines while visiting in the mountains. We can set the stone in a mounting for a pendant or ring that is unique, but affordable. 6. Peace and love symbols are big this year with the 40th anniversary of Woodstock. Also words written in or on jewelry such as love, peace, bliss, etc. Zodiac signs are also making a comeback. 7. Collectible beads from many manufacturers are big this year. The most popular and recognizable name is Pandora. However, as the trend has blossomed 50

other manufacturers have begun making their own brand of beads. Many times the lesser known brands of beads are made to fit rival brand bracelets. Beads range from silver to glass and are usually very colorful, ranging in price from $6.00 to $45.00 and up for the more exotic beads. They are typically found on bracelets, but earrings, necklaces and purse adornments have emerged from this new trend.

The trend is bold geometry and sculpture. The chunky bangle, the long beaded necklace, these are what’s hot this year. 8. Personalization is popular this year. Again, using the bead example above, some beads are lettered so monograms or spelled out names are a possibility. The slider bracelets are usually value priced and can be designed to fit a personal taste. 9. Transformers are not only showing at the box office but are found in some of this year’s trends. Rings that turn into pendants, earrings that become bangle bracelets, and interchangeable jewelry, are some of the newest styles, again to get the biggest bang for the buck. 10. Compound cuts are popular. This is taking multiple smaller stones and grouping them together in a familiar shape to give the appearance of a larger stone. For example a ring that looks to be a 1.00 carat solitaire upon closer inspection is actually a multiple diamond ring weighing .66 carats. Can’t afford 2.00 carat diamond

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earrings? Try compound cut style earrings to get the look at a more affordable price. These are some of the national trends, showing up on the runways and red carpets around America and the world. In our neck of the woods, we are seeing the collectible beads, mentioned in number 7. We are also seeing the popularity of silver products and have added a jewelry case marked ‘Gifts under $100’ that includes a number of silver items. We are seeing more chunky style fashion bracelets and necklaces for the fall. For a little pricier item that is classic yet stylish, we have the inside/out hoop earrings. These hoops have diamonds on the outside of the hoop as well as the inside of the back. So the hoops really sparkle when they catch the light, whether it’s sunlight or subdued restaurant style lighting. As with the green movement that our new president has spearheaded, botanical jewelry is in vogue. Leaves and flowery designs with colored stones either real or synthetic are popular this year. Finally, when choosing a special piece of jewelry, (consider this a Christmas hint, guys) classics like pearls, traditional shaped diamonds and three stone anniversary bands are always in style and can be worn dressed up or down, depending on the occasion. Just like clothing, you should invest in a few really nice, classic pieces that will be in fashion for years to come.

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he following Survivor stories are a little different than previous issues. One is about a lady who turned her fight into a blessing in her own life she is a cancer Survivor. Another story is about a Survivor who didn’t have cancer but survived the loss of someone she loved who was an 8 year survivor. I hope the next few pages of Lexington Woman will do more than inspire you. I want them to encourage and motivate you. I hope they will make you believe in the strength that is inside you when something horrible and

frightening looks you in the face and dares you to stand up and move forward. This magazine is not about cancer. This magazine is about Survivors. I believe it is wonderful that so many people come together in the month of October to focus on breast cancer; however, women get diagnosed every day of the year with all types of cancer. That is why Lexington Woman will highlight at least one Survivor in each edition. This magazine is dedicated to the belief that you are capable of many things that you yourself don’t even realize you’re capable

of and one of those things is the amount of fight that is inside of you. It isn’t important if your fight is against cancer, diabetes, high blood pressure, COPD, physical abuse, sexual abuse, mental abuse, infidelity, low self esteem, depression, and the list goes on. What is important is how hard you FIGHT. I saw a flyer for a fundraiser for a group of ladies who are incredibly precious to me the ‘Ta-Tini’s and you can buy one of their Tshirts at Merle Norman in Lexington, that said this, “Fight Like A Girl.” Let’s do that. Let’s fight like girls — strong, motivated, unstoppable girls. www.lexingtonwoman.sc

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Daddy didn’t deserve it by Elaine Samples

