Abuse Information Guide

Who to Call for Help (If you are being abused and living with your abuser, it may not be safe to call these numbers from your home telephone. Find a public telephone or call from another location you know to be safe). National Abuse Hotline: 1-800-702-5200 National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 National Sexual Violence Resource Center: 1-877-739-3895 National Drug and Alcohol Abuse Treatment: 1-800-662-HELP Suicide Hope Line: 1-800-784-2433

How to Report Abuse 1. Call the National Abuse Hotline at 1-800-702-5200. 2. When you make a report, be specific. Tell exactly what happened and when. Be sure to record all injuries you have sustained or incidents that have occurred, including dates and time of day and keep this information secured. 3. Reports should be made as soon as possible but no later than 48 hours after the abuse, before bruises and marks start to fade. It is important for the investigators to be able to see the physical signs. 4. Give the agency person all relevant information about your relationship with the abuser. 5. Please provide at least the following information in your report: Your name, age and address Brief physical description of yourself Current injuries, medical problems, or emotional problems Names of other people in the home Adapted from Child Sexual Abuse and Domestic Violence: Reasons, Research and Resources for Recovery by Bishop T.D. Jakes; Tim Clinton, EdD, LPC, LMFT; Diane Langberg, PhD, LCP; and George Ohlschlager, JD, LCSW.

Getting the Help You Need Professional counseling is extremely helpful to abuse victims. If you have been or are being abused, the following questions and answers can help you decide if you would benefit from allowing a counselor to help you begin to heal. 1. How Do I Know If I Need Counseling? The following represents the response from Tim Clinton & George Ohlschlager to Jan Coates for addendum materials in her book. Q. As a survivor of child abuse, how do I know if I need counseling? A. Generally, anyone needing counseling does so because their distress is beginning to interfere with their daily function and enjoyment of living, and nothing they are doing to change that is working effectively. In other words, if you are beginning to have as many “bad” days as good ones—or too many “bad” days to continually manage, even if they aren’t as frequent as the good days—it is time to consider counseling or outside help. Abuse survivors tend to experience this distress in a number of common ways. Emotional distress is experienced in the form of depression, anxiety or anger that is increasingly hard to control. Many abuse victims experience post-traumatic stress, or PTSD. These symptoms include intrusive and intense memories and nightmares of the trauma that are experienced as a “reliving of the abuse.” Also, hypervigilance and an easy-startle reflex, difficulties with thinking and concentration, sleep disturbances, avoidance of people and events that trigger reminders of the abuse, and an overall sense of dread and foreboding about living are common with PTSD. Relational problems increase with abuse survivors. Marital conflicts are common, including sexual avoidance and inability to become aroused or sustain sexual arousal. Anger and irritability toward certain persons can increase, as well as avoidance of those people and interpersonal situations that are fraught with conflict or irritation. Spiritual symptoms are often more subtle but are quite common as well. Feelings of estrangement toward God, lack of zest and vitality in one’s spiritual life, and a sense of ‘spiritual deadness’ or just ‘going through the motions’ is frequently reported. Church is a struggle, is often avoided, with guilt and anger being frequent emotional themes associated with spiritual issues. Q. Is counseling important to my healing process? A. Counseling is often considered essential to the adult healing of child abuse—and not by therapists! Often any symptoms or trouble are effectively repressed until some crisis in adulthood triggers a flood of unwanted memories, confusion, fear and anger. Usually a wise and experienced counselor or group is necessary to help a person sort through and resolve the many issues and emotions that were left unresolved in the abuse.

