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Love marriage/Arranged marriage. Group members: Vaghini V.Udaya bhaskar Vasantha kumari Venkata Ramana reddy Venkata Surendra kumar Venkateswaran Mr.A: Hello friends, According to me arrange marriages are better if we consider there will be 99% success in arrange marriages there will be more mutual understanding in between both of them. And the foremost thing is that there will be support of our parents. Most of the love marriages are unsuccessful so according to me arrange marriages are best. Mrs.B: What Mr.A says is absolutely correct When u get a new bond through arranged marriage naturally there arises a demand for mutual understanding because when you are entirely new to a group of people you will try to know people their likes, dislikes hence you will become more flexible and you could win their hearts so that in a difficult situation you get everybody’s help. Mr.C: Hello Well success of BOTH marriages depends on our self basically. If you finds a person whom you can feel comfortable to live with, be happy and secure in their presence then whatever love/arranged our marriage will be successful If LOVE marriage we tend to know about them before itself and then start thinking of getting married. Well Love marriages fail because people tend to find faults in others /lack of understanding. Whatever but there also cases where relationship is maintained in wonderful manner

In arranged marriage it becomes an obligation to live with the person. Adjust with them throughout our life and parents do help or guide us if there is a problem. That is the major difference Well in both cases for a relationship to be healthy Understanding or Love or affection or adjustment or Responsibility is necessary ... above all Parents who don’t agree for love marriage basically want us to be in better position or live happily. Considering or respecting them is also equally important.

Mrs.D: Hi all I feel in a love marriage you enter with a lot of expectations where these expectations have already reached a level and then you start expecting more than that. But in an arranged marriage you have the expectations but there is no particular level already set. You set those levels after marriage. According to me what one needs to be focused upon is the level of understanding between the two whether it be a love marriage or arranged marriage. Of course other parameters do affect apart understanding. It should be a matter of personal choice rather than a matter of debate. Mr.E: As Mr. A and Mr.B said that love marriages don't last long and arranged marriages last longer I don't agree to this statement rather I would like to say that the success of a marriage is strongly dependent on the mutual understanding between the two persons as sowmya571 said, it depends on the compatibility of the two persons how well they can adjust with each other how much do they care about each other. What Mr. A and Mr.B are saying is based on the success of the arranged marriages is because of what seems from the outside that they are together, but in many cases its only the mutual adjustment and because they are ready from the first day to adjust with the other person and not understand them and end up there life in doing so. The most important aspect is here to be compatible as this enhances the outcome And lastly we have our responsibilities towards our parents so the marriage should be agreed by them and the compatibility of two persons who have to spend the life together should also be kept in mind you consider thes compatibility as love also.

So what I can conclude on my side is that those one, which is love, and are then arranged Mr.F: Hi Friends, Well Mr.E what she said is entirely right because we cannot conclude love marriage is good and arranged marriage is fail or vice versa, this is mainly depends upon the understanding between eachother. How can we say that love marriage is leads to fail this is only because of the misunderstanding, even arranged marriages may also leads to fail when there is misunderstanding and also Mrs.D she said "We have our responsibilities towards our parents so the marriage should be agreed by them and the compatibility of two persons who have to spend the life together should also be kept in mind, u can also consider this compatibility as love also." yes,I support this point before taking any decision that must be agreed by our parents. At last my conclusion is whether it is a love/arranged marriage it depends on yours that will not affect on ourparents /children’s in future. CONCLUSION: Both arrange and love marriage can successfull if there is mutual undersatnding.we cant not gurantee about arranged mairrage it will be a successful mairrage. The problem is not the type of mairrage but the main problem is lack of understanding.after mairrage people feel as if they are in bondage an they feel as if they have to abide by all the rules.if we realise mairrage as a commitment to our life partner and not as a bondage, then we will feel more free to dicuss all the issues of differences. The other problem which i think is both with arranged mairrage and love mairrage is lack of coordination between the two partners. every human being in this world is different, and even if u want to change your self according to the will of your partner it will take some time. so we should have patience and should help our mate to change those habits, but we should not expect a 100 percent drastic behavioural change .