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remember the day they told my father he had six months to live. I can close my eyes today, four years later, and feel exactly what I felt at that precise moment. I was sitting in my office and my surroundings suddenly became very surreal. As people walked up and down the hall self absorbed and full of life, I wanted to shout, “How can you be normal? How can you walk around and talk about contracts and due diligence and what you are having for lunch? Don’t you know that my father is dying?” I closed my door and cried. I wept and sobbed and trembled and asked over and over, “Why? Why? Why? Please, God, no. Don’t let it be.” My father and I always had a very good relationship. In fact, my father had a good relationship with most everyone he encountered. Slow to anger, quick to forgive, ready with a smile, people wanted to be around my dad. Cliché as it sounds, he’d give a stranger “the shirt off of his back.” In fact that very giving personified in his life and that of my mother angered me as a kid, even more so as a teenager. I couldn’t understand the selfless nature of it and I made countless excuses as to the many things they could have done with their time and resources that were more productive and fruitful. As an adult, I understand now more than ever how important their giving was to so many people and how it has enriched my life in more ways than can be quantified. So, how could this man who was everything good in this world be falling victim to that nasty, vicious, EVIL disease called cancer? He didn’t deserve this. Give it to the people who abuse little children, or to those who had no patience for the elderly, or to the racist people who foolishly believed that theirs was the “superior people” and all others were less human. Or the CEOs who stole from hard working Americans and caused people to lose their homes and everything they had ever worked for. Yes. Give it to those people. But not my daddy.

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His entire life was about giving. He never took much of anything. Certainly nothing he didn’t deserve. He was a doer and a giver and the world would simply not be as good without him. My dad did not deserve to die. Not so young. I had never been married, didn’t have children. Oh, my God. Who would walk me down the aisle? And suddenly this became an obsession of mine. Approaching thirty years old, focused on my career and making my own way, I had never been one of those girls who fixated over her wedding and dreamed of the white dress and pink

So, how could this man who was everything good in this world be falling victim to that nasty, vicious, EVIL disease called cancer? flowers, the fairy-tale day all about her. Never. But suddenly, every single day I thought about how empty and sad my wedding would be without my father there to give me away. It’s the silliest things that consume us during times of such uncertainty and pain. Subsequently, I set out to see him every moment that I could, tell him every good thing I’d ever thought about him, bestow upon him the very best way I possibly could the insane amount of love my heart held for him. I started making the hour drive to my parents’ house after work some days. I spent weekends there. Every Sunday after church, we watched football in his hospital bed. I walked with him to the garden and I picked the weeds that he could no longer pluck as he sat on the bucket at the end of

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the row and watched me with pride. I felt guilty that only in his death had I made it important enough to work in his beautiful garden. I felt like my heart would explode sometimes as I struggled for the words that would convey to him what he meant to me. But how could I ever really tell him with words? They seemed so inadequate. Or even the sincerest of actions. How do you say “thank you” to the man who sacrificed over and over and over and over so that your life could be better? How do you tell him that you credit all of the good stuff you are to him and your mother and how do you tell him how sorry you are for every time you ever disappointed him, made him cry, stayed out too late, said a bad word, didn’t study hard, kept his change, forgot to clean the toilet, yelled at your mother, fought with your brother? Many times, I was brave and strong and light hearted and fun as I kissed him goodbye, but as soon as the door closed on my car, I would slump my head over the steering wheel and cry and beg God to help me through it. Sometimes, I would be forced to pull over on the side before I reached the end of the road because the tears were flowing and my vision was obstructed. Other times, I would lay and cry with him. I didn’t want to cry. He didn’t want me to cry. He didn’t want to cry. I didn’t want him to cry. But we knew it was okay. And we soothed and patted and comforted and rested in the love we had for each other. A bond between father and daughter that was stronger than the most durable chains and deeper than all of the oceans combined. A love that would remain, no matter if he outlived me in this temporal realm or if I remained on the earth fifty years after he was gone. He lasted about eight months. The end was very painful. It was difficult for him because he was an intensely proud man and he never desired that his wife (my mother) or his children witness him as anything but the man of strength, bravery and cour-