Of course, we believe that true and complete healing comes from Christ—in Him, one is able to find the sources of healing, forgiveness, honesty, courage, and maturity that can yield a deep and true release from the abuse event. We also believe that the experience of salvation—the reception of Christ into one’s heart and life—alone does not bring such healing. The abuse must be faced, the evil must be renounced and put on the cross, and the victim must learn to appropriate God’s ever-available power for renewed living. Q. What do I look for in a Christian counselor? A. Seek out a Christian whose counseling practice or ministry is permeated with his or her faith and Christian life (and distinct from a Christian who merely does counseling from a ‘secular’ perspective, without bringing Christ into the counseling effort). With your consent and invitation, such a counselor willingly prays with you, will use Scripture in session and refer to scriptural principles, and will encourage change that incorporates spiritual disciplines and principles of various kinds. This counselor should not impose or pressure you with the things of Christ, but will be adept at listening, demonstrating an empathic understanding of your needs and adapting the things of faith to your needs and with your consent. If you are seeking help from a professional therapist—psychologist, social worker, professional counselor, or marriage and family therapist—they should be duly licensed by the state, have an impeccable ethical record, and be able to give a number of solid references attesting to their excellence and their ethics. Abused women tend to work better with other women to start counseling, and then with men if they are working primarily to resolve issues around a male abuser. Many receive effective help from church-based recovery groups, if they are led by an experienced lay helper—often a group of women led by a woman who has herself been a victim of abuse and who has largely worked through her own abuse issues (and it is not imperative to have been an abuse victim in order to help them). Q. What can I expect from counseling? A. Counseling, in the end, should leave you in a better place than when you began the journey. That is, you should be living more good days than “bad” ones, and have a set of tools that where you have learned how to manage, even control many of the symptoms and problems that may still arise (the implicit message here, of course, is that total cure or complete eradication of your problems and symptoms is a fairy tale, and should not be expected—or promised by your counselor). The initial phase of counseling may be somewhat difficult—is often a time of emotional distress—as it often involves looking honestly at things you thought you had resolved (and probably had learned to effectively avoid and suppress and repress from dealing with openly). Your counselor should give you a realistic hope for change and a

fairly clear plan for accomplishing some agreed goals within a reasonable time frame (usually from a few months to a year). Expect, even demand, that your counselor give a reasonable time for concluding counseling, and that it not go on interminably. Some counselors will expect you to do the bulk of the work outside of sessions in the form of homework that is monitored and adjusted with each visit. Others will do most of the work with you in session, while others will mix in-session work with homework. Each counselor is different in this regard and you need to find a way of working on your issues that “fits” best with your needs and abilities. Expect, even demand, that your counselor assess and build upon your strengths and what has worked, if only partially, in the past. Most importantly, expect that your counselor keep your needs and interests paramount in all the work you do together. A counselor that talks excessively about themselves or other patients, that requires you to conform to their model of counseling, or that behaves in ways that suggest that their needs are more important than yours is no good for you. Q. Where can I go for help? A. The American Association of Christian Counselors is the largest and most active national organization of nearly 50,000 Christian counseling professionals, pastors, and lay helpers in the world. Active in all 50 states and in more than 50 other nations, the AACC offers support, insight, encouragement, and fellowship, uniquely poised to keep its members informed of the most recent developments, trends and challenges in the field of Christian counseling. AACC is also positioned to provide its members with biblically sound and psychologically accurate resources and services to help make them more effective caregivers. We are committed to provide quality member services, continuing education, graduate-level training, and clinical and consulting services and benefits for professional and pastoral caregivers in both traditional and distance formats. We are also committed to train and equip lay caregivers in the body of Christ to effectively help hurting people. It is our vision to impact the church-at-large, the world-at-large as disciples of Christ, and to teach Christians to care. We believe that God has given us favor to strategically minister to counselors and pastors everywhere—to the “community of care” within Christendom. There is no greater calling than to be agents of hope and change—ready to offer the love of God in everything. Our Counselor Care Network is a nation-wide referral network of our best counselors, and is especially designed to serve Christians in need everywhere. To contact us, go to www.aacc.net or call 1-800-526-8673.

From Child Sexual Abuse and Domestic Violence: Reasons, Research and Resources for Recovery by Bishop T.D. Jakes; Tim Clinton, EdD, LPC, LMFT; Diane Langberg, PhD, LCP; and George Ohlschlager, JD, LCSW.

God Hates Abuse and Has a Way Out Judges 19 describes the awful story of a woman gang raped by a group of sexually crazed men. This hideous crime and the subsequent protection of the abusers by the tribe of Benjamin was the main reason for a terrible and bloody war that broke out in Israel. More than 40,000 men lost their lives in that terrible war. Five critical lessons can be drawn from this tragic incident in the history of ancient Israel, and from the whole message of Scripture: a. God hates abuse because, simply put, sexual abuse is evil. He pleads with humanity to “Hate that which is evil, and cling to that which is good.” b. Sexual abuse deeply damages a victim’s ability to relate to God. Counselor and pastors see this constantly in sexual abuse victims, even years and decades after the abuse trauma. Abuse perverts the ability to trust God, to see Him as a source of safety and protection. It leeches away a person’s ability to hope or believe in good outcomes in life. c. God does not hate the victims of abuse. Tragically, many victims believe this deep in their hearts—that they are to blame and that God must loathe them for it. Quite to the contrary, God’s love is ready to be poured out beyond measure to those who seek it. d. It is incredibly healing for victims to know the passion of Christ. That Jesus came to live in bodily form, to know and understand the abuse that was done to Jesus’ innocent body in His torture and death on a cross—all this has amazing healing and redemptive power for victims of abuse. e. Thankfully, God does not hate sexual abusers, but longs to forgive and free them from their sin and their shame. From Child Sexual Abuse and Domestic Violence: Reasons, Research and Resources for Recovery by Bishop T.D. Jakes; Tim Clinton, EdD, LPC, LMFT; Diane Langberg, PhD, LCP; and George Ohlschlager, JD, LCSW.

