The 8 Habit

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A Self Empowerment Workshop

Objective

The purpose of this workshop is to give you a road map that will lead you from pain and frustration to,true fulfillment Authentic Significanceand ,power .contribution

To Greatness

Outline Introduction:

Chapters 1_____3. 1

.Chapter 1: briefly touches on the painful reality .Chapter 2: Identifies the core problem .Chapter 3: Provides an overview of the 8th Habit solution

Solution

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Discover your Voice Chapters 4

Express your voice Chapter 5

Pain

Recognize your pain

Problem

Understand the fundamental Problem causing .the pain

solution

Fundamental break with old ways of thinking

he best and often the only way to break through pain lasting solution is to first understand the fundamenta problem causing the pain

he solution to the problem is like most significant bre roughs in human history – it comes from a fundament reak with old ways of thinking

The Pain

“I’m stuck in a rut”“ I’m frustrated and discouraged

“I have no life. I’m burned out – exhausted”

“I’m not making enough to make ends meet. I never seem to get ahead.” “I’m not making a difference”

“I’m bored – just putting in my time. Most of my satisfactions come off the job.”

“I don’t feel especially needed – not at work, not by my teenag and grown children, not by my spouse.” “There’s no good anymore in this world, nobody really cares.”

“I’m not really loved, I am just being used.”

“ I feel empty inside. Life lacks meaning; something’ missing.”

“With a spouse who doesn’t understand and kids who don’t listen or obey, home is no better than work.”

“I can’t change things.” “I’m lonely.”

“ my life is very dry.”

“ I feel like I am a failure. Can’t make my husband happy, can’t make my kids happy, can’t make my boss happy.”

“ I feel helpless.”

“I am angry. I am scared. I can't afford to lose my job.

“I am tired and sick of all the backstabbing and kissing up.”

“I’m angry at the world and can’t do nothing about it. “ No one really values or appreciates me.” “I’m stressed out, everything is urgent.”

Understanding The Core Problem

How do you usually try to understand the problem when it arise ?that is if you admit it exits in the first place ?What is our first response once we admit there is a problem ?To solve it

Usually yes

? Do we seek an in-depth understanding of the problem Usually No ?If we try to understand the problem, how do we do that ?Think

?Listen to others experiences and opinions on a similar problem ?Use wide spread notions of the problem ?Research literature on the problem ?Ask experts for help in understanding

Do we usually take the quickest available interpretation or ?understanding of the problem

?Why .To avoid pain as soon as we can ?What are the consequences if we misunderstand a problem

(Wrong solution (decision

Continuation of pain

The Problem

To understand the core problem we must look first at the context of history namely, the five ages of civilizations voic voi

Will out produce the industrial age 50 times or even more Productivity goes up 50 times over the family .farm Yield is 50 times greater

Moving from one civilization voice to another always necessitated

completely new skill-set. 1 completely new tool-set. 2 new mind-set. 3 (the most important(

The Thing Mind-Set of The Industrial Age

Main assets and primary drivers of economic prosper machines & Capital = things ?What are people’s value in such an age .Necessary but replaceable

.Needed for their able bodies that would comply with strict procedure

hen all you want is a person’s body and you don’t rea want their mind, heart or spirit, you have reduced a erson to a thing

What happens when you treat people like things today

,It insults and alienates them, depersonalizes work .and creates low trust

What happens when you treat your teenage children like things

It, too, insults and alienates, depersonalizes precious family relationships and creates low trust, contention .and rebellion

codependency

dependency is the natural result of the Industrial Age aradigm When people are managed like things they

. stop believing that leadership can become a choice. think leadership is a position. 2

consent, perhaps unconsciously, to being controlled. 3 .like a thing

don’t take initiative to act, instead wait to be told. 4 what to do don’t act independently. 5

.don’t take responsibility. 6

In this codependent culture both leaders and followe confirm their roles in an unconscious pact. They disempower themselves by believing that others mus . change before their own circumstances can improve The same cycle reappears in families between parent .and children and also between spouses

Now it’s time to watch Max & Max

The problems and pain that are the consequences of this Industrial age management mind-set is becoming much more acute because of the changes that are taking place in the world. These problems fall :into different levels At the Organizational Level. 1 It suppresses human talent and voice. A lot of People at such organizations who are bright, talented, creative feel straitjacketed, undervalued and uninspired. They are frustrated and don’t believe they have the power to .change things

2. At the Relationship Level:

Creates co-dependency which in turn produces lack of trust, nd lack of skill at working out differences. What makes the roblem even worse is the fact that so many people have problem een raised being compared to others at home and competin been gainst others in school, in athletics and in the workplace. hese powerful influences cultivate a scarcity mentality, so hat many people have a hard time being genuinely happy or the successes of others. ‫مثال سلوك الناس في ألفراح‬ Win lose mind-set

Because your success means my failure

We suffer not because we cannot solve our problems, but because we cannot see our .problems What makes it difficult for us to see our problems?