Celebrating the age that he was. Always an active man, he was no longer able to “get up and go” like he’d always done. He relied heavily on my mother for his daily care and it was very agonizing for him. But he lived with dignity and heroism until he drew his last breath. He fought so hard. He was ready to go, but he damn sure didn’t want to. In the last weeks, the house was literally never empty. People came from all walks of life to pay their respects to my dad. Some I had never seen before. Many that I vaguely remembered. Others that were very familiar. Not one person departed with dry eyes or without a heavy heart. As we sat at the kitchen table one night, people parading through the house and into his room to say goodbye, my pastor of childhood turned to me and said, “Kid, it’s been since I was a little boy that I have seen so many people come to pay their respects to one person at the end of his life. This is a testament to the man your father is. Be very proud of that.” I couldn’t have been any more proud of my Daddy. As he passed from this world and into the next, the years literally lifted from his face. It was as though the clock was rewound thirty years and it suddenly became very clear to me just how hard he had fought. For us. Not for him. He was in a better place now. He knew very well that he was

headed to the land where there is no sickness, no sorrow, no sad goodbyes. But he’d fought so valiantly to remain on this earth because he knew we weren’t ready for him to go. Right then, I think I was even more proud of him, even though I hadn’t thought it possible. The days and weeks that followed were emotionally challenging. For as long as I could remember, I had telephoned my father during my commute to work in the mornings. I knew he was awake, probably just watching the news, and it was “our time.” Who knew what the rest of the day would hold and this was a sure way to talk to him every day. I remember the first morning I picked up the phone and punched in his speed dial number on my cell phone. I waited for it to ring and with sudden realization, I threw the phone to the back of my car. How stupid. No one was going to pick up the other end of the phone. I wanted to call him many times. I wanted to hug him, talk to him, watch football with him and jump up and down and scream at the TV, eat one of his fresh tomatoes, take him a new pair of tennis shoes and see the look of excitement I was responsible for (it was the little things he enjoyed), watch Meet the Press together, have him tell me stories of his own father, listen as he sang the songs of my childhood, simply sit in his presence and bask in his love. But I knew those days were over. The “firsts” were hard, of course.

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‘...it’s been since I was a little boy that I have seen so many people come to pay their respects to one person at the end of his life. This is a testament to the man your father is. Be very proud of that.’ I couldn’t have been any more proud of my Daddy. First Father’s Day, birthday without him, planting season, Thanksgiving, Christmas. I still think of him every single day. And at first, when I thought of him, I cried a lot. But then one day I realized that I smiled more than cried when my thoughts drifted to my father. I am not sure when it happened. But I can promise you this, it does happen. And when it does, you realize that you’ve overcome a hurdle and life gets a little easier. Because the truth is, life does go on. It has to. And that is just the way my daddy would want it.

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Aqua power

Vital Energy Occupational & Physical Therapy Center helps patients to perform rehab through Aqua Therapy by Hima Dalal

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quatic Classes vs. Aquatic Therapy? A recreational facility may provide aquatic classes for people with a variety of disabilities, but our program and pool is unique. At Vital Energy they provide an aquatic therapy experience through their Hydroworx Pool. A licensed therapist will provide individualized exercise in the pool according to the medical necessity of individual patients. Patients who have previously been unable to start treatment with land-based exercise may be able to tolerate a water program more quickly and more effectively. This

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Vital Energy is the only rehab center in the Columbia/Lexington area to offer a Hydroworx pool with a state of the art underwater treadmill.

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Our goal is to achieve mental and physical wellness through our combination of Complementary/Alternative therapies with traditional Occupational Therapy. OUR SERVICES INCLUDE:

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• Women’s Health Issues – Chronic/Acute Pain

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• Myofascial Release Treatment and Craniosacral Therapy

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Thank you! I wanted to take this opportunity to give a little recognition to a giving woman. As someone who tries always to think of others, I sometimes jokingly refer to her as the ‘gift lady.’ She is always quick with a thank you. Allow me to tell you a little about the co-founder of Chemo With Style, Mrs. Terry Vann-Schon.

Hydroworx Pool at Vital Energy could allow a patient to heal more efficiently than without an aquatic option. In addition, the pool features the following to assist in patients treatment:

• Balance and gait disturbance • Neurological disability • Obesity • Sensory impairment for pediatric conditions and sensory impairment • Lymphedema

• An integrated variable speed treadmill • Resistive jets • Massage hose • Removable grab bars • Water temperature at 92˚ • Entry into the pool can be gained through steps with handrails or Hydraulic chair lift for easy access

Why Aquatic Therapy? The water is a unique exercise environment because it decreases pain, muscle spasms and allows increased mobility. This permits earlier treatment of people who are unable to tolerate a land based exercise programs. In the water, a patient can work on:

Vital Energy is the only rehab center in the Columbia/Lexington area to offer a Hydroworx pool with a state of the art underwater treadmill.