Scriptures that Condemn Violence Behold, the wicked brings forth iniquity; yes, he conceives trouble and brings forth falsehood. He made a pit and dug it out, and has fallen into the ditch which he made. His trouble shall return upon his own head, and his violent dealing shall come down on his own crown.

Psalm 7:14-16 But the wicked shall perish; and the enemies of the LORD, like the splendor of the meadows, shall vanish. Into smoke they shall vanish away. Psalm 37:20 These six things the LORD hates, yes, seven are an abomination to Him: a proud look, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that are swift in running to evil, a false witness who speaks lies, and one who sows discord among brethren. Proverbs 6:16-19 O house of David! Thus says the LORD: “Execute judgment in the morning; and deliver him who is plundered out of the hand of the oppressor, lest My fury go forth like fire and burn so that no one can quench it, because of the evil of your doings.” Jeremiah 21:12 Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge. Hebrews 13:4

Books and Resources for Victims and Those in Recovery From Child Sexual Abuse and Domestic Violence: Reasons, Research and Resources for Recovery by Bishop T.D. Jakes; Tim Clinton, EdD, LPC, LMFT; Diane Langberg, PhD, LCP; and George Ohlschlager, JD, LCSW.

Counseling Survivors of Sexual Abuse Diane Langberg, Tyndale, 1997 On the Threshold of Hope Diane Langberg, Xulon Press, 2003 The Wounded Heart: Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse Dan Allender, NavPress, 1990 Angry Men and the Women Who Love Them Paul Hegstrom, Beacon Hill Press, 1999 Toxic Faith: Experiencing Healing Over Painful Spiritual Abuse Stephen Arterburn & Jack Felton, Random House, 2001 The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse David Johnson & Jeff VanVonderen, Bethany House, 1991

How to Act Right When Your Souse Acts Wrong Leslie Vernick, WaterBrook Press, 2001 Getting to the Other Side of Grief Susan Zonnebelt-Smenge & Robert De Vries, Baker Books, 1999 Where is God When It Hurts? Phil Yancey, Zondervan, 1977 I Can’t Get Over It! A Handbook for Trauma Survivors Aphrodite Matsakis, New Harbinger, 1992 Christian Survivors Ministries www.christiansurvivors.com

“[Child abuse and domestic violence] have become epidemic in America, and are rampant throughout the globe. Tragically, they are also far too common in the church—common among the people that Christ died for and redeemed to live in safety and freedom. And it is Christ—it is encountering Him in His passion and torture and death on a Cross—that brings miraculous healing and change to those who have been touched by such evil.”

Who to Call for Help National Abuse Hotline: 1-800-702-5200 National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 National Sexual Violence Resource Center: 1-877-739-3895 National Drug and Alcohol Abuse Treatment: 1-800-662-HELP Suicide Hope Line: 1-800-784-2433

How to Begin Conversation with Someone Who Is Being Abused After seeing Woman, Thou Art Loosed: the Movie, you or members of your pastoral staff may experience an increase in the number of people requesting to see you. Some will be ready to finally break the silence and admit that they have been or are being abused. Others will keep their appointment with you, but still be afraid to actually share their secrets. In either that case, remember that it takes great courage to share a secret that has been silent for years and to receive ministry in sensitive situations. In order to help a person admit that abuse is taking place and to determine the extent of the abuse, ask the questions below as gently as possible. If a person answers, “yes” to any of the following questions, he or she is in an abusive relationship. • Does he threaten you? • Does he curse or swear at you? • Does he slap you, push you, kick you or hit you? • Does he abuse, hurt and devalue you by what he says, or does he “talk down” to you? • Does he pressure you to do things you don’t want to do? • Does he blame you for his problems? • Is he disrespectful toward you, your family or your friends? • Does he want you to stay away from your family and friends? • Is he jealous or overly possessive of you? • Does he ignore you when you say, “No”? • Does he discount your opinion? • Does he cause you to be afraid to express your opinions or desires?

