Faqija Abbas 11/10/2009
AFIKISS
A WOMAN OR TISSUE PAPER Woman is necessary element of family life
Woman is necessary element of family life. A house becomes home due to the presence of women. Impotence of this speechless creature is accepted in accepted in religious as well as social perspective, but it is the matter of repentance that there is no respect for women in our society. They are treated as cattle and males decide their fate. There is a big difference between the two genders. Parents always prefer their male Offspring than female. A female child is thought as a burden and a male child as support for his family. A girl is usually spends her life as a maidservant of her family members, father mother, and brothers. She becomes an employer of her in-laws after marriage and no choice to spend her life according to her own wishes. Women in Pakistan accept control of men over every aspect of their lives as their fate. There are no rights for girls to select their life partner and if someone wants to spend her life according to her preferences, she should be reminded. Many cases as Saima Ashraf and Shaista Almani. This helpless creature sacrificed for her family members. She can be the victim of honor killing as her little voice for her rights is thought to be creating a situation of shame for her family members. She is convicted whether she had made a mistake or not. A strange event about this injustice is the story of Mukhtarn Bibi of Jitoi area; her brother was involved in sex with a woman from another tribe. She was punished for her brother’s activities as jurga ordered it. Her punishment was to be raped by six men. This is the utmost point of violence that she was punished instead of actual culprit. According to reports oh human rights commission, one thousand women are murdered in the name oh honor killing and Karo Kari, in the year 2002.Their family members killed Four hundred and sixty one women were killed by their family members. There husbands killed sixtyseven and forty-nine were killed by their brothers. The situation becomes shameful when we read such stories. “A women was killed by her husband because she did not give him tea on time” and “A man mutilated his wife’s nose as result of common strife” By reading such brutal stories .we came to know that a male thinks a female as a lifeless thing, have no reason, feeling and emotions. Males want to control over females with violence. Idea of male superiority has been internalized from early period of women’s childhood. Rape, mutilation and acid attacks are common types of violence women. Fakhra is one of the victims of acid attacks. A man of well-influenced family attacked her. He proposed her for marriage. After refusal he destroyed her life. Face of Fakhara was to be scorched completely .Now she is not able to perform any work and no one will be getting married with her. Another severity on women is forced prostitution .No “honorable” individual respects this class of society. Although these honorable have forced them to adopt this shameful profession. A superior member of society can easily insult this oppressed creature .A girl of Okare was undressed and beaten over an old enmity. Few people had enmity with her father and she had given price of this enmity. No one try to punish such beasts. This is the story of poor girl. In our country higher government officers are also unsafe lady doctor Shazia Khalid has suffered from wildness of some “honorable” members of the society, who are in fact such savages that they can not distinguish between right and
wrong, She is working in PPL hospital Dara Murad Bughti Baloshistan. Some people came at her residence and tied her hands and feet and raped her.. Woman are bought and sold like cattle .No one appreciates their mental ability and intelligence. They are thought as a source of amusement for males. Their participation in constructive projects is discouraged. There is a low literacy rate among women. Only 25.4% women are literate. Mostly people don’t want to waste their material resources on a ‘burden’, a female child, who will be left their home and is deposit for others. Although education is necessary for both the girls and boys .We should be gender neutral and try to give equal rights to females. We should avoid discriminating laws to promote a sense of equality between males and female. We have seen from above examples that males think their “companions” as tissue paper. They use females when they need and after availing them, they leave and destroy them as a used tissue paper is thrown in the dustbin. This is an inhuman attitude .A women is respectable in each relationship .A mother is a beautiful blend of kindness and sacrifice. She is the complete example of modesty and bashfulness in the form of a daughter or sister .A wife is a strange assembly of love and care. A woman should be treated with love and trusted instead of murdered or punished harshly .It is beneficent to family and the society to take advantage of the skills of this masterpiece of nature’s creation, It necessary to slow them the right path of life.