Respect Fhe Lesson

Respect by Lara Goold

Materials needed: scriptures, parents may read “Teaching and Living Respect on a Day-to-Day Basis” in advance Purpose:

Teach family members what respect is and how to show respect to themselves and to those around them.

Scripture:

“Honour thy father and thy mother; that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.” Exodus 20:12

Songs:

“Quickly I’ll Obey”, Children’s Songbook page 197 “A Special Gift is Kindness” Children’s Songbook, page 145 “Kindness Begins with Me”, Children’s Songbook, page 145

Opening song and prayer: Lesson: What is respect?: Treating others with high regard. That means to treat others with kindness, caring, understanding, and with a measure of love. Why do we show respect?: Each person is a child of God and worthy of our respect, especially our own family members. Jesus Christ is the best example of showing respect. He treated everyone with love and kindness. R-E-S-P-E-C-T booklet: Using the large pictures in order and the acronym R-E-S-P-E-C-T (listed below) discuss the many different aspects of respect. Discuss: Using the pictures and acronym as a starting point—elaborate on the ones that you feel your family needs to learn the most about. Helaman and the 2000 Warriors: Using summary below or scriptures and flannel board figures tell your family about Helaman and the 2000 Warriors. Make sure to discuss how much they respected the promises their parents had made not to fight and how they showed respect for their mothers’ teachings by how they lived their lives. Activity: Folder Game: Have the children take turns picking pictures and help them decide whether that card illustrates showing respect or disrespect. Have them attach it to the correct side of the folder.

Also enclosed: Parent Info: “Teaching and Living Respect on a Day-to-Day Basis”

Closing song and prayer: Refreshments: see recipe below

Crunchy Cookie Sandwiches with Cream Cheese Chocolate Filling COOKIES: 1/2 cup butter, softened 1/2 cup sugar 1/2 cup brown sugar 1 egg 1/2 tsp. vanilla extract 1 cup flour 1/2 tsp. baking soda 1/4 tsp. salt 1 cup quick cooking oats 1 cup crushed cornflakes 1/2 cup flaked coconut FILLING: 1 package (8-oz) cream cheese 1-1/2 cups powdered sugar 2 cups (12-oz.) semisweet chocolate chips, melted In a mixing bowl, cream butter and sugars. Add egg and vanilla; mix well. Combine flour, baking soda, and salt; add to creamed mixture and mix well. Add oats, cornflakes, and coconut. Shape into 1-inch balls and place 2-inches apart on greased baking sheets. Flatten with a glass dipped lightly in flour. Bake at 350° for 8-10 minutes or until lightly browned. Remove to wire racks to cool. For filling, beat cream cheese and sugar until smooth. Add the chocolate; mix well. Spread about 1 tablespoon on half of the cookies and top each with another cookie. Store in the refrigerator. Makes about 2 dozen cookies. Enjoy!

“Respect” booklet—use these acronyms with the corresponding pictures below and discuss these different parts of respect. Feel free to use your own words or to change things up as you feel is best for your family.

R—Respect for Religion—Not only should we be reverent during church to respect people who are near us, but we should also be respectful of other people’s beliefs that are different from our own.

E—Respect for Elders—We should show respect for those older than us.

They have lived a lot longer than we have and most often want what is best for us. We can show respect for our elders by being polite, obedient, not talking back, visiting them or writing them letters, and listening to their stories without interrupting.

S—Respect for Self—Our bodies are a wonderful gift from Heavenly Father and we should do our best to respect them. We can show respect for ourselves by always following the Word of Wisdom, taking care of our teeth, eating healthy foods, getting enough exercise, taking baths often, wearing clean, modest clothing, and always living the commandments.

P—Respect for Parents—Our parents love us very much.

We should always show respect to them even when they are asking us to do something we don’t want to do. We should obey them, speak kindly to them without yelling or whining, and try our hardest to help our home be a happy place.

E—Respect for Earth—our earth is a special gift from Heavenly Father and we should always show respect towards it. We show our respect by not throwing our garbage on the ground, by recycling whatever we can, and by not wasting things.

C—Respect for Children come from many different places and types of families, but each one is still a child of God. We should always show respect to other children by treating them kindly, respecting their differences, and by being polite.

T—Respect for Teachers—Teachers work hard to prepare their lessons and to teach us.

We should show respect to our teachers at school and at church. We can show respect for our teachers by coming to class on time, paying attention to the lessons, completing our assignments, and not talking with our friends during class.