• Strength • Endurance • Posture • Mobility • Sensory Integration • Body Mechanics • Cardiovascular Training • Balance • Range of Motion

The Hydroworx pool is ideal for those suffering from: • Chronic pain • Arthritis management • Fibromyalgia • Neck, shoulder, lower back, knee, hip, groin and ankle injuries and pain • Post-op conditions (e.g. ACL, TKA, laminectary, rotator cuff repair, joint replacement) • Scar management • Sports and work related injuries

For the last two years, we have had the pleasure of co-hosting Surviving the Holidays Fashion Show, a fundraising event for Chemo With Style, which is an organization that helps women (and now men) with any type of cancer who may be going through chemo therapy or radiation therapy as a treatment for their cancer. They provide wigs, turbans, accessories, a soft place to land, and a number of other things for anyone who is going through chemo. Terry is an incredible woman who has such a heart for our community. It is hard to have a conversation with her without eliciting tears in some form or fashion. She cares so deeply for the vision she shares with her co-founder Paulette Criscione. Sometimes in life we meet people who are doing exactly what God created them to do — Terry is one of those people. Terry’s contagious generosity is the perfect fit for her role as Director of Volunteer Services for Hospice Care of Tri-County. Terry appreciates and values each of the volunteers at Hospice as well as every person who has contributed to Chemo With Style. I am very pleased to be affiliated with this organization and all it does, and specifically with a woman who is so passionate about helping to improve the quality of lives of others. Thank you Terry, for your many contributions to our community.

Contact Vital Energy at (803) 3591551 to see if Aquatic Therapy is the right option for you, or please visit our website at www.vitalenergytherapy.com.

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Surviving the Holidays Fashion Show, November 2008 Learn more and see other photos at www.chemowithstyle.com

“Chemo with Style” was founded in November, 2005 by Paulette Criscione and Terry Vann-Shon and through all the heart felt volunteers who have dedicated their time and belief in this class to help others. It's a class that invites all types of cancer survivors to participate in a fun evening to learn about different headwear fashions and other personal appearance tips. It helps to retore their sense of worth, which is crucial to help with their fight against cancer. The class meets every other month, and since its beginning, it has helped many people. This class is no cost to the survivor. Visit www.chemowithstyle.com for our class schedule.

The “Chemo With Style” events have been made possible by the donations of many caring, loving people.

Sponsors: South Carolina Oncology Associates Hospice Care of Tri-County “Chemo With Style” Volunteers

Paulette Criscione and Terry Vann-Schon

Graciously accepting Donations Please call Terry Vann-Schon

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Joan Robinson Hair To Stay, LLC

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2W: What is Hair to Stay, LLC? Joan: I started Hair to Stay LLC in 2007 because I saw a need for men, women, and children experiencing hair loss who needed my services at affordable prices. W2W: What is the vision for your company? Joan: My vision for my company is to be able to help children and young adults with all types of hair loss to look their best without feeling self conscious. W2W: Tell me three things that you find rewarding about your career. Joan: What I find rewarding is to see the smile and confidence that my work allows a child to regain, to hear that a child I’ve had the pleasure of assisting is now more active in school, sports, or everyday life activities, and to know that my work helps to make someone’s wedding day or special occasion a day of beauty and remembrance. W2W: What can you help women with relating to hair loss, or growth? Joan: Women take pride in their hair, so hair loss affects not only their physical appearance, but also their emotional well being and physical health. I can help make their life a little less stressful due to the thinning or loss

of hair. Sometimes, less stress can also enhance new growth of hair. W2W: I know that you are a supporter of our fashion shows and specifically Chemo With Style. How did you get involved? Joan: I went to a church luncheon where I met a young woman who was an admission nurse with Hospice Care of Tri-County. While conversing, I told her that with my profession, I specialize in hair replacement. She then began to inform me about Chemo with Style and all that they do with women who are experiencing hair loss due to being a cancer survivor or currently going through treatment. Knowing that this was a group that strived to help these women, I thought I could offer my services as well. W2W: What is your favorite memory relating to your work? Joan: My favorite memory is of a seven year old who was born with Androgenetic diabetes. She was getting ready to start 2nd grade, but didn’t want to go due to being picked on and made fun of because she did not have any hair. She always kept her head held low and never made eye contact. Once I put on her hair piece, which had pigtails, she seemed to have just come alive. She smiled and smiled

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Christmas is my favorite holiday because it is the birth of Christ. – Joan Robinson

and smiled. I saw the joy in her eyes. W2W: Can you tell us some attributes you have that help you as a business owner? Joan: Being that I am a hair wearer, I have compassion. Due to the current status of the economic situation, I am also understanding and can be very flexible with my prices. I am not only business minded, but I am also mindful of my client’s personal needs. W2W: Will you share with our readers your favorite holiday memory or tradition? Joan: Christmas is my favorite holiday because it is the birth of Christ. This is a time to celebrate and worship him and to thank God for my family and clients, who are also like family.

