Adequacy, Confidence, and Skepticism (by William L. Stevenson) The following are words and phrases which came to my mind during the first two weeks of July '76: 1) feeling acceptable and understood; 2) fulfilling responsibilities; 3) encouragement required; 4) fulfilling potential; 5) striving for uniqueness; 6) meeting goals; 7) tapping time, energy, brain, and body; 8) feeling of hope required; 9) deserve chances or opportunities; 10) to feel satisfied with effort. Have you ever thought the following: “Can I really show them?” “No, I don't want to do it.'” “You mean little old me???” “No, I just can't!” The above common thought or oral responses indicate a possible lack of confidence based on feeling inadequate. I would also venture to say that many who seem to be very confident are doing so because they don't want anyone to discover the areas where they feel inadequate. Everyone feels insecure or unsure in at least a few areas of speaking or action. Do we continue to just stress our good points to others, do we go to only places that we know we are safe in, and do we relate honestly only with friends? No you say. Look around and see what happens when people relate, deal, or work with each other. What are possible reasons for these insecure feelings? Sure, there is a lot of skepticism, criticism, and condemnation which causes social pressure. The following reactions are very common: “No, not him!” “Are you sure about them?” “Well, she's nice, but...” “You shouldn't socialize with them!” Now go and reread the list of 10 above and think about how Jesus Christ would help.
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