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Stripling Warriors Showing Respect, Honor, and Love for our Parents Alma 53:10-21; 56:47-49

The sons of Mosiah and Ammon went to teach the Lamanites the Gospel. When the Lamanites realized that they had not been living righteously they decided to repent. They made an oath to God that they would never use their weapons to hurt other people or even to defend themselves. They even buried their weapons in the ground. Many years later some people who did not live the Gospel came to fight against these righteous Lamanites who had made the oath. The Lamanites had been protected by the Nephites for many years so that they would not have to break their oath. When their enemies were attacking them the Lamanites considered breaking their oath to defend themselves. The Lamanites had many sons who had been small children when their parents made their oaths. The sons were valiant and respected the teachings of their parents. They decided that since they had not made the same oath their parents had made, that they would go to defend their families. They knew that they had been well taught by their mothers and showed the greatest respect of all for their families by risking their lives to protect them. These Lamanite sons became known as the Stripling Warriors. Because of their righteousness and the honor they showed their parents by having faith in their counsel—the Lord protected each one of them. Many were wounded, but not a single one perished. Like the Stripling Warriors, we can show respect for our parents by obeying them and living ourl lives righteously. One of the Ten Commandments tells us that we must honor our parents. Just as the Lor protected the Stripling Warriors, He will protect us when we are righteous and obey our parents. In adition to respecting and loving our parents, the Lord has also asked us to love our neighbors as ourselves. It helps to remember that each person is a child of God and we should always treat them like one. Jesus Christ showed the same love and kindness to every person He met. When we respect, honor, and love all of Heavenly Father’s children, we are showing reverence for Him. Heavenly Father is pleased when we respect, honor, and love our parents and others.

“Stripling Warriors” flannel board figures--Print onto heavy cardstock, cut, laminate if desired, and cut again. Mount with magnet, Velcro, or popsicle sticks as desired.

“Stripling Warriors” flannel board figures--Print onto heavy cardstock, cut, laminate if desired, and cut again. Mount with magnet, Velcro, or popsicle sticks as desired.

“Stripling Warriors” flannel board figures--Print onto heavy cardstock, cut, laminate if desired, and cut again. Mount with magnet, Velcro, or popsicle sticks as desired.

“Respect” Folder game—Cut out, mount into file folder, laminate if desired PART 1

“Respect” Folder game—Cut out, mount into file folder, laminate if desired PART 2

“Respect” Folder game—Cut out pieces, laminate if desired, mount with sticky back Velcro, attaching the opposite side to the file folder (or just use tape to attach) PART 3

“Respect” Folder game—Cut out pieces, laminate if desired, mount with sticky back Velcro, attaching the opposite side to the file folder (or just use tape to attach) PART 4

Teaching and Living Respect on a Day-to-Day Basis—by Linda and Richard Eyre A Guide for Parents

Explain Why Manners Are Important 1. When teaching your children manners, explain why the desired behavior is so important. For example, explain that thanking someone for a gift shows how much we appreciate the thought, time and money that went into choosing and purchasing the gift. A child needs to hear that we look people in the eye when they speak to us to show that we are respectful listeners, and we don't interrupt. Don't assume your children will naturally know these things without being told.

Household Rules 2. In their book "Teaching Your Children Values," co-authors Richard and Linda Eyre say, "Extend respect and then expect respect." Establish household rules, the same way teachers do in a classroom, so that your children know what behavior is expected of them. When sibling quarrels escalate, gently warn your children that they are beginning to show each other disrespect. When you see your children showing respect for another person, compliment them.

Real Life Teachable Moments 3. Because children learn so much through experience, take the opportunity to have a discussion with your child when you see someone acting either very respectfully or very disrespectfully. If you encounter a disrespectful individual when your child is with you, resist the urge to respond in anger. According to the U.S. Department of Education, "our examples of good behavior can teach our children to take the high road when other roads look tempting."

Role Play 4. Role playing is a wonderful way to demonstrate a concept for elementary-aged children. Role play a disagreement between two people, so your children learn that they can disagree without disrespecting. If your child has a birthday party coming up, role play with him how he will greet his guests and thank them for his gifts.

Read About Respect 5. When reading to your child, choose titles that demonstrate characters learning about and showing respect. Recommend such titles to your children who read independently. Some titles to explore are "Dragonfly's Tale," by Kristina Rodanas (Gr. K-2); "Through Grandpa's Eyes," by Patricia Maclachlan (Gr.3-4); and "The Cay," by Theodore Taylor (Gr. 5-6). Your public library's children's librarian or school librarian can suggest new titles to you that deal with the theme of respect.