Inventory Of Common Stressors

Inventory of Common Stressors Circle Y ("Yes") or N ("No") as appropriate for all the items below. Circle Y if you've experienced stress related to the item in the last month.

Stressors at home Argument with parent(s) or other adult at home Conflicts with brother(s) or sister(s) Significant change in family, such as - separation or divorce of parents - blending of two families (moving in with step-siblings) - remarriage of a parent - parent changing jobs - at-home parent gets a full-time job outside of the home Move to a new house or apartment Home remodeling; invasion of your "space" Alcohol or drug abuse by family member Physical or sexual abuse by a family member of a sibling or other Physical or sexual abuse by a family member of yourself Parent or family member becomes seriously ill Parent or family member dies A pet dies

Y Y

N N

Y Y Y Y Y Y Y Y Y Y Y Y Y

N N N N N N N N N N N N N

Y Y Y Y Y Y Y Y Y Y Y Y Y Y Y

N N N N N N N N N N N N N N N

Y

N

Stressors at school Did less well in school (academically) than expected or desired Underwent educational or psychological testing Placed in special class (gifted, remedial, other) Had confrontation with teacher, coach or administrative staff Was tardy for three or more classes Was expelled from a class Received a detention Received probation for academic or behavioural problem Felt frustrated with learning Was singled out for an award or special recognition Was elected to an honoured position (captain, editor) Was accepted to or promoted on an athletic team Was eliminated from or demoted on an athletic team Incident of school vandalism occurred at your school Incident of youth violence occurred at school or neighbourhood Other disruptions in school (e.g., teacher's strike, resignation of principal, change in class size, school closing)

Stressors with peers

Fell in love with someone new Lost a significant friend due to relocation or separation Felt your trust or confidence was betrayed by a significant friend Became disillusioned with a previous girlfriend or boyfriend Was "dropped" by a boyfriend or girlfriend you really care for No longer feel part of the same old crowd Don't have a group that you feel comfortable hanging out with Excluded from groups that you'd like to be part of Feel less adequate, compared to your friends Feel your friends make too many demands on you Engaged in unprotected sex with partner Became pregnant, or impregnated a partner

Y Y Y Y Y Y Y Y Y Y Y Y

N N N N N N N N N N N N

Y Y Y Y Y Y Y Y Y Y Y Y Y

N N N N N N N N N N N N N

Y Y Y Y Y Y Y Y Y

N N N N N N N N N

Stressors with self Concerned about weight, height, physical development Concerned about clothes, other material things Change in employment or income status Wondered what you are "good at" Questioned what your future will be Passed (or failed) your driver's test Went through bar/bat mitzvah training or religious confirmation Received acceptance (or rejection) from college Conflict over major decisions involving values, life choices Used alcohol or other drugs Dealing with issues of homosexuality and self Dealing with chronic illness or disability Considered leaving home, moving out on your own

Stressors related to life Questioned whether God exists, what religion means to you Felt injustice in your immediate world (e.g., racism, sexism) Felt environmental threats in your immediate world Loss of influential adult in your life (other than a parent) Negative images in the media (violence, sexuality, stereotyping, etc.) Lack of challenge in life: not much to do, not many places to go Lack of community: disconnectedness in neighbourhood, school Lack of economic opportunity, money Overwhelming sense of authority, structure, conformity, no options

Take a close look at the number of questions that you have answered YES to. Are there some that are beyond your control? Which ones do you have some influence over? Take some time to evaluate what you can do to handle the stress in your life. Seek out a caring and supportive adult in your life if you need to speak with someone about your stressors.

From Fighting Invisible Tigers: A Stress Management Guide for Teens by Earl Hipp, copyright 1995. Used with permission from Free Spirit Publishing, Minneapolis, MN; 1-800-735-7323; http://www.freespirit.com/; ALL RIGHTS RESERVED.