Love or fear? By Franklin Mukakanga Same actions=same results Same thoughts=same direction Same ol’=same ol’ It’s been said that success is not an accident. Well, neither is its opposite. If success has its formulae, so does it’s opposite number. The opposite of success is not failure. The opposite of success is your current status quo. When you set out to do something, you’re not coming at it from some deep dark negative field called ‘failure’. You are starting from where you are, wherever that is. You’re starting from the ‘status quo’, aiming for a higher, more satisfactory state, the achievement of which becomes your new status quo, making your original status quo the opposite of your success. So, really, you have nothing to lose if you go after something and it doesn’t work out. You’ll be right where you started. Not in some deep, dark abyss called ‘failure’, tortured by pitch‐fork wielding demons who delight in making you feel bad and unworthy, but right where you are now. The real question is, is that where you want to end up? Coming full circle is what has been mistakenly called failure. Life is cyclical, what goes around comes around, and thus, advancement is spiral‐like. To be advancing is to be moving around and up. To ‘fail’ is to move around and around, finding yourself exactly where you started from, perhaps over and over again. To regress is to move around and down. We all have dreams and goals that we say are important to us. We all have the power to create the life we really want, and if where you are now is where you want to be, then, that’s fine. It’s your choice to continue to pile up the sand on your sand castle. Unfortunately, your wiring doesn’t allow you the peace that you’d expect the making of such a choice would give you. You are wired to evolve, wired to move around and up. You are created for progress in all fields and aspects of your life, and anything less leaves you feeling unfulfilled, empty, hollow and dejected. This evolutionary urge is what makes you human, and the actions taken are what separate the men from the boys, the women from the little girls. Becoming what you were created to be is, thus, not just an option. It is the reason you’re here. Fail of this, and you will live your life in soulless mirth, partying and drinking your days away, or trying to escape this earthly life, never joyful or at peace here, and waiting for the second coming, the rapture, to whisk you away to everlasting bliss; giving up the living of your life here for the promise of life ‘there’. No doubt, there is an afterlife, in some way, shape or form, but to ignore your true earthly task—to be the fullest possible expression of the unique divine spark that is your inner essence—is folly of the highest order. I would wonder about a god who circumvents the natural urges placed within humanity to grow and become, stifling freewill and self‐discovery while rewarding only those that place constraints on their ‘reality’ and denounce and repress their impulses and evolutionary drives. True, many of the things you’re hearing these days about self‐development and empowerment may seem a tad new, perhaps even ‘New‐Agey’, but have you stopped to consider that, perhaps, the reason we are now learning the true dynamics of
Spirit/God/the Universe/Source is because we finally have reached a level of consciousness that can apprehend or ‘reason with’ God, without appealing to the archaic or magical interpretations that were a part of our (humanity’s) childhood prehensions? We know that rain isn’t caused by gods pouring buckets of water from heaven. We’ve harnessed the energy in the atom. We now know that there is no solid building block of the universe. That at the center of the smallest unitary element of nature is a void in which formless energy is in constant motion. That energy, vibrating at different frequencies, is what gives the impression of solids, liquids, form and space. Thanks to quantum physics we have an understanding of why we attract the things we do. Like attracts like, and so the energy frequencies of your thoughts and feelings, your dreams and expectations send out a homing signal that reverberates in the Universe, pulling toward you, the sender of that signal, the things that are vibrating on the same energetic frequency that you’ve sent out. Its “elementary, my dear Watson.” As in the case of the misunderstanding of the opposite of success (being ‘status quo’ and not ‘failure’), there is a misunderstanding of the two most potent powers in the universe, which, likewise, have been given the ‘wrong’ pairing. Love is the first. Many say that the opposite of love is hate, and it sure may feel that way sometimes, but what really happens when love is absent? There is a feeling of loss, disconnection, isolation and an overwhelming, sometimes irrational need to protect oneself. These feelings have a common root, and that root is fear. Fear, thus, is the opposite of love, and, thus, the second of the two powerful universal forces. And that is why, to quote the Bible, “perfect love casts out fear”. Just as light, being the opposite of darkness drives it away, so too does love, as the opposite of fear, cast it away. The two forces that will aid you in, or deter you from, growing and becoming who you were made to be are, therefore, love and fear. You may not be able to choose your circumstances, but you can choose your response to them, and by this response, either empower yourself and grow, or disempower yourself and either stay right where you are or regress. The choice is as simple as meeting a new opportunity and responding to it with love, acceptance and wonder, or meeting a new opportunity, perceiving it as a threat and responding to it with fear. Love liberates you. Fear locks you down. Love expands your capacities. Fear diminishes them. Love creates possibilities. Fear destroys hope. You’re on the road you’re on, living your life. Your evolutionary urge has led you to read this article up to this point. You know you want a change. Your nature is calling you to rise higher. You may even have signed up for one of my workshops but didn’t make it. What’s holding you back? Fear? Be honest with yourself. You owe it to yourself. You’re getting to the end of this article, and perhaps you want to get out and get on with your life, but before you do, let me share a final thought, taken from the exchange between Trinity and Neo in the Matrix, when Neo was about to get out of the car that was taking him to meet Morpheus for the first time (taken from script):
Neo opens the door. TRINITY Neo, please, you have to trust me. NEO Why? TRINITY Because you've been down there, Neo. You already know that road. You know exactly where it ends. Neo stares out into the dark street beyond the open door. TRINITY And I know that's not where you want to be. NEO ... shit. He closes the door.