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________________ - ______________ NUPTIAL Officiating Minister: Rev. Dr. Emilio A. Ballesteros, Jr PRELUDE: ………………………………… a. Scripture Reading ________________. b. Lighting of the Candle (Song here) PROCESSIONAL

(MC in charge)

INTRODUCTION: We are gathered here in the sight of God and these witnesses to join together this man and this woman in holy matrimony, which was instituted by the Lord God in the Garden of Eden. Christ speaks of this mystical union between Himself and His Church and between husband and wife. He performed His first miracle at a wedding in Cana of Galilee. Marriage was commended by Paul, the Apostle, as being honorable among all men. Thus, we enter into this reverently, discreetly and in the fear of God.

OPENING PRAYER: Father in Heaven, You are our main Honored Guest in today’s most special and most awaited event in the lives of this man and woman. We come to your throne of Grace. We thank you for leading them to each other in a wonderful relationship. They now stand before you and these witnesses to make things right and be united in a Holy Matrimony. As they are being joined into one, may your Name be praised and glorified in our midst. Bless each person in this garden and make each part of this wedding an inspiration to us all especially these two people who wish to be joined together as husband and wife. This we pray in the Most Precious name of Jesus Christ. Amen. Audience please be seated. The loooooooong wait is over! Your heart must now be beating at a faster rate, than the normal! According to Ingrid Trobisch, “There is only one thing harder than living alone, and that is to live with another person.” I Agree! Mahirap makisama kaya?

(Groom) “With this ring I pledge my commitment to love you. In good times and in bad, I’ll be there for you. I will make time for you. We might not always be happy as there will be difficulties in life. I will learn to appreciate you. I will do my best to become your best friend. I will love you unconditionally and together we will make this marriage very strong for as long as we both shall live.” (Bride) “With this ring I pledge my commitment to hold and highly respect you. In good times and in bad, I’ll be there for you. I will make time for you. We might not always be happy as there will be flaws in life. I will learn to appreciate you, and submit to you in obedience to the Lord’s Command. I will do my best to become your best friend. I will love you unconditionally and together we will make this marriage very strong for as long as we both shall live.” WHO IS THE MAIN CHARACTER IN THIS WEDDING? It is not the officiating minister, not the Bride neither the Groom, but God! It is

God who joins the man and the woman!

God joins you with someone with a unique personality so different from you. Along with the good looks that caught your attention are imperfections, weaknesses and inadequacies. Therefore, saying YES to each other, is just like saying “you’re the real deal” ________. Despite the negatives and positives about you, despite your strengths and your weakness as well, I accept you. I’m marrying both sides of you!”

VEIL CEREMONY (emcee calls on the veil bearer) (The couple kneels) The VEIL symbolizes authority. It is placed on the head of the woman representing man’s authority over her. In Ephesians 5:22-24, the woman is commanded to submit to that authority. We read, “Wives submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.” Some women find it difficult to SUBMIT. If that is the case, please try RESPECT! So, the Word of God clearly teaches, “the husband is the head of the wife” not HEADACHE of the WIFE. For as long as he does not become a headache, our Lord commands that you submit to him. Would have problems with that? Did you see how God had designed marriage? Re-Creating or Re-Designing marriage will lead to lots of chaos. All we should do is to comply with God’s design.

There is much power struggle in Marriage. Because of this, too many people marry for BETTER or for WORSE, but not FOR GOOD. “Bakit ka pa makikipag-power struggle sa asawa mo, eh sinabi na nga ni Lord, Submit to your husband.” Just accept the fact that the husband and wife relationship is mostly psychological. One is PSYCHO and the other is LOGICAL. This verse in Ephesians defines the ROLES of the husband and the wife. The veil is placed on man’s shoulder that he should carry her for she is of a weaker vessel. It is near his heart, so she must be loved and cared for. Eph. 5:25 says, Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the Church and gave himself up for her. Huwag tumulad sa isang lalaking walang appreciation sa wife niya. Noong siya ay tinanong, “Pare, alin diyan ang iyong asawa? Ayon oh?” He is called husband, not HOUSEBOUND. He should be the one working for a living because he is physically a lot stronger than the wife. Remember these words, “husky.” However, since some women are equipped with some abilities, intellect and the power to work, they work, too. And that should be appreciated! CORD CEREMONY The CORD symbolizes union. The Bible says: “the man shall leave his father and mother and shall cleave to his wife.” Eph. 5:31. You are now tied to each other as husband and wife so that you will not allow anyone or anything to disrupt, disturb or destroy this union. You will protect its privacy and its honor. You will defend your spouse when he/she is misunderstood, misinterpreted, misrepresented, mistreated or miscalculated…. And against all odds, each of you will be there for the other! Also, the CORD symbolizes a relationship which you cannot build overnight and Marriage is mainly relationship-- a relationship in a LOVE TRIANGLE, THREE PERSONS. Notice that the cord has 3 STRANDS. This means that it takes THREE to form marriage: the BRIDE, the GROOM and GOD. Discover ways how you can build a strong relationship. How? Discover nga eh! TRUST: Pumili ka ng maganda / guwapong mapapangasawa, kaya hindi maiwasan na may hahanga sa kanya. Magtiwala ka. Kaya alisin mo ang pagseselos, ha?

