The Theory Of Pansexuality 6th Congress Of Sexology – Limassol,

THE THEORY OF PANSEXUALITY 6th CONGRESS OF SEXOLOGY – LIMASSOL, JUNE 2002 by Peter Boom I'm a Dutchman living in Italy since 1956. My personal experience and my studies brought me to conceive the Theory of Pansexuality about ten years ago. The Theory has been published in several non professional papers and through Internet, but never before has it been presented in such an important academical Congress as this one, and I hope that it will help mankind to suffer less from sexual repression that persists strongly in our brave new world. People are traumatised by ideas of sin, ideas that have created cases of homicide, suicide and a lot of other grave social disorders. A great deal of the problems regarding alcoholics, drugs and also several types of sedatives depend on sexual repression. Even in Art we can see the sexual repression, noting, for example, beautiful sculptures without genitalia or covered by a leaf. This is of course very castrating. Before reading the Theory and some of my ideas about sexual behaviour, I would like to say that I'm very honoured to participate in this Congress, more so because I'm not a professional sexologist , but an actor, singer, author and so on, perhaps better categorised as a Dutch adventurer living in Italy near Rome, for the past 43 years consuming my best energies as a gay activist. I am an ideal pansexual. Before 23 I had sex with women and then I discovered the wonderful, though difficult world of gayness. Tomorrow morning at 8.30 there will be a roundtable discussion and perhaps I'll have more time to tell you about my personal experiences and ideas. I thank the Scientific Committee of the European Federation of Sexology very much for approving my Theory. Here it is: THE THEORY OF PANSEXUALITY Human beings, by nature must be, "pansexual" (from the Greek, Pan = all) a complete sexual person. We all possess various sexual possibilities generally classified as heterosexual, homosexual, bi-sexual, autoerotic, fetishist, sado-masochistic, etc. These tendencies in our nature can come out at any time, according to the development of each individual. Children are born polimorphoperverse; the curiosity of discovery leads them to play with their mothers, touch their genitals, masturbate and investigate their excretia. Later, as they develop, they play games of "doctor" as they explore the bodies and functions of their friends. All this is perfectly natural. During puberty their ambivalence is natural and undeniable as they adapt to life as an adult. Only later does their sexual proclivity become more crystallized and definite, although the range of options remain open. These options are partially repressed or are made taboo, according to the society in which they live. There's a tribe in Borneo in which the women live with their children in a huge hut, while men live apart from them. In Kenya there's a nomadic tribe of proud long-living people who have the custom of coupling boys of twelve in a ritual of blood-mixing. These male couples remain faithful to each other all their lives, wandering far off together, returning to the tribe once or twice a year in order to procreate with the women. There are many examples, like the Siwans from Africa, the Sambia in New Guinea, where nearly all males engage in both hetero- and homo-sexual intercourse, but we can leave these to the anthropologists. The term "pansexuality" exists already, but with a different meaning to that which I apply to it, indicating the concept to which sexual instinct is the basis of all human behaviour (Freud). It is important not to repress any of our pansexuality and to live it freely, using good sense. The repression and banning of natural instinct creates frustration, often resulting in antisocial and violent behaviour.

Good sense is embodied in the expression: "Don't do unto others what you would not have them do unto you!" Definition of pansexuality: Pansexuality includes all kinds of sexuality that can exist in a human being, gay, lesbian, bisexual, transexual, transgender, heterosexual, tendencies that may prevail either permanently or occasionally. The word Pansexualism is explained by Professor Haeberle in his Critical Dictionary in the following way: "Pansexualism. (sometimes also "pansexuality". From gr. "pan": all) All-embracing sexual love. An attitude or a philosophy which is based on the belief that the human sexual potential can and should be directed towards everybody and everything. At one time, the term "pansexualism" was also used for the theory that all human behavior is somehow sexually motivated. This theory is no longer considered valid. Today the terms "pansexualism" and "pansexuality" are often employed by certain advocates of sexual liberation who want to convey the idea that the present sexual and gender roles of men and women are too confining, and that, therefore, an all-embracing sexuality should accept the entire spectrum of sexual orientations and deliberately ignore all other conventional distinctions." I had an interesting exchange of emails with Professor Haeberle and I want to thank him publicly for his contribution to my studies of Sexology. The Theory of Pansexuality is best understood not in absolute but in relative terms, just as the biological sex and the gender roles. From the observation of human sexual behaviour we learned that femaleness and maleness, femininity and masculinity, homosexuality and heterosexuality are a question of degree. Today people talk too easily about hetero-, homo-, and bi-sexuality without realizing the overlapping qualities of the different categories. A very narrow-minded view on human nature cripples a natural view of life, not the natural view as intended by science of the past ... and religions of the past and of today. Today the word "nature" has become regularly used to fight for sexual rights and as Professor Erwin Haeberle says: " A critical study of the Natural Law tradition can still teach us a great deal about a truly humane sexual morality". In most societies women cannot live their "Pansexuality". The relationship between men and women is based on the concept that a woman is at least one step lower on the ladder of valuation, only useful for procreation and taking care of the children, and of course that's no good basis for love or either sex. "Fescinninni versus" was an ancient orgiastic rite in which people allured each other in mixed "pansexual" intercourse. In the Etruscan civilization women could freely choose their partners and reject them whenever they wanted. "I love you as you are" is the text I wrote in 1977 for a film called Tomboy, the actors were well-known American and European sexologists. The song (I'm the singer too) expressed the physical and psychological pain of the person under the hand of the surgeon proceeding in a sex-change operation. But I consider this kind of operation a terrible violence. A person who wants to change sex is doing so because he or she wants to be better accepted by society. Many psychologists argue that they want to be accepted by themselves. In ancient cultures a hermaphrodite was honored and considered a rare flower, an orchid. In most of our societies such a person is marginalized and in many cases used and abused sexually during nighttime by people who spit on them during daytime. No, it's society that has to change and no rare flower should ever be submitted to sadistic and profitmaking operations to become a very common and artificial flower. Another difficult debate that is not spoken freely about in many countries is the sexual life of the handicapped. To have sexual intercourse is very difficult to obtain or still forbidden for these people, depriving them of the little joy they're still able to squeeze out of life. The sentiment of love and affection

