Separation And Deployment

SEPARATION AND DEPLOYMENT

Most Pre-deployment Briefs, you’ll learn the ins and outs of Separation and Deployment including: DIFFERENT TYPES OF SEPARATIONS READINESS NORMAL CYCLE OF EMOTIONS PERSONAL SECURITY OPERATIONAL SECURITY TIPS FOR STAYING CONNECTED CHILDREN AND DEPLOYMENT SURVIVING AND THRIVING HOMECOMING TRANSITION OR REINTEGRATION

GET THESE VALUABLE TOOLS! Deployment Emergency Phone List Deployment Checklist Normal Cycle of Emotions Enhancing Personal Security Operational Security (OPSEC) Care Packages Moto Mail Thriving and Surviving List Activities for Children How to Create a Shared Sense of Purpose After Deployment

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D EM I S O OT R GA ION A N IZA L T IO N

NORMAL CYCLE OF EMOTIONS

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RECOVERY AND STABILIZATION

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ANTICIPATION OF LOSS

ANTICIPATION OF LOSS •Ignore or Deny that deployment will actually happen •Fantasize that the ship will sink before the Marine can get on it, or that something will happen so the Marine does not have to leave. •Difficulty Accepting the reality of leaving •Crying at unexpected things •Increased Tensions that could cause arguments •Need to get all ‘Projects’ done •Difficulty with Intimacy •Feelings of Anger, Frustration, and Emotional distance between couples

DETACHMENT AND WITHDRAWAL . •Sense of despair •Feeling that the marriage is out of control •Making decisions is difficult •Withdrawal into self by not sharing emotions

EMOTIONAL DISORGANIZATION •Relief that the ‘goodbye’ part is over, but feeling guilty for the relief •New routines develop, but overwhelmed by all the new responsibilities •Sleeping is difficult due to loss of security and the spouse •Anger towards the Marine for not staying and mad at the Marine Corps for making him/her go

RECOVERY AND STABALIZATION •Comfortable and capable of all the new roles •Able to reach out for support •Feeling of self confidence and independence •Going through the ‘my’ syndrome

ANTICIPATION OF HOMECOMING •Compile a list of things to do before the Marine comes home •Excitement and anticipation of the return •Questions of “Does he/she still love me?” •Changing the house to reflect the ‘our’ house feeling •Start changing patterns back to the way they were before the Marine left

RENOGITATION OF THE MARRIAGE CONTRACT •May feel a loss of independence •Start being a ‘married’ spouse again •Share roles, responsibilities and decisions •A feeling of too much togetherness •Hesitation towards intimate relations •Falling in love again!

I WILL SURVIVE (MILITARY SPOUSE VERSION)

Rewritten by: Donna Cartwright Original song: I will survive By: Gloria Gaynor

At first I was afraid I was petrified Kept thinking I could never live without you by my side But I spent so many nights thinking how I COULD GET ALONG and I grew strong and I learned how to carry on and I GOT YOUR BACK WHILE YOU’RE AWAY I’LL BE FINE WHILE YOU’RE THERE DON’T HAVE that sad look upon your face I should NOT have argued at the dock I should have made you kiss me If I had known for just one second it’s a ‘normal cycle’ for me

Go on now go I LOVE YOU DEAR DON’T TURN AROUND now 'cause I CAN DO THIS AND more weren't you the one who tried to HELP ME TO GET BY you KNEW I WOULDN’T crumble you KNEW I WOULDN’T lay down and die Oh no, not I I will survive as long as I HAVE YOU to love I know I’ll stay alive I've got many who SUPPORT ME and I've got many kids to feed and I'll survive I will survive HEY HEY

It took all the strength I had not to fall apart kept trying hard to mend the pieces of my broken heart and I spent oh so many nights just feeling sorry for myself I used to cry but now I hold my head up high and you see me somebody new I'm NOW A STRONGER PERSON STILL IN LOVE WITH YOU And NOW WE’RE HOME FROM HOMECOMIN’ AND I’M GLAD YOU DID YOUR DUTY I’VE BEEN savin’ all my lovin’ for TODAY I’M HAPPY!

Go on now go I LOVE YOU DEAR DON’T TURN AROUND now 'cause I CAN DO THIS AND more weren't you the one who tried to HELP ME TO GET BY you KNEW I WOULDN’T crumble you KNEW I WOULDN’T GO down and die Oh no, not I I will survive as long as I HAVE YOU to love I know I’ll stay alive I've got many who SUPPORT ME and I've got many kids to feed and I'll survive I will survive HEY HEY

YOU WILL SURVIVE!

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