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HAIR REPLACEMENT CENTER

Specializing in hair replacement for men, women & children

(803) 731-5370 or (803) 731-5367 Fax (803) 731-5365 or 1-877-8TOSTAY (886-7829) 100 Ashland Park Lane • Suite D • Columbia, SC 29210

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Survivor in You

Toni Kelly

Sugar Cookie Dolls & Jewels

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am a 39 year old stay at home mother of two, running a successful cottage industry and here’s my story: About six years ago, I was in desperate need of some “me time” so I struck up a friendship with a glue gun and before you knew it, a fairy doll was born! Sadly, my grandmother passed away around that time. While helping my mom clean out my grandmother’s closet, I had an “ah ha!” moment. You see, my grandmother was anything but typical, she was foxy! She always had her hair beauty shop perfect, makeup flawlessly applied, wearing something fancy and due to a height complex, she ALWAYS wore heels. Of course, she would be carrying a matching handbag and wearing all the right accessories. I guess just looking into her closet and seeing all of her things together like that made me really reflect on her personality. I thought about how she would dress everyday as if anticipating something special would happen. She was so happy, funny and positive. It’s hard to explain it exactly, but I left my grandmother’s house that day feeling somehow inspired. I ended up inheriting a vast collection of costume jewelry, fabric, handbags, shoes,

etc. When I say vast, I mean that she apparently NEVER threw anything away. It has something to do with growing up during a depression; I guess we could all learn a les-

...when someone orders a pink ribbon doll from my website, I donate $5 to the Susan G. Komen for the Cure organization. son from that! Anyway, with my newfound inspiration, I started incorporating those inherited items into my craft projects. It was like a floodgate was lifted and all this creativity came flowing out. I started making lots of little whimsical dolls and ornaments with her costume jewelry and other odds and ends. The reaction that I received from my family and friends was just enough to make me decide to start my own business that I named Sugar Cookie Dolls. I named it that in honor of my late grandma, Margaret Cooke Milam aka: Cookie.

Handmade, one of a kind whimsical Fairies • Angels • Dolls • Christmas Ornaments • Keepsake Boxes Mermaids • Pixies • Elves • Witches • Jewelry

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In the summer of 2005, I was diagnosed with breast cancer. Luckily, it was caught before it had spread. That experience left me with a strong sense of “so glad to still be here” and with a strong urge to tell every woman that I know to get a mammogram. It also gave my creations a new and important focus. I started adding a pink ribbon to most of my dolls and when someone orders a pink ribbon doll from my website, I donate $5 to the Susan G. Komen for the Cure organization. In January of 2006, I started making jewelry. I would have never pictured myself as a jewelry designer, it just sort of accidentally happened. That’s when my business became Sugar Cookie Dolls & Jewels. I have recently been incorporating some of my grandma Cookie’s jewelry into my jewelry creations. I sell from the 3 websites listed below, check it out if you want. People tell me that my pixie dolls make them feel happy or that seeing what I have created makes them laugh; People tell me that what I’m doing has inspired them. That to me is the biggest compliment that I could receive. I guess my goal is to remind women to get a mammogram and to also encourage everyone to celebrate their life! Be Happy! Stay Positive!

Business & Web Directory Animal Hospital

Hospital

Grace Pets Animal Hospital...........................................36 www.gracepets.com

Lexington Medical Center.................. Inside Back Cover www.lexmed.com

Arts & Entertainment

Hotels

Art Imitating Life.............................................................15 www.art-imitating-life.com

Country Inn & Suites......................................................41 www.countryinns.com

Melony Stuckey................................................................42

Wingate by Wyndham....................................................15 www.lexingtonwingate.com

Sugar Cookie Dolls & Jewels..........................................58 www.sugarcookiedolls.com

Insurance

The Studio.........................................................................21 www.thestudiolexington.com

State Farm.........................................................................39 www.sfyourstyle.com

Assisted Living

Jewelry

Agape.................................................................................28 www.agapesenior.com