should be open for them as well and I always say: "There's always someone for everyone". At least I hope so. Personally I was an enormously surprised when I discovered that so many young men love older people like me. I used to think that sex was finished for me in my old age, but then I discovered the Italian Silverfox sites on Internet and since then I have made wonderful male friendships, and now I’ve found my ideal partner. I must say that the young gerontophiles I've known to date are all very sensitive people and it could be interesting to start a specific study concerning their feelings. For them it's more difficult to be accepted by society and families. And if they are homosexual they are doubly marginalized and heavily criticised when they present their lover who often is older than their own parents. Another taboo is not talking openly and scientifically about Pedophilia, it seems to have aroused a wave of popular, but alas not scientific, indignation around the world. Anthropological studies provide us with different answers to this theme and of course a child can never be considered an asexual being. Yes, children have to be protected against all violence, especially hypocritical educators, priests and people within their family. Politicians still find it hazardous to finance projects to thoroughly study the phenomenon of Pedophilia, in order to understand more precisely what can be permitted and what can not. After all these digressions I would like to clarify that, in my opinion, all orientations of affective liaisons are self-induced, psychologically constructed and are not predetermined biologically: "I like that person, he or she has something which attracts me". Society, in most cases, has tried to condition these orientations except heterosexual or what is called "normal". Perhaps it was felt as a necessity to procreate more in order to obtain powerful nations in times when starvation, pestilence and wars were decimating entire populations and when medicine had not yet arisen to the nearly miraculous heights of today. Perhaps this is one of the reasons why today, with the evermore menacing overpopulation, Pansexuality is developing more freely. All our different sexual tendencies, our Pansexuality, also include the negative inclinations, those that are harmful to others or to ourselves, just as the telephone and Internet can be used both negatively and positively. What is the negative use of sex and which are the positive ways of sexual behaviour? They are not easy to define. For example, sadomasochism is acceptable to a certain point, necrophilia is regarded as a serious deviation, pedophilia, in our Society, is not acceptable. Of course I have to be very humble as I cannot be compared with the highly specialized and important scientists participating at this Congress. I hope to learn a great deal from you all. I am aware of the many problems my Theory of Pansexuality may arouse, theoretically in the area of psychological research as in social, political and religious fields. A "Weltanschauung" that will not easily be accepted by everybody, but can find an affirmation and become a common way of considering sexuality. Thank you very much for your attention. – Peter Boom – [email protected] Bibliography: Bullough Vern L. – 1994 – Science in the bedroom – New York – Basic Books Haeberle Erwin –1981 – The Sex Atlas - Berlin - E.J.Haeberle Haeberle Erwin – 1983 – Anfänge der Sexual Wissenschaft - Berlin - De Gruyter Herdt Gilbert – 1987 – The Sambia – Ritual and Gender in New Guinea – Orlando – Harcourt College Publishers Mieli Mario – 1977 – Elementi di critica omosessuale – Milano – Giulio Einaudi Editore

Rigliano Paolo – 2001 – Amori senza scandalo – Milano – Feltrinelli Boom Peter Via Forno di sotto 47 01031 – Bagnaia (VT) Italy [email protected] http://www.pansexuality.it ABSTRACT: THE THEORY OF PANSEXUALITY Human beings, by nature must be, "pansexual" (from the Greek, Pan = all) a complete sexual person. We all possess various sexual possibilities generally classified as heterosexual, homosexual, bi-sexual, autoerotic, fetishist, sado-masochistic, etc. These tendencies in our nature can come out at any time, according to the development of each individual. Children are born polimorphoperverse; the curiosity of discovery leads them to play with their mothers, touch their genitals, masturbate and investigate their excretia. Later, as they develop, they play games of "doctor" as they explore the bodies and functions of their friends. All this is perfectly natural. During puberty their ambivalence is natural and undeniable as they adapt to life as an adult. Only later does their sexual proclivity become more crystallized and definite, although the range of options remain open. These options are partially repressed or are made taboo, according to the society in which they live. There's a tribe in Borneo in which the women live with their children in a huge hut, while men live apart from them. In Kenya there's a nomadic tribe of proud long-living people who have the custom of coupling boys of twelve in a ritual of blood-mixing. These male couples remain faithful to each other all their lives, wandering far off together, returning to the tribe once or twice a year in order to procreate with the women. There are many examples, like the Siwans from Africa, the Sambia in New Guinea, where nearly all males engage in both hetero- and homo-sexual intercourse, but we can leave these to the anthropologists. The term "pansexuality" exists already, but with a different meaning to that which I apply to it, indicating the concept to which sexual instinct is the basis of all human behaviour (Freud). It is important not to repress any of our pansexuality and to live it freely, using good sense. The repression and banning of natural instinct creates frustration, often resulting in antisocial and violent behaviour. Good sense is embodied in the expression: "Don't do unto others what you would not have them do unto you!" Definition of pansexuality: Pansexuality includes all kinds of sexuality that can exist in a human being, gay, lesbian, bisexual, transexual, transgender, heterosexual, tendencies that may prevail either permanently or occasionally.

Key words: Pansexuality Polimorphoperverse Ambivalence Anthropology

Hermaphrodite Homosexuality Hétérosexuality Bisexuality Transexuality