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Are you uncomfortable around him? Does he belittle you or make fun or you, your clothing, your make-up, your size or anything else about you? Adapted from “Are You a Victim of Abuse?”, a project of the World Evangelical Fellowship Commission on Women’s Concerns Task Force on Abuse Against Women

8 Ways to Provide Immediate Help 1. Listen carefully and prayerfully. 2. Encourage the victim to share and be a safe person for him or her to share with. 3. Pay attention to indicators of abuse. 4. Do not blame or accuse. 5. Be supportive. 6. Speak words of hope, encouragement and comfort. 7. If needed, call a local domestic violence agency, make arrangements for shelter or see that medical care is obtained. 8. Offer to minister by sharing scripture references and/or praying for the abused person. Abuse is a dangerous situation. Do not go by yourself to a home where abuse is taking place. If you know abuse is underway at a specific time, call the police and send them to the home. Also, encourage an abused person not to use the internet on a home computer to seek help. He or she needs to use a public internet service to avoid angering the abuser. Also, if an abuser is in the home, the abused should call for help on a public telephone or some other phone that is not accessible to the abuser.

What to Tell an Abuse Victim Who Needs to Leave Home If a woman (or a woman and her children) expects to need to vacate a home and take refuge in a safe place, she should have the following items in a bag to take with her: • An extra set of house keys and car keys • Money, checkbook, credit card, food stamps, paycheck stubs • Birth certificates and other identification for herself and the children • Drivers license or other form of photo identification • Social security card or green card/work permit • Health insurance cards • Medications for herself and the children • Deed or lease to her house or apartment • Any relevant court orders or court papers • Change of clothes for herself and the children (a familiar toy would also be helpful for each child). from Refuge from Abuse by Catherine Clark Kroeger and Nancy Nason-Clark (InterVarsity Press, 2001).

How to Recognize Child Abuse Child sexual abuse has been reported up to 80,000 times a year, but the number of unreported instances is far greater, because the children are afraid to tell anyone what has happened, and the legal procedure for validating an episode is difficult. The problem should be identified, the abuse stopped, and the child should receive professional help. The long-term emotional and psychological damage of sexual abuse can be devastating to the child. A child who is the victim of prolonged sexual abuse usually develops low selfesteem, a feeling of worthlessness and an abnormal or distorted view of sex. The child may become withdrawn and mistrustful of adults, and can become suicidal. Some children who have been sexually abused have difficulty relating to others except on sexual terms. Some sexually abused children become child abusers or prostitutes, or have other serious problems when they reach adulthood. Often there are no obvious physical signs of child sexual abuse. Some signs can only be detected on physical exam by a physician. Sexually abused children may develop the following: • unusual interest in or avoidance of all things of a sexual nature • sleep problems or nightmares • depression or withdrawal from friends or family • seductiveness • statements that their bodies are dirty or damaged, or fear that there is something wrong with them in the genital area • refusal to go to school • delinquency/conduct problems • secretiveness • aspects of sexual molestation in drawings, games, fantasies • unusual aggressiveness, or • suicidal behavior From Child Sexual Abuse and Domestic Violence: Reasons, Research and Resources for Recovery by Bishop T.D. Jakes; Tim Clinton, EdD, LPC, LMFT; Diane Langberg, PhD, LCP; and George Ohlschlager, JD, LCSW.

How to Respond if a Child Tells You He or She Is Being Abused When a child tells an adult that he or she has been sexually abused, the adult may feel uncomfortable and may not know what to say or do. The following guidelines should be used when responding to children who say they have been sexually abused:

What to Say: If a child even hints in a vague way that sexual abuse has occurred, encourage him or her to talk freely. Don’t make judgmental comments. Show that you understand and take seriously what the child is saying. Child and adolescent psychiatrists have found that children who are listened to and understood do much better than those who are not. The response to the disclosure of sexual abuse is critical to the child’s ability to resolve and heal the trauma of sexual abuse. Assure the child that they did the right thing by telling. A child who is close to the abuser may feel guilty about revealing the secret. The child may feel frightened if the abuser has threatened to harm the child or other family members as punishment for telling the secret. Tell the child that he or she is not to blame for the sexual abuse. Most children in attempting to make sense out of the abuse will believe that somehow they caused it or may even view it as a form of punishment for imagined or real wrongdoings. Finally, offer the child protection, and promise that you will promptly take steps to see that the abuse stops. What to Do: Report any suspicion of child abuse. If the abuse is within the family, report it to the local Child Protection Agency. If the abuse is outside of the family, report it to the police or district attorney’s office. Individuals reporting in good faith are immune from prosecution. The agency receiving the report will conduct an evaluation and will take action to protect the child. Parents or guardians should consult with their pediatrician or family physician, who may refer them to a physician who specializes in evaluating and treating sexual abuse. The examining doctor will evaluate the child’s condition and treat any physical problem related to the abuse, gather evidence to help protect the child, and reassure the child that he or she is all right. Children who have been sexually abused should have an evaluation by a child and adolescent psychiatrist or other qualified mental health professional to find out how the sexual abuse has affected them, and to determine whether ongoing professional help is necessary for the child to deal with the trauma of the abuse. The child and adolescent psychiatrist can also provide support to other family members who may be upset by the abuse. While most allegations of sexual abuse made by children are true, some false accusations may arise in custody disputes and in other situations. Occasionally, the court will ask a child and adolescent psychiatrist to help determine whether the child is telling the truth, or whether it will hurt the child to speak in court about the abuse. When a child is asked as to testify, special considerations--such as videotaping, frequent breaks, exclusion of spectators, and the option not to look at the accused--make the experience much less stressful. Adults, because of their maturity and knowledge, are always the ones to blame when they abuse children. The abused children should never be blamed.

When a child tells someone about sexual abuse, a supportive, caring response is the first step in getting help for the child and reestablishing their trust in adults. From Child Sexual Abuse and Domestic Violence: Reasons, Research and Resources for Recovery by Bishop T.D. Jakes; Tim Clinton, EdD, LPC, LMFT; Diane Langberg, PhD, LCP; and George Ohlschlager, JD, LCSW. Source: American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry

How to Report Child Abuse 1. Call the National Abuse Hotline at 1-800-702-5200. 2. When you make a report, be specific. Tell exactly what happened and when. Be sure to record all injuries or incidents you have observed, including dates and time of day and keep this information secured. 3. Reports should be made as soon as possible but no later than 48 hours before bruises and marks start to fade. It is important for the investigators to be able to see the physical signs. 4. Give the agency person any information you have about the relationship between the child and the suspected abuser. 5. Please provide at least the following information in your report. Name, age, and address of the child Brief description of the child Current injuries, medical problems, or behavioral problems Parents’ names and names of siblings in the home If you have reason to suspect child abuse, but are not positive, make the report. If you have any doubts about whether or not it is abuse, call the hotline. They can advise you on whether the signs you have observed are abuse. From Child Sexual Abuse and Domestic Violence: Reasons, Research and Resources for Recovery by Bishop T.D. Jakes; Tim Clinton, EdD, LPC, LMFT; Diane Langberg, PhD, LCP; and George Ohlschlager, JD, LCSW.

How to Help Prevent Child Abuse

Parents and other adults involved in the lives of children can prevent or lessen the chance of sexual abuse by teaching them to value themselves and their bodies and in the following ways: 1. Instructing children, “If someone tries to touch your body and do things that make you feel funny, say NO to that person and tell me right away.” 2. Teaching children that respect does not mean blind obedience to adults and to authority. For example, do not say to a child, “You must always do everything the teacher or baby-sitter tells you to do.” 3. Encouraging professional prevention programs in the local school system. Sexually abused children and their families need immediate professional evaluation and treatment. Child and adolescent psychiatrists can help abused children regain a sense of self-esteem, cope with feelings of guilt about the abuse and begin the process of overcoming the trauma. Such treatment can help reduce the risk that the child will develop serious problems as an adult. From Child Sexual Abuse and Domestic Violence: Reasons, Research and Resources for Recovery by Bishop T.D. Jakes; Tim Clinton, EdD, LPC, LMFT; Diane Langberg, PhD, LCP; and George Ohlschlager, JD, LCSW.