The Chapman Company...................................................7 www.thechapmancompany.com

Boutique for Surviving Women

New Homes

Alala...................................................................................53 www.alala.info

McGuinn Homes.............................................................44 www.mcguinngroup.com

Cable, Internet, and Phone Services

Nutrition Consultant

Time Warner Cable.........................................Back Cover www.twcsc.com

Carolina Nutrition Consultants, Inc.............................24 www.CNConWeb.com

Children’s Sports

OB/GYN

Sunburst Gymnastics......................................................20 www.sunburstsc.com

Columbia Women’s Healthcare......................................31 www.columbiawhc.com

Dentist

Lexington Women’s Care................................................27 www.lexingtonwomenscare.com

White Knoll Dentistry....................................................23 www.whiteknolldentistry.com

Photography

Palmetto Comprehensive Dentistry..............................29

Education

fastFORWARD at Newberry College............................19 www.newberryfastforward.com

Eye Care

Envision Eyecare..............................................................26 www.envisionfamilyeyecare.com

Green Services and Products

Tomato Palms...................................................................41 www.tomatopalms.com

Clark Berry Photography..................Inside Front Cover www.clarkberry.com Cynthia Pace Photography.............................................47 www.cynthiapacephotography.com

Printing Services

Pine Press Printing..........................................................12 www.pinepressprinting.com

Promotional Marketing

Midlands Promotional Marketing.................................41 www.midlandspromomktg.com

Hair Replacement

Salon

Health Services

Therapy

Hair To Stay......................................................................57 Chemo with Style.............................................................56 www.chemowithstyle.com HealthSource Chiropractic & Progressive Rehab........33 www.healthsourcechiro.com Vital Energy Wellness and Rehab Center.....................54 www.vitalenergytherapy.com

Palmetto Styles.................................................................17 Creative Therapy..............................................................25 www.mytherapycentercolumbia.com

Travel and Entertainment

Colonial Life Arena.........................................................32 www.coloniallifearena.com

Hospice

Hospice Care Of Tri-County..........................................35 www.medicalservicesofamerica.com www.lexingtonwoman.sc

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A Personal Note

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would like to dedicate this edition of Lexington Woman to survivors. You inspire me. You inspire all of us.

I have met so many men and women in the last five years who have overcome insurmountable odds and found the strength to believe in themselves sometimes when no one else did. Men who have survived lung cancer over twenty years, men who have survived the death of a spouse. Women who have survived breast cancer, colon, kidney, skin cancer, women who have survived abusive spouses, women who have survived abusive parents, men and women who have survived brutal forms of child abuse and abandonment. I applaud each of you. You make me want to be a better me. Sometimes I worry about how ‘sentimental’ this page of the magazine is; however, the older I get the more I realize that time is a gift and saying what we mean is the only thing of any real importance that we say at all. Let’s believe in ourselves, to achieve what people tell us is unachievable and to be the best ‘us’ we can be. Last year I had the privilege of speaking at a local elementary school to a group of fourth and fifth graders. I asked those students, “What do you think would happen if you found out you had cancer, and then you read a copy of my magazine about cancer survivors?” A young man raised his hand and answered, “I would think I could survive too.”  I had to fight back the tears as I smiled at him, because he got it. He got what Lexington Woman is all about – sharing good information and inspiring others to believe in themselves just because you are worth it. I believe that all we need sometimes is to be reminded of what God can do. The only limitations on our lives are the limitations we put on Him. Thank you for letting me share positive stories of encouragement. Thanks for continuing to read Lexington Woman from cover to cover and for emailing us with your own stories. I look forward to seeing you soon. In the mean time, be kind to each other. Your friend,

Lori Samples Duncan Psalm 105:1-2

Oh give thanks to the Lord; call upon his name; make known his deeds among the peoples! Sing to him, sing praises to him; tell of all his wondrous works!

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P.S. I know you like pictures, so I wanted to show you how my children have grown. Email pictures of your family for us to share soon.

We wouldn’t have been voted best hospital ten straight years without people like Nina. For ten consecutive years, readers of The State newspaper have voted us the area’s best hospital. But a hospital is only bricks and mortar; it’s the people working here who have earned us that honor, dedicated people such as Nina, our volunteer coordinator. Thanks Nina, and thanks to more than 5,000 of our Lexington Medical Center employees, each committed to serving the people in our community with the highest degree of excellence.

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