The patterns of thinking ( Paradigm) that created th problem is used to solve it. Could this work?never ?What do we need to do then

We need to work on paradigms

?What is a paradigm , This word stems from the Greek word paradeigma :commonly used to mean

Perception

assumption theory

lens

Frame of reference .through which you view the world

.It’s like a map of a territory or city ?What happens if the map is inaccurate It will make no difference how hard you try to find your .destination or how positively you think .You’ll stay lost

Example ?How did they attempt to heal people in the middle ages

bloodletting ?What was the paradigm then

.The bad stuff is in the blood. Get it out ? If you don’t question this Paradigm, what would you do

(Do more, do it faster, do it more painlessly et

Can you imagine what happened when it was discovered that the germ is the primary cause of ?disease

A lot was explained through this discovery and thus a way .to handle the challenges of such discovery were worked at

.The bad stuff is in the blood. Get it out Inaccurate map .Germ is the primary cause of disease Accurate map

?What is the problem of paradigms .Paradigms, like traditions, die hard

Flawed paradigms go on for centuries after a better one is .discovered .Ex: The resort to magic to solve problems ?Can you give more examples The superiority of the male over the female

The Whole Person Paradigm is The Answer

As opposed to the Industrial Age “Thing” Paradigm is The Whole Person Paradigm that corresponds to the needs of people 4

People’s Responses to Both Paradigms

WP paradigm

WP paradigm Whole Person paradigm

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you neglect any one of the four parts of human natur u turn a person into a thing, and what do you do with ings? You have to control, manage and carrot-and-stic hem in order to motivate them

The Solution

A. Find Your Voice

the path to mediocrity straightjackets human potential. The path to greatness unleashes . human potential The path to mediocrity is the quick fix, short .cut approach to life The path to greatness is a process to sequential growth .from the inside out Travelers on the lower path to mediocrity live out the cultural software of .ego, indulgence, scarcity, comparison, competitiveness and victimisim Travelers on the upper path to greatness rise above negative cultural influences and choose to become the creative force of their lives. Those on .this path find their voice and inspire others to find theirs. The rest never do

Discover Your Voice

Unopened Birth Gifts

There are so many gifts ,Still unopened from your birthday There are so many hand-crafted presents .That have been sent to you by God The Beloved does not mind , repeating .”Everything I have is also yours“ ,There are so many gifts, my dear Hafiz

. Still unopened from your birthday

The great Sufi Master

Our First Birth Gift The Freedom To Choose

Size depends on Genetic inheritance. 1

Upbringing & present. 2 circumstances

Key point .It is the use of that space that stretches it Failing to notice that we have this space kills our ability to change

:Remember

ny time your emotional life is a function of someone else’s. 1 eakness, you disempower yourself and empower those eaknesses to continue to mess your life up. Again yesterday r circumstances & others( hold your tomorrow hostage (

Using this space wisely we enlarge our freedoms and keep. 2 .ourselves constantly growing, learning, and contributing Eventually our exercise of that power will enlarge the response until the very nature of your responses will begin to shape the . Stimuli

We are not merely the product of our past or our gene We are not the product of how other people treat us

It is true we do not choose our genes, but we choose how to respond to them

One ship drives east and another drives west .With self same winds that blow ,Tis the set of the sails‘ ,And not the gales .That tells us the way to go ;Like the winds of the sea are the ways of fate ,As we voyage along through life Tis the set of the soul‘ ,That decides its goal .And not the calm or the strife Ella Wheeler Wilcox

Our Second Birth Gift Natural Laws or Principals

What does the wise use of the space between stimulu ?and response mean

?Where is wisdom

Wisdom means to live by principals or natural laws rather than to live by today .culture of quick fix

:Natural laws or principles are

kindness respect honesty integrity

b. inarguable= Self-evident

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a. Timeless

You can never have enduring trust without .Trustworthiness

Those natural laws or principals are the source off the curious idea human beings have that the ought to behave in a certain way and cannot really get rid of

Natural Authority

Natural Laws ‫القوانين الطبيعية‬

Gravity Stamp of nature

Freedom and power of choice Stamp of human beings

Moral Authority

The principled used of our freedom and power .choose Principles ‫المباديء‬ Natural laws impersonal, factual, objective ( (and self-evident

values ‫القيم‬ Social norms , Personal, emotional( (subjective and arguable

.Consequences are governed by principles .Behavior is governed by values

:Therefore !Value principles Values control behavior, principles control the . consequences of behavior

:Moral authority requires .The sacrifice of short-term selfish interests. 1 .Courage in subordinating social values to principles

After watching Law of The Harvest

All lasting results are produced in a sequence, are * governed by principles and are grown from the inside . out

This is true of human nature. There is a “Law of the * harvest” that governs human character, human greatness and all human relationships. And it stands in stark contrast to our culture of quick-fix, victimism .and blame

Our Third Birth Gift

The Four Intelligences Capacities of Our Nature

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spatial

mathematical

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Intra pers onal

What will developing and using these ?intelligences instill within you Quiet confidence. 1 Internal strength and security. 2 Ability to be simultaneously courageous and. 3 considerate Personal moral authority. 4

If you do the following you can immediately , Begin leading a more balanced, integrated .powerful life - For the body. 1assume you’ve had a heart attack; now live .accordingly

the half-life of your profession is tw - For the mind.assume 2 .years; now prepare accordingly

-For the heart., 3 assume everything you say about another .they can overhear; now speak accordingly you have a one-on-one visit with - For the spirit. assume 4 your Creator every quarter; now live .accordingly

Vision

Discipline

Passion Conscience

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(Leading A Powerful Life ( whole Person

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