Stopping the Cycle of Violence: How to Talk to Pre-teens and Young Women Young women should know how to be treated well before they begin to date. They should also be able to recognize the indicators of an unhealthy relationship. The list below can be shared with individuals or groups of young women as warning signs in a relationship with a young man: He’s up to no good if he: • Makes fun of you, your clothes, your make-up or anything about your size or appearance • Expects sexual favors in return for paying for a date • Lies to you or tells lies about you • Says, “I love you” very early in a relationship • Makes you feel uncomfortable • Won’t take “no” for an answer • Treats you as though you are stupid and does not value what you think • Slaps you, hits you, pushes you, kicks you or gets “rough” with you in some other way

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Uses words to try to hurt you Throws fits or has temper tantrums Makes you afraid to speak up or express what you want Threatens you in any way Pressures you to do things you don’t’ want to do Disrespects you, your family or your friends Uses foul language toward you, calls you names or curses you Tries to keep you away from your friends and family Is extremely jealous or overly possessive Tells you that his problems are your fault Insists on being with you all the time Adapted from No Place for Abuse, by Catherine Clark Kroeger and Nancy Nason-Clark, InterVarsity Press, 2001

How to Recognize an Adult Suffering from Past Abuse Adults who were sexually abused as children can react to their abuse at any time after the trauma, even decades later. When that happens, the adult needs help. The reactions can be acute, which is the immediate response to the stressor; chronic effects that persist over time; or delayed, obviously symptoms which develop later. Some of the common characteristics present in a woman experiencing a post-traumatic stress reaction are: • sleep and dream disturbances, • irritability and an increased startle response, • explosive anger (toward self or others), • reduced ability to function, • prone to drug, alcohol, gambling, shopping, sexual, and food/diet addictions, • increased fantasy, helplessness, and inability to differentiate between emotions, • trouble forming attachments and being satisfied in relationships, • repeating traumatic relationships, including poor marital and sexual relations, • self-blame and self-hatred (see DSM-IV, 1994, pp. 424-425). From Child Sexual Abuse and Domestic Violence: Reasons, Research and Resources for Recovery by Bishop T.D. Jakes; Tim Clinton, EdD, LPC, LMFT; Diane Langberg, PhD, LCP; and George Ohlschlager, JD, LCSW.

Books and Resources for Counselors and Pastors From Child Sexual Abuse and Domestic Violence: Reasons, Research and Resources for Recovery by Bishop T.D. Jakes; Tim Clinton, EdD, LPC, LMFT; Diane Langberg, PhD, LCP; and George Ohlschlager, JD, LCSW.

Caring for Sexually Abused Children: A Handbook for Families and Churches R. Timothy Kearney, InterVaristy Press, 2001 The New Guide to Crisis and Trauma Counseling H. Norman Wright, Regal Books, 2003 Sexual Abuse in the Catholic Church: Trusting the Clergy? Marie M. Fortune & W. Merle Longwood, Haworth Press, 2003 The Abused Child: Psychodynamic Understanding and Treatment: Toni Vaughn Heineman, The Guilford Press, 1998

Competent Christian Counseling: Foundations and Practice of Compassionate Soul Care Tim Clinton & George Ohlschlager, WaterBrook, 2002 Counseling Survivors of Sexual Abuse (AACC Counseling Library) Diane Mandt Langberg, Tyndale House, 1997 Children and Divorce: What to Expect and How to Help Archibald Hart, Word, 1982 A Clinical Handbook/Practiced: Therapist Manual for Assessing and Treating Adults with Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) Donald Meichenbaum, Institute Press, 1994 Critical Incident Stress Management George Everly & Jeffrey Mitchell, Chevron Publishing, 1999 Broken Trust: For Survivors of Sexual Abuse Dan Allender, AACC Courageous Living video Surviving Sexual Abuse: ON the Threshold of Hope Diane Langberg, AACC Courageous Living video

Sexual Abuse, Rape, Sexual Assault Diane Langberg, AACC Courageous Living video Breaking the Bonds of Sexual Addiction Mark Laaser, AACC Courageous Living video Facing Sex Offenders: Challenges and Recovery Issues Ralph Earle, AACC Courageous Living video Confronting Domestic Violence Leslie Vernick, AACC Courageous Living video Sexuality: A Biblical Perspective Tommy Nelson, AACC Courageous Living video Living Beyond Your Circumstances Joni Eareckson Tada, AACC Courageous Living video No Place for Abuse: Biblical and Practical Resources to Counteract Domestic Violence Catherine Clark Kroeger & Nancy Nason Clark, InterVaristy Press, 2001 Counseling Survivors of Sexual Abuse (AACC Counseling Library) Diane Mandt Langberg, Tyndale House, 1997 Battered but Not Broken: Help for Abused Wives & Their Church Families Patricia Gaddis, Judson Press, 1996 Before It’s Too Late: Helping Women in Controlling or Abusive Relationships Robert Ackerman, Health Communications, 2004