Mistakes To Be Avoided In Conflict Resolution

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üHere are some examples of destructive attitudes followed at the time of conflict resolution. 

üLearn to unlearn these …    09/30/09

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1.Avoiding Conflict Altogether üAvoiding an argument altogether seems to be the less stressful route üBut usually causes more stress to both parties, as tensions rise and a much bigger argument eventually results. üIt's much healthier to address and resolve conflict 09/30/09

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2. Being Defensive üDenying responsibility may seem to alleviate stress in the short run. üWhen partners don’t feel listened to and unresolved conflicts and continue to grow.

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3. Overgeneralizing üWhen something happens that some don’t like, then they blow it out of proportion by making sweeping generalizations. ü“You always come home late!” or “You never do what I want to do!” increases the level of conflict.

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4. Being Right üIt’s damaging to decide that there’s a ‘right’ way to look at things and a ‘wrong’ way to look at things üDon’t demand that your partner see things the same way as you do.

üLook for a compromise or agreeing to disagree 09/30/09

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5. "Psychoanalyzing" / Mind-Reading üInstead of asking about their partner’s thoughts and feelings, people sometimes decide that they ‘know’ what their partners are thinking . üFeeling based only on faulty interpretations of their actions creates hostility and misunderstandings.

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6. Forgetting to Listen üSome people interrupt, roll their eyes, and rehearse what they’re going to say next instead of truly listening . üDon’t underestimate the importance of really listening and empathizing with the other person.

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7. Playing the Blame Game üSome people handle conflict by criticizing and blaming the other person for the situation. üThey see admitting any weakness on their own part as a weakening of their credibility. üTry to view conflict as an opportunity to analyze the situation objectively come up with a solution that helps you both. 09/30/09

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8. Trying to ‘Win’ The Argument üIf people are focused on ‘winning’ the argument, “the relationship loses”! üIf you’re making a case for how wrong the other person is , then , your focused in the wrong direction!

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9. Making Character Attacks üSometimes people take any negative action from a partner and blow it up into a personality flaw. üThis creates negative perceptions on both sides. üRemember to respect the person, even if you don’t like the behavior. 09/30/09

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10. Stonewalling üWhen one partner wants to discuss troubling issues in the relationship, sometimes people defensively stonewall, or refuse to talk or listen to their partner. üThis shows disrespect and, in certain situations, even contempt üStonewalling solves nothing, but creates hard feelings and damages relationships 09/30/09

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Thank you

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Department of Management studies,Pondicherry central university