Why? Has there been a perfect marriage? Have you heard of a marriage couple who never had conflicts? Mayroon akong alam 2Cor. 5:17 "Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; Behold, all things have become new." MARRIAGE VOWS (the vows that you are about to make negate poverty and other forms of negativism and affirms health, wealth and optimism. _________, Do you take this __________ to be your lawful wife to love and cherish, to have and to hold for better or much better, for richer or much richer, in fitness and in health, till death do you part? _________, Do you now take _________ to be your lawful husband to love and cherish, to respect , to have and to hold for better or much better, for richer or much richer, in fitness and in health, till death do you part? RING CEREMONY AND EXCHANGE OF COMMITMENTS. The RING is a SYMBOL OF UNENDING COMMITMENT. Made of a very precious and exquisite metal, this symbolizes what marriage should be. This piece of metal has repeatedly passed through a furnace of fire and repeatedly smashed. And the more this happens, the more it shines as a natural and genuine gold! Likewise, your marriage will pass through some difficulties and trials. You better prepare for those hardships and make a commitment to make your marriage strong and LASTING and your love for each other will be triumphant despite the difficulties and hardships for as long as you both shall live! When it’s difficult to love, you have no choice but to LEARN to LOVE. When the going gets rough, REMEMBER to HOLD ON, that is COMMITMENT!

RESPECT. Second most important insight from the ring. NO GOLDSMITH CAN make a ring without bending it. That is a symbol of respect! There must

be some respect. Kapag walang respecto si Babae sa Lalake (Vice Versa) laging malungkot ang kanilang pagsasama.(example: Domineering Wife: “agtalna ka man!!!” kahit sa harap ng mga relatives and friends. And As you place this ring on each one’s finger, would you pledge your COMMITMENT TO HOLD ON FOR EACH OTHER and RESPECT THE ONE TO WHOM RESPECT IS DUE? (own words)

RELATIONSHIP: The evidence is convincing that the better our relationships are at home, the more effective we are in our careers. If we're having difficulty with a loved one, that difficulty will be translated into reduced performance on the job. A New York executive search firm, in a study of 1,365 corporate vice presidents, discovered that 87% were still married to their one and only spouse and that 92% were raised in two-parent families. Zig Ziglar, Homemade, March 1989. The lesson is: ___________, and __________, Strengthen your family ties and you'll enhance your opportunity to succeed. So that, if this will be so, even when you have reached your twilight years, when those dimples have turned into wrinkles, you'll find yourselves again at God's altar on your GOLDEN anniversary! BIBLE CEREMONY (emcee calls on the BIBLE bearer)The Bible is the Living Word of God. In fact it says in Heb. 4:12, (Read) HEB 4:12 For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart. It also says in Isaiah 40:8, “The grass withers and the flowers fall, but the Word of God stands forever.” Heaven and earth will pass away, but the word of God will not pass away!!! As mentioned, the Bible provides a BLUEPRINT for a happy marriage, a design which God has made to make it lasting and fulfilling. Altering God’s design means disaster. The result will be devastating. Someone said that in America, out of ten marriages, 7-8 end up in divorce. However, an American friend said, this is not true in the Christian community where the Bible is treasured and being practiced. Try God’s Word. Place it at the center of your hearts and home, for then you will make your life prosperous and God will bless your marriage. It is lamp to your feet and a light to your path. Decide to fulfill God’s will. Accept and apply God’s blueprint/design for marriage. COIN CEREMONY. Coins symbolize God’s Provision, Mat. 6:33… “Seek ye first…” If mismanaged, money could be a reason for marital conflicts.

PRONOUNCEMENT AND PRESENTATION OF THE NEWLY WED. ___________, and __________, By the authority vested upon me by the Republic of the Philippines, as a minister of the Gospel, I now pronounce you as husband and wife. Ladies and Gentlemen, "Mr. and Mrs. _____________________________" And what God has joined together, let no man put asunder! BENEDICTION: “Now unto Him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of His glory with exceeding joy, to the only wise God our Savior, be glory and majesty, dominion and power, both now and forever. Amen. (You may now LEGALLY KISS your wife)

PICTORIALS, etc. (EMCEE in charge)

Someone said, “Marriage is like a workshop. The husband works, the wife shops.”

Is God part of your home? Sabi ng mga dedicated Christians, hindi nga lang bahagi ang Diyos sa aming buhay... “Christ is the Head of this Home, The Unseen Guest at Every Meal, The Silent Listener at Every Conversation.” Everytime God provides for the home: here’s what you do- BUDGET YOUR INCOME, “Eto para kay Lord, eto naman para Tuition, Eto para sa Koryente, Para sa tubig….” REMOVAL OF THE VEIL/CORD SIGNING OF THE MARRIAGE CERTIFICATE: Song(s) here. LIGHTING OF THE UNITY CANDLE. Jesus said: I am the Light of the world, he who follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life. John 8:12. Allow Christ’s Light to shine upon you. Continue shining for Jesus! HONORING OF PARENTS. Honor your father and mother (5th Com. of God Exod. 20:12). We are so busy growing up, we often forget they are also growing old! Make time for them, call them more. God will fulfill His promise, “that your days may be long on earth and it may go well with you.” TESTIMONY: Graham, DeHann and Von paying our car. CHARGE TO THE PRINCIPAL SPONSORS PRAYER OF DEDICATION: “Father in Heaven, we thank you for how you led them to each other. Their relationship has matured and have come to this point where they are now united in a holy matrimony. May they always remember that they have made a double-commitment, a commitment to each other and You as the One who gave each of them to the other. Therefore now, we dedicate them to You! In the name of the Father, of the Son and of the Holy Spirit. Amen!