Anger Management

ANGER MANAGEMENT

Arthur Benjamin Friday – Lecturer/Power-point Producer

ANGER MANAGEMENT What is Anger? Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. Anger is an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation

to intense fury and

Expressing Anger! The instinctive, natural way to express anger is to respond aggressively. Anger is a natural, adaptive response to threats; it inspires powerful often aggressive feelings and behaviours which allow On the other hand, we cannot us to fight and defend ourselves when we Physically lash out at every are attacked.

Person or object that irritates or annoys us.

Expressing Anger! Unexpressed anger can create other problems. It can lead to pathological expressions of anger, such as passiveaggressive (silent-deadly) behaviour or a personality that seems perpetually cynical and hostile. People who put themselves down, criticize everything, make cynical comments haven’t learnt to constructively express their anger. They

STRATEGIES TO KEEP ANGER AT BAY It is important to find out what are the things that triggers your anger and then develop strategies Practicing to Relaxation: deep breathing keep them under control. while imagining a pleasant scenery or occasion. Cognitive Restructuring: This simply means changing the way you think; replace the negative

STRATEGIES TO KEEP ANGER AT BAY Remind yourself that getting angry will not solve anything and does not make you feel better. Logic Defeats Anger: Even justified anger can quickly become irrational. Feel hurt, don’t ‘feel’ angry. Problem Solving: Every problem does not have a solution so do not get more angry when

STRATEGIES TO KEEP ANGER AT BAY Better Communication: Angry people tend to jump up and act on conclusions and many Instead, cool off, slow down, be quiet and a time they are inaccurate. think through your responses. Don’t say the first thing that comes to your head; listen carefully to the other person before answering. Use humour: To help yourself face the

ANGER TOOLKIT Four Proven Techniques for Managing Anger

The first step towards managing anger in our personal relationships appropriately is the identification of the mistaken attitudes and convictions that predispose us to being excessively angry in the first place! Once these mistakes have been corrected, we will be less likely to fly off

ANGER TOOLKIT

Four Proven Techniques for Managing Anger

• The second step is the identification of those factors from our childhood that prevents us from expressing our anger as appropriately as we otherwise might. These factors include fear, denial, ignorance and so on. • These impediments to the effective and appropriate management of our anger towards others can be removed so that our suppressed anger will NOT compound

ANGER TOOLKIT

Four Proven Techniques for Managing Anger

• The third step is learning the appropriate modes of expressing our "legitimate" anger at others so that we can begin to cope more effectively with anger provoking situations as they arise in our personal relationships. When we are anxious or depressed in our relationships, we are often experiencing the consequences of our suppressed anger. When we are depressed, very often we

ANGER TOOLKIT

Four Proven Techniques for Managing Anger

• The fourth step is to bind up the wounds that may have been left by the potentially devastating emotional impact of anger. "Anger wounds" left in us against those who have wronged us. If we do not complete this mopping up step, we will cling to the resentment of having been done wrong and will carry the festering residue of our anger and rage in our hearts forever.

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